WEBVTT 00:00:11.320 --> 00:00:15.240 Nobody kills me anymore, I will live in a hundred years. 00:00:15.840 --> 00:00:18.640 I don't know why I say so and why I think so, 00:00:18.640 --> 00:00:22.770 perhaps to declare war on fate after it went to war with me. 00:00:23.520 --> 00:00:26.779 Or maybe I just talk to myself, my children and Bobo: 00:00:26.779 --> 00:00:29.788 now that you're gone, I'll be there forever. 00:00:31.030 --> 00:00:36.800 I read these sentences in a book, and I suddenly realize 00:00:36.800 --> 00:00:40.480 that "Nobody kills me anymore" is what I'm saying. 00:00:41.760 --> 00:00:43.760 It's my book, and it's my life. 00:00:44.960 --> 00:00:46.960 What's going on? 00:00:47.480 --> 00:00:52.520 That everything changed in a second. 00:00:53.320 --> 00:00:55.360 March 24, 2012: 00:00:55.960 --> 00:01:00.760 you go out, finally a night out one can never do, 00:01:00.760 --> 00:01:04.239 you go to dance with your friends, 00:01:04.239 --> 00:01:07.290 you greet at lunch your husband who goes to play, 00:01:07.290 --> 00:01:12.840 after a career made of two Olympics and many other championships. 00:01:12.840 --> 00:01:14.880 I'll see you tonight! 00:01:14.880 --> 00:01:20.960 You leave four children at home: Alessandro, seven; Arianna, three; 00:01:20.960 --> 00:01:23.880 and two twins aged one, Angelica and Aurora. 00:01:24.640 --> 00:01:27.360 And while you're on this quiet, peaceful evening, 00:01:28.280 --> 00:01:30.040 you get a call. 00:01:30.040 --> 00:01:32.637 And somebody told me, Bobo felt bad. 00:01:33.520 --> 00:01:34.920 So you take the car, 00:01:35.480 --> 00:01:38.360 you make this absurd journey to Macerata, 00:01:38.360 --> 00:01:40.570 because he was playing there. 00:01:41.920 --> 00:01:45.760 And you hear, it was like a movie. 00:01:46.640 --> 00:01:52.560 You see the team outside, the long ER aisle, 00:01:52.560 --> 00:01:55.280 and two doctors are only waiting for me. 00:01:55.280 --> 00:01:58.381 Because then at the end of the day, the whole world knew, but me. 00:01:58.840 --> 00:02:01.600 I was always inside this glass bell - 00:02:01.600 --> 00:02:04.360 because he had always put me inside the bell, 00:02:04.360 --> 00:02:06.690 because he was the head of the family. 00:02:06.690 --> 00:02:09.000 So that's okay, and you accept. 00:02:09.000 --> 00:02:11.970 Because then in life one accepts roles as well. 00:02:13.640 --> 00:02:17.040 And from there they tell you, he's gone. 00:02:17.600 --> 00:02:19.040 And I got up, 00:02:19.040 --> 00:02:22.810 something came to me I can hardly explain, 00:02:22.810 --> 00:02:26.046 these are all inner emotions. 00:02:26.926 --> 00:02:28.500 There was a fire inside me: 00:02:29.040 --> 00:02:32.560 it was like, Federica had gone, and the next moment Federica was reborn. 00:02:33.280 --> 00:02:35.800 Because it's fair to admit that Federica was reborn. 00:02:36.640 --> 00:02:39.541 So I get up, go home, 00:02:41.051 --> 00:02:45.260 and take my four little angels - 00:02:45.260 --> 00:02:47.876 that we had through many hardships, 00:02:47.876 --> 00:02:52.240 that we managed to get through hardships, 00:02:52.240 --> 00:02:56.440 because, when we were young, were told that we couldn't have children. 00:02:57.120 --> 00:03:00.960 And the very phrase "you can't" does not belong to me at all. 00:03:00.960 --> 00:03:04.240 If you say "I can't", I do everything 00:03:04.240 --> 00:03:08.140 because that is my goal, I have to go there, one way or the other. 00:03:08.140 --> 00:03:11.800 So we raised our hands and we asked for help, 00:03:11.800 --> 00:03:14.120 and thanks to assisted fertilization 00:03:14.120 --> 00:03:18.600 Bobo and I had our four little angels. 00:03:18.600 --> 00:03:22.920 So you take them, you put them next to you, 00:03:22.920 --> 00:03:29.640 and I felt like transmitting "upliftingly" that negative thing that occurred us 00:03:30.245 --> 00:03:31.640 "Uplifting" may be too much, 00:03:31.640 --> 00:03:36.360 but in a different way than what had actually happened. 