[Script Info] Title: [Events] Format: Layer, Start, End, Style, Name, MarginL, MarginR, MarginV, Effect, Text Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.83,0:00:04.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,People have been using media to talk\Nabout sex for a long time. Dialogue: 0,0:00:05.69,0:00:08.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Love letters, phone sex, racy polaroids. Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.55,0:00:15.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's even a story of a girl who eloped\Nwith a man that she met over the telegraph Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.63,0:00:16.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in 1886. Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.76,0:00:23.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Today we have sexting,\Nand I am a sexting expert. Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.86,0:00:25.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not an expect sexter. Dialogue: 0,0:00:26.100,0:00:30.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Though, I do know what this means --\NI think you do too. Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.42,0:00:35.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.58,0:00:41.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have been studying sexting since\Nthe media attention to it began in 2008. Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.80,0:00:45.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wrote a book on the moral\Npanic about sexting. Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.99,0:00:47.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And here's what I found: Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.58,0:00:50.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,most people are worrying\Nabout the wrong thing. Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.62,0:00:54.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're trying to just prevent\Nsexting from happening entirely. Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.92,0:00:56.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But let me ask you this: Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.59,0:01:00.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As long as it's completely consensual,\Nwhat's the problem with sexting? Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.21,0:01:04.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,People are into all sorts of things\Nthat you may not be into, Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.40,0:01:07.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like blue cheese or cilantro. Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.98,0:01:09.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:01:10.78,0:01:14.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sexting is certainly risky,\Nlike anything that's fun, Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.02,0:01:20.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but as long as you're not sending an image\Nto someone who doesn't want to receive it, Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.64,0:01:23.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there's no harm. Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.37,0:01:29.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What I do think is a serious problem is\Nwhen people share private images of others Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.30,0:01:31.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without their permission. Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.46,0:01:35.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And instead of worrying about sexting,\Nwhat I think we need to do Dialogue: 0,0:01:35.35,0:01:38.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is think a lot more about digital privacy. Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.89,0:01:40.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The key is consent. Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.87,0:01:44.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Right now most people are thinking Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.11,0:01:47.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about sexting without really thinking\Nabout consent at all. Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.43,0:01:52.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Did you know that we currently\Ncriminalize teen sexting? Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.41,0:01:56.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It can be a crime because it counts\Nas child pornography, Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.95,0:01:59.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if there's an image of someone under 18 Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.78,0:02:01.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it doesn't even matter Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.42,0:02:05.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if they took that image of themselves\Nand shared it willingly. Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.90,0:02:08.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we end up with this\Nbizarre legal situation Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.96,0:02:12.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where two 17-year-olds\Ncan legally have sex in most U.S. states Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.45,0:02:15.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but they can't photograph it. Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.77,0:02:20.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some states have also tried passing\Nsexting misdemeanor laws Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.97,0:02:23.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but these laws repeat the same problem Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.04,0:02:27.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because they still make\Nconsensual sexting illegal. Dialogue: 0,0:02:28.71,0:02:29.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It doesn't make sense Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.88,0:02:33.