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When I was a child,[br]I knew I had superpowers.

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That’s right.

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(She laughs)

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I thought I was absolutely amazing <i>because</i>[br]I could understand and relate to

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the feelings of brown people like[br]my grandfather, a conservative Muslim guy,

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and also I could understand[br]my Afghan mother and Pakistani father,

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not so religious but[br]laid back, fairly liberal.

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And of course I could understand <i>and</i>[br]relate to the feelings of white people,

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the white Norwegians of my country.

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You know white, brown,[br]whatever, I loved them all.

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I understood them all even if they[br]didn’t always understand each other

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They were all my people.

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My father though was[br]always really worried.

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He kept saying that,[br]even with the best education

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I was not going to get a fair shake,[br]I would still face discrimination,

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according to him, and that the only way[br]to be accepted by white people

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would be to become famous.

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Now mind you, he had this conversation[br]with me when I was seven years old.

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So, while I’m seven years old he said;

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"Look, so its either got to be sports[br]or its got to be music."

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He didn’t know anything about sports,[br]bless him, so it was music.

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So when I was seven years old[br]he gathered al my toys, all my dolls,

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and he threw them all away.

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In exchange he gave me a crappy little[br]Casio keyboard, yeah, and singing lessons,

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and he forced me basically to practice [br]for hours and hours every single day.

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Very quickly he also had me performing[br]for larger and larger audiences,

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and bizarrely I became almost

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a kind of poster child [br]for Norwegian multiculturalism.

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I felt very proud of course because[br]even the newspapers at this point

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were starting to write[br]nice things about brown people,

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so I could feel that[br]my superpower was growing.

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So when I was 12 years old walking home[br]from school I took a little detour

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because I wanted to buy[br]my favourite sweets called 'salty feet'.

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I absolutely loved them.

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On my way into the store, there was this[br]grown white guy in the doorway,

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blocking my way, so I tried to walk around[br]him, and as I did that he stopped me,

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and he was staring at me,[br]and he spit in my face and he said;

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"Get out of my way you little black bitch,[br]you little Paki bitch, get out of my -

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go back home where you came from."[br]I was absolutely horrified.

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I was staring at him, I was too afraid[br]to wipe the spit off my face,

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even as it was mixing with my tears.[br]I remember looking around,

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hoping that any minute now a grownup[br]was going to come and make this guy stop.

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But instead people kept hurrying past me[br]and pretending not to see me.

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I was very confused because I was thinking;

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"Well, my white people come on.[br]Where are they? What’s going on?

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How come they’re not[br]coming rescuing me?"

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So needless to say [br]I didn’t buy the sweets.

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I just ran home as fast as I could.

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Things were still OK though, I thought.

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As time went on, the more[br]successful I became,

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I eventually started also attracting[br]harassment from brown people.

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Some men in my parents community felt that[br]it was unacceptable and dishonorable

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for a woman to be involved in music,[br]and to be so present in the media.

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So very quickly I was starting to[br]become attacked at my own concerts.

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I remember one of the concerts, I was[br]on stage, I lean in to the audience,

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and the last thing I see is [br]a young brown face,

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and the next thing I know is some sort[br]of chemical is thrown in my eyes.

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And I remember I couldn’t really see,[br]and my eyes were watering,

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but I kept singing anyway.

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I was spit in the face in the streets[br]of Oslo, this time by brown men.

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They even tried to kidnap me at one point.[br]The death threats were endless.

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I remember one older bearded guy[br]stopped me in the street one time and said;

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"The reason I hate you so much is because[br]you make our daughters think

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they can do whatever they want."

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A younger guy warned me[br]to watch my back, he said:

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"Music is un-Islamic[br]and the job of whores,

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and if you keep this up, you are going to[br]be raped and your stomach will be cut out,

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so that another whore[br]like you will not be born."

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Again I was so confused.[br]I couldn’t understand what was going on,

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my brown people now[br]starting to treat me like this.

