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Dialogue: 0,0:00:21.76,0:00:24.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's my first day of third grade,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.65,0:00:27.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'm so excited because\Nwe'd just moved to a new town,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.58,0:00:29.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so this is an adventure:
Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.79,0:00:32.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a new school, new friends and ...
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.38,0:00:36.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my brand-new pair of glasses.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.47,0:00:37.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.33,0:00:40.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm on the playground,\Nand a kid walks up to me.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.59,0:00:44.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He's about my size,\Nwith this thick, bushy, blonde hair,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.46,0:00:47.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he says, "Hey, want to fight?"
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.04,0:00:48.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.09,0:00:50.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"No!"
Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.26,0:00:51.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.62,0:00:52.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Well, I do!"
Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.79,0:00:53.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.79,0:00:58.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Next thing I know, I am in a headlock\Nand the punches are coming and coming,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.63,0:01:01.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I can feel my face\Njust being squeezed,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.27,0:01:05.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it feels like the hair\Nis being ripped out of my scalp!
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.90,0:01:09.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, I'm eight years old,\Nand getting beat up is new for me.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:10.29,0:01:13.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Bam! Another hit, and another.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:14.02,0:01:16.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Finally, I managed to twist loose.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.14,0:01:18.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"My glasses!"
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.54,0:01:22.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're broken.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.18,0:01:25.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he broke them.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.03,0:01:29.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And all I can think to myself is ...
Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.50,0:01:32.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,run, get away as fast as I can,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.54,0:01:34.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's what I did.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.49,0:01:36.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I get home,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.95,0:01:38.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my mom sits me in her lap,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:39.23,0:01:41.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,tears pour down my face,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.50,0:01:44.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she says, "Bub,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.85,0:01:49.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you did the right thing to not fight back.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.50,0:01:51.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You just turn the other cheek,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.92,0:01:54.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and kids like that will leave you alone."
Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.89,0:01:57.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay, Mom's always right, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.08,0:02:01.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But in fourth grade, it was Colin,\Nwith his red hair and freckles,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.90,0:02:03.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he didn't leave me alone.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.07,0:02:07.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The next year, it was Greg,\Nwith his tough-guy strut.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.49,0:02:11.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In junior high, it was Santos,\Nour all-star running back,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.94,0:02:14.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then Robert, and then Dean ...
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.28,0:02:16.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In high school,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.28,0:02:18.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it was this little punk, Raul,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.92,0:02:22.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who would punch me every day\Nin the locker room,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.45,0:02:24.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I just took it.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.68,0:02:27.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My friend Johnny said, "Stand up to him!"
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.95,0:02:31.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And Johnny was right,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.07,0:02:35.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I listened to Mom.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:37.74,0:02:40.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it didn't end with classmates.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.70,0:02:42.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My senior year,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.36,0:02:45.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my first adult bully showed up.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.19,0:02:48.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We'd just moved to another new town,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.51,0:02:50.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so I'm the new kid again.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.67,0:02:54.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And our basketball team\Nwas ranked number one in state,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.68,0:02:58.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and some were saying\Nthat I was the best player on the team.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.19,0:02:59.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's me, number 14.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.98,0:03:03.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But to Coach Reeves,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.78,0:03:08.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was an intruder on his team.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.57,0:03:12.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so, when I missed one layup
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.99,0:03:15.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in a first game,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.66,0:03:18.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he benched me permanently.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.09,0:03:21.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He told me a few days later
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.45,0:03:25.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it was up to me if I wanted to sit\Non the bench for the rest of the season,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.27,0:03:27.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or I can quit.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.23,0:03:30.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I quit.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.77,0:03:35.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I graduated from college,\Ngot my first job and got bullied.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.87,0:03:37.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was bullied in my marriage.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.22,0:03:43.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Seventeen years of marriage,\Nand not a single fight with my wife.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.84,0:03:45.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:45.86,0:03:47.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because I just turned the other cheek.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.22,0:03:50.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Until one day, all the problems exploded,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:50.99,0:03:52.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and just like third grade,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.48,0:03:54.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I ran away.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:56.45,0:03:57.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Only now ...