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to try to ban all sexting\Nto try to address privacy violations. Dialogue: 0,0:02:34.60,0:02:36.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is kind of like saying, Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.20,0:02:41.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,let's solve the problem of date rape\Nby just making dating completely illegal. Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.28,0:02:48.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Most teens don't get arrested for sexting,\Nbut can you guess who does? Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.58,0:02:52.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's often teens who are disliked\Nby their partner's parents. Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.60,0:02:58.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this can be because of class bias,\Nracism or homophobia. Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.12,0:03:01.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Most prosecutors are,\Nof course, smart enough Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.76,0:03:07.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not to use child pornography charges\Nagainst teenagers, but some do. Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.75,0:03:10.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,According to researchers\Nat the University of New Hampshire Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.31,0:03:16.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,seven percent of all child pornography\Npossession arrests are teens, Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.10,0:03:19.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sexting consensually with other teens. Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.51,0:03:24.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Child pornography is a serious crime, Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.22,0:03:27.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it's just not\Nthe same thing as teen sexting. Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.12,0:03:32.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Parents and educators are also\Nresponding to sexting Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.56,0:03:35.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without really thinking\Ntoo much about consent. Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.70,0:03:39.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Their message to teens is often:\Njust don't do it. Dialogue: 0,0:03:40.24,0:03:43.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I totally get it --\Nthere are serious legal risks Dialogue: 0,0:03:43.82,0:03:46.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and of course,\Nthat potential for privacy violations. Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.35,0:03:48.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when you were a teen, Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.87,0:03:52.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm sure you did exactly\Nas you were told, right? Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.57,0:03:56.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're probably thinking,\Nmy kid would never sext. Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.10,0:03:59.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that's true, your little angel\Nmay not be sexting Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.43,0:04:05.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because only 33% of 16 and\N17-year-olds are sexting. Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.21,0:04:11.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But, sorry, by the time they're older,\Nodds are they will be sexting. Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.02,0:04:17.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Every study I've seen puts the rate\Nabove 50% for 18 to 24-year-olds. Dialogue: 0,0:04:18.86,0:04:21.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And most of the time,\Nnothing goes wrong. Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.04,0:04:27.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,People ask me all the time things like,\Nisn't sexting just so dangerous, though, Dialogue: 0,0:04:27.57,0:04:31.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like you wouldn't leave your wallet\Non a park bench Dialogue: 0,0:04:31.25,0:04:34.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you expect it's gonna get stolen\Nif you do that, right? Dialogue: 0,0:04:34.74,0:04:36.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Here's how I think about it: Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.60,0:04:39.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sexting is like leaving your wallet\Nat your boyfriend's house. Dialogue: 0,0:04:40.38,0:04:42.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you come back the next day Dialogue: 0,0:04:42.41,0:04:47.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and all the money is just gone,\Nyou really need to dump that guy. Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.62,0:04:56.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So instead of criminalizing sexting to try\Nto prevent these privacy violations, Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.64,0:04:59.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,instead we need to make consent central Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.81,0:05:03.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to how we think about the circulation\Nof our private information. Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.67,0:05:08.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Every new media technology\Nraises privacy concerns. Dialogue: 0,0:05:08.96,0:05:13.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In fact, in the U.S. the very first\Nmajor debates about privacy Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.46,0:05:17.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were in response to technologies\Nthat were relatively new at the time. Dialogue: 0,0:05:17.97,0:05:20.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In the late 1800s, people were\Nworried about cameras, Dialogue: 0,0:05:22.06,0:05:25.