[Script Info] Title: [Events] Format: Layer, Start, End, Style, Name, MarginL, MarginR, MarginV, Effect, Text Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.79,0:00:03.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In our culture we tend to see sex Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.04,0:00:07.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as something that's more important\Nto men than it is to women. Dialogue: 0,0:00:07.42,0:00:09.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But that's not true. Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.04,0:00:13.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What is true is that women often feel\Nmore shame in talking about it. Dialogue: 0,0:00:14.00,0:00:18.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Over half of women quietly suffer\Nfrom some kind of sexual dysfunction. Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.50,0:00:22.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've been hearing\Nmore about the orgasm gap. Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.38,0:00:26.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's kind of like the wage gap\Nbut stickier ... Dialogue: 0,0:00:26.50,0:00:28.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.08,0:00:32.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Straight women tend to reach climax Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.67,0:00:36.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,less than 60 percent\Nof the time they have sex. Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.83,0:00:40.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Men reach climax 90 percent\Nof the time they have sex. Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.83,0:00:45.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To address these issues\Nwomen have been sold flawed medication, Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.21,0:00:47.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,testosterone creams ... Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.83,0:00:51.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even untested genital injections. Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.62,0:00:57.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The thing is, female sexuality\Ncan't be fixed with a pill. Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.96,0:01:00.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's because it's not broken: Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.33,0:01:02.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's misunderstood. Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.67,0:01:07.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our culture has had a skewed\Nand medically incorrect picture Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.17,0:01:09.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of female sexuality Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.17,0:01:11.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,going back centuries. Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.71,0:01:16.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If over half of women\Nhave some kind of sexual problem, Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.46,0:01:20.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe our idea of sexuality\Ndoesn't work for women. Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.08,0:01:25.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We need a clearer understanding\Nof how women actually work. Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.92,0:01:28.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm a journalist, Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.21,0:01:29.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I recently wrote a book Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.67,0:01:34.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about how our understanding\Nof female sexuality is evolving. Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.75,0:01:40.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So sexuality itself was defined\Nback when men dominated science. Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.21,0:01:43.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Male scientists\Ntended to see the female body Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.46,0:01:45.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,through their own skewed lens. Dialogue: 0,0:01:45.62,0:01:49.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They could've just asked women\Nabout their experience. Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.83,0:01:55.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Instead they probed the female body\Nlike it was a foreign landscape. Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.42,0:02:01.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even today we debate the existence\Nof female ejaculation and the G-spot Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.25,0:02:04.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like we're talking about aliens or UFOs. Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.17,0:02:07.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Are they really out there?" Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.58,0:02:10.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.04,0:02:13.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All this goes double for LGBTQI\Nwomen's sexuality, Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.71,0:02:16.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which has been hated\Nand erased in specific ways. Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.33,0:02:22.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ignorance about the female body\Ngoes back centuries. Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.83,0:02:25.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It goes back to the beginning\Nof modern medicine. Dialogue: 0,0:02:25.54,0:02:28.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Cast your mind back to the 16th century, Dialogue: 0,0:02:28.46,0:02:32.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a time of scientific revolution in Europe. Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.79,0:02:35.