The Divine Feminine(How to Awaken The Divine Feminine Within You)[subtitles
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hello everyone. today's subject
is divine feminine.

I want to preface this episode by saying that
all beings have aspects of divine feminine

and divine masculine present within them.

but this particular episode
is designed and aimed

at those who are born into this
physical reality as females.

who are resisting the Divine
Feminine within them.

who wish to come into more alignment
with the feminine essence.

which they chose to come in with

when they chose the incarnation of
a female body for this life.

part of living from the heart and living with
integrity is to come into alignment

with the essence of who we really are.

and as women and as a human society we have been in resistance
to the Divine Feminine within us for far too long.

this third dimension which we exist in system is the
dimension based on the idea of contrast.

now, contrast meaning polar energies.

I know what I don't want
so I know what I do want.

part of what develops out of polar
energies is duality from unity.

so if we look at the universe
in terms of unity

the dual aspect within that
unity is god and goddess

and translated into the physical dimension
that is man and woman.

yin and yang.

the Divine Feminine is the goddess.

The divine masculine is God.

divine feminine energy represents these
aspects within the universe.

restoration, life, renewal,
creation, birth, healing,

receptivity, openness, nurturing,
love, understanding, compassion,

insight, intuition, wisdom, forgiveness, the
moon, connection, harmony and sensuality.

to come into the expression of your own divine feminine
is to search for and connect with these energies.

these things which are representative of divine feminine
within our being and allow those to express themselves.

it's understandable why many
of us haven't done this.

in our modern day society, it's extremely
hard to cultivate open receptivity

when you're competing in the workplace like
somebody of us are doing as women.

but our health as women is
dependent on us

allowing ourselves to come into contact with these
things which we have suppressed.

these aspects of divine feminine and allowing those
aspects of our true selves to express themselves.

our womanhood is unique, meaning that each woman is unique
expression of divine feminine.

what that means is, we're not looking to
conform to any archetypal idea of what

womanhood or divine feminine is or isn't.

we are looking to define what it is for
us to allow our own divine feminine.

to flow through us to express
into this physical dimension.

this is about releasing the things that
disallow our true feminine essence.

for radiating through us and
reclaiming who we really are.

many of us have built our
lives and our image

either in resistance to the traditional
idea of what feminine should be.

or in support of the traditional
idea of what feminine should be.

this is a problem because neither course
of action represents our true selves.

neither allows us to be who
we really are.

instead of being genuine to our true feelings
relative to our feminine identity.

we spend our time rebelling against
expectations

or embracing expectations that we
don't actually enjoy.

because we desperately want
acceptance and approval.

we should ask ourselves.

is there any part of the traditional gender
role of being female that we actually enjoy?

for example, do we actually enjoy wearing
high heels or makeup

because we enjoy the unique and creative image
we are projecting to the world?

are we using these things to
highlight our femininity?

or do we do it because we feel we are not adequate without it?

and must simply
do it because we are female?

do we enjoy the idea of a man
being a provider

because it is fun to experience a person loving us enough
to support our physical needs and wants?

or are we accepting a man as a provider
because we do not feel capable?

the answer will vary from woman to woman
and then we need to ask ourselves.

does the answer we receive come from a good
emotional space or a negative emotional space?

i'll give you a personal example, a while
ago I stopped wearing makeup all together.

the reason is i started to get really frustrated at the fact that cosmos companies
were selling the idea that women were not good enough naturally as they wake up.

I started getting really frustrated the
idea that men can just roll out of bed,

just throw their clothes on

and in 10 minutes they
are in their car.

whereas we are expected to perfect
ourselves before we leave the house.

it made me just mad enough that I stopped
wearing makeup all together.

and then I ask myself.

does it mean, not wearing makeup have to do with the
fact that it simply doesn't add to my happiness

or does it come from a place
of extreme resistance?

know what I know about the universe

i understand the resistance is total
disallowing of who we really are.

you can't be in an aspect of happiness
and be resistant at the same time.

so i started to explore
my idea about makeup.

what did I find? I actually love it.

I'm an artist at heart.

i love the idea that i can highlight
what I want to show to the world.

I get to choose what aspects of myself.

i get to highlight or diminish.

