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Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.68,0:00:16.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I was a child,\NI knew I had superpowers.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.82,0:00:18.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That’s right.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.82,0:00:20.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughs)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.15,0:00:24.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I thought I was absolutely amazing because\NI could understand and relate to
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.65,0:00:30.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the feelings of brown people like\Nmy grandfather, a conservative Muslim guy,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.40,0:00:34.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and also I could understand\Nmy Afghan mother and Pakistani father,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.32,0:00:39.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not so religious but\Nlaid back, fairly liberal.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.30,0:00:43.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And of course I could understand and\Nrelate to the feelings of white people,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.39,0:00:46.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the white Norwegians of my country.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:46.14,0:00:50.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know white, brown,\Nwhatever, I loved them all.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.70,0:00:54.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I understood them all even if they\Ndidn’t always understand each other
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.49,0:00:56.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They were all my people.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.34,0:00:59.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My father though was\Nalways really worried.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.33,0:01:02.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He kept saying that,\Neven with the best education
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.92,0:01:08.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was not going to get a fair shake,\NI would face discrimination,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.54,0:01:12.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,according to him, and the only way\Nto be accepted by white people
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.10,0:01:14.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,would be to become famous.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:14.48,0:01:19.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now mind you, he had this conversation\Nwith me when I was seven years old.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.18,0:01:22.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, while I’m seven years old he said
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.54,0:01:25.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,'Look, so its either got to be sports\Nor its got to be music.'
Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.90,0:01:29.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He didn’t know anything about sports,\Nbless him, so it was music.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.80,0:01:34.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when I was seven years old\Nhe gathered al my toys, all my dolls,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.45,0:01:37.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he threw them all away.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.22,0:01:43.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In exchange he gave me a crappy little\NCasio keyboard, and singing lessons,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.99,0:01:49.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and forced me to practice for hours\Nand hours every single day.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.03,0:01:53.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Very quickly he also had me performing\Nfor larger and larger audiences,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.03,0:01:56.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and bizarrely I became almost
Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.50,0:01:59.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a kind of poster child \Nfor Norwegian multiculturalism.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.50,0:02:04.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt very proud of course because\Neven the newspapers at this point
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.72,0:02:07.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were starting to write\Nnice things about brown people,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.37,0:02:11.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I could feel that\Nmy superpower was growing.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.97,0:02:16.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when I was 12 years old walking home\Nfrom school I took a little detour
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.30,0:02:19.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I wanted to buy\Nmy favourite sweets called 'salty feet'.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.37,0:02:21.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I absolutely loved them.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.17,0:02:26.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,On my way into the store, there was this\Ngrown white guy in the doorway
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.20,0:02:33.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,blocking my way, so I tried to walk around\Nhim, and as I did that he stopped me,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.99,0:02:38.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he was staring at me,\Nand he spit in my face and he said
Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.75,0:02:42.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,‘Get out of my way you little black bitch,\Nyou little Paki bitch, get out of my -
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.72,0:02:49.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,go back home where you came from.’\NI was absolutely horrified.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:49.38,0:02:53.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was staring at him, I was too afraid\Nto wipe the spit off my face,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.78,0:02:57.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even as it was mixing with my tears.\NI remember looking around,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.83,0:03:03.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,hoping any minute now a grownup\Nwas going to come and make this guy stop.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.62,0:03:08.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But instead people kept hurrying past me\Nand pretending not to see me.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.84,0:03:11.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was very confused because I was thinking
Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.81,0:03:16.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,‘Well, my white people come on,\Nwhere are they? What’s going on?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.40,0:03:19.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How come they’re not\Ncoming and rescuing me?’
