[Script Info]
Title: 
[Events]
Format: Layer, Start, End, Style, Name, MarginL, MarginR, MarginV, Effect, Text
Dialogue: 0,0:00:02.00,0:00:05.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you. I have to tell you\NI'm both challenged and excited.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:05.50,0:00:08.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My excitement is: I get a chance\Nto give something back.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:08.44,0:00:11.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My challenge is: the shortest seminar\NI usually do is 50 hours.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:12.00,0:00:13.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.65,0:00:15.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm not exaggerating. I do weekends --
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.90,0:00:18.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I do more, obviously,\NI also coach people --
Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.16,0:00:20.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I'm into immersion,\Nbecause how did you learn language?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.96,0:00:22.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not just by learning principles,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.59,0:00:25.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you got in it and you did it\Nso often that it became real.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.46,0:00:28.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The bottom line of why I'm here,\Nbesides being a crazy mofo, is that --
Dialogue: 0,0:00:28.96,0:00:32.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm not here to motivate you,\Nyou don't need that, obviously.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.73,0:00:34.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Often that's what people think I do,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.77,0:00:36.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's the furthest thing from it.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.51,0:00:38.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What happens, though, is people say to me,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.58,0:00:40.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I don't need any motivation."
Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.08,0:00:41.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But that's not what I do.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.64,0:00:43.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm the "why" guy.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.53,0:00:45.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want to know why you do what you do.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.63,0:00:47.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What is your motive for action?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.14,0:00:51.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What is it that drives you\Nin your life today? Not 10 years ago.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.34,0:00:53.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Are you running the same pattern?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.07,0:00:56.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because I believe that the invisible force\Nof internal drive, activated,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.00,0:00:58.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is the most important thing.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.83,0:01:02.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm here because I believe\Nemotion is the force of life.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.44,0:01:04.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All of us here have great minds.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.28,0:01:06.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Most of us here have great minds, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.73,0:01:09.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We all know how to think.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.11,0:01:11.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With our minds we can\Nrationalize anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.23,0:01:12.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can make anything happen.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.59,0:01:15.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I agree with what was described\Na few days ago,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.40,0:01:17.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that people work in their self-interest.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.75,0:01:20.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But we know that that's bullshit at times.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.39,0:01:22.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You don't work in your\Nself-interest all the time,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.78,0:01:24.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because when emotion comes into it,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.67,0:01:26.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the wiring changes\Nin the way it functions.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.73,0:01:30.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So it's wonderful to think intellectually\Nabout how the life of the world is,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.71,0:01:33.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,especially those who are very smart\Ncan play this game in our head.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:33.89,0:01:35.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I really want to know\Nwhat's driving you.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.02,0:01:37.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What I would like to invite you to do
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.90,0:01:41.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by the end of this talk is explore\Nwhere you are today, for two reasons.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.43,0:01:43.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One: so that you can contribute more.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.34,0:01:46.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And two: that hopefully we can not just\Nunderstand other people more,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.63,0:01:49.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but appreciate them more,\Nand create the kinds of connections
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.54,0:01:52.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that can stop some of the challenges\Nthat we face today.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.49,0:01:56.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're only going to get magnified\Nby the very technology that connects us,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.26,0:01:58.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it's making us intersect.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.07,0:02:00.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That intersection\Ndoesn't always create a view
Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.32,0:02:02.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of "everybody now understands everybody,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:02.53,0:02:04.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and everybody appreciates everybody."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.92,0:02:07.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've had an obsession\Nbasically for 30 years,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.53,0:02:11.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"What makes the difference\Nin the quality of people's lives?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.87,0:02:13.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What in their performance?"
