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Nobody kills me anymore,
I will live in a hundred years.

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I don't know why I say so
and why I think so,

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perhaps to declare war on fate
after it went to war with me.

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Or maybe I just talk to myself,
my children and Bobo:

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now that you're gone,
I'll be there forever.

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I read these sentences in a book,
and I suddenly realize

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that "Nobody kills me anymore"
is what I'm saying.

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It's my book, and it's my life.

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What's going on?

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That everything changed in a second.

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March 24, 2012:

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you go out, finally a night out
one can never do,

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you go to dance with your friends,

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you greet at lunch your husband
who goes to play,

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after a career made of two Olympics
and many other championships.

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I'll see you tonight!

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You leave four children at home:
Alessandro, seven; Arianna, three;

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and two twins aged one,
Angelica and Aurora.

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And while you're on this quiet,
peaceful evening,

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you get a call.

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And somebody told me, Bobo felt bad.

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So you take the car,

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you make this absurd journey to Macerata,

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because he was playing there.

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And you hear, it was like a movie.

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You see the team outside,
the long ER aisle,

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and two doctors are only waiting for me.

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Because then at the end of the day,
the whole world knew, but me.

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I was always inside this glass bell -

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because he had always put me
inside the bell,

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because he was the head of the family.

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So that's okay, and you accept.

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Because then in life
one accepts roles as well.

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And from there they tell you, he's gone.

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And I got up,

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something came to me I can hardly explain,

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these are all inner emotions.

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There was a fire inside me:

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it was like, Federica had gone,
and the next moment Federica was reborn.

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Because it's fair to admit
that Federica was reborn.

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So I get up, go home,

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and take my four little angels -

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that we had through many hardships,

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that we managed to get through hardships,

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because, when we were young,
were told that we couldn't have children.

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And the very phrase "you can't"
does not belong to me at all.

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If you say "I can't", I do everything

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because that is my goal,
I have to go there, one way or the other.

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So we raised our hands
and we asked for help,

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and thanks to assisted fertilization

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Bobo and I had our four little angels.

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So you take them,
you put them next to you,

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and I felt like transmitting "upliftingly"
that negative thing that occurred us

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"Uplifting" may be too much,

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but in a different way
than what had actually happened.

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Like, you have a pain, but you process it,
you put it in the right part, maybe.

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Where it should be,
because one must look forward,

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he was gone.

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One can't do anything about the past.

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No way, all you have to do is deal with it.

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And I got everyone,
and I told them, it was so cool!

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Dad went to play for the best team ever,

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it's the team from heaven.

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And so, that's where my game starts.

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I started playing when I was nine.

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And I played volleyball, then.

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A sport where you are
in such a small space,

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but you are many, because you are six.

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So start along this path

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that you have to trust
the people next to you.

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You have to go and give your best,

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because at the end of the game
you can either win or lose,

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but you must leave the field

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[feeling that] with the sweaty jersey
you can finally make it.

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And from there that book,

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those book sentences I started with:

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"I'll never get killed again" chapter
was over, and I opened another one.

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And it was my book, with my children,

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and with all the people I would then meet

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and surely I would take my hand.

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Because then, even the help is not -

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I don't mind asking for help,
I don't see it as a sign of weakness,

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but perhaps it was my greatest strength.

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Raising my hand and say,

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I can't do this right now alone.

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And then something happens

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at the right time inside right person,

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because on March 24th Bobo leaves,

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and I go to make a checkup
at the gynecologist -

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remember, we could not have children.

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And in that ecography,
the doctor says there's a life in me.

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You look at the sky and say,
"Maybe there's something I should do?

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Yeah, maybe I have to do something.

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Because there was a link -

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too many rings had chained themselves.

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Bobo was a famous player;
you can't have kids, you have four.

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He's gone while playing,

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and I don't feel like the only one

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who lost her husband
and got floored by pain.

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But my voice, perhaps,
is a choir of voices.

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But I'm here and I can talk
because those rings brought me here.

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And the ring was Andrea, my fifth son.

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So there was an afterward,

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and a realization
that I had to do something.

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And you start organizing.

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You start organizing events,
you start organizing parties,

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you start organizing everything
that is life and is not death.

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Because, in the end,
life and death intertwine

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and life and death unite us.

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There's no one famous or famous -

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yes, you can discover anything,

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you can do anything,

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but in the end we're all in the same boat.

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In the end, we're all here
looking at each other, having a heart

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and having so many emotions.

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I began to follow these emotions,

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I began to listen to my heart.

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And during all these events,
all this great going around,

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you start to share your story

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with the people in front of you.

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And many times, when I was driving -
I went to schools,

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I shared my experience
with a lot with people,

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you realize you're in the car and you say:

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yes, it happened to me,
it happened to him too early -

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because at 37 it was a bit too early.

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With five kids at home,
really anti-nature.

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But instead, then you realize

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that there are so many
dreadful stories around you.

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How did they come? I don't know, really.

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But one thing depends on us.

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It's how we do the path life to death.

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Because we all have our own path to take.

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And so many times things happen

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that we raise our hands to
and we can't help ourselves.

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But how we lead out lives,

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that does depend on us.

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So you hold an event,

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and you meet Red Ronnie,

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that you maybe saw on television,

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with all his music broadcasts -

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I'm an absolute fan, of music,

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and a fan of Italian music.

