WEBVTT 00:00:10.143 --> 00:00:14.244 So some of the smallest most insignificant work 00:00:14.244 --> 00:00:17.995 is everyday, cos reflect a lot about who we are. 00:00:17.995 --> 00:00:20.137 And I say this not as a linguist, 00:00:20.137 --> 00:00:23.506 or a computer scientist but as a social psychologist. 00:00:23.506 --> 00:00:25.743 And today I'd like to tell you a story 00:00:25.743 --> 00:00:28.345 that summarizes a lot of the research 00:00:28.345 --> 00:00:31.060 that my colleagues, my students and I have done, 00:00:31.060 --> 00:00:34.623 that have helped me to come to this realization. 00:00:34.623 --> 00:00:38.137 Now several years ago I was studying the nature of traumatic experience 00:00:38.137 --> 00:00:40.607 and how it is related to physical health 00:00:40.607 --> 00:00:44.927 and kept finding that just completely perplexed me. 00:00:44.927 --> 00:00:48.965 Basically when people have a major traumatic experience in their life, 00:00:48.965 --> 00:00:52.355 they are much more likely to get sick after that event, 00:00:52.355 --> 00:00:54.462 if they keep the events secret, 00:00:54.468 --> 00:01:02.145 than if they actually talk to other people. 00:01:02.145 --> 00:01:07.127 So, this really bugged me. So keeping a secret it seems 00:01:07.127 --> 00:01:09.319 is somehow toxic. 00:01:09.319 --> 00:01:12.320 So this led me to run some experiments 00:01:12.320 --> 00:01:14.442 where we brought people in the laboratory 00:01:14.442 --> 00:01:16.863 and we asked them to write about 00:01:16.863 --> 00:01:21.175 the most traumatic experiences they've had, especially if they'd kept them secret. 00:01:21.175 --> 00:01:23.632 And these were big traumas, these were things like rape. 00:01:23.632 --> 00:01:27.808 They were like major public humiliations or failure. 00:01:27.808 --> 00:01:31.285 And the results that we got from this this study were stunning. 00:01:31.285 --> 00:01:35.725 We discovered that having people write as little as fifteen minutes a day, 00:01:35.725 --> 00:01:37.740 for 3 or 4 consecutive days, 00:01:37.740 --> 00:01:41.479 brought about meaningful changes in people's physical health 00:01:41.479 --> 00:01:44.015 and even their immune function. 00:01:44.015 --> 00:01:51.006 Translating up, saying experiences into words makes a difference, but why? 00:01:51.006 --> 00:01:54.777 Since then there have been hundreds of studies done by labs all over the world 00:01:54.777 --> 00:01:59.764 trying to answer this and they haven't come up with a single explanation. 00:01:59.764 --> 00:02:04.746 My own approach was to actually look at the essays that these people wrote, 00:02:04.746 --> 00:02:06.735 and try to figure out, 00:02:06.735 --> 00:02:08.856 was there something about the essays that could predict 00:02:08.856 --> 00:02:11.565 who would benefit from writing versus who wouldn't? 00:02:11.565 --> 00:02:14.013 I tried and I couldn't figure it out. 00:02:14.013 --> 00:02:16.745 So I got a number of psychologists and other experts 00:02:16.745 --> 00:02:19.689 to read and write hundreds of these essays, 00:02:19.689 --> 00:02:22.974 and they couldn't see a pattern either; 00:02:22.974 --> 00:02:25.053 I needed to try some other strategies. 00:02:25.053 --> 00:02:27.871 So, with the help of one of my graduate students, 00:02:27.871 --> 00:02:30.228 Martha Francis, we wrote a computer program. 00:02:30.228 --> 00:02:33.900 And the idea of this computer program was to go into any given text 00:02:33.900 --> 00:02:36.380 and calculate the percentage of words in their texts 00:02:36.380 --> 00:02:39.866 that were positive emotion words, negative emotion words 00:02:39.866 --> 00:02:46.914 or words related to topics such as death or sex or violence or religion or family. 00:02:46.914 --> 00:02:49.190 And as long as we were writing the computer program, 00:02:49.190 --> 00:02:51.976 I thought well let's go ahead and throw in some parts of speech, 00:02:51.976 --> 00:02:56.715 pronouns, prepositions. Why? Because it was easy, who cares? 