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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.97,0:00:03.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What keeps us healthy and happy
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.97,0:00:06.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as we go through life?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.57,0:00:08.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you were going to invest now
Dialogue: 0,0:00:08.94,0:00:11.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in your future best self,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.21,0:00:15.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where would you put your time\Nand your energy?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.32,0:00:17.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There was a recent survey of millennials
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.58,0:00:22.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,asking them what their most\Nimportant life goals were,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.68,0:00:29.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and over 80 percent said that a major\Nlife goal for them was to get rich,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.12,0:00:33.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and another 50 percent\Nof those same young adults
Dialogue: 0,0:00:33.50,0:00:35.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,said that another major life goal
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.90,0:00:38.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was to become famous.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.31,0:00:40.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.56,0:00:46.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we're constantly told\Nto lean in to work, to push harder
Dialogue: 0,0:00:46.51,0:00:49.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and achieve more.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.01,0:00:52.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're given the impression that these\Nare the things that we need to go after
Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.57,0:00:54.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to have a good life.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.66,0:00:56.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Pictures of entire lives,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.96,0:01:02.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of the choices that people make\Nand how those choices work out for them,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.11,0:01:05.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,those pictures are almost\Nimpossible to get.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.64,0:01:09.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Most of what we know about human life
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.14,0:01:12.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we know from asking people\Nto remember the past,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.51,0:01:17.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and as we know, hindsight\Nis anything but 20/20.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.60,0:01:21.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We forget vast amounts\Nof what happens to us in life,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.17,0:01:24.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and sometimes memory is downright creative.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.93,0:01:32.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what if we could watch entire lives\Nas they unfold through time?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.22,0:01:36.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What if we could study people\Nfrom the time that they were teenagers
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.15,0:01:38.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all the way into old age
Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.59,0:01:43.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to see what really keeps people\Nhappy and healthy?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.46,0:01:45.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We did that.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:45.76,0:01:48.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The Harvard Study of Adult Development\Nmay be the longest study
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.41,0:01:53.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of adult life that's ever been done.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.84,0:01:56.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For 75 years, we've tracked\Nthe lives of 724 men,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.14,0:02:05.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,year after year, asking about their work,\Ntheir home lives, their health,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.89,0:02:10.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and of course asking all along the way\Nwithout knowing how their life stories
Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.28,0:02:13.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were going to turn out.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.32,0:02:17.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Studies like this are exceedingly rare.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.13,0:02:20.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Almost all projects of this kind\Nfall apart within a decade,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.89,0:02:24.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because too many people\Ndrop out of the study,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.19,0:02:27.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or funding for the research dries up,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.35,0:02:29.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or the researchers get distracted,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.69,0:02:34.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or they die, and nobody moves the ball\Nfurther down the field.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:34.34,0:02:37.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But through a combination of luck\Nand the persistence
Dialogue: 0,0:02:37.56,0:02:42.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of several generations of researchers,\Nthis study has survived.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.69,0:02:46.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,About 60 of our original 724 men
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.94,0:02:48.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are still alive,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.57,0:02:50.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,still participating in the study,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.66,0:02:53.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,most of them in their 90s.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.00,0:02:55.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we are now beginning to study
Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.63,0:02:59.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the more than 2,000 children of these men.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.95,0:03:03.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I'm the fourth director of the study.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.45,0:03:08.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Since 1938, we've tracked the lives\Nof two groups of men.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.24,0:03:10.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The first group started in the study
Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.32,0:03:13.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when they were sophomores\Nat Harvard College.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.27,0:03:15.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They all finished college\Nduring World War II,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.90,0:03:19.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then most went off\Nto serve in the war.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:19.45,0:03:21.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the second group\Nthat we've followed
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.59,0:03:25.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was a group of boys\Nfrom Boston's poorest neighborhoods,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.74,0:03:29.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,boys who were chosen for the study\Nspecifically because they were from
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.41,0:03:32.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,some of the most troubled\Nand disadvantaged families
Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.80,0:03:35.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the Boston of the 1930s.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.94,0:03:41.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Most lived in tenements,\Nmany without hot and cold running water.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.42,0:03:44.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When they entered the study,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.50,0:03:47.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all of these teenagers were interviewed.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.66,0:03:49.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They were given medical exams.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:49.84,0:03:53.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We went to their homes\Nand we interviewed their parents.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.19,0:03:55.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then these teenagers\Ngrew up into adults
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.88,0:03:58.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who entered all walks of life.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:58.11,0:04:04.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They became factory workers and lawyers\Nand bricklayers and doctors,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:04.40,0:04:07.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one President of the United States.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.56,0:04:13.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some developed alcoholism.\NA few developed schizophrenia.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.20,0:04:19.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some climbed the social from the bottom\Nall the way to the very top,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.03,0:04:23.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and some made that journey\Nin the opposite direction.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.51,0:04:26.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The founders of this study
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.46,0:04:29.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,would never in their wildest dreams
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.32,0:04:33.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have imagined that I would be\Nstanding here today, 75 years later,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.36,0:04:37.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,telling you that\Nthe study still continues.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.54,0:04:41.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Every two years, our patient\Nand dedicated research staff
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.15,0:04:44.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,calls up our men and asks them\Nif we can send them
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.17,0:04:48.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,yet one more set of questions\Nabout their lives.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.30,0:04:51.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Many of the inner city Boston men ask us,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.39,0:04:56.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Why do you keep wanting to study me?\NMy life just isn't that interesting."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.75,0:04:59.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The Harvard men never ask that question.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.26,0:05:04.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.62,0:05:11.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To get the clearest picture\Nof these lives,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.73,0:05:14.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we don't just send them questionnaires.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.84,0:05:17.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We interview them in their living rooms.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:17.56,0:05:20.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We get their medical records\Nfrom their doctors.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.44,0:05:22.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We draw their blood, we scan their brains,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:22.90,0:05:24.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we talk to their children.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.71,0:05:29.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We videotape them talking with their wives\Nabout their deepest concerns.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:29.98,0:05:33.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when, about a decade ago,\Nwe finally asked the wives
Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.55,0:05:35.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if they would join us\Nas members of the study,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.81,0:05:38.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,many of the women said,\N"You know, it's about time."