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which were just suddenly more portable\Nthan ever before, Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.62,0:05:27.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and newspaper gossip columns. Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.06,0:05:31.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They were worried that the camera\Nwould capture information about them, Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.90,0:05:34.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,take it out of context\Nand widely disseminate it. Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.37,0:05:37.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Does this sound familiar? Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.36,0:05:41.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's exactly what we're worrying about\Nnow with social media and drone cameras. Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.89,0:05:43.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and, of course, sexting. Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.20,0:05:48.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And these fears about technology,\Nthey make sense because technologies Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.03,0:05:53.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can amplify and bring out\Nour worst qualities and behaviors. Dialogue: 0,0:05:54.17,0:05:56.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But there are solutions. Dialogue: 0,0:05:56.73,0:06:00.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we've been here before\Nwith a dangerous new technology. Dialogue: 0,0:06:00.86,0:06:04.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In 1908, Ford introduced the Model T car. Dialogue: 0,0:06:04.74,0:06:06.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Traffic fatality rates were rising.\N Dialogue: 0,0:06:07.29,0:06:10.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was a serious problem --\Nit looks so safe, right? Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.22,0:06:15.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our first response was to try\Nto change drivers behavior, Dialogue: 0,0:06:16.42,0:06:19.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so we developed speed limits and\Nenforced them through fines. Dialogue: 0,0:06:20.36,0:06:22.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But over the following decades, Dialogue: 0,0:06:22.24,0:06:26.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we started to realize the technology\Nof the car itself is not just neutral. Dialogue: 0,0:06:27.80,0:06:30.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We could design the car to make it safer. Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.14,0:06:34.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So in the 1920s, we got\Nshatter-resistant windshields. Dialogue: 0,0:06:34.59,0:06:39.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In the 1950s, seatbelts.\NAnd in the 1990s, airbags. Dialogue: 0,0:06:40.54,0:06:42.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All three of these areas: Dialogue: 0,0:06:42.83,0:06:46.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,laws, individuals,\Nand industry came together Dialogue: 0,0:06:46.94,0:06:51.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,over time to help solve the problem\Nthat a new technology causes. Dialogue: 0,0:06:51.54,0:06:54.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we can do the same thing\Nwith digital privacy. Dialogue: 0,0:06:55.31,0:06:57.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Of course, it comes back to consent. Dialogue: 0,0:06:58.42,0:06:59.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Here's the idea. Dialogue: 0,0:07:00.10,0:07:03.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Before anyone can distribute\Nyour private information, Dialogue: 0,0:07:03.59,0:07:05.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they should have to get your permission. Dialogue: 0,0:07:06.39,0:07:11.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This idea of affirmative consent\Ncomes from anti-rape activists who tell us Dialogue: 0,0:07:11.77,0:07:14.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we need consent for every sexual act. Dialogue: 0,0:07:15.09,0:07:19.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we have really high standards\Nfor consent in a lot of other areas. Dialogue: 0,0:07:19.49,0:07:21.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Think about having surgery. Dialogue: 0,0:07:21.55,0:07:23.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your doctor has to make sure that Dialogue: 0,0:07:23.21,0:07:26.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you are meaningfully and knowingly\Nconsenting to that medical procedure. Dialogue: 0,0:07:27.73,0:07:31.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is not the type of consent with\Nan iTunes Terms of Service Dialogue: 0,0:07:31.44,0:07:35.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where you scroll to the bottom and\Nyou're like, agree, agree, whatever. Dialogue: 0,0:07:37.36,0:07:41.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we think more about consent,\Nwe can have better privacy laws. Dialogue: 0,0:07:42.60,0:07:45.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Right now, we just don't have\Nthat many protections. Dialogue: 0,0:07:46.03,0:07:49.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If your ex-husband or your ex-wife\Nis a terrible person, Dialogue: 0,0:07:49.57,0:07:53.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they can take your nude photos\Nand upload them to a porn site. Dialogue: 0,0:07:53.91,0:07:56.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It can be really hard to get\Nthose images taken down. Dialogue: 0,0:07:57.05,0:07:59.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in a lot of states,\Nyou're actually better off Dialogue: 0,0:07:59.96,0:08:01.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you took the images of yourself Dialogue: 0,0:08:02.20,0:08:04.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because then you can\Nfile a copyright claim. Dialogue: 0,0:08:07.60,0:08:10.