00:02:56.715 --> 00:03:01.413 So, I go back, start to analyze these traumatic essays, 00:03:01.413 --> 00:03:06.013 and quickly discover that the content of what people were writing about 00:03:06.013 --> 00:03:09.243 didn't matter in terms of if they improved in their health or not, 00:03:09.243 --> 00:03:15.385 instead, it was these junk words, pronouns, articles, prepositions and so forth 00:03:15.385 --> 00:03:19.347 that did matter. Now think about this. 00:03:19.347 --> 00:03:23.120 Here people are writing about deeply disturbing issues 00:03:23.120 --> 00:03:29.034 and the actual topics that dealt with tragedies, devastation, horrible things, 00:03:29.034 --> 00:03:31.512 the topics themselves and the words associated 00:03:31.512 --> 00:03:33.890 with those topics made no difference. 00:03:33.890 --> 00:03:38.622 Instead these little words like "I" and "the" and "and" did matter. 00:03:38.622 --> 00:03:41.889 I'd been looking for the obvious, but in fact 00:03:41.889 --> 00:03:44.758 I'd been paying attention to what people were saying, 00:03:44.758 --> 00:03:47.637 but not how they were saying it. 00:03:47.637 --> 00:03:51.883 So how do I go about analyzing what verus how? 00:03:51.883 --> 00:03:54.426 Well, it turns out that they're different kinds of classes of words 00:03:54.426 --> 00:03:57.757 that look at this distinction, and one of them is 00:03:57.757 --> 00:03:59.531 if you're looking at what people are writing about, 00:03:59.531 --> 00:04:04.786 you look at what are called content words. These are nouns and regular verbs 00:04:04.786 --> 00:04:08.231 and adjectives and some adverbs. These are the stuff of thought, 00:04:08.231 --> 00:04:11.979 these were the stuff of communication. We were trying to talk to somebody. 00:04:11.979 --> 00:04:16.543 Google and search terms are all based on these content words. 00:04:16.543 --> 00:04:19.165 The other group of words are a class of words 00:04:19.165 --> 00:04:21.526 that are generally called function words. 00:04:21.526 --> 00:04:27.084 And function words are made up of the most boring words you can imagine. 00:04:27.084 --> 00:04:31.141 They're made up of pronouns: "I", "me", "he", "she"; 00:04:31.141 --> 00:04:37.560 prepositions: "to", "of", "for"; auxillary verbs: "am", "is", "have" â 00:04:37.560 --> 00:04:42.128 I'll have to wake you up if I keep talking about these function words. 00:04:42.128 --> 00:04:46.758 But it turns out these function words are really interesting, 00:04:46.758 --> 00:04:52.461 because, first of all, there's only about five hundred function words in English, 00:04:52.461 --> 00:04:57.369 so they account for far less than 1% of all the words we know, we hear, we read. 00:04:57.369 --> 00:05:03.893 Nevertheless, they reflect 55% to 60% of all the words that we are surrounded with, 00:05:03.893 --> 00:05:06.784 they're everywhere, but we don't pay attention to them. 00:05:06.784 --> 00:05:10.142 In English and in other languages, they're the shortest words there are, 00:05:10.142 --> 00:05:12.710 and when they're spoken or when you're reading, 00:05:12.710 --> 00:05:16.583 they zip into your brain at the speed of less than 0.2 seconds, 00:05:16.583 --> 00:05:20.538 meaning that they're processed essentially non-consciously. 00:05:20.538 --> 00:05:22.933 But there's something even more interesting about them, 00:05:22.933 --> 00:05:26.897 they are social, they are profoundly social. 00:05:26.897 --> 00:05:29.399 Let me give me an example, let's say you're walking along, 00:05:29.399 --> 00:05:32.396 you see a note on the ground, you pick it up and it says, 00:05:32.396 --> 00:05:35.583 "I am placing it on the table." 00:05:35.583 --> 00:05:37.732 Well, that kinda makes sense, kinda doesn't. 00:05:37.732 --> 00:05:41.788 "I'm placing it on the table" â there's 2 content words, "placing" and "table"; 00:05:41.788 --> 00:05:43.865 all the rest are function words: 00:05:43.865 --> 00:05:47.955 "I", "am", "it", "on", "the". 00:05:47.955 --> 00:05:51.328 Now the reason this doesn't make sense to most of us is 00:05:51.328 --> 00:05:53.444 who was "I"? No idea. 00:05:53.444 --> 00:05:56.687 "Am" implies present tense. When was it written? 