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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.55,0:00:04.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This room may appear\Nto be holding 600 people,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:04.29,0:00:06.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but there's actually so many more,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.23,0:00:11.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because within each one of us,\Nthere is a multitude of personalities.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.48,0:00:13.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have two primary personalities
Dialogue: 0,0:00:14.00,0:00:16.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that have been in conflict\Nand conversation within me
Dialogue: 0,0:00:16.93,0:00:18.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,since I was a little girl.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.48,0:00:21.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I call them "the mystic"\Nand "the warrior."
Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.39,0:00:28.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was born into a family of politically\Nactive intellectual atheists.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:28.23,0:00:31.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There was this equation in my family\Nthat went something like this:
Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.44,0:00:33.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you are intelligent,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:33.60,0:00:35.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you therefore are not spiritual.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.28,0:00:38.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was the freak of the family.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.60,0:00:40.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was this weird little kid
Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.60,0:00:45.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who wanted to have deep talks\Nabout the worlds that might exist
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.29,0:00:48.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,beyond the ones we perceive\Nwith our senses.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.74,0:00:49.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wanted to know
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.92,0:00:55.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if what we human beings see\Nand hear and think
Dialogue: 0,0:00:55.10,0:00:59.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is a full and accurate picture of reality.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.22,0:01:00.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, looking for answers,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.100,0:01:05.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I went to Catholic mass;\NI tagged along with my neighbors.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.07,0:01:07.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I read Sartre and Socrates.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.86,0:01:11.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then a wonderful thing happened\Nwhen I was in high school:
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.37,0:01:16.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,gurus from the East started washing up\Non the shores of America.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.79,0:01:19.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I said to myself,\N"I wanna get me one of them."
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.68,0:01:20.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.97,0:01:25.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And ever since, I've been walking\Nthe mystic path,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.36,0:01:29.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,trying to peer beyond\Nwhat Albert Einstein called
Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.72,0:01:34.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the "optical delusion"\Nof everyday consciousness.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.45,0:01:35.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So what did he mean by this?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:35.96,0:01:37.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'll show you.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.14,0:01:41.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Take a breath right now\Nof this clear air in this room.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.36,0:01:46.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, see this strange,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.27,0:01:51.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,underwater-coral-reef-looking thing?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.48,0:01:54.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's actually a person's trachea.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.68,0:01:58.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And those colored globs are microbes
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.04,0:02:01.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that are actually swimming around\Nin this room right now,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.18,0:02:02.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all around us.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.10,0:02:06.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we're blind to this simple biology,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.73,0:02:12.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,imagine what we're missing\Nat the smallest subatomic level right now
Dialogue: 0,0:02:12.81,0:02:15.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and at the grandest cosmic levels.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.66,0:02:22.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My years as a mystic have made me question\Nalmost all my assumptions.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.07,0:02:25.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They've made me a proud\N"I-don't-know-it-all."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.08,0:02:30.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, when the mystic part of me\Njabbers on and on like this,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.49,0:02:33.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the warrior rolls her eyes.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.36,0:02:39.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She's concerned about what's happening\Nin this world right now.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.00,0:02:42.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She's worried.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.39,0:02:45.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She says, "Excuse me, I'm pissed off,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.39,0:02:47.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I know a few things,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:47.16,0:02:49.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we better get busy\Nabout them right now."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:49.67,0:02:51.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've spent my life as a warrior,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.60,0:02:53.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,working for women's issues,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.81,0:02:56.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,working on political campaigns,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.17,0:02:59.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,being an activist for the environment.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.92,0:03:05.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it can be sort of crazy making\Nhousing both the mystic and the warrior
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.10,0:03:06.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in one body.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.64,0:03:11.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've always been attracted\Nto those rare people
Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.13,0:03:12.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who pull that off,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.44,0:03:15.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who devote their lives to humanity
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.50,0:03:17.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with the grit of the warrior
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.85,0:03:20.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the grace of the mystic --
