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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.00,0:00:05.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay, now I don't want to alarm anybody in this room,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:05.00,0:00:07.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it's just come to my attention
Dialogue: 0,0:00:07.00,0:00:09.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the person to your right is a liar.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.00,0:00:11.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.00,0:00:14.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Also, the person to your left is a liar.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:14.00,0:00:17.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Also the person sitting in your very seats is a liar.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.00,0:00:19.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're all liars.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.00,0:00:21.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What I'm going to do today
Dialogue: 0,0:00:21.00,0:00:24.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is I'm going to show you what the research says about why we're all liars,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.00,0:00:26.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how you can become a liespotter
Dialogue: 0,0:00:26.00,0:00:29.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and why you might want to go the extra mile
Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.00,0:00:32.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and go from liespotting to truth seeking,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.00,0:00:34.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and ultimately to trust building.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.00,0:00:37.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now speaking of trust,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.00,0:00:40.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ever since I wrote this book, "Liespotting,"
Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.00,0:00:43.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,no one wants to meet me in person anymore, no, no, no, no, no.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.00,0:00:46.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They say, "It's okay, we'll email you."
Dialogue: 0,0:00:46.00,0:00:48.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.00,0:00:52.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can't even get a coffee date at Starbucks.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.00,0:00:54.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My husband's like, "Honey, deception?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.00,0:00:57.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe you could have focused on cooking. How about French cooking?"
Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.00,0:00:59.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So before I get started, what I'm going to do
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.00,0:01:02.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is I'm going to clarify my goal for you,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.00,0:01:04.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is not to teach a game of Gotcha.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.00,0:01:06.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Liespotters aren't those nitpicky kids,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.00,0:01:09.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,those kids in the back of the room that are shouting, "Gotcha! Gotcha!
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.00,0:01:12.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your eyebrow twitched. You flared your nostril.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.00,0:01:15.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I watch that TV show 'Lie To Me.' I know you're lying."
Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.00,0:01:17.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No, liespotters are armed
Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.00,0:01:20.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with scientific knowledge of how to spot deception.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.00,0:01:22.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They use it to get to the truth,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.00,0:01:24.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they do what mature leaders do everyday;
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.00,0:01:27.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they have difficult conversations with difficult people,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.00,0:01:29.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sometimes during very difficult times.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.00,0:01:31.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they start up that path
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.00,0:01:33.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by accepting a core proposition,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:33.00,0:01:35.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that proposition is the following:
Dialogue: 0,0:01:35.00,0:01:38.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Lying is a cooperative act.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.00,0:01:42.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Think about it, a lie has no power whatsoever by its mere utterance.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:42.00,0:01:44.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Its power emerges
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.00,0:01:46.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when someone else agrees to believe the lie.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.00,0:01:48.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I know it may sound like tough love,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.00,0:01:52.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but look, if at some point you got lied to,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.00,0:01:54.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's because you agreed to get lied to.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.00,0:01:57.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Truth number one about lying: Lying's a cooperative act.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:57.00,0:01:59.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now not all lies are harmful.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.00,0:02:02.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes we're willing participants in deception
Dialogue: 0,0:02:02.00,0:02:05.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for the sake of social dignity,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.00,0:02:08.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe to keep a secret that should be kept secret, secret.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.00,0:02:10.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We say, "Nice song."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.00,0:02:13.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Honey, you don't look fat in that, no."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.00,0:02:15.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or we say, favorite of the digiratti,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.00,0:02:18.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"You know, I just fished that email out of my spam folder.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.00,0:02:21.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So sorry."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.00,0:02:24.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But there are times when we are unwilling participants in deception.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.00,0:02:27.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that can have dramatic costs for us.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.00,0:02:30.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Last year saw 997 billion dollars
Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.00,0:02:34.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in corporate fraud alone in the United States.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:34.00,0:02:36.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's an eyelash under a trillion dollars.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.00,0:02:38.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's seven percent of revenues.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.00,0:02:40.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Deception can cost billions.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.00,0:02:43.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Think Enron, Madoff, the mortgage crisis.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.00,0:02:46.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or in the case of double agents and traitors,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.00,0:02:48.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like Robert Hanssen or Aldrich Ames,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.00,0:02:50.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,lies can betray our country,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.00,0:02:53.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they can compromise our security, they can undermine democracy,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.00,0:02:56.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they can cause the deaths of those that defend us.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.00,0:02:59.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Deception is actually serious business.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.00,0:03:01.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This con man, Henry Oberlander,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.00,0:03:03.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he was such an effective con man
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.00,0:03:05.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,British authorities say
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.00,0:03:08.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he could have undermined the entire banking system of the Western world.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.00,0:03:10.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you can't find this guy on Google; you can't find him anywhere.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.00,0:03:13.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was interviewed once, and he said the following.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.00,0:03:15.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said, "Look, I've got one rule."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.00,0:03:18.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this was Henry's rule, he said,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:18.00,0:03:20.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Look, everyone is willing to give you something.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.00,0:03:23.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're ready to give you something for whatever it is they're hungry for."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.00,0:03:25.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that's the crux of it.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.00,0:03:27.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you don't want to be deceived, you have to know,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.00,0:03:29.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what is it that you're hungry for?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.00,0:03:32.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we all kind of hate to admit it.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.00,0:03:35.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We wish we were better husbands, better wives,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.00,0:03:37.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,smarter, more powerful,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.00,0:03:39.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,taller, richer --
Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.00,0:03:41.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the list goes on.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.00,0:03:43.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Lying is an attempt to bridge that gap,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:43.00,0:03:45.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to connect our wishes and our fantasies
Dialogue: 0,0:03:45.00,0:03:48.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about who we wish we were, how we wish we could be,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.00,0:03:51.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with what we're really like.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.00,0:03:54.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And boy are we willing to fill in those gaps in our lives with lies.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:54.00,0:03:57.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,On a given day, studies show that you may be lied to
Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.00,0:03:59.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,anywhere from 10 to 200 times.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:59.00,0:04:02.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now granted, many of those are white lies.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.00,0:04:04.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But in another study,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:04.00,0:04:06.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it showed that strangers lied three times
Dialogue: 0,0:04:06.00,0:04:08.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,within the first 10 minutes of meeting each other.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.00,0:04:10.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.00,0:04:13.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now when we first hear this data, we recoil.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.00,0:04:15.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can't believe how prevalent lying is.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.00,0:04:17.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're essentially against lying.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.00,0:04:19.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But if you look more closely,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.00,0:04:21.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the plot actually thickens.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:21.00,0:04:24.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We lie more to strangers than we lie to coworkers.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.00,0:04:28.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Extroverts lie more than introverts.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:28.00,0:04:31.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Men lie eight times more about themselves
Dialogue: 0,0:04:31.00,0:04:33.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than they do other people.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.00,0:04:36.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Women lie more to protect other people.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.00,0:04:39.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you're an average married couple,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.00,0:04:41.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're going to lie to your spouse
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.00,0:04:43.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in one out of every 10 interactions.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.00,0:04:45.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now you may think that's bad.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:45.00,0:04:47.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It you're unmarried, that number drops to three.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.00,0:04:49.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Lying's complex.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.00,0:04:52.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's woven into the fabric of our daily and our business lives.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.00,0:04:54.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're deeply ambivalent about the truth.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:54.00,0:04:56.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We parse it out on an as-needed basis,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.00,0:04:58.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sometimes for very good reasons,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.00,0:05:01.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,other times just because we don't understand the gaps in our lives.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.00,0:05:03.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's truth number two about lying.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:03.00,0:05:05.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're against lying,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.00,0:05:07.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we're covertly for it
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.00,0:05:09.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in ways that our society has sanctioned