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Men of ideas were challenging old dogmas. Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.75,0:02:40.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They were building telescopes\Nto gaze up at the stars. Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.75,0:02:43.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We were making progress ... Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.17,0:02:44.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sometimes. Dialogue: 0,0:02:44.71,0:02:47.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You see, the fathers of anatomy -- Dialogue: 0,0:02:47.29,0:02:51.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I say "fathers" because,\Nlet's face it, they were all dudes -- Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.54,0:02:54.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were poking about between women's legs Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.04,0:02:56.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and trying to classify what they saw. Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.83,0:03:01.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They weren't quite sure\Nwhat to do with the clitoris. Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.50,0:03:05.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It didn't appear to have\Nanything to do with making babies. Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.00,0:03:09.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The leading anatomist at the time declared Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.62,0:03:13.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it was probably\Nsome kind of abnormal growth -- Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.46,0:03:14.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:03:14.50,0:03:18.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that any woman who had one\Nwas probably a hermaphrodite. Dialogue: 0,0:03:19.88,0:03:25.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It got so bad that parents would sometimes\Nhave their daughter's clitoris cut off Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.04,0:03:27.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if it was deemed too large. Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.33,0:03:28.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's right. Dialogue: 0,0:03:28.62,0:03:32.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Something we think of today\Nas female genital mutilation Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.67,0:03:36.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was practiced in the West\Nas late as the 20th century. Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.96,0:03:39.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You have to wonder: Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.25,0:03:42.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if they were that confused\Nabout women's bodies, Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.46,0:03:44.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why didn't they just ask women\Nfor a little help? Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.67,0:03:49.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But you must be thinking,\N"All that was history." Dialogue: 0,0:03:50.38,0:03:52.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a different world now. Dialogue: 0,0:03:52.71,0:03:53.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Women have everything. Dialogue: 0,0:03:54.00,0:03:56.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They have the birth control pill, Dialogue: 0,0:03:56.17,0:04:00.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they have sexting\Nand Tinder and vajazzling. Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.46,0:04:02.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.54,0:04:06.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Things must be better now. Dialogue: 0,0:04:06.88,0:04:10.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But medical ignorance\Nof the female body continues. Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.83,0:04:15.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How many of you recognize this? Dialogue: 0,0:04:16.88,0:04:20.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's the full structure of the clitoris. Dialogue: 0,0:04:20.04,0:04:23.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We think of the clitoris\Nas this little pea-sized nub, Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.50,0:04:26.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but actually it extends\Ndeep into the body. Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.58,0:04:28.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Most of it lies under the skin. Dialogue: 0,0:04:28.92,0:04:32.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It contains almost as much\Nerectile tissue as the penis. Dialogue: 0,0:04:34.38,0:04:35.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's beautiful, isn't it? Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.33,0:04:37.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It looks a little like a swan. Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.96,0:04:39.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.92,0:04:43.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This sculpture is by an artist\Nnamed Sophia Wallace Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.33,0:04:46.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as part of her "Cliteracy" project. Dialogue: 0,0:04:46.46,0:04:47.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.79,0:04:49.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She believes we need more "cliteracy," Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.92,0:04:52.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's true, considering\Nthat this structure Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.33,0:04:57.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was only fully 3-D mapped\Nby researchers in 2009. Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.00,0:05:03.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That was after we finished mapping\Nthe entire human genome. Dialogue: 0,0:05:03.29,0:05:06.