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My boyfriend cheated on me with me cousin 
about three years ago.

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They're still together and I have to see
them at every family gathering.

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Aw that's so messed up.

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I have loved the same girl for the past 
six years.

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I see her from time to time and we fool 
around.

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But to me it's more than that. I've been 
feeling the same heartbreak for six years.

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I dated a guy for almost two years.

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I was so in love with him I changed myself
to his liking,

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not realizing that he never felt the same
for me.

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He dumped me and when I asked why, he
refuses to tell me.

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He left me in the dark to this very day.

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I can relate to that one.

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I had someone do something very similar to me when
I was in college.

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Ended up getting back with his old fiance.
Didn't tell me about it.

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I wish I wouldn't have put so much of the
blame on myself.

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Because at the end of the day it was 
something going on with him.

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I feel like so many people are hard on
themselves in relationships.

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I was in a long distance relationship.
Everything I felt was real,

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and I believed it was real for him too.

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We each kept a journal to write letters 
and when we saw each other again,

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we would read them out loud to each other.

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It was something special. But his friends
didn't believe in our relationship and

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pressured him to burn his journal. They
recorded it and sent the video to me.

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Jesus Christ

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Uh, it was tormenting and traumatizing.

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I'm astounded by the cruelty.
Uh, exhibited by people sometimes.

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Like, you are far better off not being 
associated with them at all. Whatsoever.

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Because its going to take years for this
person and their friends to discover what

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is at the route of their own pain

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That's causing them to want to hurt other
people this way.

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But um, you dodged a bullet here.
I think.

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My worst heartbreak would have to be when
my great grandma passed away five days

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before my twenty-fourth birthday.

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I usually get a picture with her every 
year for my birthday but not this year.

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My father was never a religious man but 
when he had liver cancer and was at the

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hour of his death, I saw him pray to a God
I had never seen him so scared in his life

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and it broke my heart.

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My best friend died in a car crash.
My last words to her were

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"I never want to see you again."

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It will continue to haunt me for the rest 
of my life. I wish in her final moments

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she knew how much she meant to me,
and how much she changed my life for the

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better.

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That, that makes me want to like call up
like some of my friends and be like

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"Dude like I love you like do you know
that?"

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They're probably gonna be like what are
you talking about? But like

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really just letting them know.