Dialogue: 0,0:03:19.10,0:03:21.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So needless to say \NI didn’t buy the sweets.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.66,0:03:24.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I just ran home as fast as I could.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.06,0:03:26.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Things were still ok though, I thought.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.62,0:03:29.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As time went on, the more\Nsuccessful I became,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.68,0:03:34.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I eventually started also attracting\Nharassment from brown people.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.88,0:03:41.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some men in my parents community felt that\Nit was unacceptable and dishonorable
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.07,0:03:46.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for a woman to be involved in music,\Nand to be so present in the media.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.58,0:03:53.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So very quickly I was starting to\Nbecome attacked at my own concerts.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.51,0:03:57.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember one of the concerts, I was\Non stage, I lean in to the audience,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.96,0:04:01.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the last thing I see is \Na young brown face,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:01.08,0:04:05.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the next thing I know is some sort\Nof chemical is thrown in my eyes.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.69,0:04:08.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I remember I couldn’t really see,\Nand my eyes were watering,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.95,0:04:11.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I kept singing anyway.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.25,0:04:16.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was spit in the face in the streets\Nof Oslo, this time by brown men.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:16.75,0:04:22.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They even tried to kidnap me at one point.\NThe death threats were endless.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.19,0:04:26.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember one older bearded guy\Nstopped me in the street one time and said
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.08,0:04:29.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,‘The reason I hate you so much is because\Nyou make our daughters think
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.81,0:04:32.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they can do whatever they want.’
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.68,0:04:36.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A younger guy warned me\Nto watch my back, he said
Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.45,0:04:38.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,‘Music is un-Islamic\Nand the job of whores,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:38.88,0:04:43.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and if you keep this up, you are going to\Nbe raped and your stomach will be cut out,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.82,0:04:47.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that another whore\Nlike you will not be born.’
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.70,0:04:51.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Again I was so confused.\NI couldn’t understand what was going on,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.68,0:04:54.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my brown people now\Nstarting to treat me like this.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:54.68,0:04:58.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How come? Instead of bridging \Nthe worlds, the two worlds,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.94,0:05:02.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt like I was falling\Nbetween my two worlds.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.18,0:05:06.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I suppose for me,\Nspit was kryptonite.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.11,0:05:10.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So by the time I was 17 years old\Nthe death threats were endless,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:10.43,0:05:12.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the harassment was constant.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:12.20,0:05:14.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It got so bad at one point\Nmy mother sat me down and said
Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.99,0:05:18.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,‘Look, we can no longer protect you,\Nwe can no longer keep you safe,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.40,0:05:20.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so you’re going to have to go.’
Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.15,0:05:26.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I bought a one-way ticket to London.\NI packed my suitcase, and I left.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:26.12,0:05:30.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My biggest heartbreak at that point\Nwas that nobody said anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:30.69,0:05:33.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had a very public exit from Norway.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.14,0:05:37.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My brown people, my white people,\Nnobody said anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.15,0:05:40.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nobody said; ‘Hold on, this is wrong.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.10,0:05:44.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Support this girl, protect this girl\Nbecause she is one of us.’
Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.26,0:05:47.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nobody said that. Instead I felt like,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.56,0:05:50.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know at the airport,\Non the baggage carousel,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:50.90,0:05:53.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have these different suitcases\Ngoing round and round,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:53.71,0:05:56.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there’s always\Nthat one suitcase left at the end.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:56.19,0:05:59.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The one that nobody wants.\NThe one that nobody comes to claim.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:59.44,0:06:06.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt like that. I’d never felt so alone.\NI’d never felt so lost.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:06.15,0:06:11.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, after coming to London,\NI did eventually resume my music career.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:11.10,0:06:15.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Different place, but unfortunately\Nthe same old story.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:15.46,0:06:19.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember a message sent to me saying\Nthat I was going to be killed,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:19.17,0:06:22.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that rivers of blood\Nwere going to flow,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:22.49,0:06:25.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that I was going to be raped\Nmany times before I died.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:25.56,0:06:27.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,By this point \NI have to tell I was actually