00:03:36.363 --> 00:03:42.520 Like, you have a pain, but you process it, you put it in the right part, maybe. 00:03:42.520 --> 00:03:44.893 Where it should be, because one must look forward, 00:03:44.893 --> 00:03:46.320 he was gone. 00:03:46.320 --> 00:03:48.480 One can't do anything about the past. 00:03:49.200 --> 00:03:52.530 No way, all you have to do is deal with it. 00:03:52.530 --> 00:03:56.480 And I got everyone, and I told them, it was so cool! 00:03:57.400 --> 00:04:02.040 Dad went to play for the best team ever, 00:04:02.040 --> 00:04:04.060 it's the team from heaven. 00:04:05.160 --> 00:04:08.280 And so, that's where my game starts. 00:04:09.440 --> 00:04:13.280 I started playing when I was nine. 00:04:13.920 --> 00:04:16.880 And I played volleyball, then. 00:04:16.880 --> 00:04:20.959 A sport where you are in such a small space, 00:04:20.959 --> 00:04:23.480 but you are many, because you are six. 00:04:23.480 --> 00:04:26.640 So start along this path 00:04:26.640 --> 00:04:30.920 that you have to trust the people next to you. 00:04:30.920 --> 00:04:34.360 You have to go and give your best, 00:04:34.360 --> 00:04:38.680 because at the end of the game you can either win or lose, 00:04:38.680 --> 00:04:40.520 but you must leave the field 00:04:41.040 --> 00:04:44.240 [feeling that] with the sweaty jersey you can finally make it. 00:04:44.240 --> 00:04:46.080 And from there that book, 00:04:46.680 --> 00:04:48.880 those book sentences I started with: 00:04:48.880 --> 00:04:52.920 "I'll never get killed again" chapter was over, and I opened another one. 00:04:53.680 --> 00:04:57.480 And it was my book, with my children, 00:04:57.480 --> 00:05:01.040 and with all the people I would then meet 00:05:01.040 --> 00:05:03.080 and surely I would take my hand. 00:05:03.640 --> 00:05:08.480 Because then, even the help is not - 00:05:08.480 --> 00:05:13.320 I don't mind asking for help, I don't see it as a sign of weakness, 00:05:13.320 --> 00:05:16.440 but perhaps it was my greatest strength. 00:05:16.960 --> 00:05:18.280 Raising my hand and say, 00:05:18.280 --> 00:05:21.420 I can't do this right now alone. 00:05:21.420 --> 00:05:23.720 And then something happens 00:05:23.720 --> 00:05:27.800 at the right time inside right person, 00:05:27.800 --> 00:05:31.820 because on March 24th Bobo leaves, 00:05:31.820 --> 00:05:36.680 and I go to make a checkup at the gynecologist - 00:05:38.515 --> 00:05:42.280 remember, we could not have children. 00:05:43.200 --> 00:05:48.000 And in that ecography, the doctor says there's a life in me. 00:05:49.560 --> 00:05:54.880 You look at the sky and say, "Maybe there's something I should do? 00:05:54.880 --> 00:05:56.840 Yeah, maybe I have to do something. 00:05:56.840 --> 00:05:58.280 Because there was a link - 00:05:58.280 --> 00:06:00.600 too many rings had chained themselves. 00:06:01.560 --> 00:06:05.650 Bobo was a famous player; you can't have kids, you have four. 00:06:05.650 --> 00:06:07.590 He's gone while playing, 00:06:08.150 --> 00:06:10.830 and I don't feel like the only one 00:06:10.830 --> 00:06:14.030 who lost her husband and got floored by pain. 00:06:14.030 --> 00:06:18.160 But my voice, perhaps, is a choir of voices. 00:06:18.160 --> 00:06:23.120 But I'm here and I can talk because those rings brought me here. 00:06:23.640 --> 00:06:27.280 And the ring was Andrea, my fifth son. 00:06:27.280 --> 00:06:31.000 So there was an afterward, 00:06:31.000 --> 00:06:35.560 and a realization that I had to do something. 00:06:36.160 --> 00:06:37.720 And you start organizing. 00:06:37.720 --> 00:06:41.270 You start organizing events, you start organizing parties, 00:06:41.270 --> 00:06:47.230 you start organizing everything that is life and is not death. 