00:05:56.692 --> 00:05:59.221 "It"? Pfft, no idea what "it" is. 00:05:59.221 --> 00:06:02.733 "On the table", "the table" means it's a table 00:06:02.733 --> 00:06:04.832 that the author knew about 00:06:04.838 --> 00:06:07.704 and the intended recipient of this note knew about, 00:06:07.704 --> 00:06:14.025 but nobody else did. And, in fact, this note only has meaning to the author 00:06:14.025 --> 00:06:15.833 and the recipient of the note 00:06:15.833 --> 00:06:18.994 at a particular time, in a particular location. 00:06:19.008 --> 00:06:23.557 And, in fact, if I took that note to this author 6 months later and say, 00:06:23.557 --> 00:06:27.283 "What's this all about?" there's a good chance that the author will say, 00:06:27.283 --> 00:06:30.342 "No idea." 00:06:30.342 --> 00:06:32.960 Function words are social, 00:06:32.960 --> 00:06:35.984 they tell us about the author, they tell us about the relationship 00:06:35.984 --> 00:06:37.783 between the author and the recipient 00:06:37.783 --> 00:06:41.578 and the relationship between the author and the topic itself. 00:06:41.578 --> 00:06:45.731 And this is the heart of what I want to talk to you about today. 00:06:45.731 --> 00:06:49.535 By analyzing function words we start to get a sense 00:06:49.535 --> 00:06:51.945 of who people are, what their relationships are, 00:06:51.945 --> 00:06:57.451 how they think about theirselves and how they connect with others. 00:06:57.451 --> 00:06:59.343 Yeah, there're a lot of function words, 00:06:59.343 --> 00:07:02.959 and honestly I could talk for several hours about function words, 00:07:02.959 --> 00:07:06.634 but I'm going to spare you that and just focus on a couple today 00:07:06.634 --> 00:07:10.745 to just give you a flavor of why they're so interesting. 00:07:10.745 --> 00:07:14.236 Let's start off with pronouns, and let's start off with third-person pronouns 00:07:14.236 --> 00:07:17.337 like "he", "she", "they". 00:07:17.337 --> 00:07:19.332 Now it turns out some people out there in the world 00:07:19.332 --> 00:07:22.543 use these third-person pronouns at high rates 00:07:22.543 --> 00:07:24.947 and other people at low rates. 00:07:24.947 --> 00:07:27.534 What kind of person would use them? 00:07:27.534 --> 00:07:31.232 Well, you have to think about pronouns and all function words 00:07:31.232 --> 00:07:35.784 in terms of where are people paying attention. 00:07:35.784 --> 00:07:37.623 If you are using these third-person pronouns, 00:07:37.623 --> 00:07:40.527 by definition you're paying attention to other people. 00:07:40.527 --> 00:07:43.571 You care about other people, you're thinking about other people, 00:07:43.571 --> 00:07:45.579 and people who use these at high rates 00:07:45.579 --> 00:07:47.709 are much more socially engaged. 00:07:47.709 --> 00:07:49.981 We can analyze emails, tweets and so forth 00:07:49.981 --> 00:07:54.155 and get a sense of someone's social engagement just by looking at this. 00:07:54.155 --> 00:07:59.335 How about first-person singular pronouns, "I", "me" and "my"? 00:07:59.335 --> 00:08:01.713 OK, using the attentional arguments 00:08:01.713 --> 00:08:04.629 someone who's attending to their thoughts, feelings, 00:08:04.629 --> 00:08:08.315 behaviors, to themselves in some way would use these words more. 00:08:08.315 --> 00:08:11.615 What kind of person do you think uses "I" words the most? 00:08:11.615 --> 00:08:15.674 I hope, you're sitting there, you're thinking, "Well, somebody who's 00:08:15.674 --> 00:08:18.317 self-centered, self-important, narcissistic, 00:08:18.317 --> 00:08:24.345 hungry for power and high in status." 00:08:24.345 --> 00:08:27.278 You would be completely wrong. 00:08:27.278 --> 00:08:33.743 In fact the person who is highest in status uses "I" words the least. 00:08:33.743 --> 00:08:35.481 Let me rephrase that, 00:08:35.481 --> 00:08:39.376 the higher anybody is in status, the less they use "I" words; 00:08:39.376 --> 00:08:44.208 the lower someone is in status, the higher they use a "I" words. 00:08:44.208 --> 00:08:47.750 Now, I discovered this by analyzing emails, 00:08:47.750 --> 00:08:52.543 instant messages, natural conversations, business groups and so forth. 