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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.00,0:00:08.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He told me racism is fake and was made up by social media and institution.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.50,0:00:37.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hello everyone, welcome back to my channel.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.69,0:00:41.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Today, I want to talk to you about dating apps,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.78,0:00:45.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Which I've never talked about on my channel before.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.40,0:00:54.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wanted to talk about dating apps because they're still somewhat controversial.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.74,0:00:59.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's a preference for meeting people naturally, which I think is great, but
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.69,0:01:03.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think with the pandemic, it's been hard to meet people naturally, 
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.13,0:01:04.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Especially in person.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.65,0:01:08.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And dating during the pandemic has just been really strange.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.84,0:01:14.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I just wanted to share my experience on using dating apps.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:14.16,0:01:19.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I actually first went on dating apps as soon as I was vaccinated.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.36,0:01:27.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The reason why I started dating apps was because I started graduate studies
Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.94,0:01:33.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,, here at Stanford, right when the pandemic was at its worst. 
Dialogue: 0,0:01:33.21,0:01:37.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There weren't a lot of people on campus, first of all.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.08,0:01:41.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We weren't even able to intermingle with people on campus. 
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.27,0:01:49.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The only people I got to hang out with were the 11 other students in my cohort.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.19,0:01:57.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,- in my program. After hanging out with the same 11 people for a year,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:57.77,0:02:05.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I just wanted to meet someone else. I hadn't dated anyone at all
Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.28,0:02:14.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I hadn't been on any romantic dates or in relationships for about...
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.47,0:02:21.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe 3-4 years at that point? I got out of a relationship my Senior year of college
Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.32,0:02:26.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then I did 2 years of work in Baltimore, and I knew I didn't want to stay
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.53,0:02:30.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in Baltimore for a long period of time, so I didn't look for anything serious.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.82,0:02:35.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then I got to campus and it was the pandemic. So I just spent a year 
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.67,0:02:41.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not meeting people romantically. And I finally went on dating apps and I
Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.54,0:02:45.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,went on a few that my friends have been really successful on.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.88,0:02:50.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Honestly, most people around me found their significant others through dating apps.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.99,0:02:53.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I wanted to give them a try.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.86,0:02:59.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I first want to show you which dating apps I used and try to compare them.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.16,0:03:04.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One of the dating apps I used is one that I've actually used before.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.12,0:03:11.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's called Coffee Meets Bagel. That app has been around for a long time.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.32,0:03:16.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I used it once when I was in college and was visiting UCLA as a student researcher.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.100,0:03:21.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I actually did get into a serious relationship through that app.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.63,0:03:25.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But we were long-distance and things didn't really work out.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.67,0:03:31.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then I never went back on [apps]. I downloaded that and tried it out.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.01,0:03:35.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it's a bit outdated now. The interface seems old to me.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.85,0:03:41.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The good thing about Coffee Meets Bagel is,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.69,0:03:44.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,, you only get a certain number of matches per day.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.51,0:03:47.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think you're only shown 10 profiles a day or something
Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.58,0:03:53.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you can choose from these profiles who you like. 
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.07,0:03:57.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think generally for women, it works a bit differently.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.54,0:04:00.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At least from what I remember, when I was first on it,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.87,0:04:04.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You were only shown people who had already liked you.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:04.54,0:04:09.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So you could choose who you wanted to match with right away.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:09.03,0:04:12.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think you could only get 1 match a day or something.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.77,0:04:15.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think now it's a couple more per day?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.32,0:04:19.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it's a good app for people who don't have a ton of time
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.69,0:04:21.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And don't want to be overwhelmed by dating apps
Dialogue: 0,0:04:21.69,0:04:24.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because dating apps can be just endless scrolling
Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.71,0:04:26.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,through profiles and swiping.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.90,0:04:31.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I tended to match with similar people on CMB
Dialogue: 0,0:04:31.89,0:04:37.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as I did on Hinge. So I think they have similar algorithms
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.13,0:04:39.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in terms of matching people.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.83,0:04:45.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Next I used Hinge, which I thought was the best out of the ones I used.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:45.95,0:04:52.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hinge is really interesting. I don't know exactly how their algorithm works
Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.86,0:04:58.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I like that they have different sections so you can see who's liked you.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.76,0:05:01.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You could just go through that pile. 