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.00,0:05:11.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for centuries and centuries and centuries.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.00,0:05:13.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's as old as breathing.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.00,0:05:15.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's part of our culture, it's part of our history.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.00,0:05:18.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Think Dante, Shakespeare,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.00,0:05:21.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the Bible, News of the World.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:21.00,0:05:23.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.00,0:05:25.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Lying has evolutionary value to us as a species.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.00,0:05:27.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Researchers have long known
Dialogue: 0,0:05:27.00,0:05:29.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the more intelligent the species,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:29.00,0:05:31.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the larger the neocortex,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.00,0:05:33.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the more likely it is to be deceptive.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.00,0:05:35.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now you might remember Koko.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.00,0:05:38.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Does anybody remember Koko the gorilla who was taught sign language?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.00,0:05:41.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Koko was taught to communicate via sign language.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.00,0:05:43.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Here's Koko with her kitten.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.00,0:05:46.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's her cute little, fluffy pet kitten.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.00,0:05:48.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Koko once blamed her pet kitten
Dialogue: 0,0:05:48.00,0:05:50.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for ripping a sink out of the wall.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:50.00,0:05:52.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.00,0:05:54.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're hardwired to become leaders of the pack.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:54.00,0:05:56.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's starts really, really early.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:56.00,0:05:58.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How early?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:58.00,0:06:00.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well babies will fake a cry,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:00.00,0:06:02.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,pause, wait to see who's coming
Dialogue: 0,0:06:02.00,0:06:04.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then go right back to crying.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:04.00,0:06:06.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One-year-olds learn concealment.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:06.00,0:06:08.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:06:08.00,0:06:10.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Two-year-olds bluff.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:10.00,0:06:12.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Five-year-olds lie outright.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.00,0:06:14.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They manipulate via flattery.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:14.00,0:06:17.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nine-year-olds, masters of the cover up.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:17.00,0:06:19.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,By the time you enter college,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:19.00,0:06:22.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're going to lie to your mom in one out of every five interactions.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:22.00,0:06:25.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,By the time we enter this work world and we're breadwinners,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:25.00,0:06:27.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we enter a world that is just cluttered
Dialogue: 0,0:06:27.00,0:06:29.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with spam, fake digital friends,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:29.00,0:06:31.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,partisan media,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.00,0:06:33.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ingenious identity thieves,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:33.00,0:06:35.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,world-class Ponzi schemers,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:35.00,0:06:37.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a deception epidemic --
Dialogue: 0,0:06:37.00,0:06:39.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in short, what one author calls
Dialogue: 0,0:06:39.00,0:06:42.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a post-truth society.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:42.00,0:06:44.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's been very confusing
Dialogue: 0,0:06:44.00,0:06:47.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for a long time now.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.00,0:06:50.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What do you do?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.00,0:06:52.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well there are steps we can take
Dialogue: 0,0:06:52.00,0:06:54.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to navigate our way through the morass.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:54.00,0:06:57.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Trained liespotters get to the truth 90 percent of the time.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:57.00,0:07:00.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The rest of us, we're only 54 percent accurate.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:00.00,0:07:02.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why is it so easy to learn?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:02.00,0:07:05.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are good liars and there are bad liars. There are no real original liars.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:05.00,0:07:08.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We all make the same mistakes. We all use the same techniques.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:08.00,0:07:10.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So what I'm going to do
Dialogue: 0,0:07:10.00,0:07:12.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is I'm going to show you two patterns of deception.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:12.00,0:07:15.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then we're going to look at the hot spots and see if we can find them ourselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:15.00,0:07:18.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're going to start with speech.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:18.00,0:07:20.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Video) Bill Clinton: I want you to listen to me.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:20.00,0:07:22.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm going to say this again.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:22.00,0:07:25.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I did not have sexual relations
Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.00,0:07:29.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with that woman, Miss Lewinsky.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:29.00,0:07:31.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I never told anybody to lie,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:31.00,0:07:33.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not a single time, never.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:33.00,0:07:36.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And these allegations are false.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:36.00,0:07:38.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I need to go back to work for the American people.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:38.00,0:07:40.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:43.00,0:07:46.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Pamela Meyer: Okay, what were the telltale signs?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:46.00,0:07:50.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well first we heard what's known as a non-contracted denial.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:50.00,0:07:53.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Studies show that people who are overdetermined in their denial
Dialogue: 0,0:07:53.00,0:07:56.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,will resort to formal rather than informal language.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:56.00,0:07:59.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We also heard distancing language: "that woman."
