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- [Amanda] Hey, Psych2Goers.

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Welcome back to our channel.

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Thank you all so much

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for the love that you've given us.

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Your ongoing support has helped us

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make psychology and mental health

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more accessible to every.

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So, thank you.

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Now, let's continue.

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As human beings,

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we are all hardwired to feel things

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and react on an emotional level

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to the things going on around us.

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From the moment we're born,

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we cry when we're sad
or hungry or in need.

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We feel angry towards
the people who hurt us.

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We're afraid of the things
that might be dangerous.

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And we feel happy when we're given

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love, kindness and affection.

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These emotions come so naturally to us

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and it's natural for us to express them.

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But somewhere along the way,

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it all gets complicated.

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When you start getting confused

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about what we were feeling

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and why we were feeling it.

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There were some emotions
that we didn't quite

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know how to deal with,

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so we ended up repressing, denying

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or hiding our true feelings.

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Understanding our emotions

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not only helps us better
understand ourselves,

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but also helps us build a deeper

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and more meaningful life.

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So, with that said,

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here are seven of the
most important things

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you need to know about your emotions.

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Number one, you are not your emotions.

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Emotions are important,

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but they don't define who we are.

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They're electrochemical signals

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flowing from your brain to your body

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as a reaction to your
day-to-day experiences.

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Your emotions are simply there

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to regulate your thoughts and behaviors

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based on these experiences,

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and provide you data about
the world around you.

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They don't inform your character

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or impact who you are,

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unless you want them to.

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And to think otherwise robs you

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of your identity as a person

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outside of your emotions.

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You can allow yourself the freedom

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to get angry without thinking

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it makes you an angry person

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or to feel happy without
pressuring yourself

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to act like a happy person all the time.

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Two, emotions come and go.

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One of main reasons why we say

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there's so much more to a person

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than just their emotions

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is because our emotions
frequently come and go.

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And something is fundamental
to us as our identity,

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shouldn't be defined
by something as fickle

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and ever changing as how we feel.

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Even the most intense emotions

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and physical reactions

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like crying, shaking, and screaming

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rise, peak and fall within
a matter of minutes.

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Number three, emotions don't
always need a specific reason.

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Have you ever felt a certain way,

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but didn't know why

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or had to grapple with an emotion

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that hits you out of nowhere?

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While it can be confusing

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and difficult to make
sense of our emotions

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when we don't know what
the reason behind them is,

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sometimes you just need

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to let yourself feel

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whatever it is that you're feeling

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and try not to get so caught up

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in figuring out why you're feeling it.

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There could be a dozen different reasons

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why you're feeling something,

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but it's okay to feel it.

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Whether you're feeling sad,
upset, happy, or scared.

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Be honest about how you feel

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and accept it without judgment.

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All of your feelings are valid.

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Number four, emotions don't
always need a reaction.

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Whether it's anger, jealousy,

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sadness or discontentment,

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there's nothing wrong with
feeling a certain way.

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You don't have to feel guilty

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or ashamed about your emotions

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as long as you also understand

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that not every emotion

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deserves to be acted upon.

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When you wind up losing control

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and let your emotions
get the better of you,

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you can say hurtful things

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or do something you'll
later come to regret.

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Number five, there are
no negative emotions.

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While most of us believe

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that feelings can be either good or bad,

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psychologists actually argue

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that all feelings are neutral.

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There's no such thing as

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a positive or negative emotion

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because emotions aren't
inherently anything.

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They're only what we make of them.

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And though it can sometimes

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feel painful or overwhelming

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to feel things so strongly and deeply,

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allowing yourself to
experience your true emotions

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can teach you a great deal

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about yourself and who you really are.

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This is because, six, all
emotions serve a purpose.

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You experience a wide spectrum

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of different multifaceted emotions.

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Your feelings are a natural part of life

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and they serve to let you know

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how you're affected by what goes on

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both within your life and within yourself.

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Every emotion serves a purpose

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to point you in the right direction,

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and to help make sense of
what you're going through.

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For example, envy and discontentment

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can signal that there's a need

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you're not satisfying for yourself

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and could be missing from your life.

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Anger lets you know

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that your boundaries have been crossed.

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Anxiety and fear keep you
safe from potential danger.

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Happiness teaches you to seek out

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the people and places
that make you feel loved.

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Feelings of sadness are a way for you

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to process the loss of something

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that was once important to you.

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Seven, emotions are contagious.

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Last, but not least,

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something you need to
know about your emotions

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is that they can be very contagious.

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Several scientific studies have found

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that when you're in a group of people,

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you subconsciously mimic

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the emotions of those around you

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as an expression of your
innate desire to belong.

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With that in mind,

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it's no wonder why having
toxic people in your life

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can bring you down and
emotionally drain you.

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This is why it's important

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to surround yourself with
people who lift you up,

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that you enjoy spending time with,

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and whom you truly feel connected to.

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Did you learn something new

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about yourself and your emotions?

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