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♪介紹音樂♪

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你好...

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這是一個常見的模式

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我們在一些中關係中

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作為“拯救者”。

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這就像我們在關注誰可以彼我們拯救

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和康復。

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拯救者常常感到一種責任和義務

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去維持關係

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- 因為它是 -

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即使他們感覺被利用。

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拯救者經常替別人的行為找藉口

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即使它是自我毀滅或對自己有害。

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拯救者和其他人一樣，都有需求。

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但拯救者感覺自己不值得

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提出他們所想和所需。

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而是說服自己

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如果他們提供足夠給予他人，

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他們施予援助的接收方

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將明確地感激拯救者

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受助者將開始回饋與拯救者

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（這是拯救者一直暗自渴求）。

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他們要的是愛，滋養和呵護。

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這是拯救者希望和幻想。

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但由於拯救者選擇了一個受助者

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(定義為某些人只能接受而不能給予

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由於他們處於的狀態)

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拯救者從來沒有得到他或她真正想要的

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即是 - 被拯救。

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作為一個拯救者沒有

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不希望被拯救。[br]

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如果我們是經典拯救者（我剛才描述）

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真正重要的是我們看到那份阻力

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我們去維擭我們的需求和願望 -

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去提出我們的需求和願望 -

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我們亦必須了解

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我們對接受有一定的困難 -

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以我們也必須看看我們接受的阻力，

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並開始採取步驟來打開我們自己

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從其他人接收到的東西，越來越多。

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現在，你可能會看這一集並思考：

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“嘩......？感謝上帝，這不是我，我絕對不是一個拯救者！“

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你可以繼續並重新思考 -

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因為我將要演示

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