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(Half bell)

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(Bell)

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When I am angry,

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how do I let my anger out?

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How to let my anger out?

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Do you think that your anger has come
from the outside, went in,

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and now you want to let it out again?

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Are you sure that the anger is coming 
from the outside?

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That is a counter question.

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(Laughter)

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In Plum Village, we learn

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how to deal with our anger,

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how to take care of our anger.

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Anger is not something pleasant.

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It is like the mud.

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But without the mud,

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we cannot grow lotus flowers.

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So the mud is useful, somehow...

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so your anger is useful, somehow.

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So, maybe you should not let it out.

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You should not throw it away.

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If you know how to make good use

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of your anger,

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you can grow the lotus of peace,

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of joy, of forgiveness.

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This is a very deep teaching
in Plum Village.

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We have been learning about this.

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Anger comes "up" --

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not from the outside, 
but from inside.

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Because we do not understand,

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that is why we cannot love.

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And, if we look deeply,

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if we listen deeply,

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we'll be able to understand.

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And, when we understand,

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there is love.

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And when there is love,

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anger just transforms itself.

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You don't have to take anger

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and throw it away.

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In fact, anger is something
that you can use.

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And, if you hold that anger

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in understanding, in compassion,

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then, anger becomes something
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like compassion.

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I will give you an example.

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The other fellow, this morning,

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said something unkind to you.

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He did something or he said something
unkind to you,

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and you suffered.

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And, anger is coming up.

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And, usually,

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if you are not good practitioner,

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you want to give that boy 
or that girl a punch,

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to punish him or her.

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And that is anger "in" us.

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And that anger is a kind of mud

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to smear everything.

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So, we need to be aware that

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we have to control that mud of anger

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and do not let the mud
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and the other person.

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So, you might like to breathe in,

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calmly, mindfully,

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and look at that boy or girl.

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And, what do you see

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in him or in her?

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You see that 
there is a violence in him.

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There is anger, 
suffering in him

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or in her.

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If that boy or girl is happy,

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he or she would not have said something

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mean like that.

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He or she wouldn't have done
something violent like that.

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But, he does not have the happiness
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That is why he suffers.

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And, when he suffers like that,

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he wants to get his suffering out,

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by saying something mean to you,

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or doing something unkind to you.

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And, he thinks that, 
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he will suffer less.

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That is not very intelligent.

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So, when you look 
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that boy is unhappy,

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there is anger 
or violence in him,

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and he does not know
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the violence in him,
the unhappiness in him,

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that is why he suffers.

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And, when he suffers like that,

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it is natural that
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around him suffer like that.

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So, when you see the anger
in him or in her,

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and you understand

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that anger...

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you are no longer angry at him.

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Poor little boy. 
Poor little girl.

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They suffer.

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I don't want to punish him,

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to make him suffer more.

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I want to make him suffer less.

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And, you smile to him. .

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You say: "Dear friend, 
I know that you suffer."

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"I am not angry at you,"

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"even if you have said something"

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"like that to me."

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"Even if you have done
something like that to me."

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"Because you suffer a lot."

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"So, I do not blame you."

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"I am not angry at you."

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"I am breathing in and out."

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"I understand you."

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"That is why
I am not angry at you."

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"I do not suffer."

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You are a good practitioner.

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And, he will be amazed.

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Other people will react differently.

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They will hit him or tell him

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something very mean.

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But you are not doing that.

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You are reacting
in a very different way;

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with tenderness, 
with loving kindness,

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...smiles.

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And, he will be amazed.

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And, one day, he will ask you:

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"How can you do that?!"

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"When someone said something"

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"very brutal, very mean,"

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"and did something violent like that"

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"and you can still keep your calm,"

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"your peace."

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"How?!"

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And, then, you tell him,
you tell her

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how you have come to Plum Village

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and learn that kind 
of mindful breathing,

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and recognize the anger
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and recognize anger in you

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and in that person.

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So, you come here 
as a very young people,

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and we learn these wonderful things.

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And, you might be able 
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with your friends,

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when you go back to school.

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That is also a good question.

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(Half bell)

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(Bell)