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.33,0:05:04.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or you can choose from people's favorites
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.45,0:05:06.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,profiles that have received a lot of attention
Dialogue: 0,0:05:06.84,0:05:10.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,over the past week or so. You can send them roses
Dialogue: 0,0:05:10.33,0:05:15.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you want. A rose is something you pay extra money for
Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.01,0:05:17.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You also get 1 free rose a week.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:17.43,0:05:20.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can use that to show someone you really like them, 
Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.15,0:05:21.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,instead of just sending them a like.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:21.97,0:05:25.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hinge is really similar to normal social media
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.46,0:05:28.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I thought it was really similar to Instagram, 
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.09,0:05:29.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where you can look through pictures,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:29.41,0:05:32.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they have short prompts to 
Dialogue: 0,0:05:32.82,0:05:36.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,allow you to show your personality.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:36.07,0:05:38.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's also an explore page 
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.82,0:05:41.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where you can go through profiles in your area.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.14,0:05:45.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They have similar settings to any other app;
Dialogue: 0,0:05:45.09,0:05:49.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can choose if you like women, or men, or both.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.05,0:05:54.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can choose whether certain things are deal-breakers.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:54.40,0:05:59.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Generally, they'll show age, religion- if you have one-
Dialogue: 0,0:05:59.83,0:06:02.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What sort of drugs you do, which I thought was interesting.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:02.30,0:06:04.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think that's a somewhat new feature.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:04.35,0:06:09.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Where you live, where your hometown is- so where you're from.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:09.27,0:06:13.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And your job. I actually ended up only using Hinge for most of my dating.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:13.99,0:06:20.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It worked better for me. I liked the pool of people I saw on Hinge
Dialogue: 0,0:06:20.21,0:06:25.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,compared to other dating apps. It seems like all of the young professionals
Dialogue: 0,0:06:25.48,0:06:28.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are using Hinge these days, and it just worked really well.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:28.96,0:06:37.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also used Bumble for a little bit toward the beginning of my dating endeavors.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:37.96,0:06:41.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think there were a few things I didn't like. 
Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.02,0:06:44.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One of the things is you can't see who's liked you so far.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:44.30,0:06:48.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So you have to do endless swiping until you connect
Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.29,0:06:50.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with someone who's already liked you.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.13,0:06:56.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I think it's up to the women on Bumble to initiate conversations.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:56.95,0:07:04.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Recently, I went on a different app. It's a religion-based app called Upward.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:04.72,0:07:10.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had never heard of it before. I went on it because faith is really important
Dialogue: 0,0:07:10.21,0:07:14.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Religion is important, spirituality is really important for certain people.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:14.08,0:07:19.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I was just really curious to see what type of people I'd find on the app.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:19.19,0:07:21.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I went on it.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:21.24,0:07:25.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I personally am Christian, but I saw a lot of people
Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.96,0:07:29.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on there with a variety of religions. There were
Dialogue: 0,0:07:29.05,0:07:33.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,people who were Muslim, people who were Christian,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:33.20,0:07:37.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like myself. People who were Buddhist.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:37.61,0:07:39.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A lot of these different things...