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:05:08.00,0:05:11.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This ignorance has real-life consequences. Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.67,0:05:14.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In a medical journal in 2005, Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.12,0:05:16.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dr. Helen O'Connell, a urologist, Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.75,0:05:21.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,warned her colleagues that this structure\Nwas still nowhere to be found Dialogue: 0,0:05:21.62,0:05:23.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in basic medical journals -- Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.88,0:05:25.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,textbooks like "Gray's Anatomy." Dialogue: 0,0:05:27.04,0:05:30.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This could have serious\Nconsequences for surgery. Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.67,0:05:33.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Take this in. Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.50,0:05:34.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Gentlemen: Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.92,0:05:38.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,imagine if you were at risk\Nof losing your penis Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.71,0:05:42.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because doctors weren't\Ntotally sure where it was Dialogue: 0,0:05:42.58,0:05:44.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or what it looked like. Dialogue: 0,0:05:45.96,0:05:47.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Unsurprisingly, Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.42,0:05:51.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,many women aren't too clear\Non their own genital anatomy either. Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.50,0:05:52.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can't really blame them. Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.92,0:05:57.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The clitoris is often missing\Nfrom many sex-ed diagrams, too. Dialogue: 0,0:05:58.67,0:06:04.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Women can sense that their culture\Nviews their bodies with confusion at best, Dialogue: 0,0:06:04.08,0:06:06.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,outright disdain and disgust at worst. Dialogue: 0,0:06:07.46,0:06:11.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Many women still view their own genitals\Nas dirty or inadequate. Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.88,0:06:15.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're increasingly\Ncomparing their vulvas Dialogue: 0,0:06:15.58,0:06:19.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with the neat and tiny ones\Nthey see in pornography. Dialogue: 0,0:06:20.75,0:06:25.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's one reason why labiaplasty\Nis becoming a skyrocketing business Dialogue: 0,0:06:25.04,0:06:27.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,among women and teen girls. Dialogue: 0,0:06:29.75,0:06:34.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some people feel\Nthat all this is a trivial issue. Dialogue: 0,0:06:34.42,0:06:36.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was writing my book\Nwhen I was at a dinner party Dialogue: 0,0:06:36.96,0:06:41.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and someone said, "Isn't sexuality\Na first-world problem? Dialogue: 0,0:06:42.54,0:06:46.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Aren't women dealing with more\Nimportant issues all over the world?" Dialogue: 0,0:06:47.50,0:06:49.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Of course they are. Dialogue: 0,0:06:49.25,0:06:54.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I think the impulse to trivialize sex\Nis part of our problem. Dialogue: 0,0:06:54.50,0:06:58.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We live in a culture\Nthat seems obsessed with sex. Dialogue: 0,0:06:58.33,0:07:00.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We use it to sell everything. Dialogue: 0,0:07:01.42,0:07:02.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We tell women that looking sexy Dialogue: 0,0:07:03.00,0:07:05.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is one of the most important\Nthings you can do. Dialogue: 0,0:07:06.71,0:07:09.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what we really do is we belittle sex. Dialogue: 0,0:07:09.83,0:07:14.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We reduce it to a sad shadow\Nof what it truly is. Dialogue: 0,0:07:14.33,0:07:17.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sex is more than just an act. Dialogue: 0,0:07:17.96,0:07:19.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I spoke with Dr. Lori Brotto, Dialogue: 0,0:07:19.75,0:07:23.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a psychologist who treats\Nsexual issues in women, Dialogue: 0,0:07:23.25,0:07:25.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,including survivors of trauma. Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.83,0:07:31.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She says the hundreds of women she sees\Nall tend to repeat the same thing. Dialogue: 0,0:07:32.00,0:07:34.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They say, "I don't feel whole." Dialogue: 0,0:07:35.29,0:07:39.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They feel they've lost a connection\Nwith their partners and themselves. Dialogue: 0,0:07:40.42,0:07:43.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So what is sex? Dialogue: 0,0:07:43.25,0:07:46.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've traditionally defined the act of sex Dialogue: 0,0:07:46.21,0:07:50.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as a linear, goal-oriented process. Dialogue: 0,0:07:50.46,0:07:53.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's something that starts with lust, Dialogue: 0,0:07:53.17,0:07:56.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,continues to heavy petting Dialogue: 0,0:07:56.12,0:07:58.