[Script Info] Title: [Events] Format: Layer, Start, End, Style, Name, MarginL, MarginR, MarginV, Effect, Text Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.76,0:00:03.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What keeps us healthy and happy Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.76,0:00:05.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as we go through life? Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.52,0:00:09.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you were going to invest now Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.04,0:00:11.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in your future best self, Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.12,0:00:14.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where would you put your time\Nand your energy? Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.12,0:00:17.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There was a recent survey of millennials Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.56,0:00:22.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,asking them what their\Nmost important life goals were, Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.76,0:00:24.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and over 80 percent said Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.80,0:00:28.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that a major life goal for them\Nwas to get rich. Dialogue: 0,0:00:28.96,0:00:33.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And another 50 percent\Nof those same young adults Dialogue: 0,0:00:33.32,0:00:35.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,said that another major life goal Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.88,0:00:37.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was to become famous. Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.96,0:00:40.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.20,0:00:46.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we're constantly told\Nto lean in to work, to push harder Dialogue: 0,0:00:46.88,0:00:48.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and achieve more. Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.96,0:00:52.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're given the impression that these\Nare the things that we need to go after Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.64,0:00:54.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to have a good life. Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.48,0:00:56.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Pictures of entire lives, Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.72,0:01:01.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of the choices that people make\Nand how those choices work out for them, Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.96,0:01:04.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,those pictures\Nare almost impossible to get. Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.08,0:01:09.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Most of what we know about human life Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.16,0:01:12.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we know from asking people\Nto remember the past, Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.64,0:01:17.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and as we know, hindsight\Nis anything but 20/20. Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.44,0:01:21.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We forget vast amounts\Nof what happens to us in life, Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.16,0:01:24.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and sometimes memory\Nis downright creative. Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.80,0:01:29.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what if we could watch entire lives Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.20,0:01:32.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as they unfold through time? Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.08,0:01:36.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What if we could study people\Nfrom the time that they were teenagers Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.08,0:01:38.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all the way into old age Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.84,0:01:42.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to see what really keeps people\Nhappy and healthy? Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.56,0:01:44.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We did that. Dialogue: 0,0:01:45.64,0:01:47.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The Harvard Study of Adult Development Dialogue: 0,0:01:47.88,0:01:52.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,may be the longest study\Nof adult life that's ever been done. Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.72,0:01:59.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For 75 years, we've tracked\Nthe lives of 724 men, Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.36,0:02:05.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,year after year, asking about their work,\Ntheir home lives, their health, Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.88,0:02:10.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and of course asking all along the way\Nwithout knowing how their life stories Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.28,0:02:11.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were going to turn out. Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.28,0:02:16.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Studies like this are exceedingly rare. Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.92,0:02:20.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Almost all projects of this kind\Nfall apart within a decade Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.00,0:02:24.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because too many people\Ndrop out of the study, Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.20,0:02:27.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or funding for the research dries up, Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.12,0:02:29.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or the researchers get distracted, Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.40,0:02:33.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or they die, and nobody moves the ball\Nfurther down the field. Dialogue: 0,0:02:34.28,0:02:36.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But through a combination of luck Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.56,0:02:40.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the persistence\Nof several generations of researchers, Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.28,0:02:41.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this study has survived. Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.52,0:02:47.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,About 60 of our original 724 men Dialogue: 0,0:02:47.04,0:02:48.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are still alive, Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.36,0:02:50.