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.78,0:04:02.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with three little girls of my own,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.40,0:04:03.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what's broken ...
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.47,0:04:07.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is a lot more than a pair of glasses.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.04,0:04:13.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We think of bullying as a childhood issue.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.65,0:04:15.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes, and it is.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.91,0:04:21.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And yet, the brutal reality is that\None of the greatest oppressors of our time
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.01,0:04:25.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is adult bullying.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.12,0:04:27.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, what is adult bullying?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:27.45,0:04:28.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.11,0:04:30.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's this.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:31.24,0:04:33.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is not a textbook\Ndefinition of bullying,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.71,0:04:37.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and yet, I think the cartoon version\Nsometimes is clearer.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.52,0:04:39.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A little sand in the face,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.25,0:04:40.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and ...
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.32,0:04:42.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a little threat,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.45,0:04:46.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just to remind you that you're nobody.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.09,0:04:51.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that plays out countless times\Nevery day all over the world,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.29,0:04:53.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the workplace, when the boss says,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:53.71,0:04:56.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"You want to keep your job?\NYou keep your mouth shut!"
Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.98,0:05:01.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or when a co-worker rudely walks in\Nlate to your presentation
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.40,0:05:03.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just to throw you off your game.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.89,0:05:08.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In a recent survey\Nof 2,000 adults across the US,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:08.76,0:05:12.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,31% said that they\Nhad been bullied as adults.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.62,0:05:17.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They surveyed 9,000 federal employees,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.03,0:05:23.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and 57% said that they had been bullied\Nin the last two years.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.39,0:05:28.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And yes, the government\Nhas anti-bullying policy.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.17,0:05:33.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And obviously, it's not confined\Njust to the workplace.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.75,0:05:38.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Adult bullying is just as prevalent\Nat home, in marriages, in our communities,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.86,0:05:41.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on the street if you've ever driven\Nin rush-hour traffic,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.10,0:05:44.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in politics ...
Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.54,0:05:46.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's everywhere.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.02,0:05:49.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it isn't the external repercussions
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.54,0:05:55.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that are as significant as the internal\Nimpact on the individual, the target,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:56.61,0:05:58.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the victim.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:00.30,0:06:02.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The emotional and psychological damage
Dialogue: 0,0:06:02.31,0:06:05.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to self-worth, to confidence\Nand to dignitiy
Dialogue: 0,0:06:05.65,0:06:07.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is enormous.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:09.02,0:06:11.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know because I was bullied\Nfor most of my life.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:13.60,0:06:14.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not anymore.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:15.90,0:06:17.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And through that journey,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:17.71,0:06:23.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I learned three hard-hitting truths\Nabout the oppression of adult bullying.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:24.54,0:06:29.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The first truth is\Njust how personal it is.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:30.64,0:06:33.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, adult bullying is not a big deal,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:33.67,0:06:36.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you've never been bullied.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:36.32,0:06:39.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's kind of like the difference\Nbetween major and minor surgery:
Dialogue: 0,0:06:39.70,0:06:42.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if I have it, it's major;
Dialogue: 0,0:06:43.59,0:06:45.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have it, it's minor.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:46.02,0:06:48.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Right? And that's the way\Nmany people feel about bullying.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.76,0:06:51.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They've never been bullied,\Nthey can't relate,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:51.08,0:06:53.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so it must not be that big of a deal.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:54.78,0:06:58.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And anti-bullying policy\Nis typically created
Dialogue: 0,0:06:58.40,0:07:03.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by those in positions of power\Nwho've never been bullied.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:04.51,0:07:07.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And yes, even when they tell you,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:07.98,0:07:09.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Oh ...
Dialogue: 0,0:07:09.28,0:07:11.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't let it bother you,"
Dialogue: 0,0:07:12.51,0:07:15.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is personal.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:18.11,0:07:22.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Psychotherapist Jenise Harmon\Nsuggests that bullying is not about you.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:24.10,0:07:26.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"You're not the one with the problems,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:26.47,0:07:29.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so you shouldn't ever\Ntake bullying personally."
