1 00:00:00,635 --> 00:00:02,191 (Half bell) 2 00:00:05,239 --> 00:00:12,416 (Bell) 3 00:00:30,191 --> 00:00:31,513 When I am angry, 4 00:00:31,513 --> 00:00:35,018 how do I let my anger out? 5 00:00:36,731 --> 00:00:39,731 How to let my anger out? 6 00:00:46,037 --> 00:00:49,389 Do you think that your anger has come from the outside, went in, 7 00:00:49,511 --> 00:00:52,535 and now you want to let it out again? 8 00:00:52,919 --> 00:00:56,044 Are you sure that the anger is coming from the outside? 9 00:00:59,831 --> 00:01:02,067 That is a counter question. 10 00:01:02,072 --> 00:01:03,844 (Laughter) 11 00:01:12,567 --> 00:01:15,530 In Plum Village, we learn 12 00:01:16,466 --> 00:01:20,645 how to deal with our anger, 13 00:01:22,210 --> 00:01:25,560 how to take care of our anger. 14 00:01:33,607 --> 00:01:38,034 Anger is not something pleasant. 15 00:01:39,343 --> 00:01:40,889 It is like the mud. 16 00:01:42,246 --> 00:01:43,835 But without the mud, 17 00:01:44,041 --> 00:01:46,256 we cannot grow lotus flowers. 18 00:01:47,687 --> 00:01:51,706 So the mud is useful, somehow... 19 00:01:52,125 --> 00:01:55,559 so your anger is useful, somehow. 20 00:01:56,927 --> 00:02:01,655 So, maybe you should not let it out. 21 00:02:03,454 --> 00:02:05,720 You should not throw it away. 22 00:02:06,445 --> 00:02:08,842 If you know how to make good use 23 00:02:09,083 --> 00:02:10,519 of your anger, 24 00:02:10,568 --> 00:02:14,424 you can grow the lotus of peace, 25 00:02:15,054 --> 00:02:18,160 of joy, of forgiveness. 26 00:02:19,957 --> 00:02:23,778 This is a very deep teaching in Plum Village. 27 00:02:24,887 --> 00:02:26,771 We have been learning about this. 28 00:02:29,500 --> 00:02:32,948 Anger comes "up" -- 29 00:02:33,271 --> 00:02:36,036 not from the outside, but from inside. 30 00:02:39,097 --> 00:02:43,715 Because we do not understand, 31 00:02:45,236 --> 00:02:48,643 that is why we cannot love. 32 00:02:52,798 --> 00:02:56,927 And, if we look deeply, 33 00:02:57,787 --> 00:02:59,681 if we listen deeply, 34 00:03:00,218 --> 00:03:03,011 we'll be able to understand. 35 00:03:03,529 --> 00:03:05,086 And, when we understand, 36 00:03:05,086 --> 00:03:06,267 there is love. 37 00:03:06,267 --> 00:03:07,716 And when there is love, 38 00:03:07,716 --> 00:03:11,466 anger just transforms itself. 39 00:03:11,947 --> 00:03:13,782 You don't have to take anger 40 00:03:14,573 --> 00:03:16,596 and throw it away. 41 00:03:18,907 --> 00:03:23,084 In fact, anger is something that you can use. 42 00:03:24,493 --> 00:03:28,246 And, if you hold that anger 43 00:03:28,473 --> 00:03:32,147 in understanding, in compassion, 44 00:03:32,520 --> 00:03:36,786 then, anger becomes something like love... 45 00:03:37,192 --> 00:03:40,703 like compassion. 46 00:03:44,036 --> 00:03:46,294 I will give you an example. 47 00:03:48,998 --> 00:03:51,026 The other fellow, this morning, 48 00:03:51,026 --> 00:03:53,442 said something unkind to you. 49 00:03:55,389 --> 00:03:58,149 He did something or he said something unkind to you, 50 00:03:58,149 --> 00:03:59,295 and you suffered. 51 00:03:59,328 --> 00:04:01,203 And, anger is coming up. 52 00:04:03,282 --> 00:04:04,334 And, usually, 53 00:04:04,334 --> 00:04:06,579 if you are not good practitioner, 54 00:04:06,632 --> 00:04:12,415 you want to give that boy or that girl a punch, 55 00:04:14,256 --> 00:04:15,814 to punish him or her. 56 00:04:16,054 --> 00:04:18,729 And that is anger "in" us. 57 00:04:20,976 --> 00:04:22,868 And that anger is a kind of mud 58 00:04:23,973 --> 00:04:25,575 to smear everything. 59 00:04:26,565 --> 00:04:28,554 So, we need to be aware that 60 00:04:28,578 --> 00:04:33,743 we have to control that mud of anger 61 00:04:34,722 --> 00:04:38,210 and do not let the mud to smear us 62 00:04:38,558 --> 00:04:39,989 and the other person. 63 00:04:46,337 --> 00:04:48,664 So, you might like to breathe in, 64 00:04:50,294 --> 00:04:52,254 calmly, mindfully, 65 00:04:52,314 --> 00:04:54,956 and look at that boy or girl. 66 00:04:59,323 --> 00:05:01,669 And, what do you see 67 00:05:02,049 --> 00:05:03,419 in him or in her? 68 00:05:03,745 --> 00:05:05,684 You see that there is a violence in him. 69 00:05:06,746 --> 00:05:08,667 There is anger, suffering in him 70 00:05:10,439 --> 00:05:11,814 or in her. 71 00:05:12,034 --> 00:05:14,801 If that boy or girl is happy, 72 00:05:14,992 --> 00:05:19,697 he or she would not have said something 73 00:05:19,890 --> 00:05:20,931 mean like that. 74 00:05:21,372 --> 00:05:24,374 He or she wouldn't have done something violent like that. 75 00:05:26,384 --> 00:05:31,245 But, he does not have the happiness in him. 76 00:05:32,245 --> 00:05:34,607 That is why he suffers. 