00:08:52.543 --> 00:08:57.216 And the affects were huge. I looked at these results and I thought, 00:08:57.216 --> 00:09:02.624 "Wow, this must be true for other people but it can't possibly be true for me." 00:09:02.624 --> 00:09:09.306 You know I love everybody equally. So I go in and analyze my own emails. 00:09:09.306 --> 00:09:10.952 I'm the same as everybody else, 00:09:10.952 --> 00:09:15.183 I look at the email that I get from an undergraduate student, 00:09:15.183 --> 00:09:18.806 "Dear Dr Pennebaker, I would like to know if I could possibly meet with you 00:09:18.806 --> 00:09:20.835 because I think I need to change my grade." 00:09:20.835 --> 00:09:25.114 And I write back, "Dear Student, Thank you so much for your email. 00:09:25.114 --> 00:09:29.730 Unfortunately, the way the grade systems work, blah, blah, blah." 00:09:29.730 --> 00:09:32.225 I look at my email to the dean. 00:09:32.225 --> 00:09:35.074 "Dear Dean, I'm Jamie Pennebaker and I would like to ask you 00:09:35.074 --> 00:09:37.370 if I could do this and if I could do that and I could do this." 00:09:37.370 --> 00:09:39.715 And the dean writes back, "Dear Jamie, 00:09:39.715 --> 00:09:43.959 Thank you so much for your email..." and so forth. 00:09:43.959 --> 00:09:49.469 Now everybody is being completely polite, nobody's putting anybody down. 00:09:49.469 --> 00:09:52.151 This is the language of power in status; 00:09:52.151 --> 00:09:54.526 it tells us where people are paying attention. 00:09:54.543 --> 00:09:57.273 A high status person is looking out at the world, 00:09:57.277 --> 00:10:00.532 the low status person tends to be looking more inwardly. 00:10:00.532 --> 00:10:02.247 What about others states? 00:10:02.247 --> 00:10:07.237 Let's move beyond status, let's look at emotional states. 00:10:07.237 --> 00:10:10.822 You would think that someone would be paying more attention to themselves 00:10:10.822 --> 00:10:15.550 if they're in pain. It could be physical pain or emotional pain. 00:10:15.550 --> 00:10:18.568 In fact, if we look at people who are depressed, 00:10:18.568 --> 00:10:21.979 we've done many studies on this, we know that people who are depressed 00:10:21.979 --> 00:10:25.739 pay attention to themselves more and they used the word "I" more. 00:10:25.739 --> 00:10:28.426 In fact one of our very first studies looked at the poetry 00:10:28.426 --> 00:10:31.008 of suicidal and non-suicidal poets. 00:10:31.008 --> 00:10:34.689 Now we did this research where we went through, analyzed their poetry, 00:10:34.689 --> 00:10:37.158 and initially I thought, where the big difference 00:10:37.158 --> 00:10:39.851 in the degree to which they use negative and emotional words. 00:10:39.851 --> 00:10:41.852 Not true. 00:10:41.852 --> 00:10:47.498 Suicidal and non-suicidal poets all use negative emotion words at high rate. 00:10:47.498 --> 00:10:52.109 I think it's part of the job description. 00:10:52.109 --> 00:10:54.904 The big difference was their use of the word "I", 00:10:54.904 --> 00:10:57.946 suicidal poets use the word "I" more. 00:10:57.946 --> 00:11:03.213 Consider this poem, this is by Sylvia Plath who later committed suicide. 00:11:03.213 --> 00:11:08.297 Listen to the way that she uses the word "I" and first-person singular. 00:11:08.297 --> 00:11:14.488 I'm taking some lines from her poem "Mad Girl's Love Song". 00:11:14.488 --> 00:11:17.451 I shut my eyes and all the world drops dead; 00:11:17.451 --> 00:11:20.995 I lift my lid[s] and all is born again. 00:11:20.995 --> 00:11:23.547 (I think I made you up inside my head.) 00:11:23.547 --> 00:11:28.452 I fancied you'd return the way you said, But I grow old and I forget your name. 00:11:28.462 --> 00:11:32.633 (I think I made you up inside my head.) 00:11:32.633 --> 00:11:35.643 You can almost see Plath 00:11:35.643 --> 00:11:39.217 embracing her sorrow, her misery and so forth 00:11:39.217 --> 00:11:44.486 and you can compare her writing with other poets, non-suicidal poets 00:11:44.486 --> 00:11:46.255 who write about lost love. 00:11:46.255 --> 00:11:50.012 When they do, you can almost see them holding it off from a distance, 00:11:50.012 --> 00:11:55.189 so they're looking at it from a more distance, third-person perspective. 