Dialogue: 0,0:07:39.89,0:07:45.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I thought the pool of people I saw on there were much older than me.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:45.10,0:07:49.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Generally not the type of people I would imagine myself with.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:49.52,0:07:54.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it works similarly to Bumble, where you have to keep swiping.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:54.47,0:07:56.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And once you match with someone, 
Dialogue: 0,0:07:56.41,0:07:59.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it's up to you to try to initiate conversation with them.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:59.50,0:08:02.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So now I'm going to show you what my profile looked like.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:02.42,0:08:04.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is my Hinge profile.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:04.70,0:08:07.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I currently have it on pause, but I unpaused it
Dialogue: 0,0:08:07.75,0:08:12.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for a couple of days, just to show you how people
Dialogue: 0,0:08:12.07,0:08:15.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How men would respond to certain prompts
Dialogue: 0,0:08:15.34,0:08:19.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and pictures on my profile. It has my real name on it,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:19.26,0:08:23.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I used this as my main profile photo.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:23.37,0:08:26.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's one that I took at a winery.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:26.22,0:08:32.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Most of these pictures are from before I started bleaching my hair
Dialogue: 0,0:08:32.58,0:08:34.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Which was this past summer.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:34.61,0:08:40.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I actually changed this prompt. It used to be something like-
Dialogue: 0,0:08:44.61,0:08:48.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't think that's really conducive to serious matches.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:48.14,0:08:49.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I changed it to-
Dialogue: 0,0:08:59.00,0:09:01.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I got a lot of really interesting responses to that.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:01.69,0:09:05.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think generally, men my age are not ready for that.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:07.10,0:09:11.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It shows my age, my height- that's also something they show.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:11.32,0:09:16.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My location, whether you have children or not.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:16.37,0:09:18.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Whether you want children or not.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:18.74,0:09:22.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Whether you're vaccinated; that's something new they've added.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:22.63,0:09:24.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Whether you drink, whether you smoke,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:24.100,0:09:29.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Whether you smoke week, whether you do drugs.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:29.24,0:09:35.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My job, my school- it also shows the school you graduated from
Dialogue: 0,0:09:35.02,0:09:40.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What sort of degrees you have, your religion if you have one.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:40.11,0:09:41.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And your hometown.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:41.60,0:09:43.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not all of these need to be shown.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:43.83,0:09:49.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The only mandatory ones are age, height, and location.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:49.47,0:09:52.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's just a picture of me on a carousel.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:52.39,0:09:53.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It says, "Don't judge me."
Dialogue: 0,0:09:53.54,0:09:56.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think my prompts and photos are kind of lame.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:56.91,0:09:59.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I'm surprised I ever matched with anyone.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:59.03,0:10:00.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But... yeah....
Dialogue: 0,0:10:00.60,0:10:05.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have this one photo I added after I went back on the dating apps.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:05.25,0:10:10.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was only on it for a month when I first went on.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:10.89,0:10:14.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then I got into a serious relationship with someone.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:14.46,0:10:18.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then I got out of that relationship after about 6 months.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:18.33,0:10:22.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I dated someone who was another student here.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:22.12,0:10:26.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We just decided it was best to just be friends.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:26.06,0:10:28.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But everything's okay and I'm back to dating. :)
Dialogue: 0,0:10:28.91,0:10:36.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I added this photo just to show people... I... I had pink hair.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:38.29,0:10:41.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'll fall for you if you...
Dialogue: 0,0:10:41.07,0:10:44.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Oh God... it's grammatically incorrect.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:56.56,0:11:04.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is just a random pink wall corner in Busan, in Korea.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:06.38,0:11:09.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I changed a lot of these prompts, now that I think about it.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:10.30,0:11:16.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This one says, "My ideal date from home: Watching kdramas over a glass of wine and cuddles"
Dialogue: 0,0:11:23.78,0:11:26.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Felt cute, might delete later"
Dialogue: 0,0:11:26.87,0:11:28.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I should delete that.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:28.19,0:11:33.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now I'm going to show you how guys generally responded to my prompts.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:33.98,0:11:38.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'll go into actual matches. So these are people who've liked me.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:38.78,0:11:41.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who liked me over 2 days in winter break.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:41.65,0:11:43.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They show you people who've sent you roses first,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:43.92,0:11:48.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because those are the people who are most interested in you.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:48.06,0:11:50.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So you can see how they're responded to certain prompts.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:50.66,0:11:55.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To my "I'm looking for" prompt,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:55.56,0:11:58.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I want lifetime of fun and laughter."
Dialogue: 0,0:11:58.72,0:12:02.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This guy, to my "help me glean fruit",
Dialogue: 0,0:12:02.94,0:12:06.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I'm a bit too short, but maybe I can give you a boost?"
Dialogue: 0,0:12:06.41,0:12:11.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This guy says, "Hi Yoo Jin! We're looking for the same thing. Let's get a meal together sometime!"
Dialogue: 0,0:12:11.18,0:12:14.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some guys like girls who are looking for serious relationships
Dialogue: 0,0:12:14.85,0:12:16.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because that's what they're looking for as well.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:17.10,0:12:21.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Glean. I'm expert on this subject. That's a strong shared interest.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:21.62,0:12:25.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,By the way, your name in Japanese means "Friend."" 
