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Dialogue: 0,0:00:02.50,0:00:05.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, the topic of "waiting":
Dialogue: 0,0:00:05.60,0:00:15.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I grew up, educated in California as an Architect
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.62,0:00:23.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,studied, wanted to be good and make a name for myself.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.44,0:00:30.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,...to have a house, two car garage, the American Dream.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.15,0:00:42.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mother and father sacrificed a lot for their four children; my two brothers and my sister.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.52,0:00:50.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They escaped with nothing. They had to leave everything.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.39,0:00:56.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember giving away my toys, "Why am I giving away my toys?"
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.48,0:01:01.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I remember my dad giving away his Honda (car)...
Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.62,0:01:05.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and slowly giving away our furniture.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.81,0:01:12.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We had to do it secretly so the neighborhoods don't know that we are going to escape one night, on a boat.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.49,0:01:17.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We left everything to come here.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.90,0:01:27.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember there was a lot of pressure from my mom, especially to be successful.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.87,0:01:34.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's a dream for all mothers and fathers.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:35.52,0:01:56.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As I grew up, I saw there was a lot of effort to achieve a diploma, to become this and that, awards, certificates.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.47,0:02:05.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You get trained to always be somebody.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.44,0:02:07.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then you become an Architect.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.62,0:02:19.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You walk in, you look and see whose office is closer to whose, and whose got the better project.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.84,0:02:26.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's the system that I grew up in. I was stuck in that.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.50,0:02:36.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Growing up, I had difficulties with my father. He struggled a lot coming here, losing everything.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:37.34,0:02:42.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So for me, I had a lot of anger issues with my father.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.15,0:02:50.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is something the practice helped me with...
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.55,0:02:59.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to learn to come back and look at ourselves, to confront the suffering that I was having as a young man.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.94,0:03:05.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It helped me become a little happier.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.100,0:03:10.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The practice helped me look at my father and my relationship with him,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.43,0:03:12.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to begin to understand him more
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.83,0:03:16.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to begin to understand my own suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.79,0:03:27.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This was the benefit of sitting, silencing the mind, calming ...
Dialogue: 0,0:03:28.45,0:03:32.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and having time to look deeply at my emotions,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.03,0:03:38.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where I'm at and the goals that I'm setting for myself.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.76,0:03:44.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This helped me to understand more of what true happiness was.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.88,0:03:50.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Once I was able to touch the root of my suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:50.90,0:03:59.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was also able to touch the things that I am passing by because of some future promise
Dialogue: 0,0:03:59.26,0:04:05.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to become this, or that... always wanting more.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.47,0:04:11.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a kind of suffering, always thinking that you're lacking.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.70,0:04:16.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is something that is underneath our culture.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:18.43,0:04:24.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With the practice, I think it can help all of us to really recognize that
Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.49,0:04:28.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Wow, I'm still alive ...
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.91,0:04:36.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"My eyes, my body is in good condition. I'm healthy enough ...
Dialogue: 0,0:04:38.92,0:04:49.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"My tooth ache," my teacher shared with us about the toothache. Sorry, back to hygiene -
Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.22,0:04:58.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, this moment is a non-toothache moment.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.47,0:05:02.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's kind of silly, what does that mean?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.91,0:05:06.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But all you need to do is reflect.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.73,0:05:14.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Remember that tooth in the back. Remember when it was aching...
Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.00,0:05:19.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when your gum was inflamed.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.46,0:05:24.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just touching that, even though it was not a great suffering, it was suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.96,0:05:32.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It reminds us like, "aah, wonderful. I don't have a toothache now."
Dialogue: 0,0:05:36.50,0:05:41.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is a practice. Just stopping to recognize the breath;
Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.73,0:05:47.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,recognizing a mind that is clear.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.90,0:05:54.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a training to actually be present to this moment, to this present moment,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:54.28,0:05:58.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to recognize that the conditions are so many ...
Dialogue: 0,0:05:58.86,0:06:04.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember our teacher gave us homework to write down all the wonderful conditions,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:04.94,0:06:10.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the happy moments in your life now. It's a wonderful exercise.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:11.83,0:06:15.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your loved ones, your brothers, your sisters.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:18.86,0:06:24.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes we're there with our loved one, but we're not present.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:25.92,0:06:32.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My brother made us some tea before coming here, we were hanging out at somebody's place.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:33.79,0:06:39.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He brought out his tea set and made three of us tea.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.92,0:06:48.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I recognized, "Wow, we haven't had tea for awhile"
Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.84,0:06:52.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We sat there and drank tea together.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:52.90,0:06:58.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And to recognize that my younger brother is so sweet.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:58.42,0:07:03.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He brought his tea material, we had just woken up from a nap
Dialogue: 0,0:07:03.48,0:07:08.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the first thing he does is make us tea.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:08.44,0:07:12.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was reading a book and I closed it
Dialogue: 0,0:07:12.54,0:07:16.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we are looking at each other drinking tea.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:16.97,0:07:22.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That sounds like, "What does that have to do with my happiness, with my career?"
Dialogue: 0,0:07:22.48,0:07:32.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But that moment actually is the building block for the rest of your life, you're living!
Dialogue: 0,0:07:33.82,0:07:38.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes we put a lot of goals and a lot of things that we want
Dialogue: 0,0:07:38.66,0:07:42.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but actually when we get there, we want more.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:42.08,0:07:44.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To give you an example, you have a tea cup,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:44.90,0:07:47.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you drink your tea and you want to do the next thing,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:47.61,0:07:50.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you get to the next thing, you want to do ... so on.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:50.44,0:07:53.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this is the way we've been trained.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:53.18,0:07:55.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is where we're at as a culture.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.47,0:08:10.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I say we all will become refugees... I think in my lifetime, we will see that we will all become refugees.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.57,0:08:14.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a different thing, it's not about one nation or another,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:14.91,0:08:19.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we will all need a place where we can escape all that
Dialogue: 0,0:08:20.01,0:08:26.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,online and wi-fi and... this stuff is everywhere now.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:28.91,0:08:35.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We have no time to be with ourselves, to be present for our body,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:35.93,0:08:39.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be present with the moment.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:39.46,0:08:43.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And to enjoy life as it is in the "now."
Dialogue: 0,0:08:43.04,0:08:49.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To be present with our loved one and to be present with nature.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:49.05,0:08:58.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is where we're heading. Besides the climate change, there is something happening to our culture.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:00.52,0:09:06.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're traveling around the world and we're escalating faster and faster.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:08.94,0:09:18.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I hope you continue to train, find a refuge within; a refugee camp within.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:20.75,0:09:23.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We all will need that.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:23.64,0:09:30.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you have strong emotions, when you need a break, or feel out of touch with what you need to do
Dialogue: 0,0:09:30.96,0:09:32.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,...come back.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:32.85,0:09:36.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everything you need, everything you have is there.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:36.86,0:09:47.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's only from that place that we can help change where we're at as a society, as a human on this planet.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:48.85,0:09:54.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you keep struggling and you don't have this refuge, then it will be difficult.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:56.44,0:10:01.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My sister will continue on this theme for us ...