Dialogue: 0,0:06:27.92,0:06:29.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,getting used to messages like this.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:29.77,0:06:34.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what became different was that now\Nthey started threatening my family.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:34.96,0:06:41.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So once again, I packed my suitcase,\NI left music, and I moved to the US.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.07,0:06:44.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I’d had enough. I didn’t want to have\Nanything to do with this anymore.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:44.50,0:06:48.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I was certainly not going to be killed\Nfor something that wasn’t even my dream,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.68,0:06:50.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it was my father’s choice.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:53.03,0:06:57.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I... I kind of got lost, \NI kind of fell apart,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:57.63,0:06:59.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I decided that what I wanted to do is
Dialogue: 0,0:06:59.82,0:07:04.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to spend the next however many years\Nof my life supporting young people,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:04.84,0:07:09.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to try to be there in some small way,\Nwhatever way that I could.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:09.43,0:07:13.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I started volunteering for various\Norganisations that were working
Dialogue: 0,0:07:13.67,0:07:18.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with young Muslims inside of Europe.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:18.25,0:07:23.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And, to my surprise what I found,\Nwas so many of these young people
Dialogue: 0,0:07:23.64,0:07:26.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were suffering and struggling.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:26.40,0:07:30.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They were facing so many problems\Nwith their families and their communities,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:30.37,0:07:33.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who seemed to care more about\Ntheir honour and their reputation
Dialogue: 0,0:07:33.87,0:07:36.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than the happiness and\Nthe lives of their own kids.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:38.38,0:07:42.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I started feeling like maybe I wasn’t\Nso alone, maybe I wasn’t so weird.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:42.47,0:07:45.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe there are more\Nof my people out there.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:45.66,0:07:48.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The thing is what most people\Ndon’t understand,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.11,0:07:52.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that there are so many\Nof us growing up in Europe
Dialogue: 0,0:07:52.36,0:07:57.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who are not free to be ourselves.\NWe are not allowed to be who we are.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:57.47,0:08:02.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are not free to marry,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:02.05,0:08:05.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or to be in relationships \Nwith people that we choose.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:05.05,0:08:06.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can’t even pick our own career.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:06.90,0:08:10.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is the norm in\Nthe Muslim heartlands of Europe.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.42,0:08:13.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even in the freest societies\Nin the world, we're not free.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:13.92,0:08:18.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our lives, our dreams, our future,\Ndoes not belong to us,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:18.10,0:08:21.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it belongs to our parents,\Nand their community.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:21.45,0:08:28.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I found endless stories of young people,\Nwho are lost to all of us,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:28.01,0:08:30.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who are invisible to all of us,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:30.13,0:08:33.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but who are suffering and \Nthey are suffering alone.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:33.78,0:08:36.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Kids that we are losing\Nto forced marriages,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:36.38,0:08:38.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to honour based violence, and abuse.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:39.49,0:08:43.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So eventually I realised, after several\Nyears of working with these young people,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:43.38,0:08:45.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I will not be able to keep running,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:45.52,0:08:50.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can’t spend the rest of my life\Nbeing scared and hiding,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:50.12,0:08:53.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that I’m actually going\Nto have to do something.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:53.93,0:08:57.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I also realised that\Nmy silence, our silence,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:57.14,0:09:00.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,allows abuse like this to continue.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:00.17,0:09:05.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I decided that I wanted to put\Nmy childhood superpower to some use,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:05.47,0:09:08.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by trying to make people on\Nthe different sides of these issues
Dialogue: 0,0:09:08.96,0:09:12.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,understand what \Nit's like to be a young person
Dialogue: 0,0:09:12.63,0:09:15.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,stuck between \Nyour family and your country.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:15.49,0:09:19.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I started making films,\Nand I started telling these stories.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:19.27,0:09:21.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I also wanted people to understand
Dialogue: 0,0:09:21.37,0:09:26.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the deadly consequences of us\Nnot taking these problems seriously.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:26.57,0:09:29.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the first film I made was about Banaz.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:29.78,0:09:33.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was a 17 year old\NKurdish girl in London.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:33.59,0:09:36.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was obedient, she did\Nwhatever her parents wanted.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:36.76,0:09:39.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She tried to do everything right.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:39.69,0:09:42.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She married some guy\Nthat her parent’s chose for her,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:42.34,0:09:45.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even though he beat\Nand raped her constantly.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:45.77,0:09:48.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when she tried to go\Nto her family for help they said
Dialogue: 0,0:09:48.48,0:09:51.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,‘Well, you’ve got to go back\Nand be a better wife.’