Dialogue: 0,0:07:59.00,0:08:01.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We know that liars will unconsciously distance themselves
Dialogue: 0,0:08:01.00,0:08:03.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from their subject
Dialogue: 0,0:08:03.00,0:08:06.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,using language as their tool.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:06.00,0:08:09.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now if Bill Clinton had said, "Well, to tell you the truth ... "
Dialogue: 0,0:08:09.00,0:08:11.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or Richard Nixon's favorite, "In all candor ... "
Dialogue: 0,0:08:11.00,0:08:13.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he would have been a dead giveaway
Dialogue: 0,0:08:13.00,0:08:15.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for any liespotter than knows
Dialogue: 0,0:08:15.00,0:08:18.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that qualifying language, as it's called, qualifying language like that,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:18.00,0:08:20.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,further discredits the subject.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:20.00,0:08:23.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now if he had repeated the question in its entirety,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:23.00,0:08:27.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or if he had peppered his account with a little too much detail --
Dialogue: 0,0:08:27.00,0:08:29.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we're all really glad he didn't do that --
Dialogue: 0,0:08:29.00,0:08:31.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he would have further discredited himself.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:31.00,0:08:33.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Freud had it right.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:33.00,0:08:36.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Freud said, look, there's much more to it than speech:
Dialogue: 0,0:08:36.00,0:08:39.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"No mortal can keep a secret.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:39.00,0:08:42.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If his lips are silent, he chatters with his fingertips."
Dialogue: 0,0:08:42.00,0:08:45.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we all do it no matter how powerful you are.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:45.00,0:08:47.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We all chatter with our fingertips.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:47.00,0:08:50.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm going to show you Dominique Strauss-Kahn with Obama
Dialogue: 0,0:08:50.00,0:08:53.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who's chattering with his fingertips.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:53.00,0:08:56.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:08:56.00,0:08:59.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now this brings us to our next pattern,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:59.00,0:09:02.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is body language.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:02.00,0:09:05.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With body language, here's what you've got to do.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:05.00,0:09:08.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You've really got to just throw your assumptions out the door.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:08.00,0:09:10.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let the science temper your knowledge a little bit.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:10.00,0:09:13.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because we think liars fidget all the time.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:13.00,0:09:16.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well guess what, they're known to freeze their upper bodies when they're lying.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:16.00,0:09:19.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We think liars won't look you in the eyes.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:19.00,0:09:21.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well guess what, they look you in the eyes a little too much
Dialogue: 0,0:09:21.00,0:09:23.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just to compensate for that myth.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:23.00,0:09:25.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We think warmth and smiles
Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.00,0:09:27.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,convey honesty, sincerity.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:27.00,0:09:29.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But a trained liespotter
Dialogue: 0,0:09:29.00,0:09:31.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can spot a fake smile a mile away.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:31.00,0:09:34.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you all spot the fake smile here?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:35.00,0:09:37.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can consciously contract
Dialogue: 0,0:09:37.00,0:09:40.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the muscles in your cheeks.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:40.00,0:09:43.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the real smile's in the eyes, the crow's feet of the eyes.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:43.00,0:09:45.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They cannot be consciously contracted,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:45.00,0:09:47.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,especially if you overdid the Botox.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:47.00,0:09:50.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't overdo the Botox; nobody will think you're honest.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:50.00,0:09:52.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now we're going to look at the hot spots.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:52.00,0:09:54.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you tell what's happening in a conversation?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:54.00,0:09:57.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you start to find the hot spots