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and finishes with a happy ending. Dialogue: 0,0:07:59.54,0:08:02.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Except many women\Ndon't experience it this way. Dialogue: 0,0:08:06.04,0:08:10.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's less linear for them\Nand more circular. Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.88,0:08:14.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is a new model\Nof women's arousal and desire Dialogue: 0,0:08:14.29,0:08:17.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,developed by Dr. Rosemary Basson. Dialogue: 0,0:08:17.46,0:08:18.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It says many things, Dialogue: 0,0:08:18.75,0:08:23.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,including that women can begin\Nan encounter for many different reasons Dialogue: 0,0:08:23.58,0:08:25.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that aren't desire, Dialogue: 0,0:08:25.21,0:08:27.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like curiosity. Dialogue: 0,0:08:27.58,0:08:32.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They can finish with a climax\Nor multiple climaxes, Dialogue: 0,0:08:32.96,0:08:36.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or satisfaction without a climax at all. Dialogue: 0,0:08:37.50,0:08:39.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All options are normal. Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.96,0:08:46.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some people are starting to champion\Na richer definition of sexuality. Dialogue: 0,0:08:47.00,0:08:51.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Whether you identify as male,\Nfemale or neither gender, Dialogue: 0,0:08:51.29,0:08:55.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sex is about our relationship\Nto the senses. Dialogue: 0,0:08:55.38,0:08:57.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's about slowing down, Dialogue: 0,0:08:57.92,0:08:59.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,listening to the body, Dialogue: 0,0:08:59.71,0:09:01.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,coming into the present moment. Dialogue: 0,0:09:02.67,0:09:05.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's about our whole health\Nand well-being. Dialogue: 0,0:09:06.67,0:09:07.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In other words, Dialogue: 0,0:09:07.96,0:09:12.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sex at its true breadth isn't profane, Dialogue: 0,0:09:12.96,0:09:14.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's sacred. Dialogue: 0,0:09:16.50,0:09:21.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's one reason why women\Nare redefining their sexuality today. Dialogue: 0,0:09:21.46,0:09:24.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're asking: What is sex for me? Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.79,0:09:30.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So they're experimenting with practices\Nthat are less about the happy ending -- Dialogue: 0,0:09:30.83,0:09:32.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,more about feeling whole. Dialogue: 0,0:09:33.71,0:09:36.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So they're trying out\Nspiritual sex classes, Dialogue: 0,0:09:36.92,0:09:39.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,masturbation workshops -- Dialogue: 0,0:09:39.12,0:09:41.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even shooting their own porn Dialogue: 0,0:09:41.67,0:09:44.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that celebrates the diversity\Nof real bodies. Dialogue: 0,0:09:46.17,0:09:50.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For anyone who still feels\Nthis is a trivial issue, consider this: Dialogue: 0,0:09:50.58,0:09:54.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,understanding your body\Nis crucial to the huge issue Dialogue: 0,0:09:54.17,0:09:56.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of sex education and consent. Dialogue: 0,0:09:58.00,0:10:02.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,By deeply, intimately knowing\Nwhat kind of touch feels right, Dialogue: 0,0:10:03.00,0:10:06.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what pressure, what speed, what context, Dialogue: 0,0:10:06.79,0:10:10.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can better know\Nwhat kind of touch feels wrong Dialogue: 0,0:10:10.12,0:10:12.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and have the confidence to say so. Dialogue: 0,0:10:13.29,0:10:17.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This isn't ultimately about women\Nhaving more or better sex. Dialogue: 0,0:10:17.50,0:10:21.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's not about making sure\Nwomen have as many orgasms as men. Dialogue: 0,0:10:22.88,0:10:28.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's about accepting yourself\Nand your own unique experience. Dialogue: 0,0:10:28.75,0:10:31.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's about you being\Nthe expert on your body. Dialogue: 0,0:10:32.71,0:10:38.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's about defining pleasure\Nand satisfaction on your terms. Dialogue: 0,0:10:38.54,0:10:42.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if that means you're happiest\Nhaving no sex at all, Dialogue: 0,0:10:42.38,0:10:43.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's perfect, too. Dialogue: 0,0:10:45.12,0:10:49.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we define sex as part\Nof our whole health and well-being, Dialogue: 0,0:10:49.33,0:10:53.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then empowering women\Nand girls to fully own it Dialogue: 0,0:10:53.46,0:10:55.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is a crucial next step toward equality. Dialogue: 0,0:10:56.96,0:11:01.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I think it would be\Na better world not just for women Dialogue: 0,0:11:01.04,0:11:02.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but for everyone. Dialogue: 0,0:11:02.71,0:11:03.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you. Dialogue: 0,0:11:04.00,0:11:06.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)