I get to choose what colors I wear.

my face has become like a canvas and it is from that
space of pure enjoyment which I put on makeup now.

not the idea that i'm not good enough
without it.

which is what makes make up an
appropriate decision for me.

may not be an appropriate
decision for all women.

to me wearing makeup feels
like empowerment

not powerlessness to the idea that i'm
not good enough without makeup.

which is how it was before.

so for me the traditional gender role of a woman
wearing makeup is right for me personally.

or another woman might ask the same question
and decide that is not right for her.

here's another story, I was raised with
a mother who is a seething feminist.

my mother is a byproduct
of the sixties.

she was a part of the woman's
rights movement

and so my mother has been in resistance
to her own femininity for years.

ironically under the guise that she is
for femininity.

she has also been rejecting the
traditional view of femininity for years.

she dressed like a man.

she burned her bra's in public.

these are all demonstrations
of rebellion.

and so of course by virtue
of her resistance

she managed to manifest a daughter who is all about
lipstick, push up bra's and high heels.

but what did this mean
for me as a child.

it meant that my mother went to great lengths to
exclude anything pink for my wardrobe and toys.

I got the message very young that pink was the color for
girly girls and the girly girls were powerless, weak,

pathetic and at the very least to blame
for the continual tyranny of men.

I was repulsed by pink growing up because
of that idea that I was raised with.

I look down on women who identified with pink as
inferior and as a discredit to my own gender.

but when I went through therapy
several years ago

i was asked to think of a color during the visualization
which felt safe to me and pink kept coming up.

so i decided to question my thoughts about
pink and what i found is I love pink.

it is one of my favorite colors and
yes, it feels very safe to me.

so the reason I was in resistance to pink had
nothing to do with the color or in that itself.

had to do with the fact that i was
associating it with something.

something which I saw
is negative.

something which I saw is powerless.

and so I had rejected an aspect of my femininity
relative to pink because of that ideal.

so for me coming into alignment with
divine feminine was to embrace pink.

the thing about life in general is that if we are committed
to living the kind of life that makes us happy.

we need to commit to only keeping beliefs
and practices that add to our happiness.

this means that many of us during this
process of embracing our own divine feminine nature

will be embracing things
that are traditionally seen as feminine.

while some of us will
be discarding them.

the goal as far as embracing our femininity goes is taking
the time as an individual not as the female race.

to decide what works for
you and what doesn't.

what serves your personal happiness and
what doesn't.

we do not have to and should not get rid
of beliefs and practices that work for us.

based on the fact that other people have
decided that it doesn't work for them.

we simply need to be very honest with ourselves
about what does and does not work for us.

here are some suggestions which will
help you tap into your Divine Feminine essence.

the first being
create.

feminine essence, Divine Feminine is all about creation.

that is why as women we create life. so to come
to contact with your own divine feminine

you need to learn how to
allow yourself to create.

one of the best ways to do
this is to start doing art.

there's not one art form that a superior
or inferior to any other.

you'll find that your unique creation best expresses
itself through this type of art be at collage

or this type of art be at painting

or this type of art being dance.

there's no limit to the way
that you could create.

but for those of you that feel especially blocked relative
to allowing yourself to create some kind of art.

I suggest picking up the
book "The Artist's Way".

The Artist Way by Julia

Cameron is designed specifically to help people
who do not naturally create by way of doing art.

to come into alignment with the aspect of them
that does want to create through art

and to allow that side to become unblocked

and flow unrestricted into the physical dimension.

the second suggestion
is to collaborate.

come together as women.

one of the most healing things when it comes to
the divine feminine essence expressing itself

is to collect yourself together
as a group of women.

to set it up or attend groups
oriented towards women.

come together for the sole purpose of healing
and expressing your own feminine essence.

what is it to be a woman?

get together and talk about it.

several cultures in our ancient
past understood this.

in fact this principle of women unifying in order to
allow their feminine essence to express itself

is the idea behind the entire
Red Tent movement.

my favorite thing to do is to do a
woman's group where I invite a bunch of women

over to the house and we do a
meditation on the womb.

so what we do in meditation,
is after we breathe

enough to Center our minds we visualize ourselves
sitting in our own wombs.

we observe our wombs.

we observe the way that we're
feeling relative to our wombs.

and then we're treating our wombs
as if it is a separate entity.

we ask any question we want to ask it.

we asking about how its feeling?

what it wants?

what bad memories it holds?

you can hold groups which are centered around
a feminine subjects such as periods

or motherhood and open up the
floor for discussion.

it's incredible the kind of healing that
can occur when women are opening up

about their own womanhood to each other.

there's no right or wrong
way to do this

and you can trust that when you gather women in the room the
energy will always go in the direction of healing.