00:06:47.230 --> 00:06:52.160 Because, in the end, life and death intertwine 00:06:52.160 --> 00:06:54.180 and life and death unite us. 00:06:54.180 --> 00:06:56.970 There's no one famous or famous - 00:06:56.970 --> 00:07:00.512 yes, you can discover anything, 00:07:02.673 --> 00:07:04.720 you can do anything, 00:07:04.720 --> 00:07:06.836 but in the end we're all in the same boat. 00:07:07.400 --> 00:07:12.000 In the end, we're all here looking at each other, having a heart 00:07:12.000 --> 00:07:14.600 and having so many emotions. 00:07:15.400 --> 00:07:18.600 I began to follow these emotions, 00:07:18.600 --> 00:07:21.610 I began to listen to my heart. 00:07:21.610 --> 00:07:28.000 And during all these events, all this great going around, 00:07:29.532 --> 00:07:33.150 you start to share your story 00:07:33.150 --> 00:07:35.920 with the people in front of you. 00:07:35.920 --> 00:07:40.200 And many times, when I was driving - I went to schools, 00:07:40.200 --> 00:07:45.600 I shared my experience with a lot with people, 00:07:45.600 --> 00:07:48.000 you realize you're in the car and you say: 00:07:48.880 --> 00:07:52.040 yes, it happened to me, it happened to him too early - 00:07:52.040 --> 00:07:56.183 because at 37 it was a bit too early. 00:07:56.183 --> 00:08:01.833 With five kids at home, really anti-nature. 00:08:01.833 --> 00:08:03.760 But instead, then you realize 00:08:03.760 --> 00:08:10.680 that there are so many dreadful stories around you. 00:08:10.680 --> 00:08:14.040 How did they come? I don't know, really. 00:08:14.680 --> 00:08:16.720 But one thing depends on us. 00:08:17.320 --> 00:08:21.920 It's how we do the path life to death. 00:08:23.120 --> 00:08:25.600 Because we all have our own path to take. 00:08:26.600 --> 00:08:28.560 And so many times things happen 00:08:28.560 --> 00:08:31.277 that we raise our hands to and we can't help ourselves. 00:08:31.583 --> 00:08:35.777 But how we lead out lives, 00:08:35.777 --> 00:08:38.299 that does depend on us. 00:08:38.299 --> 00:08:41.708 So you hold an event, 00:08:41.708 --> 00:08:45.460 and you meet Red Ronnie, 00:08:45.460 --> 00:08:48.061 that you maybe saw on television, 00:08:48.061 --> 00:08:50.090 with all his music broadcasts - 00:08:50.090 --> 00:08:53.017 I'm an absolute fan, of music, 00:08:53.017 --> 00:08:56.040 and a fan of Italian music. 00:08:56.040 --> 00:08:59.960 Because when I hear the songs I have to understand what they say, 00:08:59.960 --> 00:09:04.000 I can't bear it otherwise. 00:09:04.000 --> 00:09:07.680 So you immerse yourself in the notes, you immerse yourself in the words. 00:09:07.680 --> 00:09:14.560 There were some singer-songwriters who had really gotten into me, 00:09:14.560 --> 00:09:17.760 and it wasn't air but it was just oxygen. 00:09:18.400 --> 00:09:22.400 Including a singer-songwriter named Pia Tuccitto. 00:09:22.400 --> 00:09:25.460 So, when Red Ronnie invites me to her show 00:09:25.460 --> 00:09:30.560 and tells me that Pia is there, then I said: great, I'm going. 00:09:30.560 --> 00:09:37.040 And this meeting was made of looks, 00:09:37.040 --> 00:09:38.880 it was made of listening 00:09:38.880 --> 00:09:41.920 because she presented a single of her own, 00:09:41.920 --> 00:09:45.590 I was talking about my story, and about my event, 00:09:45.590 --> 00:09:47.980 and from there - here's the ring 00:09:47.980 --> 00:09:54.424 perhaps these two women were meant - 00:09:54.424 --> 00:09:58.110 with a totally different life, 00:09:58.760 --> 00:10:02.170 because then Federica sportswoman 00:10:03.570 --> 00:10:07.170 who decided to stop very soon to play, 00:10:07.170 --> 00:10:10.360 at 26 years maybe I was at the height of my career, 00:10:10.360 --> 00:10:14.820 and I decided to throw myself into this creation of the family, 00:10:14.820 --> 00:10:16.800 and therefore this maternal instinct, 00:10:16.800 --> 00:10:20.520 to a person who always and anyway followed her passion: 00:10:20.520 --> 00:10:22.560 the music, the notes. 00:10:23.280 --> 00:10:27.402 Everything that came from there, 00:10:27.402 --> 00:10:31.527 and made her write poems and songs 00:10:31.527 --> 00:10:35.260 that got their way into people. 