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.35,0:02:15.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I got hired to produce the result now.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.55,0:02:17.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've done it for 30 years.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.07,0:02:18.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I get the phone call
Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.64,0:02:21.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when the athlete is burning down\Non national television,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.41,0:02:23.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they were ahead by five strokes
Dialogue: 0,0:02:23.12,0:02:25.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and now they can't get back on the course.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:25.14,0:02:27.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've got to do something right now\Nor nothing matters.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.86,0:02:30.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I get the phone call when the child\Nis going to commit suicide,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.85,0:02:32.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've got to do something.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.32,0:02:35.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In 29 years, I'm very grateful\Nto tell you I've never lost one.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.00,0:02:38.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It doesn't mean I won't some day,\Nbut I haven't yet.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.53,0:02:41.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The reason is an understanding\Nof these human needs.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.93,0:02:45.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I get those calls\Nabout performance, that's one thing.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.06,0:02:46.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How do you make a change?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.57,0:02:50.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm also looking to see what is shaping\Nthe person's ability to contribute,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.59,0:02:54.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to do something beyond themselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.13,0:02:56.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe the real question is,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.26,0:02:58.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I look at life and say\Nthere's two master lessons.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.65,0:03:00.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One is: there's the science\Nof achievement,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.76,0:03:03.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which almost everyone here\Nhas mastered amazingly.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.55,0:03:06.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"How do you take the invisible\Nand make it visible,"
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.07,0:03:07.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How do you make your dreams happen?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.81,0:03:10.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your business, your contribution\Nto society, money --
Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.42,0:03:12.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whatever, your body, your family.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.16,0:03:15.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The other lesson that is rarely\Nmastered is the art of fulfillment.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.52,0:03:18.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because science is easy, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:18.12,0:03:21.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We know the rules, you write the code\Nand you get the results.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.05,0:03:24.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Once you know the game,\Nyou just up the ante, don't you?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.21,0:03:26.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But when it comes\Nto fulfillment -- that's an art.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.67,0:03:29.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The reason is, it's about\Nappreciation and contribution.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.89,0:03:31.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can only feel so much by yourself.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.00,0:03:35.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've had an interesting laboratory\Nto try to answer the real question
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.96,0:03:37.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how somebody's life changes
Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.54,0:03:40.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you look at them like those people\Nthat you've given everything to?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:40.88,0:03:42.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like all the resources they say they need.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:43.02,0:03:45.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You gave not a 100-dollar computer,\Nbut the best computer.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:45.83,0:03:48.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You gave them love, joy,\Nwere there to comfort them.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.38,0:03:50.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Those people very often --\Nyou know some of them --
Dialogue: 0,0:03:50.100,0:03:52.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,end up the rest of their life
Dialogue: 0,0:03:52.46,0:03:54.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with all this love, education,\Nmoney and background
Dialogue: 0,0:03:54.91,0:03:56.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,going in and out of rehab.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.00,0:03:59.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some people have been\Nthrough ultimate pain,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.00,0:04:03.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,psychologically, sexually,\Nspiritually, emotionally abused --
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.40,0:04:05.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and not always, but often,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.08,0:04:08.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they become some of the people\Nthat contribute the most to society.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.31,0:04:12.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The question we've got to ask\Nourselves really is, what is it?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.26,0:04:13.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What is it that shapes us?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.63,0:04:15.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We live in a therapy culture.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.26,0:04:18.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Most of us don't do that,\Nbut the culture's a therapy culture,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:18.33,0:04:20.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the mindset that we are our past.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:20.34,0:04:22.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you wouldn't be in this room\Nif you bought that,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.00,0:04:26.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but most of society\Nthinks biography is destiny.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.20,0:04:27.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The past equals the future.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:27.87,0:04:29.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Of course it does if you live there.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.61,0:04:32.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what we know and what\Nwe have to remind ourselves --
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.30,0:04:34.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because you can know\Nsomething intellectually
Dialogue: 0,0:04:34.52,0:04:36.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then not use it, not apply it.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.92,0:04:40.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've got to remind ourselves\Nthat decision is the ultimate power.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:40.65,0:04:43.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you ask people,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.38,0:04:47.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have you failed to achieve\Nsomething significant in your life?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.28,0:04:48.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Say, "Aye." Audience: Aye.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.00,0:04:51.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,TR: Thanks for the interaction\Non a high level there.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.00,0:04:54.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But if you ask people,\Nwhy didn't you achieve something?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.00,0:04:58.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Somebody who's working for you,\Nor a partner, or even yourself.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.28,0:05:01.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you fail to achieve,\Nwhat's the reason people say?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.40,0:05:02.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What do they tell you?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.57,0:05:06.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Didn't have the knowledge,\Ndidn't have the money,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:06.90,0:05:11.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,didn't have the time,\Ndidn't have the technology.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.16,0:05:12.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't have the right manager.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.02,0:05:15.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Al Gore: Supreme Court.\NTR: The Supreme Court.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.73,0:05:17.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:17.98,0:05:20.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause) (Cheering)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:30.00,0:05:31.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause continues)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:32.00,0:05:33.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,TR: And --
Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.08,0:05:35.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:36.00,0:05:39.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What do all those, including\Nthe Supreme Court, have in common?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:39.12,0:05:40.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.52,0:05:45.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are a claim to you missing\Nresources, and they may be accurate.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:45.34,0:05:47.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You may not have the money,\Nor the Supreme Court,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:48.00,0:05:49.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but that is not the defining factor.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:50.00,0:05:55.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause) (Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:56.00,0:05:57.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you correct me if I'm wrong.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:58.71,0:06:01.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The defining factor is never resources;\Nit's resourcefulness.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:02.00,0:06:04.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what I mean specifically,\Nrather than just some phrase,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:04.83,0:06:08.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is if you have emotion, human emotion,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:08.06,0:06:12.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,something that I experienced from you\Nthe day before yesterday
Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.12,0:06:14.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at a level that is as profound\Nas I've ever experienced
Dialogue: 0,0:06:14.73,0:06:17.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I believe with that emotion\Nyou would have beat his ass and won.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:17.99,0:06:19.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Audience: Yeah!