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.90,0:03:23.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,people like Martin Luther King, Jr.,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.92,0:03:28.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who wrote, "I can never be\Nwhat I ought to be
Dialogue: 0,0:03:28.06,0:03:31.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,until you are what you ought to be."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.22,0:03:35.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"This," he wrote, "is the interrelated\Nstructure of reality."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.36,0:03:40.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then Mother Teresa,\Nanother mystic warrior, who said,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:40.83,0:03:45.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"The problem with the world\Nis that we draw the circle of our family
Dialogue: 0,0:03:45.15,0:03:46.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,too small."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.36,0:03:52.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And Nelson Mandela, who lives\Nby the African concept of "_buntu,"
Dialogue: 0,0:03:52.92,0:03:57.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which means "I need you in order to be me,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.12,0:04:00.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you need me in order to be you."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.72,0:04:05.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, we all love to trot out\Nthese three mystic warriors
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.52,0:04:08.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as if they were born with a "saint" gene.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.11,0:04:12.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But we all actually have\Nthe same capacity that they do.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.30,0:04:17.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we need to do their work now.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.52,0:04:19.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm deeply disturbed
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.28,0:04:25.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by the ways in which all of our cultures\Nare demonizing "the other,"
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.65,0:04:30.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by the voice we're giving\Nto the most divisive among us.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.02,0:04:34.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Listen to these titles\Nof some of the best-selling books
Dialogue: 0,0:04:34.14,0:04:36.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from both sides of the political divide
Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.37,0:04:38.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,here in the US:
Dialogue: 0,0:04:38.05,0:04:41.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Liberalism is a Mental Disorder,"
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.52,0:04:44.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Rush Limbaugh is a Big Fat Idiot,"
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.29,0:04:47.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Pinheads and Patriots,"
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.25,0:04:48.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Arguing with Idiots."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.84,0:04:51.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're supposedly tongue-in-cheek,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.30,0:04:54.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but they're actually dangerous.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:54.11,0:04:56.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now here's a title\Nthat may sound familiar,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.23,0:04:58.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but whose author may surprise you:
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.30,0:05:02.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Four and a Half Years\Nof Struggle Against Lies,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.28,0:05:05.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Stupidity and Cowardice."
Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.32,0:05:06.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who wrote that?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:06.72,0:05:11.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That was Adolf Hitler's first title\Nfor "Mein Kampf" -- "My Struggle" --
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.84,0:05:14.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the book that launched the Nazi Party.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.39,0:05:17.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The worst eras in human history,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:17.60,0:05:21.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whether in Cambodia\Nor Germany or Rwanda --
Dialogue: 0,0:05:21.34,0:05:24.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they start like this,\Nwith negative "other"-izing.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.96,0:05:28.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then they morph\Ninto violent extremism.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:29.16,0:05:32.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is why I'm launching\Na new initiative.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:32.39,0:05:36.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it's to help all of us,\Nmyself included,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:36.78,0:05:40.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to counteract the tendency to otherize.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.60,0:05:43.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I realize we're all busy people,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.98,0:05:47.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so don't worry, you can\Ndo this on a lunch break.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.20,0:05:52.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm calling my initiative\N"Take the Other to Lunch."
Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.15,0:05:56.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you are a Republican,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:56.100,0:05:59.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can take a Democrat to lunch.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:59.47,0:06:02.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or if you're a Democrat,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:02.54,0:06:06.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,think of it as taking\Na Republican to lunch.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:06.44,0:06:09.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, if the idea of taking\Nany of these people to lunch
Dialogue: 0,0:06:09.32,0:06:12.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,makes you lose your appetite,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.40,0:06:14.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I suggest you start more local,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:15.00,0:06:20.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because there is no shortage of the other\Nright in your own neighborhood:
Dialogue: 0,0:06:20.88,0:06:25.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe that person\Nwho worships at the mosque
Dialogue: 0,0:06:25.29,0:06:28.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or the church or the synagogue\Ndown the street;
Dialogue: 0,0:06:28.44,0:06:33.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or someone from the other side\Nof the abortion conflict;
Dialogue: 0,0:06:33.60,0:06:38.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or maybe your brother-in-law\Nwho doesn't believe in global warming --
Dialogue: 0,0:06:38.35,0:06:42.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,anyone whose lifestyle may frighten you
Dialogue: 0,0:06:42.76,0:06:47.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or whose point of view\Nmakes smoke come out of your ears.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:49.27,0:06:51.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A couple of weeks ago,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:51.09,0:06:55.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I took a conservative\NTea Party woman to lunch.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:56.16,0:06:59.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, on paper, she passed\Nmy "smoking ears" test:
Dialogue: 0,0:07:00.44,0:07:02.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she's an activist from the Right,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:02.70,0:07:05.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'm an activist from the Left.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:06.31,0:07:10.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We used some guidelines\Nto keep our conversation elevated.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:10.83,0:07:12.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you can use them, too,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:12.71,0:07:15.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I know you're all going\Nto take an other to lunch.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:16.67,0:07:19.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So first of all, decide on a goal:
Dialogue: 0,0:07:19.27,0:07:25.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to get to know one person from a group\Nyou may have negatively stereotyped.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:26.47,0:07:28.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then, before you get together,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:28.39,0:07:30.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,agree on some ground rules.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:30.68,0:07:34.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My Tea Party lunch mate and I\Ncame up with these:
Dialogue: 0,0:07:35.82,0:07:39.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,don't persuade, defend or interrupt;
Dialogue: 0,0:07:39.38,0:07:43.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,be curious, be conversational, be real;
Dialogue: 0,0:07:43.67,0:07:44.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and listen.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:45.95,0:07:47.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,From there, we dove in.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:47.60,0:07:49.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We used these questions:
Dialogue: 0,0:07:49.72,0:07:52.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Share some of your life\Nexperiences with me --
Dialogue: 0,0:07:52.73,0:07:56.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what issues deeply concern you?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:56.60,0:08:00.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what have you always wanted to ask\Nsomeone from the other side?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:01.50,0:08:06.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My lunch partner and I came away\Nwith some really important insights,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:06.06,0:08:08.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'm going to share just one with you.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:08.06,0:08:14.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it has relevance to any problem\Nbetween people anywhere.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:14.60,0:08:20.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I asked her why her side makes\Nsuch outrageous allegations and lies
Dialogue: 0,0:08:20.91,0:08:22.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about my side.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:22.56,0:08:24.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"What?" she wanted to know.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:24.67,0:08:30.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Like, we're a bunch of elitist,\Nmorally corrupt terrorist-lovers."
Dialogue: 0,0:08:30.72,0:08:32.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, she was shocked.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:32.38,0:08:37.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She thought my side beat up on\Nher side way more often --
Dialogue: 0,0:08:37.74,0:08:42.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we called them brainless,\Ngun-toting racists.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:42.66,0:08:45.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we both marveled at the labels
Dialogue: 0,0:08:45.14,0:08:49.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that fit none of the people\Nwe actually know.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:50.16,0:08:52.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And since we had established some trust,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:52.54,0:08:55.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we believed in each other's sincerity.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:56.19,0:08:59.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We agreed we'd speak up\Nin our own communities
Dialogue: 0,0:08:59.70,0:09:03.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when we witnessed\Nthe kind of "otherizing" talk
Dialogue: 0,0:09:03.44,0:09:07.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that can wound and fester into paranoia
Dialogue: 0,0:09:07.75,0:09:10.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then be used by those on the fringes
Dialogue: 0,0:09:10.44,0:09:11.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to incite.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:12.74,0:09:16.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,By the end of our lunch,\Nwe acknowledged each other's openness.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:16.15,0:09:19.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Neither of us had tried\Nto change the other,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:19.72,0:09:21.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we also hadn't pretended
Dialogue: 0,0:09:21.95,0:09:25.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that our differences were\Njust going to melt away
Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.48,0:09:27.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,after a lunch.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:30.70,0:09:34.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Instead, we had taken\Nfirst steps together,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:34.94,0:09:36.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,past our knee-jerk reactions
Dialogue: 0,0:09:36.77,0:09:38.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the _buntu place,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:38.54,0:09:40.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is the only place
Dialogue: 0,0:09:40.78,0:09:46.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where solutions to our most\Nintractable-seeming problems
Dialogue: 0,0:09:46.90,0:09:48.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,will be found.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:48.78,0:09:51.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So who should you invite to lunch?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:51.31,0:09:55.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Next time you catch yourself\Nin the act of otherizing,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:55.15,0:09:56.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that'll be your clue.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:57.27,0:09:59.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what might happen at your lunch?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:59.92,0:10:01.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Will the heavens open
Dialogue: 0,0:10:01.34,0:10:05.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and "We are the World" play\Nover the restaurant sound system?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:05.22,0:10:07.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Probably not.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:07.39,0:10:11.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because _buntu work is slow,\Nand it's difficult.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:11.12,0:10:17.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's two people dropping the pretense\Nof being know-it-alls.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:17.21,0:10:22.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's two people, two warriors,\Ndropping their weapons
Dialogue: 0,0:10:22.96,0:10:25.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and reaching toward each other.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:26.20,0:10:29.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Here's how the great\NPersian poet Rumi put it:
Dialogue: 0,0:10:30.93,0:10:36.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Out beyond ideas\Nof wrong-doing and right-doing,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:36.44,0:10:38.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there is a field.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:38.32,0:10:39.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'll meet you there."
Dialogue: 0,0:10:40.78,0:10:47.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)