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Because when I hear the songs
I have to understand what they say,

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I can't bear it otherwise.

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So you immerse yourself in the notes,
you immerse yourself in the words.

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There were some singer-songwriters
who had really gotten into me,

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and it wasn't air but it was just oxygen.

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Including a singer-songwriter
named Pia Tuccitto.

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So, when Red Ronnie invites me to her show

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and tells me that Pia is there,
then I said: great, I'm going.

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And this meeting was made of looks,

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it was made of listening

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because she presented a single of her own,

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I was talking about my story,
and about my event,

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and from there - here's the ring

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perhaps these two women were meant -

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with a totally different life,

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because then Federica sportswoman

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who decided to stop very soon to play,

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at 26 years maybe I was
at the height of my career,

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and I decided to throw myself
into this creation of the family,

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and therefore this maternal instinct,

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to a person who always and anyway
followed her passion:

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the music, the notes.

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Everything that came from there,

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and made her write poems and songs

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that got their way into people.

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And when this meeting took place,

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something clicked perfectly,

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because all she wrote in her songs

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at the end was her life.

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It was all the emotion she felt
and keeps feeling.

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And all I wrote about
in my life, was my life.

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But not past life,
also present and future life.

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So, on a road trip,
we looked at each other

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and it came to me spontaneously -

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it turned on that light I said before?

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Since that evening of March 24th
lights have been on

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and I really feel the strength

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of a person who takes me
and says to me: you have to go.

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And it puts me right in front
of the path I've got to take.

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I just have to be willing to walk.

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And I looked at her and I said:
Pia, can we do something together?

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And from there she wrote
those songs that I heard

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but that I didn't feel
like I had a singer next to me

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writing those songs
that I heard on the radio.

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And as I listened to them carefully,
more and more carefully,

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I looked at her and said:

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Pia, we're identical because your life
intertwines with mine.

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And from there we have -

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in half a day we found
ourselves at her house,

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and we knocked down ten songs.

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And when I heard the notes
of her songs passing by,

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I would take them
like a demonic - I took my book

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and started to write the pieces.

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That's "Io e Lei" genesis.

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Io e Lei [Me and Here] are two people.
It's about the strength of being together.

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But "Io e Lei" may also be
a lonely person.

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I mean, when one wakes up
in the evening or in the morning

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put herself in front of the mirror
and she look at herself -

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because then, in the end,
being together is fundamental

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because sharing, meeting people
in my opinion is the best of life:.

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But in the end,

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no one give the right answers but us.

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Only by really looking us in the eye -

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or stopping us for a second.

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Now we go, now you have to run,
you have to work, you have to do,

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you never stop.

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You're all the time
on the phone, or online

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or - I have to work, I have
to go shopping, buy this or that.

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But one second, if you stop,

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you can appreciate what's important.

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Because there's nothing
taken for granted in life.

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"It never happens to me";
"Look at her, now she's here... "

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And instead you realize

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that overnight, in a moment,

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you are here and you're
the main character.

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And you just have
to go on, and bravely try

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to make this route as nicely as possible.

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And the show is this:

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the show is a set of emotions
where you talk about - what?

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You talk about death, about pain,
but you mainly talk about rebirth,

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awakening, love, friendship,

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something that you have -
because we all have it, in us -

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and with Pia we took our hand

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and we are taking it around Italy
to share it with people.

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We share social projects,

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because then we also go and take hands

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with associations that carry messages:

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ours is that, "Let's never give up".

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Anything that happens to you, anything,

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a tragedy or an obstacle, anything.

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Look ahead and go straight on,

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because someone will always be there
who supports you to be winning.

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I feel like a very lucky
and very successful woman.

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No children for me, and I have five.

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Same thing for Pia: she worked
15 years with Vasco Rossi.

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After 15 years, the music icon said hello

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because she did accept no compromise.

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And she is making it, and she is following
her heart, her passion

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which is writing songs,

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writing music and sharing them with people

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passing even difficult times.

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We are carrying messages

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that are the ones that get to your heart
and really bring you to light -

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we light sparks.

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Then people go home,

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and it's up to us to feed the spark.

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We give messages

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that can also be those
of medical attention, right?

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Bobo went to play [and] he was fine.
He never came home.

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Medical examination? Well, he did many.

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I found out, however,
he felt bad in the field.

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Being brave in organ donation -

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Pia, unfortunately, lost her a sister
suffering from Down's syndrome,

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a while ago.

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And Mom, the family
decided to donate the liver.

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That no one could imagine

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that a little girl with Down's syndrome
could do such a thing.

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Everything can be done:
it's just having the courage.

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The courage to look at each other,
the courage to go ahead

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and the courage to say:
I really can do it.

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And if you manage to get in
and make the most out of what you have -

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I don't want to be the one who says:

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I look at the sun, what a wonder.
the lawn, the moon.

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And all this is beautiful,
but it really is beautiful

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because so many situations
and so many times we go -

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this trip is like going by train.

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Let's slow down,
start looking at the landscape.

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Let's start to share also,
with the people next to us,

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a hug, a kiss, a I love you

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It can make the day

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to you and mainly
to the person next to you.

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So it's something that,

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in here, silence speaks.

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And listen to each other.

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Thank you so much, good life to everyone.

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(Applause)