Dialogue: 0,0:06:19.08,0:06:23.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause) (Cheering)
Dialogue: 0,0:06:23.77,0:06:25.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How easy for me to tell him\Nwhat he should do.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:26.00,0:06:27.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:06:28.00,0:06:30.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Idiot, Robbins.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:30.91,0:06:36.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I know when we watched\Nthe debate at that time,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:36.19,0:06:38.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there were emotions\Nthat blocked people's ability
Dialogue: 0,0:06:38.50,0:06:40.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to get this man's intellect and capacity.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:40.50,0:06:43.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the way that it came across\Nto some people on that day --
Dialogue: 0,0:06:43.42,0:06:46.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I know people that wanted\Nto vote in your direction and didn't,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:46.82,0:06:48.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was upset.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.19,0:06:49.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But there was emotion there.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:49.65,0:06:51.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you know what I'm talking about?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:51.38,0:06:52.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Say, "Aye." Audience: Aye.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:52.74,0:06:53.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,TR: So, emotion is it.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:53.90,0:06:57.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if we get the right emotion,\Nwe can get ourselves to do anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:57.68,0:06:59.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you're creative, playful, fun enough,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:59.62,0:07:01.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can you get through to anybody, yes or no?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:01.72,0:07:03.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you don't have the money,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:03.18,0:07:05.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but you're creative and determined,\Nyou find the way.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:05.74,0:07:07.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is the ultimate resource.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:07.24,0:07:09.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But this is not the story\Nthat people tell us.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:09.50,0:07:11.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They tell us a bunch of different stories.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:11.60,0:07:14.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They tell us we don't have\Nthe resources, but ultimately,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:14.33,0:07:15.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you take a look here,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:15.92,0:07:19.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they say, what are all the reasons\Nthey haven't accomplished that?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:19.29,0:07:21.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He's broken my pattern,\Nthat son-of-a-bitch.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:21.57,0:07:24.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:07:24.92,0:07:27.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I appreciated the energy,\NI'll tell you that.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:27.30,0:07:28.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:07:28.40,0:07:29.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What determines your resources?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:29.94,0:07:33.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've said decisions shape destiny,\Nwhich is my focus here.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:33.10,0:07:36.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If decisions shape destiny,\Nwhat determines it is three decisions.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:36.22,0:07:37.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What will you focus on?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:37.40,0:07:39.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You have to decide\Nwhat you're going to focus on.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:39.88,0:07:41.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Consciously or unconsciously.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:41.36,0:07:44.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the minute you decide to focus,\Nyou must give it a meaning,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:44.30,0:07:46.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that meaning produces emotion.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:46.21,0:07:48.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is this the end or the beginning?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.06,0:07:51.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is God punishing me or rewarding me,\Nor is this the roll of the dice?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:51.98,0:07:54.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,An emotion creates\Nwhat we're going to do, or the action.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:55.00,0:07:56.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, think about your own life,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:57.00,0:07:59.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the decisions that\Nhave shaped your destiny.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:59.07,0:08:02.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that sounds really heavy,\Nbut in the last five or 10 years,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:02.08,0:08:03.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have there been some decisions
Dialogue: 0,0:08:03.65,0:08:07.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that if you'd made a different decision,\Nyour life would be completely different?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:07.51,0:08:10.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How many can think about it?\NBetter or worse. Say, "Aye."
Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.23,0:08:11.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Audience: Aye.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:11.29,0:08:13.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the bottom line is,\Nmaybe it was where to go to work,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:13.98,0:08:16.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you met the love of your life there,\Na career decision.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:16.85,0:08:18.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know the Google geniuses I saw here --
Dialogue: 0,0:08:18.84,0:08:22.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, I understand that their decision\Nwas to sell their technology.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:22.26,0:08:25.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What if they made that decision\Nversus to build their own culture?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:25.42,0:08:28.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How would the world or their lives\Nbe different, their impact?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:28.37,0:08:30.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The history of our world\Nis these decisions.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:30.51,0:08:34.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When a woman stands up and says,\N"No, I won't go to the back of the bus."
Dialogue: 0,0:08:34.10,0:08:37.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She didn't just affect her life.\NThat decision shaped our culture.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:37.64,0:08:40.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or someone standing in front of a tank.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.19,0:08:42.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or being in a position\Nlike Lance Armstrong,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:43.00,0:08:44.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"You've got testicular cancer."