Dialogue: 0,0:09:57.00,0:09:59.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to see the discrepancies
Dialogue: 0,0:09:59.00,0:10:01.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,between someone's words and someone's actions?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:01.00,0:10:03.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now I know it seems really obvious,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:03.00,0:10:05.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but when you're having a conversation
Dialogue: 0,0:10:05.00,0:10:08.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with someone you suspect of deception,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:08.00,0:10:11.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,attitude is by far the most overlooked but telling of indicators.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:11.00,0:10:13.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,An honest person is going to be cooperative.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:13.00,0:10:15.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're going to show they're on your side.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:15.00,0:10:17.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're going to be enthusiastic.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:17.00,0:10:19.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're going to be willing and helpful to getting you to the truth.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:19.00,0:10:22.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're going to be willing to brainstorm, name suspects,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:22.00,0:10:24.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,provide details.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:24.00,0:10:26.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're going to say, "Hey,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:26.00,0:10:29.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe it was those guys in payroll that forged those checks."
Dialogue: 0,0:10:29.00,0:10:32.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're going to be infuriated if they sense they're wrongly accused
Dialogue: 0,0:10:32.00,0:10:34.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,throughout the entire course of the interview, not just in flashes;
Dialogue: 0,0:10:34.00,0:10:37.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they'll be infuriated throughout the entire course of the interview.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:37.00,0:10:39.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you ask someone honest
Dialogue: 0,0:10:39.00,0:10:42.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what should happen to whomever did forge those checks,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:42.00,0:10:44.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,an honest person is much more likely
Dialogue: 0,0:10:44.00,0:10:48.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to recommend strict rather than lenient punishment.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:48.00,0:10:50.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now let's say you're having that exact same conversation
Dialogue: 0,0:10:50.00,0:10:52.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with someone deceptive.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:52.00,0:10:54.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That person may be withdrawn,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:54.00,0:10:56.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,look down, lower their voice,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:56.00,0:10:58.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,pause, be kind of herky-jerky.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:58.00,0:11:00.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ask a deceptive person to tell their story,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:00.00,0:11:03.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're going to pepper it with way too much detail
Dialogue: 0,0:11:03.00,0:11:06.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in all kinds of irrelevant places.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:06.00,0:11:09.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then they're going to tell their story in strict chronological order.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:09.00,0:11:11.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what a trained interrogator does
Dialogue: 0,0:11:11.00,0:11:13.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is they come in and in very subtle ways
Dialogue: 0,0:11:13.00,0:11:15.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,over the course of several hours,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:15.00,0:11:18.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they will ask that person to tell that story backwards,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:18.00,0:11:20.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then they'll watch them squirm,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:20.00,0:11:23.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and track which questions produce the highest volume of deceptive tells.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:23.00,0:11:26.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why do they do that? Well we all do the same thing.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:26.00,0:11:28.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We rehearse our words,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:28.00,0:11:30.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we rarely rehearse our gestures.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:30.00,0:11:32.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We say "yes," we shake our heads "no."
Dialogue: 0,0:11:32.00,0:11:35.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We tell very convincing stories, we slightly shrug our shoulders.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:35.00,0:11:37.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We commit terrible crimes,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:37.00,0:11:40.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we smile at the delight in getting away with it.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:40.00,0:11:43.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now that smile is known in the trade as "duping delight."