00:10:36.250 --> 00:10:38.480 And when this meeting took place, 00:10:38.480 --> 00:10:43.520 something clicked perfectly, 00:10:44.040 --> 00:10:48.240 because all she wrote in her songs 00:10:48.840 --> 00:10:50.200 at the end was her life. 00:10:50.920 --> 00:10:56.531 It was all the emotion she felt and keeps feeling. 00:10:56.531 --> 00:11:00.120 And all I wrote about in my life, was my life. 00:11:00.840 --> 00:11:04.190 But not past life, also present and future life. 00:11:04.190 --> 00:11:07.880 So, on a road trip, we looked at each other 00:11:07.880 --> 00:11:10.730 and it came to me spontaneously - 00:11:10.730 --> 00:11:13.960 it turned on that light I said before? 00:11:13.960 --> 00:11:17.680 Since that evening of March 24th lights have been on 00:11:17.680 --> 00:11:19.800 and I really feel the strength 00:11:19.800 --> 00:11:22.560 of a person who takes me and says to me: you have to go. 00:11:22.560 --> 00:11:26.960 And it puts me right in front of the path I've got to take. 00:11:26.960 --> 00:11:30.360 I just have to be willing to walk. 00:11:30.360 --> 00:11:35.070 And I looked at her and I said: Pia, can we do something together? 00:11:35.680 --> 00:11:37.970 And from there she wrote those songs that I heard 00:11:37.970 --> 00:11:43.100 but that I didn't feel like I had a singer next to me 00:11:43.100 --> 00:11:47.730 writing those songs that I heard on the radio. 00:11:48.520 --> 00:11:52.440 And as I listened to them carefully, more and more carefully, 00:11:52.440 --> 00:11:53.969 I looked at her and said: 00:11:53.969 --> 00:11:58.440 Pia, we're identical because your life intertwines with mine. 00:11:59.200 --> 00:12:01.800 And from there we have - 00:12:01.800 --> 00:12:06.640 in half a day we found ourselves at her house, 00:12:07.200 --> 00:12:11.920 and we knocked down ten songs. 00:12:11.920 --> 00:12:16.480 And when I heard the notes of her songs passing by, 00:12:16.480 --> 00:12:20.880 I would take them like a demonic - I took my book 00:12:20.880 --> 00:12:24.360 and started to write the pieces. 00:12:24.360 --> 00:12:25.680 That's "Io e Lei" genesis. 00:12:26.600 --> 00:12:32.400 Io e Lei [Me and Here] are two people. It's about the strength of being together. 00:12:33.520 --> 00:12:36.280 But "Io e Lei" may also be a lonely person. 00:12:36.840 --> 00:12:39.720 I mean, when one wakes up in the evening or in the morning 00:12:40.680 --> 00:12:44.400 put herself in front of the mirror and she look at herself - 00:12:45.560 --> 00:12:49.160 because then, in the end, being together is fundamental 00:12:49.160 --> 00:12:56.123 because sharing, meeting people in my opinion is the best of life:. 00:12:57.520 --> 00:12:58.720 But in the end, 00:12:59.280 --> 00:13:04.360 no one give the right answers but us. 00:13:05.400 --> 00:13:08.120 Only by really looking us in the eye - 00:13:08.120 --> 00:13:10.520 or stopping us for a second. 00:13:11.160 --> 00:13:15.660 Now we go, now you have to run, you have to work, you have to do, 00:13:15.660 --> 00:13:16.950 you never stop. 00:13:17.360 --> 00:13:19.450 You're all the time on the phone, or online 00:13:19.450 --> 00:13:23.646 or - I have to work, I have to go shopping, buy this or that. 00:13:23.646 --> 00:13:26.360 But one second, if you stop, 00:13:26.360 --> 00:13:31.240 you can appreciate what's important. 00:13:32.040 --> 00:13:36.000 Because there's nothing taken for granted in life. 00:13:37.160 --> 00:13:40.880 "It never happens to me"; "Look at her, now she's here... " 00:13:40.880 --> 00:13:41.978 And instead you realize 00:13:41.978 --> 00:13:44.600 that overnight, in a moment, 00:13:45.320 --> 00:13:48.040 you are here and you're the main character. 00:13:48.760 --> 00:13:52.513 And you just have to go on, and bravely try 00:13:52.513 --> 00:13:58.160 to make this route as nicely as possible. 