Dialogue: 0,0:08:44.57,0:08:47.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's pretty tough for any male,\Nespecially if you ride a bike.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:47.63,0:08:48.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:08:49.00,0:08:51.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You've got it in your brain;\Nyou've got it in your lungs.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:51.73,0:08:53.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what was his decision\Nof what to focus on?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:53.95,0:08:56.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Different than most people.\NWhat did it mean?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:56.11,0:08:58.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It wasn't the end; it was the beginning.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:58.09,0:09:00.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He goes off and wins\Nseven championships he never once won
Dialogue: 0,0:09:00.90,0:09:04.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,before the cancer, because he got\Nemotional fitness, psychological strength.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:04.81,0:09:07.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's the difference\Nin human beings that I've seen
Dialogue: 0,0:09:07.32,0:09:09.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of the three million I've been around.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:09.21,0:09:14.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In my lab, I've had three million people\Nfrom 80 countries over the last 29 years.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:15.02,0:09:17.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And after a while,\Npatterns become obvious.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:17.50,0:09:21.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You see that South America and Africa\Nmay be connected in a certain way, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:21.53,0:09:24.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Others say, "Oh, that sounds\Nridiculous." It's simple.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:24.17,0:09:26.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, what shaped Lance? What shapes you?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:26.48,0:09:30.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Two invisible forces.\NVery quickly. One: state.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:30.82,0:09:31.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We all have had times,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:32.00,0:09:34.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you did something, and after,\Nyou thought to yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:34.82,0:09:37.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I can't believe I said or did that,\Nthat was so stupid."
Dialogue: 0,0:09:38.00,0:09:40.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who's been there? Say, "Aye."\NAudience: Aye.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:40.12,0:09:42.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or after you did something,\Nyou go, "That was me!"
Dialogue: 0,0:09:42.54,0:09:43.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:09:44.00,0:09:46.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It wasn't your ability; it was your state.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:46.86,0:09:49.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your model of the world\Nis what shapes you long term.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:49.80,0:09:53.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your model of the world is the filter.\NThat's what's shaping us.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:53.36,0:09:54.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It makes people make decisions.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:54.98,0:09:58.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To influence somebody, we need to know\Nwhat already influences them.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:58.26,0:10:00.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's made up of three parts.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:00.10,0:10:02.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,First, what's your target?\NWhat are you after?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:02.46,0:10:03.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's not your desires.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:04.00,0:10:05.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can get your desires or goals.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:05.66,0:10:08.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who has ever got a goal or desire\Nand thought, is this all there is?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:08.90,0:10:10.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Say, "Aye." Audience: Aye.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:10.17,0:10:13.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's needs we have. I believe\Nthere are six human needs.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:13.07,0:10:15.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Second, once you know what the target\Nthat's driving you is
Dialogue: 0,0:10:16.00,0:10:18.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you uncover it for the truth --\Nyou don't form it --
Dialogue: 0,0:10:19.00,0:10:20.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then you find out what's your map,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:20.76,0:10:23.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what's the belief systems\Nthat tell you how to get those needs.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:23.84,0:10:26.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some people think the way\Nto get them is to destroy the world,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:26.82,0:10:29.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,some people, to build,\Ncreate something, love someone.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:29.39,0:10:31.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's the fuel you pick.\NSo very quickly, six needs.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:32.00,0:10:34.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let me tell you what they are.\NFirst one: certainty.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:34.50,0:10:36.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These are not goals or desires,\Nthese are universal.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:36.98,0:10:39.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everyone needs certainty\Nthey can avoid pain
Dialogue: 0,0:10:39.11,0:10:40.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and at least be comfortable.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:40.55,0:10:41.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, how do you get it?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:41.82,0:10:44.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Control everybody? Develop a skill?\NGive up? Smoke a cigarette?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:44.93,0:10:46.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you got totally\Ncertain, ironically,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:47.00,0:10:48.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even though we need that --
Dialogue: 0,0:10:48.31,0:10:51.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're not certain about your health,\Nor your children, or money.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:51.53,0:10:53.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you're not sure\Nthe ceiling will hold up,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:53.77,0:10:55.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you won't listen to any speaker.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:55.41,0:10:59.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,While we go for certainty differently,\Nif we get total certainty, we get what?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:59.18,0:11:00.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What do you feel if you're certain?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:00.90,0:11:03.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know what will happen,\Nwhen and how it will happen,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:03.58,0:11:04.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what would you feel?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:04.70,0:11:07.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Bored out of your minds.\NSo, God, in Her infinite wisdom,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:07.40,0:11:09.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,gave us a second human need,\Nwhich is uncertainty.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:10.00,0:11:12.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We need variety. We need surprise.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:13.00,0:11:15.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How many of you here\Nlove surprises? Say, "Aye."