Dialogue: 0,0:07:30.34,0:07:32.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Excuse me, counselor,\Nwith all due respect,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:32.34,0:07:35.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you're the one\Ngetting punched every day,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:35.95,0:07:37.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's personal.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:39.88,0:07:43.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When a co-worker accuses you\Nof saying something you didn't say,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:43.34,0:07:46.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,his problem just became your problem.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:47.67,0:07:51.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When a bullying husband\Ntells his wife every day
Dialogue: 0,0:07:51.81,0:07:53.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how worthless she is,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:55.41,0:07:56.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's personal.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.76,0:08:02.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The second hard-hitting truth\Nabout adult bullying
Dialogue: 0,0:08:02.05,0:08:04.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is how helpless you feel.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:04.14,0:08:05.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The real issue isn't the bullies;
Dialogue: 0,0:08:05.90,0:08:09.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's the fear, it's the feeling\Nof helplessness to do anything about it.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.46,0:08:15.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's this dark cloud\Nof constant shame and anxiety
Dialogue: 0,0:08:15.98,0:08:18.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that suffocates self-worth,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:18.89,0:08:20.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,kills dreams,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:20.84,0:08:22.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and can lead to depression
Dialogue: 0,0:08:23.37,0:08:24.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and even suicide.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:26.15,0:08:29.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For me, it was this feeling\Nthat I couldn't stand up for myself.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:31.05,0:08:35.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would always do pretty well\Nat everything until conflict showed up,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:35.67,0:08:37.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then, I would back down,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:38.76,0:08:40.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I would run away.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:44.27,0:08:46.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I coach salespeople,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:47.18,0:08:49.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and one of the things\Nthat I have discovered
Dialogue: 0,0:08:49.47,0:08:54.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that fear and personal insecurities\Nprobably pushes more of us around
Dialogue: 0,0:08:54.66,0:08:57.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than any other type of bullying.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:59.32,0:09:03.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And for me, it was that feeling\Nthat I just couldn't stand up for myself.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:03.30,0:09:05.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I spent so much of my life\Navoiding conflict,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:05.67,0:09:07.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,hiding in fear of bullies,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:07.20,0:09:11.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that my greatest bully\Nhad become the fear itself.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:11.60,0:09:17.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And either way, the impact\Nis just as devastating.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:20.03,0:09:21.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The third truth
Dialogue: 0,0:09:22.53,0:09:23.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of adult bullying
Dialogue: 0,0:09:23.54,0:09:27.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is how fixable it is.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:27.95,0:09:32.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, all the talk about anti-bullying\Npolicy and safe spaces hasn't worked,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:32.33,0:09:33.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it won't work.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:34.41,0:09:35.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:36.54,0:09:39.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because bullying pays off for the bully,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:40.11,0:09:43.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and because bullies aren't stupid,\Nthey're not going to play by the rules.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:44.14,0:09:46.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They don't target you\Nwhen you're in the safe space.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:47.31,0:09:48.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A lot of times,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:49.87,0:09:52.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the bullies are the ones in power.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:53.18,0:09:54.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:55.81,0:09:58.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there is no safe space.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:59.37,0:10:01.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The solution is not external;
Dialogue: 0,0:10:01.96,0:10:04.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the solution is internal,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:04.85,0:10:06.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,here.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:06.67,0:10:09.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Bullying will never be stopped\Nat the corporate or policy level.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:09.81,0:10:13.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Bullying can only be stopped\Nat the individual level.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:13.48,0:10:15.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All the research confirms\Nwhat nobody wants to admit:
Dialogue: 0,0:10:15.98,0:10:17.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,bullying can only be stopped here.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:17.65,0:10:21.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just like the problem is personal,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:21.69,0:10:23.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so is the solution.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:23.68,0:10:26.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that's what Skinny\Nfinally figured out.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:26.47,0:10:32.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,After his day of humiliation at the beach,\Nhe decided to do something about it.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:33.10,0:10:35.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, he didn't do it alone.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:35.27,0:10:37.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He found somebody to help him.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:37.29,0:10:38.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:10:38.35,0:10:41.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In this case, Mr. Charles Atlas,\Nwith his leopard speedo.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:41.69,0:10:43.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:10:44.99,0:10:47.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he armed himself.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:48.35,0:10:50.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, what the cartoon doesn't show us