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,still participating in the study, Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.56,0:02:52.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,most of them in their 90s. Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.56,0:02:55.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we are now beginning to study Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.48,0:02:58.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the more than 2,000 children of these men. Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.68,0:03:02.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I'm the fourth director of the study. Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.40,0:03:08.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Since 1938, we've tracked the lives\Nof two groups of men. Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.16,0:03:10.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The first group started in the study Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.32,0:03:13.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when they were sophomores\Nat Harvard College. Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.04,0:03:15.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They all finished college\Nduring World War II, Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.88,0:03:18.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then most went off\Nto serve in the war. Dialogue: 0,0:03:19.28,0:03:21.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the second group that we've followed Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.44,0:03:25.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was a group of boys\Nfrom Boston's poorest neighborhoods, Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.64,0:03:27.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,boys who were chosen for the study Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.68,0:03:31.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,specifically because they were\Nfrom some of the most troubled Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.04,0:03:32.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and disadvantaged families Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.92,0:03:35.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the Boston of the 1930s. Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.68,0:03:40.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Most lived in tenements,\Nmany without hot and cold running water. Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.52,0:03:44.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When they entered the study, Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.44,0:03:47.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all of these teenagers were interviewed. Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.40,0:03:49.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They were given medical exams. Dialogue: 0,0:03:49.64,0:03:53.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We went to their homes\Nand we interviewed their parents. Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.20,0:03:55.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then these teenagers\Ngrew up into adults Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.60,0:03:58.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who entered all walks of life. Dialogue: 0,0:03:58.04,0:04:04.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They became factory workers and lawyers\Nand bricklayers and doctors, Dialogue: 0,0:04:04.16,0:04:06.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one President of the United States. Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.16,0:04:12.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some developed alcoholism.\NA few developed schizophrenia. Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.32,0:04:15.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some climbed the social ladder Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.64,0:04:18.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from the bottom\Nall the way to the very top, Dialogue: 0,0:04:18.88,0:04:22.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and some made that journey\Nin the opposite direction. Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.52,0:04:26.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The founders of this study Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.48,0:04:28.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,would never in their wildest dreams Dialogue: 0,0:04:28.52,0:04:33.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have imagined that I would be\Nstanding here today, 75 years later, Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.08,0:04:36.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,telling you that\Nthe study still continues. Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.28,0:04:40.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Every two years, our patient\Nand dedicated research staff Dialogue: 0,0:04:40.92,0:04:43.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,calls up our men\Nand asks them if we can send them Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.00,0:04:47.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,yet one more set of questions\Nabout their lives. Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.04,0:04:51.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Many of the inner city Boston men ask us, Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.64,0:04:55.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Why do you keep wanting to study me?\NMy life just isn't that interesting." Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.60,0:04:58.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The Harvard men never ask that question. Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.00,0:05:04.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:05:08.92,0:05:11.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To get the clearest picture\Nof these lives, Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.80,0:05:14.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we don't just send them questionnaires. Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.76,0:05:17.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We interview them in their living rooms. Dialogue: 0,0:05:17.24,0:05:20.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We get their medical records\Nfrom their doctors. Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.20,0:05:22.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We draw their blood, we scan their brains, Dialogue: 0,0:05:22.72,0:05:24.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we talk to their children. Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.44,0:05:29.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We videotape them talking with their wives\Nabout their deepest concerns. Dialogue: 0,0:05:29.72,0:05:33.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when, about a decade ago,\Nwe finally asked the wives Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.28,0:05:35.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if they would join us\Nas members of the study, Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.68,0:05:38.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,many of the women said,\N"You know, it's about time." Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.40,0:05:39.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:05:39.48,0:05:41.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So what have we learned? Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.20,0:05:46.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What are the lessons that come\Nfrom the tens of thousands of pages Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.44,0:05:49.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of information that we've generated Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.52,0:05:50.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on these lives? Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.72,0:05:57.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, the lessons aren't about wealth\Nor fame or working harder and harder. Dialogue: 0,0:05:58.52,0:06:04.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The clearest message that we get\Nfrom this 75-year study is this: Dialogue: 0,0:06:04.84,0:06:10.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Good relationships keep us\Nhappier and healthier. Period. Dialogue: 0,0:06:11.00,0:06:14.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've learned three big lessons\Nabout relationships. Dialogue: 0,0:06:14.84,0:06:18.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The first is that social connections\Nare really good for us, Dialogue: 0,0:06:18.96,0:06:21.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that loneliness kills. Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.48,0:06:25.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It turns out that people\Nwho are more socially connected Dialogue: 0,0:06:25.16,0:06:28.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to family, to friends, to community, Dialogue: 0,0:06:28.28,0:06:32.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are happier, they're physically healthier,\Nand they live longer Dialogue: 0,0:06:33.00,0:06:36.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than people who are less well connected. Dialogue: 0,0:06:36.40,0:06:39.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the experience of loneliness\Nturns out to be toxic. Dialogue: 0,0:06:39.84,0:06:44.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,People who are more isolated\Nthan they want to be from others Dialogue: 0,0:06:45.00,0:06:48.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,find that they are less happy, Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.24,0:06:51.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,their health declines earlier in midlife, Dialogue: 0,0:06:51.20,0:06:53.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,their brain functioning declines sooner Dialogue: 0,0:06:53.44,0:06:57.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they live shorter lives\Nthan people who are not lonely. Dialogue: 0,0:06:58.04,0:07:01.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the sad fact\Nis that at any given time, Dialogue: 0,0:07:01.28,0:07:05.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,more than one in five Americans\Nwill report that they're lonely. Dialogue: 0,0:07:07.04,0:07:09.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we know that you\Ncan be lonely in a crowd Dialogue: 0,0:07:09.72,0:07:12.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you can be lonely in a marriage, Dialogue: 0,0:07:12.40,0:07:14.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so the second big lesson that we learned Dialogue: 0,0:07:14.56,0:07:17.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that it's not just\Nthe number of friends you have, Dialogue: 0,0:07:17.68,0:07:21.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's not whether or not\Nyou're in a committed relationship, Dialogue: 0,0:07:21.20,0:07:25.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it's the quality\Nof your close relationships that matters. Dialogue: 0,0:07:26.56,0:07:31.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It turns out that living in the midst\Nof conflict is really bad for our health. Dialogue: 0,0:07:31.36,0:07:35.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,High-conflict marriages, for example,\Nwithout much affection, Dialogue: 0,0:07:35.36,0:07:41.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,turn out to be very bad for our health,\Nperhaps worse than getting divorced. Dialogue: 0,0:07:41.16,0:07:45.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And living in the midst of good,\Nwarm relationships is protective. Dialogue: 0,0:07:45.96,0:07:49.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Once we had followed our men\Nall the way into their 80s, Dialogue: 0,0:07:49.08,0:07:52.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we wanted to look back at them at midlife Dialogue: 0,0:07:52.12,0:07:53.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to see if we could predict Dialogue: 0,0:07:53.72,0:07:57.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who was going to grow\Ninto a happy, healthy octogenarian Dialogue: 0,0:07:57.72,0:07:58.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and who wasn't. Dialogue: 0,0:07:59.68,0:08:03.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when we gathered together\Neverything we knew about them Dialogue: 0,0:08:03.92,0:08:05.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at age 50, Dialogue: 0,0:08:06.08,0:08:08.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it wasn't their middle age\Ncholesterol levels Dialogue: 0,0:08:08.64,0:08:11.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that predicted how they\Nwere going to grow old. Dialogue: 0,0:08:11.56,0:08:15.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was how satisfied they were\Nin their relationships. Dialogue: 0,0:08:15.04,0:08:19.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The people who were the most satisfied\Nin their relationships at age 50 Dialogue: 0,0:08:19.96,0:08:22.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were the healthiest at age 80. Dialogue: 0,0:08:23.68,0:08:26.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And good, close relationships\Nseem to buffer us Dialogue: 0,0:08:26.88,0:08:29.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from some of the slings and arrows\Nof getting old. Dialogue: 0,0:08:30.48,0:08:34.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our most happily partnered men and women Dialogue: 0,0:08:34.48,0:08:36.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,reported, in their 80s, Dialogue: 0,0:08:36.56,0:08:39.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that on the days\Nwhen they had more physical pain, Dialogue: 0,0:08:39.52,0:08:41.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,their mood stayed just as happy. Dialogue: 0,0:08:42.40,0:08:45.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the people who were\Nin unhappy relationships, Dialogue: 0,0:08:45.68,0:08:48.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on the days when they\Nreported more physical pain, Dialogue: 0,0:08:48.64,0:08:51.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it was magnified by more emotional pain. Dialogue: 0,0:08:52.36,0:08:56.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the third big lesson that we learned\Nabout relationships and our health Dialogue: 0,0:08:56.76,0:09:00.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that good relationships\Ndon't just protect our bodies, Dialogue: 0,0:09:00.04,0:09:01.