77 00:05:35,025 --> 00:05:36,616 And, when he suffers like that, 78 00:05:37,147 --> 00:05:39,818 he wants to get his suffering out, 79 00:05:40,225 --> 00:05:42,011 by saying something mean to you, 80 00:05:42,266 --> 00:05:44,623 or doing something unkind to you. 81 00:05:45,022 --> 00:05:46,773 And, he thinks that, by doing so, 82 00:05:46,815 --> 00:05:48,118 he will suffer less. 83 00:05:48,690 --> 00:05:51,045 That is not very intelligent. 84 00:05:51,686 --> 00:05:53,385 So, when you look and you see that 85 00:05:54,012 --> 00:05:56,224 that boy is unhappy, 86 00:05:56,292 --> 00:05:58,213 there is anger or violence in him, 87 00:05:58,222 --> 00:06:00,189 and he does not know how to handle 88 00:06:00,189 --> 00:06:03,905 the violence in him, the unhappiness in him, 89 00:06:04,169 --> 00:06:05,769 that is why he suffers. 90 00:06:05,934 --> 00:06:07,674 And, when he suffers like that, 91 00:06:07,674 --> 00:06:09,364 it is natural that he makes people 92 00:06:09,660 --> 00:06:12,141 around him suffer like that. 93 00:06:12,409 --> 00:06:15,000 So, when you see the anger in him or in her, 94 00:06:15,150 --> 00:06:17,586 and you understand 95 00:06:18,711 --> 00:06:19,969 that anger... 96 00:06:19,969 --> 00:06:22,285 you are no longer angry at him. 97 00:06:22,357 --> 00:06:25,524 Poor little boy. Poor little girl. 98 00:06:26,109 --> 00:06:27,554 They suffer. 99 00:06:27,647 --> 00:06:30,477 I don't want to punish him, 100 00:06:32,495 --> 00:06:34,315 to make him suffer more. 101 00:06:35,382 --> 00:06:38,673 I want to make him suffer less. 102 00:06:39,165 --> 00:06:41,020 And, you smile to him. . 103 00:06:41,266 --> 00:06:43,903 You say: "Dear friend, I know that you suffer." 104 00:06:44,524 --> 00:06:45,787 "I am not angry at you," 105 00:06:45,787 --> 00:06:47,527 "even if you have said something" 106 00:06:47,549 --> 00:06:48,716 "like that to me." 107 00:06:48,860 --> 00:06:51,236 "Even if you have done something like that to me." 108 00:06:51,476 --> 00:06:53,859 "Because you suffer a lot." 109 00:06:55,483 --> 00:06:57,251 "So, I do not blame you." 110 00:06:57,254 --> 00:06:58,834 "I am not angry at you." 111 00:06:58,914 --> 00:07:00,639 "I am breathing in and out." 112 00:07:00,732 --> 00:07:02,772 "I understand you." 113 00:07:02,814 --> 00:07:05,986 "That is why I am not angry at you." 114 00:07:06,143 --> 00:07:07,976 "I do not suffer." 115 00:07:08,099 --> 00:07:10,494 You are a good practitioner. 116 00:07:10,729 --> 00:07:12,178 And, he will be amazed. 117 00:07:13,127 --> 00:07:16,114 Other people will react differently. 118 00:07:17,592 --> 00:07:20,262 They will hit him or tell him 119 00:07:20,546 --> 00:07:22,142 something very mean. 120 00:07:22,341 --> 00:07:24,190 But you are not doing that. 121 00:07:24,507 --> 00:07:26,995 You are reacting in a very different way; 122 00:07:27,827 --> 00:07:31,005 with tenderness, with loving kindness, 123 00:07:31,379 --> 00:07:32,521 ...smiles. 124 00:07:34,578 --> 00:07:36,445 And, he will be amazed. 125 00:07:36,960 --> 00:07:38,803 And, one day, he will ask you: 126 00:07:39,176 --> 00:07:40,588 "How can you do that?!" 127 00:07:41,187 --> 00:07:42,567 "When someone said something" 128 00:07:42,914 --> 00:07:45,289 "very brutal, very mean," 129 00:07:45,900 --> 00:07:49,382 "and did something violent like that" 130 00:07:49,643 --> 00:07:52,078 "and you can still keep your calm," 131 00:07:52,387 --> 00:07:53,416 "your peace." 132 00:07:55,736 --> 00:07:56,656 "How?!" 133 00:07:56,656 --> 00:07:59,037 And, then, you tell him, you tell her 134 00:07:59,037 --> 00:08:01,864 how you have come to Plum Village 135 00:08:02,142 --> 00:08:05,069 and learn that kind of mindful breathing, 136 00:08:05,763 --> 00:08:07,896 and recognize the anger in yourself, 137 00:08:07,896 --> 00:08:09,828 and recognize anger in you 138 00:08:09,849 --> 00:08:12,649 and in that person. 139 00:08:14,162 --> 00:08:20,177 So, you come here as a very young people, 140 00:08:20,876 --> 00:08:23,187 and we learn these wonderful things. 141 00:08:23,537 --> 00:08:25,673 And, you might be able to share that 142 00:08:25,702 --> 00:08:26,874 with your friends, 143 00:08:27,194 --> 00:08:29,416 when you go back to school. 144 00:08:32,282 --> 00:08:34,222 That is also a good question. 145 00:08:42,005 --> 00:08:43,739 (Half bell) 146 00:08:47,870 --> 00:08:55,020 (Bell)