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How come? Instead of bridging [br]the worlds, the two worlds,

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I felt like I was falling[br]between my two worlds.

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I suppose for me,[br]spit was kryptonite.

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So by the time I was 17 years old[br]the death threats were endless,

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and the harassment was constant.

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It got so bad at one point[br]my mother sat me down and said:

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"Look, we can no longer protect you,[br]we can no longer keep you safe,

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so you’re going to have to go."

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So I bought a one-way ticket to London.[br]I packed my suitcase, and I left.

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My biggest heartbreak at that point[br]was that nobody said anything.

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I had a very public exit from Norway.

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My brown people, my white people,[br]nobody said anything.

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Nobody said; "Hold on, this is wrong.

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Support this girl, protect this girl[br]because she is one of us."

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Nobody said that. Instead I felt like,

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you know at the airport,[br]on the baggage carousel,

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you have these different suitcases[br]going round and round,

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and there’s always[br]that one suitcase left at the end.

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The one that nobody wants.[br]The one that nobody comes to claim.

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I felt like that. I’d never felt so alone.[br]I’d never felt so lost.

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So, after coming to London,[br]I did eventually resume my music career.

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Different place, but unfortunately[br]the same old story.

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I remember a message sent to me saying[br]that I was going to be killed,

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and that rivers of blood[br]were going to flow,

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and that I was going to be raped[br]many times before I died.

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By this point [br]I have to tell I was actually

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getting used to messages like this.

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But what became different was that now[br]they started threatening my family.

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So once again, I packed my suitcase,[br]I left music, and I moved to the US.

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I’d had enough. I didn’t want to have[br]anything to do with this anymore.

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And I was certainly not going to be killed[br]for something that wasn’t even my dream,

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it was my father’s choice.

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So I... I kind of got lost, [br]I kind of fell apart,

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but I decided that what I wanted to do is

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to spend the next however many years[br]of my life supporting young people,

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and to try to be there in some small way,[br]whatever way that I could.

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So I started volunteering for various[br]organisations that were working

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with young Muslims inside of Europe.

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And, to my surprise what I found,[br]was so many of these young people

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were suffering and struggling.

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They were facing so many problems[br]with their families and their communities,

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who seemed to care more about[br]their honour and their reputation

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than the happiness and[br]the lives of their own kids.

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I started feeling like maybe I wasn’t[br]so alone, maybe I wasn’t so weird.

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Maybe there are more[br]of my people out there.

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The thing is what most people[br]don’t understand,

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is that there are so many[br]of us growing up in Europe

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who are not free to be ourselves.[br]We are not allowed to be who we are.

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We are not free to marry,

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or to be in relationships [br]with people that we choose.

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We can’t even pick our own career.

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This is the norm in[br]the Muslim heartlands of Europe.

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Even in the freest societies[br]in the world, we're not free.

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Our lives, our dreams, our future,[br]does not belong to us,

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it belongs to our parents,[br]and their community.

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I found endless stories of young people,[br]who are lost to all of us,

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Who are invisible to all of us,

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but who are suffering and [br]they are suffering alone.

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Kids that we are losing[br]to forced marriages,

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to honour based violence, and abuse.

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So eventually I realised, after several[br]years of working with these young people,

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that I will not be able to keep running,

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I can’t spend the rest of my life[br]being scared and hiding,

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and that I’m actually going[br]to have to do something.

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And I also realised that[br]my silence, our silence,

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allows abuse like this to continue.

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So I decided that I wanted to put[br]my childhood superpower to some use,

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by trying to make people on[br]the different sides of these issues

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understand what [br]it's like to be a young person

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stuck between [br]your family and your country.

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So I started making films,[br]and I started telling these stories.

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And I also wanted people to understand

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the deadly consequences of us[br]not taking these problems seriously.

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So the first film I made was about Banaz.

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She was a 17 year old[br]Kurdish girl in London.