Dialogue: 0,0:12:27.48,0:12:30.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He has the wrong Chinese characters for my name. 
Dialogue: 0,0:12:31.07,0:12:34.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This guy, to the serious relationship prompt, 
Dialogue: 0,0:12:34.59,0:12:39.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"If we have 5 kids that sounds like a lifetime of financial pain.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:39.06,0:12:44.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But otherwise that sounds great. Guess we can save money by stealing Stanford fruit."
Dialogue: 0,0:12:45.95,0:12:48.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Pretty good response.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:49.45,0:12:52.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's generally what a lot of guys said to that prompt.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:52.62,0:12:54.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They were like, 3-5 kids is maybe too much.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:54.81,0:12:56.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Especially for California.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:57.58,0:13:01.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This guy to the "watching kdramas over wine and cuddles" says,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:01.50,0:13:05.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Annyeong, how is life? Any good drama recommendation?"
Dialogue: 0,0:13:05.84,0:13:08.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I got this a lot, actually, as well.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:09.42,0:13:12.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In regards to the serious relationship, 3-5 kids thing,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:12.11,0:13:15.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He says, "Do you also have a big family?"
Dialogue: 0,0:13:16.80,0:13:20.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I actually don't. I only have one sister.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:20.23,0:13:21.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I want a big family, so...
Dialogue: 0,0:13:23.42,0:13:26.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To the gleaning fruit prompt, "I've only successfully gotten oranges."
Dialogue: 0,0:13:26.57,0:13:37.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To the kdramas thing, "What kind of kdramas are you watching nowadays? What do you watch? BTW Merry Christmas!"
Dialogue: 0,0:13:37.48,0:13:42.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To the gleaning fruit prompt, this guy says, "Yes, hello, I'm your guy." 
Dialogue: 0,0:13:44.67,0:13:49.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One of his prompts on his profile actually says, "I won't shut up about Puerto Rico and my love for fruit trees."
Dialogue: 0,0:13:49.80,0:13:52.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is probably a really good match.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:54.33,0:13:59.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To the gleaning fruit prompt, "First we need to set up a calendar and buy a huge ladder."
Dialogue: 0,0:14:00.77,0:14:01.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Realistic guy.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:01.91,0:14:04.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes I'll get weird guys.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:05.26,0:14:09.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This guy responded to one of my photos and just said, "Netflix and chill?" 
Dialogue: 0,0:14:10.58,0:14:12.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Did he read any part of my profile?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:15.84,0:14:20.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said, "I know it's time to delete Hinge when I match with my sister again." 
Dialogue: 0,0:14:24.36,0:14:25.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Poor guy.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:25.95,0:14:30.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To kdramas, "This sounds super fun. Any plans for NYE?"
Dialogue: 0,0:14:30.32,0:14:35.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I love how we have so many fruit trees on campus. Do you have any favorite spots?"
Dialogue: 0,0:14:35.64,0:14:38.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I love this! Do you have a favorite kdrama currently?"
Dialogue: 0,0:14:38.79,0:14:41.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I got a lot of those questions too.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:41.53,0:14:45.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This guy's cute, but also...
Dialogue: 0,0:14:45.92,0:14:50.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He says he's a trauma surgeon at OHSU, which is in Oregon.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:50.37,0:14:52.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I'm not sure why he matched with me...?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:56.61,0:14:58.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I got this a lot too!
Dialogue: 0,0:14:58.91,0:15:02.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To the 3-5 kids thing, he says, "5? That's ambitious!"
Dialogue: 0,0:15:02.84,0:15:09.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"What's your fave drama rn? I'm watching Our Beloved Summer- so cute and funny."
Dialogue: 0,0:15:09.09,0:15:15.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To the serious relationship prompt, "Sounds amazing, I want the same."
Dialogue: 0,0:15:15.30,0:15:21.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To the gleaning fruit prompt, "Haha my family has def done this."
Dialogue: 0,0:15:23.74,0:15:30.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To the serious relationship thing, "I might not be looking for something serious at the moment, 
Dialogue: 0,0:15:30.13,0:15:34.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but maybe I can be a stop along the way. What kdramas are you into?"