Dialogue: 0,0:09:51.05,0:09:53.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because they didn’t want\Na divorced daughter on their hands,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:53.90,0:09:57.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because of course, that would bring\Ndishonor on the family.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:57.47,0:10:00.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was beaten so badly\Nher ears would bleed.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:00.79,0:10:06.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when she finally left, and she found\Na young man that she chose,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:06.49,0:10:10.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she fell in love with, the community\Nand the family found out,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:10.31,0:10:12.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she disappeared.\N
Dialogue: 0,0:10:13.41,0:10:15.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was found three months later.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:15.99,0:10:21.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She’d been stuffed into a suitcase,\Nand buried underneath a house.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:24.59,0:10:28.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She had been strangled,\Nshe had been beaten to death,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:30.00,0:10:35.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by three men, three cousins,\Non the orders of her father and uncle.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:35.11,0:10:37.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The added tragedy of Banaz’s story,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:37.36,0:10:43.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,story is that she had gone to the police\Nin England five times asking for help.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:43.36,0:10:46.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Telling them that she was going\Nto be killed by her family.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:46.30,0:10:49.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The police didn’t believe her,\Nso they didn’t do anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:49.100,0:10:51.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the problem with this,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:51.56,0:10:55.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that not only are so many of\Nour kids facing these problems,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:55.46,0:10:59.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,within their families and\Nwithin their families' communities,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:59.24,0:11:05.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but they are also meeting\Nmisunderstandings and apathy
Dialogue: 0,0:11:05.14,0:11:08.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the countries that they grow up in.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:09.28,0:11:13.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When their own families betray them,\Nthey look to the rest of us.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:13.26,0:11:18.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when we don’t understand,\Nwe lose them.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:18.42,0:11:21.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So you know while I was making \Nthis film several people said to me
Dialogue: 0,0:11:21.60,0:11:24.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,'Well, Deeyah, you know\Nthis is just their culture,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:24.18,0:11:28.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is just what those people do to\Ntheir kids and we can’t really interfere.’
Dialogue: 0,0:11:28.83,0:11:33.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can assure you,\Nbeing murdered is not my culture.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:33.08,0:11:37.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And surely people who look like me, \Nyoung women who come
Dialogue: 0,0:11:37.12,0:11:41.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from backgrounds like me,\Nshould be subject to the same rights,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:41.00,0:11:44.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the same protections,\Nas anybody else in our country.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:44.96,0:11:47.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why not?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:47.27,0:11:52.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, for my next film, I wanted\Nto try and understand why
Dialogue: 0,0:11:52.71,0:11:57.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,some of our young Muslim kids in Europe\Nare drawn to extremism and violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:57.38,0:12:00.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But with that topic,\NI also recognised
Dialogue: 0,0:12:00.28,0:12:03.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I was going to have\Nto face my worst fear.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:04.21,0:12:07.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The brown men with beards.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:07.97,0:12:12.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Similar men, to the ones \Nthat hounded me for most of my life.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:13.05,0:12:15.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Men that I’ve been afraid of\Nmost of my life.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:15.92,0:12:20.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Men that I’ve also deeply disliked\Nfor many, many years.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:20.55,0:12:24.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I spent the next two years\Ninterviewing convicted terrorists,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:24.55,0:12:26.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,jihadis and former extremists.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:26.94,0:12:30.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What I already knew,\Nwhat was very obvious already,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:30.97,0:12:35.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was that religion, politics,\NEurope’s colonial baggage,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:35.54,0:12:39.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,also Western foreign policy failures\Nof recent years,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:39.78,0:12:41.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were all a part of the picture.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:41.94,0:12:45.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what I was more interested\Nin finding out, was what are the human,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:45.33,0:12:49.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what are the personal reasons\Nwhy some of our young people
Dialogue: 0,0:12:49.41,0:12:52.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are susceptible to groups like this.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:52.44,0:12:57.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what really surprised me,\Nwas that I found wounded human beings.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:58.91,0:13:02.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Instead of the monsters that I was\Nlooking for, that I was hoping to find
Dialogue: 0,0:13:02.90,0:13:08.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,quite frankly because it would have been\Nvery satisfying, I found broken people.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:08.90,0:13:13.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just like Banaz, I found that\Nthese young men were torn apart
Dialogue: 0,0:13:13.95,0:13:17.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from trying to bridge\Nthe gaps between their families,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:17.83,0:13:21.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the countries that they were born in.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:21.03,0:13:24.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what I also learnt is that\Nextremist groups, terrorist groups,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:24.47,0:13:27.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are taking advantage of\Nthese feelings of our young people,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:27.80,0:13:31.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and channeling that cynically,\Nchanneling that towards violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:31.98,0:13:33.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,‘Come to us!’, they say.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:33.77,0:13:37.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,‘Reject both sides, your family and\Nyour country, because they reject you.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:37.95,0:13:41.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For your family, their honour\Nis more important than you,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:41.08,0:13:45.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and for your country, a real Norwegian, \NBrit or a French person
Dialogue: 0,0:13:45.39,0:13:49.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,will always be white and never you.’