I do have to interject caveat here.

usually when women gather into women
groups there is a no guys allowed policy.

but i want to remind you that exclusion is the
exact opposite of divine feminine essence.

Divine Feminine is all about
inclusion.

separation of the sexes is part of what fuels the
fire and misunderstanding between us.

so I don't want you to think that I'm saying
that you need to hold only women groups

in fact if men want to participate in these gatherings
then consider yourself in good company.

this means, the men in your life or not
threatened by the divine feminine.

and so it will be that much easier for
you to express yours around them.

I am simply suggesting that you gather
together as a group of women because of

the fact that it can be so healing
to the divine feminine.

and other women can help you to come into
alignment with your Divine Feminine.

it also seems quite difficult for many women to express
their divine femininity with a man in the room.

this is not how it is naturally, this is simply the byproduct
of women being taught to suppress their femininity.

it is a byproduct of embarrassment
and shame that we do not feel

as if we can open up with ourselves as
women when a man is present.

but having an open minded
curious man present

or several present at these gatherings
can actually help us

as women to learn that we can unleash
the Divine Feminine around men.

think of it as rehab.

besides we are always complaining that
men do not understand us

so help them out, open up and maybe they will.

explore your sensuality

divine Feminine is known as Beauty incarnate and so
it is time to celebrate beauty in your life.

do your surroundings reflect sensuality?

are they aesthetically pleasing to you?
if not it's time to redecorate.

surround yourself and aesthetically
pleasing things.

allow yourself to enjoy a sensual pleasures whether
it's a warm bubble bath or fragrances you like.

surround yourself in color.

and it is time to begin exploring
your own sexuality.

our bodies should never
be off-limits to us

it is incredibly important that
we explore our bodies

that we learn how to sexually pleasure ourselves as women.

if we don't do this we're never going to be
able to find sexual pleasure with a partner.

so for those of you that feel cut off
from the side of your life.

I suggest a book called "Getting Off" by
Jamye Waxman.

there's a double benefit to this aspect
of sensuality.

if you learn how to pleasure yourself
sexually as a woman

you'll be releasing tons and tons
of stress relieving chemicals

and when you do that it helps
your hormones balance out.

the next suggestion is to
explore, question and heal.

your ideas and beliefs and feelings relative
to motherhood and relative to your own mother.

it doesn't really matter whether you're
planning on having children are not.

many of us have unhealthy ideas
and feelings about motherhood.

either we are in an unhealthy state of resistance about
it or we feel that it is our only mission as women.

as if it is our only way to have significance
and justify our existence.

neither of these ways of being as
healthy and neither of them makes us healthy as individuals

or as mothers
when we do end up having children.

also your first introduction to divine feminine
is your relationship with your mother.

and so if you have any kind of problems with your
mother then you have resistance to divine feminine.

part of your process of coming into your own feminine essence
is to examine and heal that relationship within yourself.

for some of us this is a tall order.

don't worry this doesn't mean you have
to reconnect with your mother physically.

it doesn't mean you have to become best
friends.

she does not even have to be alive.

but it means we need to separate
ourselves from her.

so we can shut off all the damaging
ideas she passed on to us.

we need to forgive her for
her damaging perceptions.

we need to set ourselves
free from her.

and we will find that once we distance
ourselves mentally from her regime.

we can learn to be ourselves
who we choose to be fully.

and only then can we make
peace with our mothers.

and it is only when we make peace
with our mothers

that we can truly embody the Divine
Feminine and within us.

examine your current perspective
of womanhood.

explore the current perspective of womanhood
and what it meant to be female in your family.

and explore what it means to be
female in your greater Society.

it's important that we examine the gender
roles that exist within the society

of where we grew up where we live
in the world specifically.

because this set up our beliefs relative to femininity
and many of those beliefs get in the way.

so what does it mean to be female?

this is going to vary based
on where you live.

it's going to vary based on where you
live even within the same country.

for example, where i live in America the
traditional rule of being female entails.

make up

high heels

birth control pills

concealing periods with
tampons and pads

dresses

wearing bras

shaved legs and armpits

getting married

raising children

cooking

cleaning

kindness and caretaking

not managing the household money

not having careers

self-sacrificing to remain virtuous

shopping

decorating the household

and allowing men to do the heavy lifting
or manual labor jobs for us.

you want to examine the ones that
you connect with and enjoy.

and the ones that you do not connect
with and do not enjoy.

which ones do you feel personally reflect divine
feminine and which ones do you feel suppress it.