Dialogue: 0,0:11:15.32,0:11:16.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Audience: Aye.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:16.42,0:11:19.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,TR: Bullshit. You like\Nthe surprises you want.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:19.06,0:11:22.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The ones you don't want,\Nyou call problems, but you need them.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:22.43,0:11:24.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, variety is important.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:24.23,0:11:27.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Have you ever rented a video\Nor a film that you've already seen?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:27.37,0:11:29.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who's done this? Get a fucking life.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:29.20,0:11:30.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:11:31.00,0:11:32.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why are you doing it?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:32.63,0:11:35.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're certain it's good\Nbecause you read or saw it before,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:35.44,0:11:38.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but you're hoping it's been\Nlong enough you've forgotten,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:38.16,0:11:39.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there's variety.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:39.20,0:11:41.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Third human need, critical: significance.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:41.26,0:11:43.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We all need to feel important,\Nspecial, unique.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:43.56,0:11:46.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can get it by making more money\Nor being more spiritual.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:46.45,0:11:49.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can do it by getting yourself\Nin a situation where you put
Dialogue: 0,0:11:49.39,0:11:52.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,more tattoos and earrings in places\Nhumans don't want to know.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:52.40,0:11:53.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Whatever it takes.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:53.49,0:11:54.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The fastest way to do this,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:54.80,0:11:57.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you have no background,\Nno culture, no belief and resources
Dialogue: 0,0:11:57.80,0:11:59.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or resourcefulness, is violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:59.46,0:12:03.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If I put a gun to your head and I live\Nin the 'hood, instantly I'm significant.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:03.25,0:12:04.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Zero to 10. How high? 10.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:04.73,0:12:07.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How certain am I that\Nyou're going to respond to me? 10.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:07.84,0:12:08.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How much uncertainty?
Dialogue: 0,0:12:08.98,0:12:11.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who knows what's going to happen next?\NKind of exciting.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:11.70,0:12:14.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like climbing up into a cave\Nand doing that stuff
Dialogue: 0,0:12:14.10,0:12:15.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all the way down there.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:15.40,0:12:16.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Total variety and uncertainty.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:16.89,0:12:20.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it's significant, isn't it?\NSo you want to risk your life for it.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:20.30,0:12:23.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So that's why violence has always\Nbeen around and will be around
Dialogue: 0,0:12:23.40,0:12:25.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,unless we have a consciousness\Nchange as a species.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:25.88,0:12:27.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can get significance a million ways,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:27.90,0:12:30.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but to be significant, you've got\Nto be unique and different.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:30.82,0:12:33.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Here's what we really need:\Nconnection and love, fourth need.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:33.83,0:12:34.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We all want it;
Dialogue: 0,0:12:34.90,0:12:37.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,most settle for connection,\Nlove's too scary.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:37.10,0:12:39.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who here has been hurt\Nin an intimate relationship?
Dialogue: 0,0:12:39.60,0:12:42.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you don't raise your hand,\Nyou've had other shit, too.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:42.46,0:12:44.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you're going to get hurt again.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:44.21,0:12:46.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Aren't you glad you came\Nto this positive visit?
Dialogue: 0,0:12:46.49,0:12:48.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Here's what's true: we need it.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:48.04,0:12:51.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can do it through\Nintimacy, friendship, prayer,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:51.44,0:12:52.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,through walking in nature.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:52.81,0:12:55.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If nothing else works for you,\Ndon't get a cat, get a dog,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:55.66,0:12:59.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because if you leave for two minutes,\Nit's like you've been gone six months,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:59.28,0:13:00.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you come back 5 minutes later.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:01.01,0:13:03.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These first four needs,\Nevery human finds a way to meet.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:03.69,0:13:06.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even if you lie to yourself,\Nyou need to have split personalities.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:06.92,0:13:11.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I call the first four needs\Nthe needs of the personality.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:11.49,0:13:14.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The last two are the needs of the spirit.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:14.24,0:13:16.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this is where fulfillment comes.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:16.04,0:13:17.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You won't get it from the first four.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:17.86,0:13:21.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You'll figure a way, smoke, drink,\Ndo whatever, meet the first four.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:21.16,0:13:22.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But number five, you must grow.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:22.76,0:13:23.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We all know the answer.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:23.92,0:13:25.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you don't grow, you're what?
Dialogue: 0,0:13:25.46,0:13:27.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If a relationship or business\Nis not growing,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:27.60,0:13:28.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you're not growing,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:28.76,0:13:31.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,doesn't matter how much\Nmoney or friends you have,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:31.19,0:13:32.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how many love you,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:32.39,0:13:33.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you feel like hell.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:33.65,0:13:35.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I believe the reason we grow
Dialogue: 0,0:13:35.27,0:13:37.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is so we have something to give of value.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:37.25,0:13:39.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because the sixth need\Nis to contribute beyond ourselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:39.99,0:13:42.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because we all know, corny as that sounds,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:42.09,0:13:43.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the secret to living is giving.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:43.70,0:13:45.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We all know life is not about me,\Nit's about we.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:46.01,0:13:48.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This culture knows that,\Nthis room knows that.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:48.27,0:13:49.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's exciting.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:49.37,0:13:51.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you see Nicholas\Ntalking about his $100 computer,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:51.99,0:13:53.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the most exciting thing is:
Dialogue: 0,0:13:53.35,0:13:55.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,here's a genius,\Nbut he's got a calling now.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:55.79,0:13:58.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can feel the difference in him,\Nand it's beautiful.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:58.69,0:14:00.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that calling can touch other people.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:00.65,0:14:03.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My life was touched\Nbecause when I was 11 years old,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:03.55,0:14:05.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thanksgiving, no money, no food,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:05.56,0:14:06.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we were not going to starve,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:07.00,0:14:08.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but my father was totally messed up,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:08.74,0:14:11.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my mom was letting him know\Nhow bad he messed up,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:11.09,0:14:13.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and somebody came to the door\Nand delivered food.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:13.47,0:14:16.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My father made three decisions,\NI know what they were, briefly.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:16.56,0:14:18.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,His focus was "This is charity.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:18.41,0:14:20.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What does it mean? I'm worthless.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:20.10,0:14:22.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What do I have to do?\NLeave my family," which he did.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:22.74,0:14:25.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was one of the most painful\Nexperiences of life.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:25.25,0:14:27.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My three decisions\Ngave me a different path.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:27.80,0:14:31.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I set focus on "There's food."\NWhat a concept!
