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Sangat Ji, today I am going to tell you about my mother.

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Who is also your mother.

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I am going to speak about Mata Sahib Kaur Ji,

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who is the mother, the spiritual mother of Khalsa Panth.

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Mata Sahib Kaur Ji from a very, very young age,

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she has been devoted to Sikhi and to Guru Gobind Singh Ji

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and no one could understand why.

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From a very young age, 
she could memorise Japji Sahib,

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she started doing a lot of Simran and

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starting memorising countless other teachings as well.

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And she would always speak about 
Guru Gobind Singh Ji,

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and she would always dream about
Guru Gobind Singh Ji as well.

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The time even came, such, where the villagers 
in her village started calling her Mata Ji,

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because at a very young age 
she portrayed those virtues, those attributes

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that a young woman, that a lady,
a Mata Ji would have.

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So with respect they started calling 
her Mata Ji as well.

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Now Mata Sahib Deva Ji when 
she came of age to get married,

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she told her parents
I will only get married to Guru Gobind Singh Ji.

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And even her parent say that
for someone like Mata Sahib Deva Ji,

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there is no one else but Guru Gobind Singh Ji 
who could get married to her,

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or who is compatible to her as well.

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Because as a woman, her wishes, her desires
are not of the worldly ones,

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but of the spiritual ones.

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And there is no man here 
who could be compatible to her.

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Only Guru Gobind Singh Ji.

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So her parents went to Guru Gobind Singh Ji

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and did Benti that please take 
my daughter's hand in marriage

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and get married to her.

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But at that point Guru Gobind Singh Ji 
say that I am already married

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and now I have become Brahamchari,
where I have renounced all the physical relationship

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of a household and now I am only 
focused on the panthic matters.

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So I can't get married to your daughter.

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And Mata Sahib Deva Ji parents say that
she only thinks about You,

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she only looks up to You and 
she will not get married to anyone else but You.

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At that point, Mata Sahib Deva Ji stood up and
she does Benti, she says that Sache Paatshaah

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as a wife I will not demand anything from You,
all I want is to be able to do your Seva

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and I can do that if I am in your palace,
if I am near You I can do that Seva of You.

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And Guru Gobind Singh Ji said 
that I have a few conditions

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if you want to get married to me.

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My first condition is that we are not 
going to be taking part in any physical relationship

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as a husband and wife and with that 
we will not bear any children as well.

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And Mata Sahib Deva Ji, Mata Sahib Kaur Ji, 
she said Sat Bachan.

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Because in her mind, all she wanted was 
to do Seva of her husband

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was to do Seva of Guru Gobind Singh Ji.

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Mata Sundri Ji was also there
present in the palace of Guru Gobind Singh Ji

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and Mata Gujri Ji as well.

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Mata Sahib Deva Ji, she loved Mata Sundri Ji
just like her own sister.

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Both of them had that sisterly love 
between each other.

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And both of them loved Mata Gujri Ji 
just like their own mother,

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there was no difference between the 3 of them.

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And Mata Sahib Deva Ji, she had so much love 
for the Chaar Sahibzaade,

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it was her responsibility to get them ready 
every morning.

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Mata Sahib Kaur Ji would put small small Kalgia 
on the Dastar of the Sahibzaade,

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especially Baba Fateh Singh Ji.

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And she would be so happy to 
see the Chaar Sahibzaade,

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it was like as if these 4 are her own children,
that's how she loved them and took care of them.

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These peaceful times were only 
short-lasting.

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And the whole Parvaar they got separated 
in Sirsa River.

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Now, Mata Sahib Kaur Ji's routine 
was that she would not have her food

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she would not have her breakfast 
her meal of the day

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until she had the Dashan of 
Guru Gobind Singh Ji.

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And this is one condition of Mata Sahib Deva Ji as well
which she put forward to Guru Gobind Singh Ji,

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she said that I know You are busy with
Your daily routine,

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of meeting the Khalsa Panth, 
of strategising for war against the enemies

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and all that, but this is my humble Benti. 
That please come to me daily

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to have your meal so that 
I can have your Darshan.

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And only then I will have my meal.

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Guru Gobind Singh Ji, knowing this Iccha 
of Mata Sahib Kaur Ji,

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Guru Sahib knew how much love
Mata Sahib Kaur Ji had for Them

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and they agreed to this condition.

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And daily Guru Gobind Singh Ji would come
and have meal with Mata Sahib Kaur Ji,

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eat the food that she made and 
gave her Darshan.

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This was not possible when the 
separation of the family happened

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and Mata Sahib Kaur Ji, Mata Sundri Ji and a few 
Gursikhs such as Bhai Mani Singh

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went towards Delhi.

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Now Sangat Ji, this is a point Sangat Ji.

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We can see how the role of the woman 
changes from just practising Sikhi in a family

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just like Bebe Nanaki Ji, Mata Khivi Ji then came 
forward and started serving her community.

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And then we can see like Bibi Bhani Ji has 
now started doing Seva in other communities as well.

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Started going out there to different villages 
and started doing Seva and doing Parchaar.

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Now we'll see when the time came to Mata Sahib
Kaur Ji, Mata Sundri Ji they have gone

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completely to a different state and now 
they are taking up the role that a man would take.

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Such as the economical aspect, the political aspect
of Panthic matters.

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Mata Sahib Kaur Ji, Mata Sundri Ji took care of all 
these matters for the Khalsa Panth in Delhi.

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Because they knew that war was coming
and normally with war there's always chaos

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attached to it as well.

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So it was in the hands of Mata Sahib Kaur Ji 
and Mata Sundri Ji, both together sisters,

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to ensure that there was peace and Sikhi 
Parchaar was still continuing in Delhi as well.