I want to tell you a little story
about my next door neighbor.

on the street where I live is a woman who
is a stay-at-home mom she raises two sons.

this woman has become the bane of my existence
because she loves being a mother so much.

seems like every time I
look outside the window.

she's skipping along the street with her children and
she's waiting for them to come home from school.

she's baking cookies and delivering
them around the neighborhood.

now every time this woman interacts with me it highlights
my own sense of insignificance as a mother.

I feel like a terrible example

because i can't seem to feel that same sense of joy when
i'm staying at home raising my children.

now for a long long time I felt
inadequate super inadequate.

every time I ran into this woman I would
feel worse and worse about myself.

and then I sat down and I
ask myself the question.

do I really want to live the kind
of life that she's living?

or do I feel this kind
of envy for her

because I think I should feel that way relative
to raising children and I don't?

the answer was, I feel miserable when
i'm sitting at home raising children.

I've got all these goals worldly goals and that's
what my true passion is and i love my son.

I love him more than
anything in the world.

but the idea of being the one who
stays home and raises him

while the men in my life goes out and works
feels like prison to me.

and so for me expressing my own divine feminine
does not mean staying at home

and being the sole person
who raises my child.

while the man in my life
goes out and works.

where that may actually be the expression of
divine feminine within my neighbor.

for me it does not mean
I'm any less of a mother.

raising my child the way I raised my child
as opposed to the way she raises her child.

I am a different kind of mother.

that is because the divine
essence within me

Divine Feminine expresses itself relative
to Motherhood differently.

than her divine feminine expresses
itself relative to mothering.

so staying home to raise children
feels like prison to me

where as much to the dismay of the
podiatrist in this nation.

I love wearing high heels.

to me it makes me feel elegant it highlights the Divine
Feminine within me quite nicely and so I wear high heels.

speaking of which you will find
relative to divine feminine

but there are some aspects of divine feminine
which you are perfectly in alignment with.

while others you are very out
of alignment with.

for example, I am perfectly in alignment with sensuality
relative to divine feminine.

that is an aspect of my life which i have healed
and I've come totally into alignment with.

which is why so many of you feel the intense sexual energy
behind these videos behind my presence in general.

whereas I am not healed relative to the Divine
Feminine when it comes to motherhood.

so for me learning how to allow the
divine feminine within me to express itself.

means coming into an aspect of healing
relative to motherhood.

6 get in touch with your intuition.

this means, listen to your emotions.

a woman who is run by logic is women who is profoundly
out of touch with her own divine feminine.

womanhood is a receptive
state of being.

receptivity means, we do not build walls around ourselves
instead we are in a state of profound openness.

and part of what comes with that

openness is receptivity to that which
is beyond the physical dimension.

part of what comes with that openness
is receptivity to other people.

so the question to ask yourself
is, do i shut people out?

if you find that you shut people out.

if you build walls against them.

if you withdraw.

if you escaped.

you are not expressing your
own divine feminine.

7 cultivate openness love compassion and gentleness
towards the world and towards yourself.

I want to reiterate that this does not just apply
to others but it also applies to yourself.

in our modern society we push ourselves so hard every day there
seems to be no room for these qualities within ourselves.

but we are developing breast
cancer because of it.

we are dying because of it.

our delicate biochemistry cannot keep
up with what we are doing to it.

spiritual practice will always help you get in
touch with these divine feminine qualities.

if you are watching this video you
have already begun the process.

so i want you to choose 3 changes that
you can make on a weekly basis.

to allow these traits, these qualities
to express themselves in your life.

for example, you could commit once a week to calling a friend
for the pure intention of listening really listening to them.

not with a judgmental mind.

just for the sake of finding compassion
and pure understanding for them.

or you could write affirmations on papers
and carry them with you in your purse.

and hand them out to random people or
place them on random car windshields.

so when the driver gets back they can
see this note on the windshield

and receive some sort of affirmation
from the universe.

that's a perfect expression
of divine feminine energy.

or you could commit to doing one
kind thing for you each day. one

thing for yourself.

for example, go get
yourself a pedicure.

buy yourself that thing
you've always wanted.

let yourself go to sleep instead of
finishing that project.

it's important that you know that you can trust
yourself to know what is right for you to do.

you can trust that you know what
you need to do in your life

in order to allow the Divine Feminine
to express itself.

it's been trying to all along.

it's been knocking at the door
and so you know it's there.