00:11:55.189 --> 00:11:59.868 Now there's a really interesting, important theory within psychology 00:11:59.868 --> 00:12:02.946 about depression. And people who are depressed 00:12:02.946 --> 00:12:07.099 are thought to be people who are very high in self-awareness or self-focus. 00:12:07.099 --> 00:12:12.164 And part of this is they also tend to be extremely honest. 00:12:12.164 --> 00:12:19.546 In fact there are many studies showing that they have this deficit 00:12:19.546 --> 00:12:23.287 and they're not able to have positive illusions about ourselves. 00:12:23.287 --> 00:12:25.565 Those of us who aren't depressed get by every day 00:12:25.565 --> 00:12:28.804 by holding these insane illusions about the life. 00:12:28.804 --> 00:12:32.408 But these people are brutally honest. 00:12:32.408 --> 00:12:36.115 Now this made me wonder, throw away depression for just a second. 00:12:36.115 --> 00:12:40.174 Could we turn this entire thing upside down and find out if depressed people 00:12:40.174 --> 00:12:44.797 or if we could use a computer program as a linguistic lie-detector. 00:12:44.797 --> 00:12:47.535 I mean for anybody. So in fact we did some studies, 00:12:47.535 --> 00:12:51.112 where we brought people in the lab, we induced them to lie or tell the truth, 00:12:51.112 --> 00:12:54.000 we analyze court transcripts of people who were all found guilty, 00:12:54.000 --> 00:12:56.679 the half of whom were later exonerated, 00:12:56.679 --> 00:12:59.924 and the affects were really quite impressive. 00:12:59.924 --> 00:13:01.999 We did a pretty good job at telling 00:13:01.999 --> 00:13:04.006 if someone who was telling the truth versus lying, 00:13:04.006 --> 00:13:07.367 and one of the best words was the use of the word "I". 00:13:07.367 --> 00:13:12.053 People who tell the truth use the word "I" more, owning what they're saying. 00:13:12.053 --> 00:13:17.759 Liars are tending to hold off, distancing themselves. 00:13:17.759 --> 00:13:23.878 Now, lie-detection and depression, status are all some things that we can look at, 00:13:23.898 --> 00:13:27.538 But one of the things that I'm most interested in now is looking at groups, 00:13:27.538 --> 00:13:29.640 looking at the relationship between two people. 00:13:29.640 --> 00:13:32.445 Can you tell how two people are getting along 00:13:32.445 --> 00:13:36.872 by analyzing the way that they're using function words with each other? 00:13:36.872 --> 00:13:40.387 And the answer is yes. We look at the percentage of each class of words 00:13:40.387 --> 00:13:44.823 and we come up with the metric that we call language style matching. 00:13:44.842 --> 00:13:48.244 And the more that two people are matching in their function word use, 00:13:48.244 --> 00:13:50.041 the more they're on the same page, 00:13:50.041 --> 00:13:53.024 the more they're talking about something in the same way. 00:13:53.024 --> 00:13:57.113 Now one place we started to look at this was with speed dating. 00:13:57.113 --> 00:14:05.481 Now, I should tell you I love speed dating, I would never do it in a million years, 00:14:05.481 --> 00:14:09.297 but I encourage all of you to go do speed dating and when you do, 00:14:09.297 --> 00:14:14.832 invite a researcher along because there is no paradigm that is better. 00:14:14.832 --> 00:14:17.320 We've been involved in speed-dating projects 00:14:17.320 --> 00:14:21.816 where people come in and in their four minute date, we tape-record it, 00:14:21.816 --> 00:14:26.794 they know we are, and then we transcribe the way they talk. 00:14:26.794 --> 00:14:29.327 The more they match in their language, 00:14:29.327 --> 00:14:31.379 the more likely they are to go out on a date. 00:14:31.379 --> 00:14:33.242 We can predict who will go on a date 00:14:33.242 --> 00:14:37.591 at rates slightly better than the people themselves can. 00:14:37.591 --> 00:14:40.231 We've done studies with young dating couples. 00:14:40.231 --> 00:14:46.717 To be in our study they had to give us 10 days of their instant messages or IM's. 00:14:46.717 --> 00:14:51.605 And then what we do is we analyze their IM's with this style matching 00:14:51.605 --> 00:14:54.070 and we do much, much better than they do 00:14:54.070 --> 00:14:58.122 at predicting if they'll be together 3 months later. 