Dialogue: 0,0:13:49.26,0:13:52.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are also promising our young people\Nthe things that they crave,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:52.84,0:13:57.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,significance, heroism, a sense of\Nbelonging and purpose.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:57.35,0:14:03.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A community that loves and accepts them.\NThey make the powerless feel powerful.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:03.62,0:14:09.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The invisible and the silent\Nare finally seen and heard.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:11.21,0:14:14.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is what they are doing\Nfor our young people.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:14.08,0:14:18.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why are these groups doing this\Nfor our young people and not us?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:20.06,0:14:28.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The thing is, I’m not trying to\Njustify or excuse any of the violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:28.83,0:14:32.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What I am trying to say,\Nis that we have to understand
Dialogue: 0,0:14:32.31,0:14:35.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why some of our young people\Nare attracted to this.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:37.12,0:14:39.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would like\Nto also show you, actually,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:39.32,0:14:43.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,these are childhood photos\Nof some of the guys in the film.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:44.78,0:14:47.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What really struck me is \Nthat so many of them
Dialogue: 0,0:14:49.04,0:14:51.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,-- I never would have thought this --
Dialogue: 0,0:14:51.01,0:14:54.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but so many of them have\Nabsent of abusive fathers.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:54.51,0:14:57.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And several of these young guys ended up
Dialogue: 0,0:14:57.15,0:15:03.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,finding caring and compassionate father\Nfigures within these extremist groups.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:04.52,0:15:08.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also found men brutalized\Nby racist violence,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:08.13,0:15:12.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but who found a way to stop feeling like\Nvictims by becoming violent themselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:12.49,0:15:17.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In fact, I found something\Nto my horror that I recognised.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:17.78,0:15:24.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I found the same feelings that I felt\Nas a 17 year old, as I fled from Norway.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:25.36,0:15:32.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The same confusion, the same sorrow,\Nthe same feeling of being betrayed.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:33.70,0:15:37.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And not belonging to anyone.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:38.40,0:15:42.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The same feeling of being lost\Nand torn between cultures.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:42.77,0:15:45.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Having said that,\NI did not choose destruction,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:45.18,0:15:47.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I chose to pick up a camera,\Ninstead of a gun.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:47.100,0:15:51.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the reason I did that,\Nis because of my superpower,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:51.29,0:15:56.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I could see that understanding\Nis the answer, instead of violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:56.19,0:15:59.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Seeing human beings, \Nwith all their virtues,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:59.50,0:16:01.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and all their flaws,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:01.55,0:16:05.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,instead of continuing the caricatures\Nof us and them, the villains and victims.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:05.84,0:16:10.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had also finally come to terms\Nwith the fact that my two cultures
Dialogue: 0,0:16:10.22,0:16:12.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,didn’t have to be on a collision course,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:12.22,0:16:15.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but instead became a space\Nwhere I found my own voice.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:15.77,0:16:18.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I stopped feeling\Nlike I had to pick a side.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:18.17,0:16:21.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But this took me many, many years.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:21.22,0:16:23.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are so many\Nof our young people today
Dialogue: 0,0:16:23.28,0:16:28.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who are struggling with these same issues,\Nand they are struggling with this alone.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:28.84,0:16:31.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this leaves them open like wounds.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:32.70,0:16:35.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And for some, the world view\Nof radical Islam
Dialogue: 0,0:16:35.27,0:16:39.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,becomes the infection that festers\Nin these open wounds.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:40.68,0:16:44.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There’s an African proverb that says
Dialogue: 0,0:16:45.65,0:16:48.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,‘If the young are not\Ninitiated into the village,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:48.88,0:16:52.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they will burn it down\Njust to feel its warmth.’
