People have been using media to talk
about sex for a long time.

Love letters, phone sex, racy polaroids.

There's even a story of a girl who eloped
with a man that she met over the telegraph

in 1886.

Today we have sexting,
and I am a sexting expert.

Not an expect sexter.

Though, I do know what this means,
I think you do too.

I have been studying sexting since 
the media attention to it began in 2008.

I wrote a book on the moral
panic about sexting.

And here's what I found:

most people are worrying
about the wrong thing.

They're trying to just prevent
sexting from happening entirely.

But let me ask you this:

As long as it's completely consensual,
what's the problem with sexting?

People are into all sorts of things
that you may not be into,

like blue cheese or cilantro.

Sexting is certainly risky,
like anything that's fun,

but as long as you're not sending an image
to someone who doesn't want to receive it,

there's no harm.

What I do think is a serious problem is
when people share private images of others

without their permission.

And instead of worrying about sexting,
what I think we need to do

is think a lot more about digital privacy.

The key is consent.

Right now most people are thinking

about sexting without really thinking
about consent at all.

Did you know we currently
criminalize teen sexting?

It can be a crime because it counts
as child pornography,

if there's an image of someone under 18
and it doesn't even matter

if they took that image of themselves
and shared it willingly.

So we end up with this
bizarre legal situation

where two 17-year-olds
can legally have sex in most U.S. states

but they can't photograph it.

Some states have also tried passing
sexting misdemeanor laws

but these laws repeat the same problem

because they still make
consensual sexting illegal.

It doesn't make sense

to try to ban all sexting
to try to address privacy violations.

This is kind of like saying,

let's solve the problem of date rape
by just making dating completely illegal.

Most teens don't get arrested for sexting,
but can you guess who does?

It's often teens who are disliked
by their partner's parent.

And this can be because of class bias,
racism or homophobia.

Most prosecutors are smart enough
not to use child pornography charges

against teenagers but some do.

According to researchers
at the University of New Hampshire

seven percent of all child pornography
possession arrests are teens,

sexting consensually with other teens.

Child pornography is a serious crime,

but it's just not
the same thing as teen sexting.

Parents and educators are also
responding to sexting

without really thinking
too much about consent.

Their message to teens is often,
just don't do it.

And I totally get it,
there are serious legal risks

and of course,
that potential for privacy violations.

And when you were a teen,

I'm sure you did exactly
as you were told, right?

You're probably thinking,
my kid would never sext.

And that's true, your little angel
may not be sexting

because only 33% of 16 and
17-year-olds are sexting.

But, sorry, by the time they're older,
odds are they will be sexting.

Every study I've seen puts the rate
above 50% for 18 to 24-year-olds.

And most of the time,
nothing goes wrong.

People ask me all the time things like,
isn't sexting just so dangerous, though,

like you wouldn't leave your wallet
on a park bench and you expect

it's gonna get stolen
if you do that, right?

Here's how I think about it:

sexting is like leaving your wallet
at your boyfriend's house.

If you come back the next day

and all the money is just gone,
you really need to dump that guy

So instead of criminalizing sexting to try to prevent these privacy violations, instead we need to make consent central to how we think about the circulation of our private information. Every new media technology rises privacy, in fact, in the U.S. the very first major debates about privacy were in response to technologies that were relatively new at the time. In the late 1800s, people were worried about cameras.