00:14:58.122 --> 00:15:00.928 The fact is, is these words are telling us how individuals 00:15:00.928 --> 00:15:03.551 and pairs of people are connecting. 00:15:03.551 --> 00:15:06.547 What about groups. Now this is an area that we're now working at. 00:15:06.547 --> 00:15:10.303 We're looking at working groups, some are groups that we've worked with, 00:15:10.303 --> 00:15:14.166 people from the business school, we look at people in the get-to-know-you groups, 00:15:14.166 --> 00:15:16.746 we do educational groups. And what we're finding is 00:15:16.746 --> 00:15:21.006 by looking at a group of say 5 or 6 people, we can now get a sense 00:15:21.026 --> 00:15:25.512 of how productive the group will be, and also how cohesive the group wil be, 00:15:25.521 --> 00:15:27.969 simply by looking at the style matching. 00:15:27.976 --> 00:15:30.912 Now here's where things are beginning to get interesting: 00:15:30.912 --> 00:15:36.151 by tracking a group that's interacting and say they're all interacting online, 00:15:36.151 --> 00:15:39.551 we can have a computer monitoring how the group is behaving. 00:15:39.551 --> 00:15:46.262 Imagine for example you are in this group and a computer coach comes to your group 00:15:46.262 --> 00:15:50.190 every now and then, and a message comes and says, 00:15:50.190 --> 00:15:53.296 "You guys are not paying attention to one another, 00:15:53.296 --> 00:15:57.396 you need to be more attentive to what the other people are saying," or 00:15:57.396 --> 00:16:00.396 "You guys for the last few minutes have strayed off topic, 00:16:00.396 --> 00:16:03.716 try to get back on topic," or that loud mouth in the group, 00:16:03.716 --> 00:16:07.566 the computer comes in and says, "John, for the last 5 minutes 00:16:07.566 --> 00:16:11.142 you said 50% of the words, why don't you stand back 00:16:11.142 --> 00:16:13.884 and courage others to talk?" 00:16:13.884 --> 00:16:17.199 Well, we have now created a program that does this, 00:16:17.199 --> 00:16:20.602 and we've now tested it out with hundreds of groups 00:16:20.602 --> 00:16:24.703 and we are getting very promising results. 00:16:24.703 --> 00:16:30.256 Now you can start to see why I'm so excited about this world of function words, 00:16:30.256 --> 00:16:33.665 that we're now taking this in all these directions, 00:16:33.665 --> 00:16:36.249 that I never would've thought about. 00:16:36.249 --> 00:16:39.533 We've been looking at it in terms of looking at historical records. 00:16:39.533 --> 00:16:43.876 Can you tell if a particular explorer committed suicide or was murdered? 00:16:43.876 --> 00:16:45.611 We've done a project on that. 00:16:45.611 --> 00:16:48.056 Can you look at a company and get a sense 00:16:48.056 --> 00:16:51.307 of how their internal communications are working? 00:16:51.307 --> 00:16:55.001 How well they are connecting with the people in their company or with their clients? 00:16:55.001 --> 00:16:59.752 We look at corporate earnings reports or the quarterly phone calls 00:16:59.752 --> 00:17:03.112 to get a sense of the internal group dynamics of the company. 00:17:03.112 --> 00:17:06.478 We've worked with the government to try to get a sense of terroist groups 00:17:06.478 --> 00:17:09.813 and if they are likely to behave badly. 00:17:09.813 --> 00:17:14.595 We've helped people sort out their love lives. 00:17:14.595 --> 00:17:19.874 You can start to see that by harnessing the power of these function words 00:17:19.874 --> 00:17:26.336 We can get a sense of individuals and groups and how people are connecting. 00:17:26.336 --> 00:17:32.343 Now what I would urge you to do, I'd like you to go home tonight 00:17:32.343 --> 00:17:34.557 and I want you to start looking at your emails, 00:17:34.557 --> 00:17:37.728 your tweets, your IM's or whatever, 00:17:37.728 --> 00:17:41.401 and in doing that what I hope you start to see, 00:17:41.401 --> 00:17:45.182 first of all you learn a little bit more about your relationships with others, 00:17:45.202 --> 00:17:49.643 but more than anything I hope you learned a little bit about yourself. 00:17:49.658 --> 00:17:50.800 Thank you very much. 00:17:50.977 --> 00:17:56.459 (Applause)