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When people are very old and deteriorated
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and no one enters their world
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and they're just sitting there
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they will withdraw inward more and more
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and their desperate need for connection
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is all now inside
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and if a person is all alone
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even if they're very, very deteriorated
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there's a longing for this kind of closeness
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Mrs. Wilson, Hello.
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You want me to sit?
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Can you see me good?
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Gladis Wilson is a wonderful example of
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a person who was in the phase
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of repeptative motion
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where people use movements
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repeptitive movements
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because they don't have any more speech
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or very little speech
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but they have human needs
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that need to be expressed
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...
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Are you crying?
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You're crying, you have a tear right here.
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In your face.
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You have a little pain?
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You want me to touch you?
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You're very sad?
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Can you see me?
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Is it scary? Are you afraid?
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And if this person sits with their eyes closed
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rocking back and forth and maybe there's a tear
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coming down
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there's a need there
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there's a little tear, that's coming out
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You feel it?
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You feel a little tear?
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If you gently
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use touch, and I touched Gladis Wilson with the fingertips
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right here on the cheek
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is where the mother
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usually touches a child
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if you touch an infant there
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it looks up and every cell
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remembers where it was touched
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by the mother
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and often that person
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knows even if they can't
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say a word at that moment
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they won't talk.
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Or they don't want to talk
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but there's a communication
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And that person is no longer alone
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can you let me in a little bit
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you think, just a little
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you think I could be with you and Jesus for a minute
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pat, pat, pat
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Jesus loves me
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this I know
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for the bible tells me so.
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I used music because
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when speech is gone
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music especially
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with Gladis Wilson it was religious music.
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Because there's an emotion tied to it.
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And safety tied to it.
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So i used her old church songs.
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Singing: Jesus loves me, yes Jesus loves me, Yes Jesus loves me, the bible tells me so
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What I did was when she moved
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I moved with her
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and when I was singing because she didn't sing with me so I
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matched the intensity of my voice to the intensity of her movements
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and pretty soon for a split second
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we became one person
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Jesus loves me, yes Jesus loves me, the bible tells me so.
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So at one point when she got
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very quite
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and very peaceful
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and my voice became
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very quiet as hers and very peaceful and my breathing
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slowed to her breathing
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she pulled me to her
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and I moved with her
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and for her at that moment
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I believe I was a symbol of her mom
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Can you open your eyes now?
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Do you see me?
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Feel safe and warm?
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Yes, yes can you sing with me?
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He's got the whole world
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in his hands,
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he's got the whole world in his hands
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he's got the whole world
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in his hands he's got the whole world
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in his hands.
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He's got the whole world in his hands.
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He's got the mother's and the father's
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in his hands
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he's got the mother's and the father's
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in his hands
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he's got the mother's and the father's
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in his hands
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he's got the whole world in his hands.
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He's got the mother's and the father's
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The breakthrough
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doesn't happen every time
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the person
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will not always
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open their eyes and look at you
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but if you keep trying
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and you keep centering yourself
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and really look at that person
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and really mirror their movements
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maybe not this time
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but the next time you come
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you'll have a communication.
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Do you feel safe? You feel safe? Yeah.
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With Jesus, yeah. And me.