Dialogue: 0,0:11:43.00,0:11:46.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we're going to see that in several videos moving forward,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:46.00,0:11:48.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we're going to start -- for those of you who don't know him,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:48.00,0:11:51.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is presidential candidate John Edwards
Dialogue: 0,0:11:51.00,0:11:54.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who shocked America by fathering a child out of wedlock.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:54.00,0:11:57.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're going to see him talk about getting a paternity test.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:57.00,0:11:59.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,See now if you can spot him
Dialogue: 0,0:11:59.00,0:12:01.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,saying, "yes" while shaking his head "no,"
Dialogue: 0,0:12:01.00,0:12:03.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,slightly shrugging his shoulders.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:03.00,0:12:05.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Video) John Edwards: I'd be happy to participate in one.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:05.00,0:12:08.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know that it's not possible that this child could be mine,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:08.00,0:12:10.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because of the timing of events.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:10.00,0:12:12.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I know it's not possible.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:12.00,0:12:14.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Happy to take a paternity test,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:14.00,0:12:16.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and would love to see it happen.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:16.00,0:12:19.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Interviewer: Are you going to do that soon? Is there somebody --
Dialogue: 0,0:12:19.00,0:12:22.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JE: Well, I'm only one side. I'm only one side of the test.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:22.00,0:12:25.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I'm happy to participate in one.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:25.00,0:12:27.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: Okay, those head shakes are much easier to spot
Dialogue: 0,0:12:27.00,0:12:29.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,once you know to look for them.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:29.00,0:12:31.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There're going to be times
Dialogue: 0,0:12:31.00,0:12:33.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when someone makes one expression
Dialogue: 0,0:12:33.00,0:12:36.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,while masking another that just kind of leaks through in a flash.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:37.00,0:12:39.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Murderers are known to leak sadness.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:39.00,0:12:41.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your new joint venture partner might shake your hand,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:41.00,0:12:43.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,celebrate, go out to dinner with you
Dialogue: 0,0:12:43.00,0:12:46.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then leak an expression of anger.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:46.00,0:12:49.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we're not all going to become facial expression experts overnight here,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:49.00,0:12:52.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but there's one I can teach you that's very dangerous, and it's easy to learn,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:52.00,0:12:55.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's the expression of contempt.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:55.00,0:12:58.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now with anger, you've got two people on an even playing field.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:58.00,0:13:00.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's still somewhat of a healthy relationship.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:00.00,0:13:02.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But when anger turns to contempt,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:02.00,0:13:04.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you've been dismissed.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:04.00,0:13:06.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's associated with moral superiority.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:06.00,0:13:09.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And for that reason, it's very, very hard to recover from.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:09.00,0:13:11.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Here's what it looks like.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:11.00,0:13:13.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's marked by one lip corner
Dialogue: 0,0:13:13.00,0:13:15.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,pulled up and in.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:15.00,0:13:18.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's the only asymmetrical expression.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:18.00,0:13:20.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in the presence of contempt,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:20.00,0:13:22.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whether or not deception follows --
Dialogue: 0,0:13:22.00,0:13:24.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it doesn't always follow --
Dialogue: 0,0:13:24.00,0:13:26.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,look the other way, go the other direction,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:26.00,0:13:28.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,reconsider the deal,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:28.00,0:13:32.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,say, "No thank you. I'm not coming up for just one more nightcap. Thank you."