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Right now, if someone\Nviolates your privacy, Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.61,0:08:14.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whether that's an individual or\Na company or the NSA, Dialogue: 0,0:08:15.36,0:08:19.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can try filing a lawsuit,\Nthough you may not be successful Dialogue: 0,0:08:20.33,0:08:24.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because many courts assume that\Ndigital privacy is just impossible. Dialogue: 0,0:08:25.25,0:08:28.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So they're not willing to punish\Nanyone for violating it. Dialogue: 0,0:08:29.31,0:08:32.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I still hear people\Nasking me all the time, Dialogue: 0,0:08:32.46,0:08:37.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,isn't a digital image somehow blurring\Nthe line between public and private Dialogue: 0,0:08:37.67,0:08:39.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it's digital, right? Dialogue: 0,0:08:39.76,0:08:40.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No! No! Dialogue: 0,0:08:41.30,0:08:44.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everything digital is not\Njust automatically public. Dialogue: 0,0:08:44.36,0:08:46.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That doesn't make any sense. Dialogue: 0,0:08:46.48,0:08:49.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As NYU legal scholar\NHelen Nissenbaum tells us, Dialogue: 0,0:08:49.90,0:08:52.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we have laws and policies\Nand norms that protect Dialogue: 0,0:08:53.08,0:08:56.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all kinds of information that's private,\Nand it doesn't make a difference Dialogue: 0,0:08:56.88,0:08:58.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if it's digital or not. Dialogue: 0,0:08:59.22,0:09:02.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All of your health records\Nare digitized but your doctor Dialogue: 0,0:09:02.65,0:09:04.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can't just share them with anyone. Dialogue: 0,0:09:04.91,0:09:08.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All of your financial information\Nis held in digital databases, Dialogue: 0,0:09:09.38,0:09:13.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but your credit card company can't\Njust post your purchase history online. Dialogue: 0,0:09:15.25,0:09:19.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Better laws could help address\Nprivacy violations after they happen, Dialogue: 0,0:09:20.30,0:09:24.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but one of the easiest things\Nwe can all do is make personal changes Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.24,0:09:27.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to help protect each other's privacy. Dialogue: 0,0:09:28.67,0:09:33.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're always told that privacy is our\Nown, sole, individual responsibility. Dialogue: 0,0:09:33.54,0:09:37.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're told, constantly monitor\Nand update your privacy settings. Dialogue: 0,0:09:37.70,0:09:42.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're told never share anything you\Nwouldn't want the entire world to see. Dialogue: 0,0:09:43.44,0:09:44.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This doesn't make sense. Dialogue: 0,0:09:44.92,0:09:47.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Digital media are social environments Dialogue: 0,0:09:47.72,0:09:51.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we share things\Nwith people we trust all day, every day. Dialogue: 0,0:09:52.90,0:09:55.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As Princeton researcher\NJennifer Tessie argues, Dialogue: 0,0:09:55.82,0:09:59.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our data and are privacy,\Nthey're not just personal, Dialogue: 0,0:09:59.89,0:10:02.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're actually interpersonal. Dialogue: 0,0:10:02.64,0:10:05.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so one thing you can do,\Nthat's really easy Dialogue: 0,0:10:05.82,0:10:10.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is just start asking for permission before\Nyou share anyone else's information. Dialogue: 0,0:10:11.04,0:10:14.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you want to post a photo\Nof someone online, ask for permission. Dialogue: 0,0:10:15.40,0:10:18.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you want to forward an email thread,\Nask for permission. Dialogue: 0,0:10:19.35,0:10:24.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you want to share someone's nude\Nselfie, obviously, ask for permission. Dialogue: 0,0:10:25.81,0:10:29.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These individual changes can really\Nhelp us protect each other's privacy, Dialogue: 0,0:10:30.09,0:10:33.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we need technology companies\Non board as well. Dialogue: 0,0:10:34.55,0:10:38.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These companies have very little\Nincentive to help protect our privacy Dialogue: 0,0:10:38.96,0:10:42.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because their business models depend on\Nus sharing everything Dialogue: 0,0:10:42.40,0:10:44.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with as many people as possible. Dialogue: 0,0:10:45.23,0:10:47.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Right now, if I send you an image, Dialogue: 0,0:10:47.15,0:10:49.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can forward that\Nto anyone that you want. Dialogue: 0,0:10:50.26,0:10:54.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what if I got to decide\Nif that image was forwardable or not? Dialogue: 0,0:10:54.60,0:10:58.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This would tell you, you don't\Nhave my permission to send this image out. Dialogue: 0,0:10:58.70,0:11:02.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We do this kind of thing all the time\Nto protect copy right. Dialogue: 0,0:11:02.85,0:11:07.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you buy an e-book, you can't just\Nsend it out to as many people as you want. Dialogue: 0,0:11:07.62,0:11:10.