8 do meditations that are aimed specifically
at connecting to the Divine Feminine.

there is no right or wrong
way to do this

you can invent your own if you like but hundreds
of these meditations can be found online.

guided meditations are
extremely effective

and a lot of people have great ideas about how to go about
connecting with your divine feminine essence.

if you type Divine Feminine
Meditation in to youtube.

you'll be bombarded with all
kinds of meditations to try.

so my suggestion is to do
any of them in all of them.

the worst that can happen
is you find one that works.

examine your resistance relative to every
aspect of being female on any level.

such as the spiritual, mental,
physical, or societal level.

resistance is a word we use to describe
the energy behind negative emotion.

do you have resistance therefore negative
emotion relative to your periods.

do you have resistance
to natural birth?

do you have resistance relative
to being a wife?

do you have resistance relative
to your own breasts?

do you have resistance relative
to wearing dresses?

do you have resistance to wearing or not
wearing makeup?

do you have resistance towards
being open with others?

if you have resistance in any area of your life relative
to any aspect of reality that you identify as female.

then you have something in the way
of divine feminine within you.

try to find your core beliefs relative to the resistance
you feel and then release those core beliefs.

nothing helps Divine Feminine
shine through

better than releasing our resistance relative to the
things that you associate with femininity.

for example, you do not need to wear dresses in
order to express the Divine Feminine within you.

but if you have resistance to dresses you are
suppressing the Divine Feminine within you.

we need to be willing to heal
our negative emotions

relative to anything that we identify as female in
order to set the female within us free.

divine feminine does not need
to be cultivated or created.

it is the essence of who you are in this life
if you have come in as physically female.

there are some exceptions to
this rule.

but for most of us, we have come in with the express intention
of embodying divine feminine.

the reason I tell you that
it's important to know

that you do not need to cultivate Divine Feminine
is because it is important to understand

that this is not going to be a process which is
super super difficult.

it's not like you have to come in and clear everything
that's in the way of divine feminine.

and then work towards
becoming a woman.

this is how it goes, divine feminine
being the essence of who you are

is always there ever-present like
a light behind a window.

the same as worth is like a light behind
a window.

all you need to do is to start wiping the filament out from
in front of that light so the light can shine through.

all we need to do is to clear the thoughts and actions
which are preventing that divine feminine from showing.

for the Divine Feminine
to show through.

the only thing that's preventing our divine feminine
from coming through the physical dimension.

through our thoughts words and actions are the thoughts
words and actions that we use which get in the way of it.

in other words if we begin to release
the things which are obscuring.

the essence of who we are in our aspect of divine
feminine are divine feminine will shine through.

the icing on the cake of this process of coming into divine
feminine can be highlighted i think by reading a book.

which I've actually been reading this last month
it's called "Woman Code" by Alisa Vitti.

here's the book for any of you that want
to get it.

it's incredible book i'm quite
impressed with it

even though I don't agree with every single aspect
of this book most of it has blown my mind.

I was not aware of how much i was even in resistance
to relative to my own femininity.

in fact I believed for a lot of years.

like I said in the last video that there are just some things
that come along with being female which are our cross to bear.

this book really changed my mind about that and that's
pretty impressive when any kind of book changes my mind.

so I'd suggest that any of you
who are women read this book.

it will help you in this complicated modern society
to come into alignment with what it is to be a woman.

it will help you become more healthy.

and it's super important to understand and i
can tell you this just as a medical intuitive.

that so much of the reason that we as women suffer
here is because our very delicate biochemistry.

our hormones are way out of balance.

most women i know have hormonal imbalance
problems it's a pervasive issue.

in this book really helps you to
understand how to live your life.

how to structure it so that your hormones will
remain in balance instead of masking symptoms.

let's face it it's exhausting suppressing the
essence of who we are in this life.

and so, I for one think that it's time to stop suppressing
it and to start expressing the Divine Feminine within us.

i for one, i'm ready for it.

have a good week.

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