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.94,0:05:41.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So what have we learned?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.45,0:05:46.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What are the lessons that come\Nfrom the tens of thousands of pages
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.56,0:05:48.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of information that we've generated
Dialogue: 0,0:05:48.83,0:05:51.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on these lives?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.96,0:05:58.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, the lessons aren't about wealth\Nor fame or working harder and harder.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:58.60,0:06:04.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The clearest message that we get\Nfrom this 75-year study is this:
Dialogue: 0,0:06:04.85,0:06:11.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,good relationships keep us\Nhappier and healthier. Period.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:11.19,0:06:14.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've learned three big lessons\Nabout relationships.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:14.86,0:06:19.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The first is that social connections\Nare really good for us,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:19.20,0:06:21.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that loneliness kills.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.82,0:06:25.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It turns out that people\Nwho are more socially connected
Dialogue: 0,0:06:25.18,0:06:28.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to family, to friends, to community,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:28.50,0:06:32.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are happier, they're physically healthier,\Nand they live longer
Dialogue: 0,0:06:32.98,0:06:36.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than people who are less well-connected.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:36.60,0:06:39.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the experience of loneliness\Nturns out to be toxic.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:39.94,0:06:44.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,People who are more isolated\Nthan they want to be from others
Dialogue: 0,0:06:44.33,0:06:48.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,find that they are less happy,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.10,0:06:51.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,their health declines earlier in midlife,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:51.44,0:06:53.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,their brain functioning declines sooner,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:53.69,0:06:58.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they live shorter lives\Nthan people who are not lonely.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:58.10,0:07:01.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the sad fact\Nis that at any given time,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:01.56,0:07:07.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,more than one in five Americans\Nwill report that they're lonely.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:07.02,0:07:10.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we know that you\Ncan be lonely in a crowd
Dialogue: 0,0:07:10.01,0:07:12.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you can be lonely in a marriage,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:12.65,0:07:14.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so the second big lessons that we learned
Dialogue: 0,0:07:14.74,0:07:17.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that it's not just\Nthe number of friends you have,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:17.44,0:07:21.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's not whether or not\Nyou're in a committed relationship,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:21.17,0:07:26.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it's the quality\Nof your close relationships that matters.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:26.82,0:07:31.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It turns out that living in the midst\Nof conflict is really bad for our health.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:31.60,0:07:35.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,High-conflict marriages, for example,\Nwithout much affection,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:35.57,0:07:41.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,turn out to be very bad for our health,\Nperhaps worse than getting divorced.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:41.28,0:07:46.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And living in the midst of good,\Nwarm relationships is protective.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:46.20,0:07:49.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Once we had followed our men\Nall the way into their 80s,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:49.38,0:07:52.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we wanted to look back\Nat them at midlife
Dialogue: 0,0:07:52.38,0:07:54.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to see if we could predict\Nwho was going to grow
Dialogue: 0,0:07:54.98,0:07:57.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,into a happy, healthy octogenarian
Dialogue: 0,0:07:57.46,0:07:59.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and who wasn't.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:59.68,0:08:03.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when we gathered together\Neverything we knew about them
Dialogue: 0,0:08:03.79,0:08:05.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at age 50,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:05.83,0:08:09.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it wasn't their middle age\Ncholesterol levels that predicted
Dialogue: 0,0:08:09.38,0:08:11.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how they were going to grow old.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:11.80,0:08:15.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was how satisfied they were\Nin their relationships.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:15.19,0:08:19.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The people who were the most satisfied\Nin their relationships at age 50
Dialogue: 0,0:08:19.95,0:08:23.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were the healthiest at age 80.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:23.62,0:08:26.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And good, close relationships\Nseem to buffer us
Dialogue: 0,0:08:26.89,0:08:30.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from some of the slings and arrows\Nof getting old.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:30.63,0:08:34.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our most happily partnered men and women
Dialogue: 0,0:08:34.13,0:08:36.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,reported, in their 80s,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:36.83,0:08:39.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that on the days when they had\Nmore physical pain,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:39.68,0:08:42.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,their mood stayed just as happy.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:42.47,0:08:45.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the people who were\Nin unhappy relationships,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:45.67,0:08:48.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on the days when they\Nreported more physical pain,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:48.83,0:08:52.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it was magnified by more emotional pain.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:52.59,0:08:56.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the third big lesson that we learned\Nabout relationships and our health
Dialogue: 0,0:08:56.98,0:09:00.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that good relationships\Ndon't just protect our bodies,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:00.05,0:09:02.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they protect our brains.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:02.20,0:09:06.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It turns out that being\Nin a securely attached relationship