Dialogue: 0,0:14:31.14,0:14:32.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:14:32.24,0:14:35.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But this is what changed my life,\Nshaped me as a human being.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:35.46,0:14:37.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Somebody's gift,\NI don't even know who it is.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:37.68,0:14:39.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My father always said,\N"No one gives a shit."
Dialogue: 0,0:14:40.82,0:14:42.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And now somebody I don't know,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:42.32,0:14:44.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're not asking for anything,\Njust giving us food,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:44.88,0:14:46.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,looking out for us.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:46.08,0:14:48.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It made me believe this:\Nthat strangers care.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:49.63,0:14:50.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that made me decide,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:50.88,0:14:53.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if strangers care about me and my family,\NI care about them.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:53.97,0:14:56.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm going to do something\Nto make a difference.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:56.21,0:14:58.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when I was 17,\NI went out on Thanksgiving,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:58.34,0:15:01.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it was my target for years to have\Nenough money to feed two families.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:01.61,0:15:04.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The most fun and moving thing\NI ever did in my life.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:04.10,0:15:05.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Next year, I did four, then eight.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:05.81,0:15:09.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't tell anybody what I was doing,\NI wasn't doing it for brownie points.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:09.57,0:15:11.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But after eight,\NI thought I could use some help.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:11.98,0:15:14.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I went out, got my friends involved,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:14.43,0:15:17.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then I grew companies, got 11,\Nand I built the foundation.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:17.63,0:15:18.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,18 years later,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:18.85,0:15:22.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm proud to tell you last year we fed\N2 million people in 35 countries
Dialogue: 0,0:15:22.32,0:15:23.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,through our foundation.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:23.53,0:15:25.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All during the holidays,\NThanksgiving, Christmas,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:25.88,0:15:27.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in different countries around the world.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:27.91,0:15:29.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:15:29.04,0:15:30.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:30.20,0:15:33.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't tell you that to brag,\Nbut because I'm proud of human beings
Dialogue: 0,0:15:33.80,0:15:35.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because they get excited to contribute
Dialogue: 0,0:15:35.73,0:15:38.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,once they've had the chance\Nto experience it, not talk about it.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:38.86,0:15:40.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, finally -- I'm about out of time.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:40.68,0:15:43.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The target that shapes you --
Dialogue: 0,0:15:43.56,0:15:45.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Here's what's different about people.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:45.45,0:15:46.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We have the same needs.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:46.66,0:15:49.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But are you a certainty freak,\Nis that what you value most,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:49.55,0:15:50.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or uncertainty?
Dialogue: 0,0:15:50.75,0:15:54.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This man couldn't be a certainty freak\Nif he climbed through those caves.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:54.31,0:15:56.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Are you driven by significance or love?
Dialogue: 0,0:15:56.22,0:15:57.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We all need all six,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:57.52,0:16:00.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but what your lead system is\Ntilts you in a different direction.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:00.62,0:16:03.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And as you move in a direction,\Nyou have a destination or destiny.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:03.78,0:16:05.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The second piece is the map.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:05.23,0:16:07.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The operating system\Ntells you how to get there,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:07.53,0:16:08.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and some people's map is,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:08.84,0:16:11.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I'm going to save lives\Neven if I die for other people,"
Dialogue: 0,0:16:11.63,0:16:12.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they're a fireman,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:12.83,0:16:15.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and somebody else says,\N"I'm going to kill people to do it."
Dialogue: 0,0:16:15.77,0:16:18.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're trying to meet\Nthe same needs of significance.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:18.38,0:16:20.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They want to honor God\Nor honor their family.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:20.59,0:16:22.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But they have a different map.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:22.14,0:16:26.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And there are seven different beliefs;\NI can't go through them, because I'm done.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:26.04,0:16:27.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The last piece is emotion.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:27.40,0:16:29.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One of the parts of the map is like time.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:29.42,0:16:31.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some people's idea\Nof a long time is 100 years.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:31.73,0:16:34.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Somebody else's is three seconds,\Nwhich is what I have.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:34.43,0:16:37.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the last one I've already mentioned\Nthat fell to you.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:37.23,0:16:38.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you've got a target and a map --
Dialogue: 0,0:16:38.97,0:16:40.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can't use Google because I love Macs,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:40.93,0:16:43.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they haven't made it\Ngood for Macs yet.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:43.05,0:16:44.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So if you use MapQuest --
Dialogue: 0,0:16:44.36,0:16:46.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how many have made\Nthis fatal mistake of using it?