Dialogue: 0,0:13:32.00,0:13:34.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Science has surfaced
Dialogue: 0,0:13:34.00,0:13:36.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,many, many more indicators.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:36.00,0:13:38.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We know, for example,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:38.00,0:13:40.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we know liars will shift their blink rate,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:40.00,0:13:42.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,point their feet towards an exit.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:42.00,0:13:44.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They will take barrier objects
Dialogue: 0,0:13:44.00,0:13:47.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and put them between themselves and the person that is interviewing them.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:47.00,0:13:49.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They'll alter their vocal tone,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:49.00,0:13:52.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,often making their vocal tone much lower.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:52.00,0:13:54.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now here's the deal.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:54.00,0:13:57.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These behaviors are just behaviors.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:57.00,0:13:59.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're not proof of deception.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:59.00,0:14:01.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're red flags.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:01.00,0:14:03.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're human beings.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:03.00,0:14:06.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We make deceptive flailing gestures all over the place all day long.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:06.00,0:14:08.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They don't mean anything in and of themselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:08.00,0:14:11.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But when you see clusters of them, that's your signal.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:11.00,0:14:14.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Look, listen, probe, ask some hard questions,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:14.00,0:14:17.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,get out of that very comfortable mode of knowing,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:17.00,0:14:20.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,walk into curiosity mode, ask more questions,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:20.00,0:14:23.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have a little dignity, treat the person you're talking to with rapport.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:23.00,0:14:26.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't try to be like those folks on "Law & Order" and those other TV shows
Dialogue: 0,0:14:26.00,0:14:28.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that pummel their subjects into submission.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:28.00,0:14:31.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't be too aggressive, it doesn't work.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:31.00,0:14:33.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now we've talked a little bit
Dialogue: 0,0:14:33.00,0:14:35.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about how to talk to someone who's lying
Dialogue: 0,0:14:35.00,0:14:37.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and how to spot a lie.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:37.00,0:14:40.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And as I promised, we're now going to look at what the truth looks like.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:40.00,0:14:42.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I'm going to show you two videos,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:42.00,0:14:45.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,two mothers -- one is lying, one is telling the truth.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:45.00,0:14:47.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And these were surfaced
Dialogue: 0,0:14:47.00,0:14:49.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by researcher David Matsumoto in California.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:49.00,0:14:51.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I think they're an excellent example
Dialogue: 0,0:14:51.00,0:14:53.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of what the truth looks like.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:53.00,0:14:55.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This mother, Diane Downs,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:55.00,0:14:57.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,shot her kids at close range,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:57.00,0:14:59.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,drove them to the hospital
Dialogue: 0,0:14:59.00,0:15:01.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,while they bled all over the car,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:01.00,0:15:03.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,claimed a scraggy-haired stranger did it.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:03.00,0:15:05.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you'll see when you see the video,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:05.00,0:15:07.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she can't even pretend to be an agonizing mother.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:07.00,0:15:09.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What you want to look for here
Dialogue: 0,0:15:09.00,0:15:11.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is an incredible discrepancy
Dialogue: 0,0:15:11.00,0:15:13.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,between horrific events that she describes
Dialogue: 0,0:15:13.00,0:15:15.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and her very, very cool demeanor.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:15.00,0:15:18.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you look closely, you'll see duping delight throughout this video.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:18.00,0:15:20.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Video) Diane Downs: At night when I close my eyes,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:20.00,0:15:23.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can see Christie reaching her hand out to me while I'm driving,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:23.00,0:15:26.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the blood just kept coming out of her mouth.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:26.00,0:15:28.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that -- maybe it'll fade too with time --
Dialogue: 0,0:15:28.00,0:15:30.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I don't think so.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:30.00,0:15:33.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That bothers me the most.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:40.00,0:15:42.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: Now I'm going to show you a video
Dialogue: 0,0:15:42.00,0:15:44.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of an actual grieving mother, Erin Runnion,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:44.00,0:15:48.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,confronting her daughter's murderer and torturer in court.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:48.00,0:15:50.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Here you're going to see no false emotion,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:50.00,0:15:53.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just the authentic expression of a mother's agony.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:53.00,0:15:55.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Video) Erin Runnion: I wrote this statement on the third anniversary
