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OSHO TALKS: silence shared in words

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OSHO International Foundation presents

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Making Love A Sacred Experience

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Just a simple method of meditation to suggest to Latin lovers,

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so they may find their way?

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The simplest method

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for lovers is, while they are making love

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they should make it a

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sacred experience.

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All the religions have destroyed

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the sacredness of love.

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They have condemned it as sin.

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And the conditioning has gone so deep

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in the human mind

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that people are making love in such a hurry,

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as if

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they want to finish it as quickly as possible.

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Naturally, if it is a sin

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it is better finished soon.

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Their hearts are guilt-ridden,

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their minds completely full of sin.

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If lovers want to make love a meditative experience,

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then the first thing is to drop the idea that it is sin,

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that it is something wrong.

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It is something

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immensely beautiful,

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a tremendous gift of nature,

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of existence, for which you should not be guilty,

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you should be grateful!

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And to show your gratefulness

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you have to make

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a special place for it.

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Every house and every couple which can afford it

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should have a separate room just for love:

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no other vibe there --

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no fight, no argument,

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no throwing of pillows.

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They should enter the room after taking a bath,

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as if they are going into a temple.

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The room should be full of

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beautiful burning incense;

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there should not be glaring lights --

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just candles, dim light.

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And they should not be in a hurry,

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because the foreplay is immensely important,

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for the simple reason that the woman's whole body is erotic.

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Man's whole body is not erotic;

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his sexuality is local,

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just

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limited to his genitalia.

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But the woman's whole body is erotic,

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and unless her whole body starts

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throbbing

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with joy, with ecstasy,

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she will not have any orgasmic experience.

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If the man plays enough with the woman's body,

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the woman plays enough with the man's body...

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and the meditation technique is:

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while you are playing with each other's body,

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remain a witness,

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don't get identified.

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So there are four persons, not two:

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the woman and the witness inside,

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the man and the witness inside.

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The witness is simply watching what the man is doing to the woman,

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what the woman is doing to the man.

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The witness has no

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judgment of good and bad; it is simply like a mirror,

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showing what is happening.

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This witnessing is nothing but awareness,

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alertness, consciousness.

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And particularly in the foreplay,

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if you are conscious, alert,

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then there is a possibility

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you both will know the exact time

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when your bodies are ready to make love.

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You will feel the bio-electricity of each other's body.

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When you start making love, don't be in a hurry.

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Let the woman be always on top.

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The missionary posture

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is the worst posture in the whole world.

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In the East

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nobody knew before the Christians reached there

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that the man can be on top of the woman.

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It is so brutal,

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it is so ugly.

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The woman is delicate,

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and a huge

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animal

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is doing pushups over the poor woman!

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In India it is called the missionary posture,

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because it became known only when missionaries came to India.

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They made India aware that this too is possible;

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otherwise, the woman is always to be on top.

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And scientifically

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it is right that the woman should be on top,

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because then she can be more active

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and the man can be less active.

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If the man is on top, the woman cannot be more active,

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the man is more active.

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If he is more active, he comes to his ejaculation very soon,

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and the woman

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has not yet come to the point where she can have an orgasm.

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If the woman is on top and she is active,

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and the man remains inactive,

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there is every possibility

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that by the time the woman

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comes to orgasm

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the man will be coming to orgasm.

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And if both come to orgasm at the same time,

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then there is a tremendous meeting and merging,

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as if bodies disappear

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and two souls are no longer two souls,

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two beings are no longer two beings.

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And the witnessing continues.

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That is your inner work of meditation that goes on:

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you are witnessing.

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After

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your orgasm has settled,

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slowly slowly disappearing, watch it.

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Watch as it is coming up,

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watch as it explodes,

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watch as it starts settling back again

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to the normal

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state of your bodies.

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Then don't be in a hurry to separate from each other;

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remain together for awhile.

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In tantra that is called valley orgasm.

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That is not known to millions of people.

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The first orgasm was peak orgasm.

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You had met together

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on a peak of your energy,

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now the peak has disappeared.

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But every peak has a valley by its side;

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without a valley there can be no peak.

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So if you can remain silently watching

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together,

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you will be amazed:

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there is another orgasm with a totally different beauty,

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a different depth,

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a different joy --

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the valley orgasm.

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Until the valley orgasm disappears and you come back again to normal,

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don't separate.

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Meanwhile, all the time the witnessing continues.

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When you separate,

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don't just

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start going to sleep.

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Something very essential is still there,

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and that is the afterplay.

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You have made such

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a turmoil in the whole energy of each other's

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bodies, minds,

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that it is needed. You massage each other's body,

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play with each other's body,

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and have beautiful incense, flowers, candlelight, music...

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if you feel like dancing, you dance.

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But the witnessing continues.

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Why am I insisting that witnessing continues?

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I am emphasizing it because if you do it many times,

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then one day you can try just witnessing,

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without your man, without your woman -- alone.

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In the same room,

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in the same atmosphere,

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with the same incense

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which creates the same memories;

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the same light,

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the same milieu,

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you start simply witnessing, sitting there.

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And you are in for a great surprise.

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All that has been happening with the woman

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starts happening

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just inside you,

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without the woman or without the man.

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You start moving slowly to the peak orgasm --

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the same experience

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with no physical, no biological expression --

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and you reach to the valley orgasm,

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the same experience.

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You have learned meditation through love,

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and you have also learned

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love through meditation;

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they will go on enriching each other.

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This will bring maturity

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to both the persons,

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and the maturity will release

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their repressed intelligence,

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awareness,

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lovingness, compassion.

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And it will destroy jealousy, anger, hatred.

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It will bring tremendous changes in you.

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Those changes will be the proof

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that you are on the right track.

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Source: The Last Testament, Vol.3, #14 Copyright © Osho International Foundation, Switzerland.

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