Dialogue: 0,0:16:46.80,0:16:48.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You use this thing\Nand you don't get there.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:48.92,0:16:52.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Imagine if your beliefs guarantee\Nyou can never get to where you want to go.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:52.58,0:16:53.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:16:53.68,0:16:55.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The last thing is emotion.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:55.03,0:16:57.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Here's what I'll tell you about emotion.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:57.06,0:16:58.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are 6,000 emotions
Dialogue: 0,0:16:58.56,0:17:00.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we have words for\Nin the English language,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:00.87,0:17:04.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is just a linguistic representation\Nthat changes by language.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:04.05,0:17:06.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But if your dominant emotions --
Dialogue: 0,0:17:06.38,0:17:09.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If I have 20,000 people or 1,000
Dialogue: 0,0:17:09.13,0:17:12.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I have them write down\Nall the emotions that they experience
Dialogue: 0,0:17:12.20,0:17:13.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in an average week,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:13.23,0:17:15.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I give them as long as they need,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:15.18,0:17:17.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and on one side\Nthey write empowering emotions,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:17.50,0:17:18.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the other's disempowering,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:18.84,0:17:21.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,guess how many emotions\Nthey experience? Less than 12.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:21.39,0:17:23.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And half of those\Nmake them feel like shit.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:23.51,0:17:24.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They have six good feelings.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:24.96,0:17:26.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Happy, happy, excited, oh shit,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:26.62,0:17:28.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,frustrated, frustrated,\Noverwhelmed, depressed.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:28.89,0:17:30.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How many of you know somebody
Dialogue: 0,0:17:30.38,0:17:33.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who, no matter what happens,\Nfinds a way to get pissed off?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:33.18,0:17:34.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:17:34.38,0:17:38.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or no matter what happens,\Nthey find a way to be happy or excited.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:38.75,0:17:40.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How many of you know somebody like this?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:40.78,0:17:43.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When 9/11 happened, I'll finish\Nwith this, I was in Hawaii.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:44.04,0:17:46.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was with 2,000 people from 45 countries,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:46.43,0:17:48.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we were translating\Nfour languages simultaneously
Dialogue: 0,0:17:48.84,0:17:50.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for a program I was conducting,\Nfor a week.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:51.28,0:17:53.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The night before was called\NEmotional Mastery.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:53.54,0:17:55.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I got up, had no plan\Nfor this, and I said --
Dialogue: 0,0:17:55.95,0:17:59.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we had fireworks,\NI do crazy shit, fun stuff,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:59.07,0:18:00.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and at the end, I stopped.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:00.38,0:18:03.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had this plan, but I never know\Nwhat I'm going to say.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:03.12,0:18:04.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And all of a sudden, I said,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:04.57,0:18:07.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"When do people really start to live?\NWhen they face death."
Dialogue: 0,0:18:07.64,0:18:09.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I went through this whole thing
Dialogue: 0,0:18:09.38,0:18:11.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about, if you weren't going\Nto get off this island,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:11.88,0:18:14.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if nine days from now,\Nyou were going to die,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:14.10,0:18:16.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who would you call,\Nwhat would you say, what would you do?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:16.94,0:18:18.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That night is when 9/11 happened.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:18.63,0:18:21.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One woman had come to the seminar,\Nand when she came there,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:21.52,0:18:24.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,her previous boyfriend had been\Nkidnapped and murdered.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:24.22,0:18:26.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Her new boyfriend wanted to marry her,\Nand she said no.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:26.92,0:18:30.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said, "If you go to that Hawaii thing,\Nit's over with us."
Dialogue: 0,0:18:30.30,0:18:31.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She said, "It's over."
Dialogue: 0,0:18:31.56,0:18:34.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I finished that night,\Nshe called him and left a message
Dialogue: 0,0:18:34.55,0:18:37.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at the top of the World Trade Center\Nwhere he worked, saying,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:37.54,0:18:40.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I love you, I want you to know\NI want to marry you.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:40.09,0:18:41.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was stupid of me."
Dialogue: 0,0:18:41.52,0:18:44.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was asleep, because it was 3 a.m.\Nfor us, when he called her back,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:44.94,0:18:47.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and said, "Honey, I can't tell you\Nwhat this means.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:47.85,0:18:51.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't know how to tell you this,\Nbut you gave me the greatest gift,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:51.22,0:18:52.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I'm going to die."