Dialogue: 0,0:09:06.85,0:09:11.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to another person in your 80s\Nis protective,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:11.12,0:09:14.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the people who are in relationships\Nwhere they really feel
Dialogue: 0,0:09:14.28,0:09:17.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they can count on the other person\Nin times of need,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:17.20,0:09:21.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,those people's memories\Nstay sharper longer.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:21.15,0:09:23.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the people in relationships\Nwhere they feel
Dialogue: 0,0:09:23.08,0:09:25.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they really can't count on the other one,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.52,0:09:30.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,those are the people who experience\Nearlier memory decline.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:30.79,0:09:34.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And those good relationships,\Nthey don't have to be smooth all the time.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:34.18,0:09:37.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some of our octogenarian couples\Ncould bicker with each other
Dialogue: 0,0:09:37.92,0:09:39.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,day in and day out,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:39.61,0:09:42.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but as long as they felt that they\Ncould really count on the other
Dialogue: 0,0:09:42.91,0:09:44.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when the going got tough,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:44.42,0:09:49.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,those arguments didn't take a toll\Non their memories.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:49.62,0:09:52.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So this message,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:52.36,0:09:57.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that good, close relationships\Nare good for our health and well being,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:57.86,0:10:01.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is wisdom that's as old as the hills.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:01.39,0:10:05.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why is this so hard to get\Nand so easy to ignore?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:05.43,0:10:07.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, we're human.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:07.36,0:10:10.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What we'd really like is a quick fix,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:10.08,0:10:11.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,something we can get
Dialogue: 0,0:10:11.79,0:10:15.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that'll make our lives good\Nand keep them that way.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:15.58,0:10:18.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Relationships are messy\Nand they're complicated
Dialogue: 0,0:10:18.90,0:10:22.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the hard work of tending\Nto family and friends,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:22.75,0:10:25.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's not sexy or glamorous.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:25.40,0:10:28.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's also lifelong. It never ends.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:28.70,0:10:33.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The people in our 75-year study\Nwho are the happiest in retirement
Dialogue: 0,0:10:33.76,0:10:39.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were the people who had actively worked\Nto replace workmates with new playmates.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:39.45,0:10:42.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just like the millennials\Nin that recent survey,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:42.67,0:10:46.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,many of our men when they\Nwere starting out as young adults
Dialogue: 0,0:10:46.11,0:10:50.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,really believed that fame and wealth\Nand high achievement
Dialogue: 0,0:10:50.82,0:10:54.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were what they needed to go after\Nto have a good life,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:54.35,0:10:57.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but over and over over these 75 years,\Nour study has shown
Dialogue: 0,0:10:57.05,0:11:04.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the people who fared the best were\Nthe people who leaned in to relationships,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:04.01,0:11:08.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with family, with friends, with community.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:08.28,0:11:11.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So what about you?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:11.42,0:11:14.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let's say you're 25,\Nor you're 40, or you're 60.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:14.100,0:11:19.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What might leaning in to relationships\Neven look like?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:19.59,0:11:23.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, the possibilities\Nare practically endless.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:23.86,0:11:26.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It might be something as simple
Dialogue: 0,0:11:26.30,0:11:29.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as replacing screen time with people time
Dialogue: 0,0:11:29.72,0:11:34.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or livening up a stale relationship\Nby doing something new together,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:34.50,0:11:37.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,long walks or date nights,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:37.05,0:11:42.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or reaching out to that family member\Nwho you haven't spoken to in years,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:42.37,0:11:46.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because those all-too-common family feuds
Dialogue: 0,0:11:46.02,0:11:48.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,take a terrible toll
Dialogue: 0,0:11:48.24,0:11:51.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on the people who hold the grudges.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:51.68,0:11:57.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd like to close with a quote\Nfrom Mark Twain.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:57.32,0:11:59.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,More than a century ago,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:59.55,0:12:02.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he was looking back on his life,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:02.22,0:12:05.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he wrote this:
Dialogue: 0,0:12:05.06,0:12:08.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"There isn't time, so brief is life,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:08.75,0:12:14.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for bickerings, apologies, heartburnings,\Ncallings to account.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:14.97,0:12:17.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is only time for loving,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:17.71,0:12:22.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and but an instant,\Nso to speak, for that."
Dialogue: 0,0:12:22.98,0:12:27.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The good life is built\Nwith good relationships.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:27.42,0:12:29.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:29.85,0:12:33.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)