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they protect our brains. Dialogue: 0,0:09:02.44,0:09:07.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It turns out that being\Nin a securely attached relationship Dialogue: 0,0:09:07.12,0:09:11.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to another person in your 80s\Nis protective, Dialogue: 0,0:09:11.04,0:09:13.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the people who are in relationships Dialogue: 0,0:09:13.04,0:09:17.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where they really feel they can count\Non the other person in times of need, Dialogue: 0,0:09:17.20,0:09:20.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,those people's memories\Nstay sharper longer. Dialogue: 0,0:09:20.92,0:09:22.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the people in relationships Dialogue: 0,0:09:22.44,0:09:25.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where they feel they really\Ncan't count on the other one, Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.60,0:09:29.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,those are the people who experience\Nearlier memory decline. Dialogue: 0,0:09:30.52,0:09:33.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And those good relationships,\Nthey don't have to be smooth all the time. Dialogue: 0,0:09:34.00,0:09:37.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some of our octogenarian couples\Ncould bicker with each other Dialogue: 0,0:09:37.60,0:09:39.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,day in and day out, Dialogue: 0,0:09:39.36,0:09:42.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but as long as they felt that they\Ncould really count on the other Dialogue: 0,0:09:42.56,0:09:44.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when the going got tough, Dialogue: 0,0:09:44.40,0:09:48.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,those arguments didn't take a toll\Non their memories. Dialogue: 0,0:09:49.60,0:09:52.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So this message, Dialogue: 0,0:09:52.36,0:09:58.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that good, close relationships\Nare good for our health and well-being, Dialogue: 0,0:09:58.08,0:10:01.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is wisdom that's as old as the hills. Dialogue: 0,0:10:01.04,0:10:04.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why is this so hard to get\Nand so easy to ignore? Dialogue: 0,0:10:05.56,0:10:07.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, we're human. Dialogue: 0,0:10:07.04,0:10:09.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What we'd really like is a quick fix, Dialogue: 0,0:10:09.88,0:10:11.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,something we can get Dialogue: 0,0:10:11.60,0:10:14.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that'll make our lives good\Nand keep them that way. Dialogue: 0,0:10:15.32,0:10:18.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Relationships are messy\Nand they're complicated Dialogue: 0,0:10:18.68,0:10:22.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the hard work of tending\Nto family and friends, Dialogue: 0,0:10:22.52,0:10:25.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's not sexy or glamorous. Dialogue: 0,0:10:25.20,0:10:28.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's also lifelong. It never ends. Dialogue: 0,0:10:28.56,0:10:33.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The people in our 75-year study\Nwho were the happiest in retirement Dialogue: 0,0:10:33.64,0:10:39.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were the people who had actively worked\Nto replace workmates with new playmates. Dialogue: 0,0:10:39.48,0:10:42.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just like the millennials\Nin that recent survey, Dialogue: 0,0:10:42.48,0:10:46.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,many of our men when they\Nwere starting out as young adults Dialogue: 0,0:10:46.12,0:10:50.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,really believed that fame and wealth\Nand high achievement Dialogue: 0,0:10:50.16,0:10:54.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were what they needed to go after\Nto have a good life. Dialogue: 0,0:10:54.12,0:10:58.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But over and over, over these 75 years,\Nour study has shown Dialogue: 0,0:10:58.32,0:11:03.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the people who fared the best were\Nthe people who leaned in to relationships, Dialogue: 0,0:11:04.00,0:11:07.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with family, with friends, with community. Dialogue: 0,0:11:09.08,0:11:11.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So what about you? Dialogue: 0,0:11:11.08,0:11:14.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let's say you're 25,\Nor you're 40, or you're 60. Dialogue: 0,0:11:15.80,0:11:18.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What might leaning in\Nto relationships even look like? Dialogue: 0,0:11:19.76,0:11:22.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, the possibilities\Nare practically endless. Dialogue: 0,0:11:23.60,0:11:29.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It might be something as simple\Nas replacing screen time with people time Dialogue: 0,0:11:29.72,0:11:34.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or livening up a stale relationship\Nby doing something new together, Dialogue: 0,0:11:34.20,0:11:36.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,long walks or date nights, Dialogue: 0,0:11:37.36,0:11:42.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or reaching out to that family member\Nwho you haven't spoken to in years, Dialogue: 0,0:11:42.24,0:11:45.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because those all-too-common family feuds Dialogue: 0,0:11:45.76,0:11:47.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,take a terrible toll Dialogue: 0,0:11:48.00,0:11:50.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on the people who hold the grudges. Dialogue: 0,0:11:52.00,0:11:55.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd like to close with a quote\Nfrom Mark Twain. Dialogue: 0,0:11:57.28,0:11:59.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,More than a century ago, Dialogue: 0,0:11:59.68,0:12:02.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he was looking back on his life, Dialogue: 0,0:12:02.32,0:12:03.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he wrote this: Dialogue: 0,0:12:04.84,0:12:08.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"There isn't time, so brief is life, Dialogue: 0,0:12:08.56,0:12:13.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for bickerings, apologies,\Nheartburnings, callings to account. Dialogue: 0,0:12:14.72,0:12:17.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is only time for loving, Dialogue: 0,0:12:17.56,0:12:21.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and but an instant,\Nso to speak, for that." Dialogue: 0,0:12:22.76,0:12:27.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The good life is built\Nwith good relationships. Dialogue: 0,0:12:27.16,0:12:28.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you. Dialogue: 0,0:12:28.40,0:12:33.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)