Dialogue: 0,0:18:53.16,0:18:55.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And she played the recording\Nfor us in the room.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:55.53,0:18:56.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was on Larry King later.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:56.98,0:18:58.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he said, "You're probably wondering
Dialogue: 0,0:18:58.96,0:19:01.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how on Earth this could\Nhappen to you twice.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:01.07,0:19:03.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All I can say is this must be\NGod's message to you.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:03.58,0:19:06.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,From now on, every day,\Ngive your all, love your all.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:06.13,0:19:08.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't let anything ever stop you."
Dialogue: 0,0:19:08.71,0:19:10.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She finishes, and a man\Nstands up, and he says,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:10.97,0:19:12.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I'm from Pakistan, I'm a Muslim.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:12.57,0:19:14.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd love to hold your hand\Nand say I'm sorry,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:14.79,0:19:17.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but frankly, this is retribution."
Dialogue: 0,0:19:18.13,0:19:20.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can't tell you the rest,\Nbecause I'm out of time.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:20.64,0:19:27.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:19:27.32,0:19:28.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Are you sure?
Dialogue: 0,0:19:28.52,0:19:32.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:19:32.84,0:19:34.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,10 seconds!
Dialogue: 0,0:19:34.04,0:19:37.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter and applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:19:37.37,0:19:39.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,10 seconds, I want to be respectful.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:39.34,0:19:40.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All I can tell you is,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:40.50,0:19:42.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I brought this man on stage
Dialogue: 0,0:19:42.13,0:19:45.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with a man from New York who worked\Nin the World Trade Center,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:45.10,0:19:47.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I had about 200 New Yorkers there.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:47.12,0:19:49.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,More than 50 lost\Ntheir entire companies, friends,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:49.58,0:19:51.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,marking off their Palm Pilots.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:51.13,0:19:53.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One financial trader,\Nwoman made of steel, bawling --
Dialogue: 0,0:19:53.73,0:19:55.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,30 friends crossing off that all died.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:55.58,0:19:58.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I said, "What are we\Ngoing to focus on?
Dialogue: 0,0:19:59.57,0:20:01.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What does this mean\Nand what are we going to do?"
Dialogue: 0,0:20:01.93,0:20:04.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I got the group to focus on:
Dialogue: 0,0:20:04.03,0:20:05.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you didn't lose somebody today,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:05.77,0:20:08.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your focus is going to be\Nhow to serve somebody else.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:08.37,0:20:11.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then one woman stood up\Nand was so angry, screaming and yelling.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:11.50,0:20:14.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I found out she wasn't from New York,\Nshe's not an American,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:14.44,0:20:15.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,doesn't know anybody here.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:15.80,0:20:17.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I asked, "Do you always get angry?"
Dialogue: 0,0:20:17.58,0:20:18.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She said, "Yes."
Dialogue: 0,0:20:18.78,0:20:20.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Guilty people got guilty,\Nsad people got sad.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:21.00,0:20:23.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I took these two men\Nand I did an indirect negotiation.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:23.70,0:20:26.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Jewish man with family\Nin the occupied territory,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:26.11,0:20:29.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,someone in New York who would have died\Nif he was at work that day,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:29.39,0:20:31.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and this man who wanted to be a terrorist,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:31.51,0:20:32.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I made it very clear.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:32.81,0:20:35.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This integration is on a film,\Nwhich I'd be happy to send you,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:35.76,0:20:37.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,instead of my verbalization,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:37.20,0:20:39.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but the two of them not only came together
Dialogue: 0,0:20:39.33,0:20:41.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and changed their beliefs\Nand models of the world,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:41.79,0:20:44.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but worked together to bring,\Nfor almost four years now,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:44.53,0:20:46.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,through various mosques and synagogues,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:46.44,0:20:48.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the idea of how to create peace.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:48.08,0:20:50.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he wrote a book, called\N"My Jihad, My Way of Peace."
Dialogue: 0,0:20:50.76,0:20:52.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, transformation can happen.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:52.31,0:20:53.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My invitation to you is:
Dialogue: 0,0:20:53.56,0:20:55.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,explore your web,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:55.12,0:20:56.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the web in here --
Dialogue: 0,0:20:56.69,0:21:00.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the needs, the beliefs, the emotions\Nthat are controlling you,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:00.30,0:21:01.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for two reasons:
Dialogue: 0,0:21:01.50,0:21:03.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so there's more of you to give,\Nand achieve, too,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:03.82,0:21:05.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I mean give,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:05.14,0:21:07.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because that's what's\Ngoing to fill you up.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:07.21,0:21:09.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And secondly, so you can appreciate --
Dialogue: 0,0:21:09.06,0:21:11.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not just understand,\Nthat's intellectual, that's the mind,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:11.91,0:21:14.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but appreciate\Nwhat's driving other people.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:14.03,0:21:16.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's the only way\Nour world's going to change.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:16.29,0:21:18.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,God bless you, thank you.\NI hope this was of service.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:18.90,0:21:20.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)