Dialogue: 0,0:15:34.55,0:15:39.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In response to the kdramas, "As long as it's Crash Landing on You."
Dialogue: 0,0:15:39.54,0:15:45.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but maybe I can be a stop along the way. What kdramas are you into?"
Dialogue: 0,0:15:47.05,0:15:48.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's not a euphemism...
Dialogue: 0,0:15:49.36,0:15:52.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just to tell you a little bit about my matching and dating experience,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:52.97,0:15:59.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I generally didn't text a lot on the dating app, because I first of all hate texting,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:59.31,0:16:03.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I also had a really bad experience with texting and then meeting in real life.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:03.46,0:16:11.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which I'll tell you about really soon. But because of that, I always tried to meet in person,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:11.19,0:16:18.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as soon as I could after I matched with them and could tell they weren't dangerous.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:18.66,0:16:24.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some of you may judge me for this, but I went on the same date with every single person.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:24.53,0:16:31.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the first date was always- I would get them to come to campus and go on a walk with me.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:31.42,0:16:35.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we would almost always start in the same place
Dialogue: 0,0:16:35.21,0:16:41.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and end in the same place. And it would always be about an hour long.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:41.62,0:16:46.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was really boring going on the same date every single day.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:46.06,0:16:52.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I think it was really helpful in terms of comparing people
Dialogue: 0,0:16:52.34,0:16:58.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and figuring out who was really fun to be with vs who I didn't connect with.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:58.53,0:17:05.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I really only had a few people out of like 30 guys that I really wanted to see again.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:05.84,0:17:11.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If I did want to see them again, I would ask them out on a second date.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:11.08,0:17:17.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is another thing I think people will judge me on, but I also kept...
Dialogue: 0,0:17:17.05,0:17:22.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A very detailed list of guys and their pros and cons; what I liked about them,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:22.81,0:17:29.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what I didn't like about them. I did this because when I first went on the dating apps,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:29.40,0:17:34.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I hadn't dated anyone romantically in years- like 3-4 years.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:34.47,0:17:39.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't really understand what I wanted in a relationship because I'd changed
Dialogue: 0,0:17:39.46,0:17:50.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so much from my last relationship. So I made charts listing each guy.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:50.32,0:17:54.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's just me. You don't have to do this if you already know what you like
Dialogue: 0,0:17:54.36,0:17:57.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you have a good memory for people you meet.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:57.58,0:18:01.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In terms of how I decided who I wanted to meet in person- 
Dialogue: 0,0:18:01.81,0:18:04.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think at first I wasn't super picky about who I met.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:04.92,0:18:12.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I think now, in terms of dating, I know I prefer dating students because it's easier.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:12.86,0:18:17.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's just convenient- you're both on campus, you live next to each other.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:17.01,0:18:20.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can see each other all the time, you can work together.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:20.25,0:18:22.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They understand that you're really busy because they're also really busy.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:22.84,0:18:29.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now I generally don't meet anyone who lives farther than 20 min away from me.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:29.27,0:18:33.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,30 min away from me? Because I think it really becomes work
Dialogue: 0,0:18:33.56,0:18:36.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to meet the person for dates and stuff.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:36.43,0:18:43.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't have a preference for how someone looks, as long as I'm attracted to them.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:43.30,0:18:49.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I feel like I have really weird standards that generally don't agree with others'.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:49.61,0:18:53.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But if there's one thing I really have to choose-
Dialogue: 0,0:18:53.92,0:18:58.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One feature I have to choose that I really need or prefer-
Dialogue: 0,0:18:58.49,0:19:01.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I really need them to have nice eyebrows.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:01.12,0:19:04.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because I actually don't have eyebrows; these are completely drawn on.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:04.38,0:19:08.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I think it's really nice when a guy has pretty eyebrows.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:13.14,0:19:17.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So now going into why I don't text on dating apps.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:17.04,0:19:23.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I used to text. But there was this one guy that I texted for about a month.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:23.68,0:19:27.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We kept missing each other because we were both traveling at the time.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:27.20,0:19:34.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He lived around Stanford, and he was about 35 years old.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:34.37,0:19:40.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,On his profile, it said that he was the CEO of a company.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:40.83,0:19:45.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,His education said Stanford. We texted for a month and
Dialogue: 0,0:19:45.43,0:19:50.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I really liked the guy and I was looking forward to meeting him.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:50.94,0:19:56.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then we finally met up, and it was the worst date I've ever been on.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:56.16,0:20:03.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He basically had failed to tell me he was still an undergrad... at 35 years old...