00:13:58.160 --> 00:13:59.880 And the show is this: 00:13:59.880 --> 00:14:04.240 the show is a set of emotions where you talk about - what? 00:14:04.240 --> 00:14:09.920 You talk about death, about pain, but you mainly talk about rebirth, 00:14:09.920 --> 00:14:15.800 awakening, love, friendship, 00:14:15.800 --> 00:14:22.560 something that you have - because we all have it, in us - 00:14:22.560 --> 00:14:24.200 and with Pia we took our hand 00:14:24.200 --> 00:14:28.680 and we are taking it around Italy to share it with people. 00:14:28.680 --> 00:14:30.680 We share social projects, 00:14:30.680 --> 00:14:34.230 because then we also go and take hands 00:14:34.230 --> 00:14:37.800 with associations that carry messages: 00:14:37.800 --> 00:14:39.800 ours is that, "Let's never give up". 00:14:40.320 --> 00:14:43.480 Anything that happens to you, anything, 00:14:43.480 --> 00:14:46.880 a tragedy or an obstacle, anything. 00:14:46.880 --> 00:14:48.810 Look ahead and go straight on, 00:14:48.810 --> 00:14:53.320 because someone will always be there who supports you to be winning. 00:14:54.040 --> 00:14:57.160 I feel like a very lucky and very successful woman. 00:14:58.080 --> 00:15:00.310 No children for me, and I have five. 00:15:01.160 --> 00:15:05.000 Same thing for Pia: she worked 15 years with Vasco Rossi. 00:15:05.000 --> 00:15:08.480 After 15 years, the music icon said hello 00:15:08.480 --> 00:15:10.240 because she did accept no compromise. 00:15:10.920 --> 00:15:15.320 And she is making it, and she is following her heart, her passion 00:15:15.320 --> 00:15:16.720 which is writing songs, 00:15:16.720 --> 00:15:19.680 writing music and sharing them with people 00:15:20.280 --> 00:15:24.760 passing even difficult times. 00:15:25.680 --> 00:15:27.880 We are carrying messages 00:15:27.880 --> 00:15:33.240 that are the ones that get to your heart and really bring you to light - 00:15:33.240 --> 00:15:34.920 we light sparks. 00:15:35.480 --> 00:15:36.920 Then people go home, 00:15:36.920 --> 00:15:40.360 and it's up to us to feed the spark. 00:15:40.360 --> 00:15:41.499 We give messages 00:15:41.499 --> 00:15:47.743 that can also be those of medical attention, right? 00:15:48.150 --> 00:15:52.960 Bobo went to play [and] he was fine. He never came home. 00:15:54.160 --> 00:15:56.560 Medical examination? Well, he did many. 00:15:57.720 --> 00:16:01.640 I found out, however, he felt bad in the field. 00:16:01.640 --> 00:16:06.440 Being brave in organ donation - 00:16:06.440 --> 00:16:10.550 Pia, unfortunately, lost her a sister suffering from Down's syndrome, 00:16:11.770 --> 00:16:13.270 a while ago. 00:16:13.270 --> 00:16:16.400 And Mom, the family decided to donate the liver. 00:16:17.160 --> 00:16:18.800 That no one could imagine 00:16:18.800 --> 00:16:23.000 that a little girl with Down's syndrome could do such a thing. 00:16:23.000 --> 00:16:26.160 Everything can be done: it's just having the courage. 00:16:26.960 --> 00:16:30.280 The courage to look at each other, the courage to go ahead 00:16:30.920 --> 00:16:35.160 and the courage to say: I really can do it. 00:16:36.200 --> 00:16:42.600 And if you manage to get in and make the most out of what you have - 00:16:44.200 --> 00:16:47.130 I don't want to be the one who says: 00:16:47.130 --> 00:16:53.520 I look at the sun, what a wonder. the lawn, the moon. 00:16:53.520 --> 00:16:58.360 And all this is beautiful, but it really is beautiful 00:16:59.120 --> 00:17:04.880 because so many situations and so many times we go - 00:17:04.880 --> 00:17:07.000 this trip is like going by train. 00:17:08.760 --> 00:17:12.240 Let's slow down, start looking at the landscape. 00:17:12.800 --> 00:17:19.000 Let's start to share also, with the people next to us, 00:17:19.000 --> 00:17:22.280 a hug, a kiss, a I love you 00:17:23.280 --> 00:17:26.510 It can make the day 00:17:26.510 --> 00:17:29.680 to you and mainly to the person next to you. 00:17:30.600 --> 00:17:34.349 So it's something that, 00:17:34.349 --> 00:17:38.080 in here, silence speaks. 00:17:39.040 --> 00:17:41.080 And listen to each other. 00:17:41.080 --> 00:17:43.520 Thank you so much, good life to everyone. 00:17:43.520 --> 00:17:46.824 (Applause)