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She was obedient, she did[br]whatever her parents wanted.

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She tried to do everything right.

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She married some guy[br]that her parent’s chose for her,

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even though he beat[br]and raped her constantly.

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And when she tried to go[br]to her family for help they said;

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"Well, you’ve got to go back[br]and be a better wife."

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Because they didn’t want[br]a divorced daughter on their hands,

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because of course, that would bring[br]dishonor on the family.

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She was beaten so badly[br]her ears would bleed.

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And when she finally left, and she found[br]a young man that she chose,

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and she fell in love with, the community[br]and the family found out,

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and she disappeared.[br]

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She was found three months later.

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She’d been stuffed into a suitcase,[br]and buried underneath a house.

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She had been strangled,[br]she had been beaten to death,

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by three men, three cousins,[br]on the orders of her father and uncle.

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The added tragedy of Banaz’s story,

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story is that she had gone to the police[br]in England five times asking for help.

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Telling them that she was going[br]to be killed by her family.

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The police didn’t believe her,[br]so they didn’t do anything.

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And the problem with this,

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is that not only are so many of[br]our kids facing these problems,

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within their families and[br]within their families' communities,

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but they are also meeting[br]misunderstandings and apathy

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in the countries that they grow up in.

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When their own families betray them,[br]they look to the rest of us.

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And when we don’t understand,[br]we lose them.

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So you know while I was making [br]this film several people said to me:

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"Well, Deeyah, you know[br]this is just their culture,

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this is just what those people do to[br]their kids and we can’t really interfere."

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I can assure you,[br]being murdered is not my culture.

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And surely people who look like me, [br]young women who come

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from backgrounds like me,[br]should be subject to the same rights,

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the same protections,[br]as anybody else in our country.

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Why not?

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So, for my next film, I wanted[br]to try and understand why

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some of our young Muslim kids in Europe[br]are drawn to extremism and violence.

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But with that topic,[br]I also recognised

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that I was going to have[br]to face my worst fear.

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The brown men with beards.

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Similar men, to the ones [br]that hounded me for most of my life.

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Men that I’ve been afraid of[br]most of my life.

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Men that I’ve also deeply disliked[br]for many, many years.

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So I spent the next two years[br]interviewing convicted terrorists,

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jihadis and former extremists.

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What I already knew,[br]what was very obvious already,

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was that religion, politics,[br]Europe’s colonial baggage,

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also, you know, Western foreign [br]policy failures of recent years,

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were all a part of the picture.

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But what I was more interested[br]in finding out, was; "What are the human,

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what are the personal reasons[br]why some of our young people

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are susceptible to groups like this."

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And what really surprised me,[br]was that I found wounded human beings.

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Instead of the monsters that I was[br]looking for, that I was hoping to find

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quite frankly because it would have been[br]very satisfying, I found broken people.

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Just like Banaz, I found that[br]these young men were torn apart

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from trying to bridge[br]the gaps between their families,

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and the countries that they were born in.

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And what I also learnt is that[br]extremist groups, terrorist groups,

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are taking advantage of[br]these feelings of our young people,

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and channeling that cynically,[br]channeling that towards violence.

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"Come to us!", they say.

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"Reject both sides, your family and[br]your country, because they reject you.

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For your family, their honour[br]is more important than you,

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and for your country, a real Norwegian, [br]Brit or a French person

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will always be white and never you."

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They are also promising our young people[br]the things that they crave,

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significance, heroism, a sense of[br]belonging and purpose.

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A community that loves and accepts them.[br]They make the powerless feel powerful.

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The invisible and the silent[br]are finally seen and heard.

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This is what they are doing[br]for our young people.

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Why are these groups doing this[br]for our young people and not us?

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The thing is, I’m not trying to[br]justify or excuse any of the violence.

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What I am trying to say,[br]is that we have to understand

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why some of our young people[br]are attracted to this.

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I would like[br]to also show you, actually,

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these are childhood photos[br]of some of the guys in the film.