Dialogue: 0,0:20:03.18,0:20:08.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I just thought it was weird that he had never mentioned he was still an undergrad.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:08.02,0:20:14.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He made it seem like his main job was being the CEO of a company
Dialogue: 0,0:20:14.05,0:20:21.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when we were texting. But all of that aside, the reason why it was the worst date
Dialogue: 0,0:20:21.32,0:20:27.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was because he was really racist. I never talk about race on my dates with people.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:27.91,0:20:34.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Especially the first date. But this guy and I ended up talking about race
Dialogue: 0,0:20:34.02,0:20:41.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he told me that racism was fake, and that it was made up by social media
Dialogue: 0,0:20:41.61,0:20:43.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and institutions.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:48.31,0:20:49.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he was a white male.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:49.98,0:20:54.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He told me he was sick of everyone in the Bay Area being a "social justice warrior"
Dialogue: 0,0:20:54.62,0:20:58.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I basically had to fight with this guy for Black people's rights.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:58.31,0:21:04.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then, he got really mad at me and texted me afterwards.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:04.98,0:21:11.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said he was really disappointed in me for trying to tell him off about racism.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:11.77,0:21:15.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So after that, well honestly, texting doesn't seem to tell you about
Dialogue: 0,0:21:15.59,0:21:19.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What the person is like, so I don't really text people anymore.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:19.04,0:21:22.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I immediately just say, 'I'm not really into texting on dating apps,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:22.75,0:21:26.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I'd love to meet up and talk in person if you'd like."
Dialogue: 0,0:21:26.48,0:21:31.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do I have any other... juicy... stories?
Dialogue: 0,0:21:31.81,0:21:35.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Mmmm I did match with this one professor at Stanford?
Dialogue: 0,0:21:35.48,0:21:41.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was one of my first matches on Hinge. We also matched on CMB.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:41.85,0:21:47.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was really cool! He was in a different department from me, so that was fine.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:47.46,0:21:50.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was a fairly young professor.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:50.22,0:21:55.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This video is getting kind of long, so I'll just end it on the basic
Dialogue: 0,0:21:55.53,0:21:58.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Pros and cons of dating apps in my opinion.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:58.58,0:22:03.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The pros are, you're meeting up with someone and you don't have to play the game of
Dialogue: 0,0:22:03.07,0:22:04.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Are they single?
Dialogue: 0,0:22:04.64,0:22:07.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Are they interested in me?
Dialogue: 0,0:22:07.16,0:22:08.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What do they do for a living? 
Dialogue: 0,0:22:08.71,0:22:12.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All of this stuff. It's just all on a profile.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:12.20,0:22:17.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You get to meet so many people outside of your general environment.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:17.25,0:22:22.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If I hadn't gone on dating apps, I wouldn't have been able to meet a lot of people here.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:22.72,0:22:24.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because I'm a student.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:24.16,0:22:28.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it's also good for students like me because I've been connected
Dialogue: 0,0:22:28.15,0:22:31.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with a lot of other students. I've made a lot of connections through dating apps.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:31.58,0:22:38.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think if you're both looking for something similar, whether it's casual or serious,
Dialogue: 0,0:22:38.02,0:22:42.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think there's a lot of potential to find something meaningful through these apps.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:42.99,0:22:47.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think some cons are, you don't really get to know the person as a friend first.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:47.50,0:22:51.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All you know is what's on their profile when you first meet them.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:51.79,0:22:56.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think another con for dating apps is that they're very superficial.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:56.34,0:23:00.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's basically like social media. You're just swiping and judging people based on looks.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:00.98,0:23:08.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Based on a lot of surface factors... so it's really hard to tell whether you're going to
Dialogue: 0,0:23:08.09,0:23:10.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,get along with someone or not.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:10.02,0:23:14.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Anyway, let me know if you decide to try dating apps yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:14.24,0:23:18.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And how all of that goes! Thanks for watching :)