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So why not try this with mobile phones? Dialogue: 0,0:11:11.23,0:11:15.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What you can do is we can demand\Nthat tech companies add these protections Dialogue: 0,0:11:15.81,0:11:19.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to our devices and our platforms\Nas the default. Dialogue: 0,0:11:19.45,0:11:22.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,After all, you can choose\Nthe color of your car, Dialogue: 0,0:11:22.90,0:11:25.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but the airbags are always standard. Dialogue: 0,0:11:28.19,0:11:32.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we don't think more about\Ndigital privacy and consent, Dialogue: 0,0:11:32.33,0:11:34.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there can be serious consequences. Dialogue: 0,0:11:35.56,0:11:37.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There was a teenager from Ohio -- Dialogue: 0,0:11:37.78,0:11:40.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,let's call her Jennifer,\Nfor the sake of her privacy. Dialogue: 0,0:11:41.19,0:11:43.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she shared nude photos of herself Dialogue: 0,0:11:43.10,0:11:46.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with her high-school boyfriend,\Nthinking she could trust him. Dialogue: 0,0:11:47.89,0:11:52.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Unfortunately, he betrayed her and\Nsent her photos around the entire school. Dialogue: 0,0:11:52.82,0:11:55.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Jennifer was embarrassed and humiliated, Dialogue: 0,0:11:56.78,0:12:00.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but instead of being compassionate,\Nher classmates harassed her. Dialogue: 0,0:12:01.17,0:12:03.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They called her a slut and a whore. Dialogue: 0,0:12:03.06,0:12:04.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they made her life miserable. Dialogue: 0,0:12:05.59,0:12:08.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Jennifer started missing school\Nand her grades dropped. Dialogue: 0,0:12:09.62,0:12:13.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ultimately, Jennifer decided\Nto end her own life. Dialogue: 0,0:12:14.93,0:12:17.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Jennifer did nothing wrong. Dialogue: 0,0:12:17.56,0:12:19.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All she did was share a nude photo Dialogue: 0,0:12:19.100,0:12:22.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with someone she thought\Nthat she could trust. Dialogue: 0,0:12:22.64,0:12:25.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And yet our laws tell her Dialogue: 0,0:12:25.46,0:12:29.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that she committed a horrible crime\Nequivalent to child pornography. Dialogue: 0,0:12:29.98,0:12:31.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our gender norms tell her that Dialogue: 0,0:12:31.97,0:12:34.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by producing this nude image of herself, Dialogue: 0,0:12:34.80,0:12:38.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she somehow did the most\Nhorrible, shameful thing. Dialogue: 0,0:12:38.70,0:12:42.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when we assume that privacy\Nis impossible in digital media, Dialogue: 0,0:12:42.80,0:12:48.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we completely write-off and excuse\Nher boyfriend's bad, bad behavior. Dialogue: 0,0:12:49.22,0:12:54.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,People are still saying all the time\Nto victims of privacy violations, Dialogue: 0,0:12:54.89,0:12:56.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what were you thinking? Dialogue: 0,0:12:56.62,0:12:58.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You should have never sent that image. Dialogue: 0,0:12:59.76,0:13:03.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you're trying to figure out\Nwhat to say instead, try this. Dialogue: 0,0:13:04.21,0:13:08.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Imagine you've run into your friend\Nwho broke their leg skiing. Dialogue: 0,0:13:08.49,0:13:12.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They took a risk to do something fun\Nand it didn't end well. Dialogue: 0,0:13:12.92,0:13:15.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But you're probably not going to be\Nthe jerk who says, well, Dialogue: 0,0:13:16.12,0:13:18.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I guess you shouldn't\Nhave gone skiing then. Dialogue: 0,0:13:20.30,0:13:23.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we think more about consent,\Nwe can see that Dialogue: 0,0:13:23.88,0:13:27.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,victims of privacy violations\Ndeserve our compassion, Dialogue: 0,0:13:27.63,0:13:31.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not criminalization, shaming,\Nharassment, or punishment. Dialogue: 0,0:13:32.59,0:13:36.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can support victims and\Nwe can prevent some privacy violations Dialogue: 0,0:13:37.12,0:13:41.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by making these legal, individual\Nand technological changes. Dialogue: 0,0:13:41.90,0:13:47.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because the problem is not sexting,\Nthe issue is digital privacy. Dialogue: 0,0:13:47.86,0:13:50.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And one solution is consent. Dialogue: 0,0:13:50.96,0:13:54.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the next time a victim\Nof a privacy violation comes up to you, Dialogue: 0,0:13:55.26,0:13:57.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,instead of blaming them, Dialogue: 0,0:13:57.25,0:13:58.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,let's do this instead:\N Dialogue: 0,0:13:58.45,0:14:01.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let's shift our ideas\Nabout digital privacy and Dialogue: 0,0:14:01.83,0:14:03.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,let's respond with compassion. Dialogue: 0,0:14:04.85,0:14:06.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.