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What really struck me is [br]that so many of them

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-- I never would have thought this --

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but so many of them have[br]absent of abusive fathers.

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And several of these young guys ended up

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finding caring and compassionate father[br]figures within these extremist groups.

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I also found men brutalized[br]by racist violence,

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but who found a way to stop feeling like[br]victims by becoming violent themselves.

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In fact, I found something[br]to my horror that I recognised.

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I found the same feelings that I felt[br]as a 17 year old, as I fled from Norway.

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The same confusion, the same sorrow,[br]the same feeling of being betrayed.

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And not belonging to anyone.

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The same feeling of being lost[br]and torn between cultures.

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Having said that,[br]I did not choose destruction,

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I chose to pick up a camera,[br]instead of a gun.

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And the reason I did that,[br]is because of my superpower,

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I could see that understanding[br]is the answer, instead of violence.

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Seeing human beings, [br]with all their virtues,

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and all their flaws,

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instead of continuing the caricatures[br]of us and them, the villains and victims.

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I had also finally come to terms[br]with the fact that my two cultures

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didn’t have to be on a collision course,

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but instead became a space[br]where I found my own voice.

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I stopped feeling[br]like I had to pick a side.

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But this took me many, many years.

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There are so many[br]of our young people today

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who are struggling with these same issues,[br]and they are struggling with this alone.

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And this leaves them open like wounds.

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And for some, the world view[br]of radical Islam

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becomes the infection that festers[br]in these open wounds.

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There’s an African proverb that says;

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"If the young are not[br]initiated into the village,

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they will burn it down[br]just to feel its warmth."

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I would like to ask to Muslim parents[br]and Muslim communities,

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will you love and care for your children,

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without forcing them[br]to meet your expectations?

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Can you choose them [br]instead of your honour?

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Can you understand why[br]they’re so angry and alienated,

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when you put your honour[br]before their happiness?

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Can you try to be a friend to your child[br]so that they can trust you,

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and want to share with you[br]their experiences,

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rather than having to seek it[br]somewhere else?

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And to our young people,[br]tempted by extremism,

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can you acknowledge that[br]your rage is fuelled by pain?

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Will you find the strength to resist[br]those cynical old men,

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who want to use your blood[br]for their own profits?

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Can you find a way to live?

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Can you see that the sweetest revenge[br]is for you to live a happy,

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full and free life, a life defined[br]by you and nobody else?

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Why do you want to become[br]just another dead Muslim kid?

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And for the rest of us, when will we[br]start listening to our young people?

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How can we support them[br]in redirecting their pain

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into something more constructive?

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They think we don’t like them, they think[br]we don’t care what happens to them.

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They think we don’t accept them.

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Can we find a way to[br]make them feel differently?

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What will it take for us[br]to see them, and notice them,

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before they become either the victims[br]or the perpetrators of violence?

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Can we make ourselves care about them,[br]and consider them to be our own,

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and not just be outraged when the victims[br]of violence look like ourselves?

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Can we find a way to reject hatred,[br]and heal the divisions between us?

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The thing, is we cannot afford[br]to give up on each other, or on our kids,

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even if they’ve given up on us.[br]We are all in this together.

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And in the long term, revenge and violence[br]will not work against extremists.

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Terrorists want us to huddle[br]in our houses and fear,

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closing our doors and our hearts.

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They want us to tear open[br]more wounds in our societies,

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so that they can use them[br]to spread their infection more widely.

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They want us to become like them,[br]intolerant, hateful and cruel.

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The day after the Paris attacks, a friend[br]of mine sent this photo of her daughter.

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This is a white girl and an Arab girl.[br]They’re best friends.

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This image is the kryptonite[br]for extremists.

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These two little girls,[br]with their superpowers,

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are showing the way forward towards[br]a society that we need to build together.

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A society that includes, and supports,[br]rather than rejects our kids.

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Thank you for listening.

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(Applause)