Dialogue: 0,0:10:50.11,0:10:53.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is all the hard work\Nrequired to get there.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:54.31,0:11:01.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And make no mistake about it,\Nbecoming bully-proof is hard work,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:03.08,0:11:09.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and yet it starts\Nwith a decision to take control.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:11.96,0:11:14.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, how did I stop being bullied?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:16.23,0:11:17.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I went skydiving.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:18.89,0:11:23.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, my lifelong, greatest fear\Nwas the fear of heights,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:23.26,0:11:29.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I had to prove to myself\Nthat I could stand up to my fears.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:29.38,0:11:33.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that day became\Nmy personal day of declaration
Dialogue: 0,0:11:33.34,0:11:38.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I will never let fear stop me again.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:40.18,0:11:43.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd spent so much of my life avoiding\Nconflict, hiding in fear of bullies,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:43.72,0:11:49.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that my greatest bully\Nhad become the fear itself.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:52.49,0:11:56.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everyone who's been bullied has to come\Nto that kick-the-chair moment
Dialogue: 0,0:11:56.66,0:11:59.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you decide, "I am not\Ngoing to take it anymore,"
Dialogue: 0,0:11:59.87,0:12:02.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you stop waiting\Nfor someone else to come rescue you,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:02.56,0:12:07.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you take control.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:08.27,0:12:09.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For me,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:09.75,0:12:12.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I started reading, I started attending\Nworkshops and seminars.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:12.86,0:12:15.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I walked on fire at a Tony Robbins' event.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:15.19,0:12:20.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I simply started facing my fears\Nthat I used to run away from,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:20.44,0:12:22.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and step by step,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:22.43,0:12:28.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my personal strength and confidence grew.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:30.16,0:12:33.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you're bullied,\Nthat is the only solution:
Dialogue: 0,0:12:33.10,0:12:36.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is you take action.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:37.71,0:12:39.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Start reading, attend seminars,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:39.25,0:12:41.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,join a self-defense class,\Nlearn martial arts,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:42.03,0:12:43.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,master something
Dialogue: 0,0:12:44.57,0:12:49.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that gives you the courage\Nand the confidence to take control.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:49.04,0:12:50.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is no other solution.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:51.39,0:12:56.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You become your own safe space.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:57.10,0:12:58.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,On this,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:58.71,0:13:00.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Charles Atlas got it right:
Dialogue: 0,0:13:00.10,0:13:03.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you've got to get strong.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:04.20,0:13:08.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you can do this - no matter\Nwhat age you are, we can all do this.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:10.57,0:13:12.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We take absolute control.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:13.01,0:13:14.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, right after that,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:14.96,0:13:18.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Charles Atlas blew it\Nbecause he made it about getting even.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:20.82,0:13:23.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, notice, at least he got the girl.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:23.70,0:13:26.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We all say Charles Atlas\Nwas a marketer, not a humanitarian,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:26.51,0:13:28.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so we'll cut him some slack.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:28.24,0:13:30.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I want to be crystal clear
Dialogue: 0,0:13:30.36,0:13:34.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we are not talking\Nabout becoming a bully,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:35.40,0:13:39.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but rather, just bully-proof.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:40.58,0:13:44.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,See, a master of self-defense\Nhas lethal power,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:44.05,0:13:46.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but hopefully never has to use it,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:46.73,0:13:52.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what Bruce Lee called\N"the art of fighting without fighting."
Dialogue: 0,0:13:53.84,0:13:55.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, this is not the easy path,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:55.68,0:13:58.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it is the only path that will win.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:59.25,0:14:05.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Personal strength and confidence\Nis the true safe space
Dialogue: 0,0:14:05.62,0:14:07.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because that
Dialogue: 0,0:14:07.91,0:14:09.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can take with you everywhere.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:10.71,0:14:12.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And by the way,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:15.69,0:14:17.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so can an eight-year-old
Dialogue: 0,0:14:18.16,0:14:20.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on his first day of third grade.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:21.87,0:14:22.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:23.01,0:14:24.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)