Dialogue: 0,0:16:52.74,0:16:57.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would like to ask to Muslim parents\Nand Muslim communities,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:57.57,0:17:00.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,will you love and care for your children,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:00.68,0:17:03.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without forcing them\Nto meet your expectations?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:03.28,0:17:05.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you choose them \Ninstead of your honour?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:05.66,0:17:09.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you understand why\Nthey’re so angry and alienated,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:09.23,0:17:11.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you put your honour\Nbefore their happiness?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:11.89,0:17:16.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you try to be a friend to your child\Nso that they can trust you,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:16.51,0:17:19.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and want to share with you\Ntheir experiences,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:19.34,0:17:22.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,rather than having to seek it\Nsomewhere else?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:22.01,0:17:25.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And to our young people,\Ntempted by extremism,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:25.88,0:17:30.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can you acknowledge that\Nyour rage is fuelled by pain?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:31.52,0:17:34.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Will you find the strength to resist\Nthose cynical old men,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:34.89,0:17:38.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who want to use your blood\Nfor their own profits?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:38.46,0:17:41.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you find a way to live?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:41.63,0:17:45.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you see that the sweetest revenge\Nis for you to live a happy,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:45.82,0:17:50.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,full and free life, a life defined\Nby you and nobody else?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:50.46,0:17:55.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why do you want to become\Njust another dead Muslim kid?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:55.05,0:17:59.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And for the rest of us, when will we\Nstart listening to our young people?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:59.73,0:18:03.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How can we support them\Nin redirecting their pain
Dialogue: 0,0:18:03.33,0:18:06.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,into something more constructive?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:06.33,0:18:10.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They think we don’t like them, they think\Nwe don’t care what happens to them.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:10.56,0:18:12.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They think we don’t accept them.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:12.73,0:18:16.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can we find a way to\Nmake them feel differently?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:16.29,0:18:19.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What will it take for us\Nto see them, and notice them,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:19.66,0:18:24.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,before they become either the victims\Nor the perpetrators of violence?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:24.99,0:18:28.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can we make ourselves care about them,\Nand consider them to be our own,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:28.37,0:18:33.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and not just be outraged when the victims\Nof violence look like ourselves?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:33.64,0:18:38.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can we find a way to reject hatred,\Nand heal the divisions between us?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:38.53,0:18:42.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The thing, is we cannot afford\Nto give up on each other, or on our kids,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:42.54,0:18:46.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if they’ve given up on us.\NWe are all in this together.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:46.54,0:18:52.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in the long term, revenge and violence\Nwill not work against extremists.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:52.86,0:18:57.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Terrorists want us to huddle\Nin our houses and fear,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:57.29,0:18:58.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,closing our doors and our hearts.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:58.99,0:19:02.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They want us to tear open\Nmore wounds in our societies,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:02.84,0:19:06.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that they can use them\Nto spread their infection more widely.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:06.90,0:19:12.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They want us to become like them,\Nintolerant, hateful and cruel.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:13.90,0:19:20.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The day after the Paris attacks, a friend\Nof mine sent this photo of her daughter.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:20.66,0:19:24.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is a white girl and an Arab girl.\NThey’re best friends.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:24.74,0:19:29.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This image is the kryptonite\Nfor extremists.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:30.49,0:19:34.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These two little girls,\Nwith their superpowers,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:34.07,0:19:39.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are showing the way forward towards\Na society that we need to build together.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:39.68,0:19:47.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A society that includes, and supports,\Nrather than rejects our kids.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:47.62,0:19:49.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you for listening.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:49.45,0:19:51.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)