Dialogue: 0,0:15:55.00,0:15:57.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of the night you took my baby,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:57.00,0:15:59.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you hurt her,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:59.00,0:16:01.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you crushed her,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:01.00,0:16:05.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you terrified her until her heart stopped.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:05.00,0:16:08.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And she fought, and I know she fought you.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:08.00,0:16:10.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I know she looked at you
Dialogue: 0,0:16:10.00,0:16:12.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with those amazing brown eyes,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:12.00,0:16:15.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you still wanted to kill her.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:15.00,0:16:17.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I don't understand it,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:17.00,0:16:20.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I never will.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:20.00,0:16:24.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: Okay, there's no doubting the veracity of those emotions.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:24.00,0:16:27.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now the technology around what the truth looks like
Dialogue: 0,0:16:27.00,0:16:30.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is progressing on, the science of it.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:30.00,0:16:32.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We know for example
Dialogue: 0,0:16:32.00,0:16:35.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we now have specialized eye trackers and infrared brain scans,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:35.00,0:16:38.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,MRI's that can decode the signals that our bodies send out
Dialogue: 0,0:16:38.00,0:16:40.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when we're trying to be deceptive.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:40.00,0:16:43.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And these technologies are going to be marketed to all of us
Dialogue: 0,0:16:43.00,0:16:45.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as panaceas for deceit,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:45.00,0:16:48.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they will prove incredibly useful some day.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:48.00,0:16:50.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But you've got to ask yourself in the meantime:
Dialogue: 0,0:16:50.00,0:16:52.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who do you want on your side of the meeting,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:52.00,0:16:55.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,someone who's trained in getting to the truth
Dialogue: 0,0:16:55.00,0:16:57.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or some guy who's going to drag a 400-pound electroencephalogram
Dialogue: 0,0:16:57.00,0:16:59.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,through the door?
Dialogue: 0,0:16:59.00,0:17:03.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Liespotters rely on human tools.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:03.00,0:17:05.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They know, as someone once said,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:05.00,0:17:07.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Character's who you are in the dark."
Dialogue: 0,0:17:07.00,0:17:09.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what's kind of interesting
Dialogue: 0,0:17:09.00,0:17:11.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that today we have so little darkness.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:11.00,0:17:14.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our world is lit up 24 hours a day.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:14.00,0:17:16.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's transparent
Dialogue: 0,0:17:16.00,0:17:18.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with blogs and social networks
Dialogue: 0,0:17:18.00,0:17:20.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,broadcasting the buzz of a whole new generation of people
Dialogue: 0,0:17:20.00,0:17:23.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that have made a choice to live their lives in public.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:23.00,0:17:27.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a much more noisy world.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:27.00,0:17:29.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So one challenge we have
Dialogue: 0,0:17:29.00,0:17:31.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is to remember,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:31.00,0:17:34.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,oversharing, that's not honesty.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:34.00,0:17:36.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our manic tweeting and texting
Dialogue: 0,0:17:36.00,0:17:38.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can blind us to the fact
Dialogue: 0,0:17:38.00,0:17:41.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the subtleties of human decency -- character integrity --
Dialogue: 0,0:17:41.00,0:17:44.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's still what matters, that's always what's going to matter.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:44.00,0:17:46.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So in this much noisier world,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:46.00,0:17:48.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it might make sense for us
Dialogue: 0,0:17:48.00,0:17:50.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be just a little bit more explicit
Dialogue: 0,0:17:50.00,0:17:53.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about our moral code.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:53.00,0:17:55.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you combine the science of recognizing deception
Dialogue: 0,0:17:55.00,0:17:57.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with the art of looking, listening,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:57.00,0:18:00.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you exempt yourself from collaborating in a lie.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:00.00,0:18:02.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You start up that path
Dialogue: 0,0:18:02.00,0:18:04.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of being just a little bit more explicit,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:04.00,0:18:06.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because you signal to everyone around you,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:06.00,0:18:09.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you say, "Hey, my world, our world,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:09.00,0:18:11.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's going to be an honest one.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:11.00,0:18:13.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My world is going to be one where truth is strengthened
Dialogue: 0,0:18:13.00,0:18:16.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and falsehood is recognized and marginalized."
Dialogue: 0,0:18:16.00,0:18:18.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when you do that,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:18.00,0:18:21.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the ground around you starts to shift just a little bit.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:21.00,0:18:24.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that's the truth. Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:24.00,0:18:29.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)