1 00:00:00,620 --> 00:00:08,459 You just want to- to step out of it to step out of the whole race, the whole 2 00:00:08,460 --> 00:00:14,730 business, the- the monstrosity of being alive overwhelms you. If you have depression 3 00:00:14,730 --> 00:00:18,600 if you have anxiety, if you have post-traumatic stress disorder, if you 4 00:00:18,600 --> 00:00:23,060 have any kind of mental health condition, this is not something to ignore. 5 00:00:23,059 --> 00:00:30,210 Depression, frustration, anxiety, pain disillusion, it's just a natural part of 6 00:00:30,210 --> 00:00:35,700 the process of becoming a stronger version of yourself. The thing that keeps one 7 00:00:35,700 --> 00:00:40,980 living is a sense of future. That there will be a tomorrow and tomorrow I've got to do 8 00:00:40,979 --> 00:00:46,828 this and then the day after I've got to do that. Get started 9 00:00:46,829 --> 00:00:53,340 and I'm gonna tell you right now, it won't be easy. It will be hard because 10 00:00:53,340 --> 00:01:01,500 life is hard. That's what life is. With depression, one of the most important 11 00:01:01,500 --> 00:01:06,118 things you can realize is that you're not alone. I have been places and someone 12 00:01:06,118 --> 00:01:09,150 has said well you lost an arm and a leg so you have a right to be depressed and I 13 00:01:09,150 --> 00:01:14,969 stopped and I was like depression is real. No matter what you're going through right 14 00:01:14,969 --> 00:01:19,829 now it doesn't mean that it's not gonna end. I think too often we're thinking about 15 00:01:19,829 --> 00:01:23,609 the stresses that we're dealt with right now and we think that there's no light 16 00:01:23,609 --> 00:01:29,250 at the end of the tunnel. All that you can see is darkness and everything that 17 00:01:29,250 --> 00:01:34,649 you try to do just kicks you right back in the face and you just can't seem to 18 00:01:34,649 --> 00:01:39,570 get yourself up. You don't even have to go through something traumatic. Some are 19 00:01:39,569 --> 00:01:43,349 caused by you know, something traumatic some can be a chemical imbalance in the 20 00:01:43,349 --> 00:01:51,899 brain. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Life is hard. Life is challenging. 21 00:01:51,899 --> 00:01:58,590 There are ups and downs and these challenges- these challenges that you 22 00:01:58,590 --> 00:02:07,640 face they're gonna do their best to take you down. Do not let them. 23 00:02:07,640 --> 00:02:12,439 Of course you have to work, of course you have to show up, your team needs you, life 24 00:02:12,439 --> 00:02:16,750 needs you, your family needs you, life is for the living. 25 00:02:16,750 --> 00:02:22,460 Depression is not only normal, it's essential and be grateful for it because 26 00:02:22,460 --> 00:02:25,939 it allows you to reorder yourself at a higher level. 27 00:02:25,939 --> 00:02:35,359 I speak what's on my heart and I gave my speech and as I was closing, I kind of 28 00:02:35,360 --> 00:02:39,470 mentioned some depression because I was I was coming out of the winter months 29 00:02:39,469 --> 00:02:42,109 and it hit me again this past winter and I went and saw the doctor 30 00:02:42,110 --> 00:02:46,040 so it was on my mind and it came up and as I was saying, I thought this 31 00:02:46,039 --> 00:02:50,179 generation of people probably aren't connecting to what I'm saying. When I 32 00:02:50,180 --> 00:02:55,040 walked off the stage and they lined up the amount of people that thanked me 33 00:02:55,039 --> 00:02:59,060 for talking about mental health and here I was- I thought they didn't want to hear it I 34 00:02:59,060 --> 00:03:02,449 thought I was stepping out of line. No it needs to be talked about because it's 35 00:03:02,449 --> 00:03:06,738 not just this generation, it's- people are realizing more and more there's an issue 36 00:03:06,739 --> 00:03:11,000 and the more we talk about it the easier it is for people to be honest with 37 00:03:11,000 --> 00:03:17,709 themselves and get the help they need. Line up those problems and confront them. 38 00:03:17,709 --> 00:03:25,870 Face them, fight them. Do not let them bring you down, do not personally 39 00:03:25,870 --> 00:03:32,020 identify with your depression. See it as you see winter and winter 40 00:03:32,020 --> 00:03:37,420 always leads to spring and summer again, see it as you see nighttime. Nighttime 41 00:03:37,419 --> 00:03:41,379 becomes daytime again. Hold on to that 42 00:03:41,379 --> 00:03:47,199 fundamental quality of faith and on the other side of your pain is 43 00:03:47,199 --> 00:03:52,459 something good. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. No 44 00:03:52,459 --> 00:03:56,740 matter what you're going through right now doesn't mean that it's not gonna end. 45 00:03:56,740 --> 00:04:04,820 Stand up, dig in let those challenges raise you up, let them 46 00:04:04,819 --> 00:04:12,919 elevate you, let their demands and their trials make you stronger. Adversity you 47 00:04:12,919 --> 00:04:22,219 face today turning you into a better person tomorrow. You are worth more than 48 00:04:22,220 --> 00:04:27,560 diamonds, all the diamonds in the world you are so precious, every single one of 49 00:04:27,560 --> 00:04:34,100 your hearts. You can do something. Life is not always good, life is always not rosy 50 00:04:34,100 --> 00:04:42,050 but life is worth living. There's one thing one thing that if you did every single 51 00:04:42,050 --> 00:04:46,430 day it would make an extraordinary difference in whatever mental health 52 00:04:46,430 --> 00:04:49,819 issue you're struggling with and that is exercise and the reason you've gotta 53 00:04:49,819 --> 00:04:53,870 exercise every day is because what we know about human beings is that when you 54 00:04:53,870 --> 00:05:02,209 physically move, your physiology changes and that changes your brain. Take the 55 00:05:02,209 --> 00:05:07,859 time to rest because just what if that resting is the 56 00:05:07,860 --> 00:05:17,129 key to world-class producing? Get outside and exercise every single day as if your 57 00:05:17,129 --> 00:05:22,110 life depends upon it because you know what? It does. Your brain needs it 58 00:05:22,110 --> 00:05:27,960 your body needs it, your mental health needs it and I feel like if you had 59 00:05:27,959 --> 00:05:32,430 heart problems and saw a cardiologist well everyone would be concerned about you 60 00:05:32,430 --> 00:05:35,910 and know you're doing better and it would be open and honest with the crew 61 00:05:35,910 --> 00:05:39,840 but the most complicated organ in your body, if you have a problem with it 62 00:05:39,839 --> 00:05:44,489 suddenly there's a- we don't want to talk about that? No and you can get over it and 63 00:05:44,490 --> 00:05:50,090 that's what people need to realize. You can be cured, you can get past it. I 64 00:05:50,089 --> 00:05:55,079 assure you the clouds will lift, right? There is 65 00:05:55,079 --> 00:05:58,620 sunlight above the clouds, you're just looking at the clouds right now and they 66 00:05:58,620 --> 00:06:03,060 will lift and crisis has come to teach you the big lesson you're meant to learn 67 00:06:03,060 --> 00:06:10,259 to move to your next level in the next chapter of your greatest life. This 68 00:06:10,259 --> 00:06:15,329 depression will pass. It will go away and something much better will take its 69 00:06:15,329 --> 00:06:20,339 place but for right now all that you really need to know is that you have to 70 00:06:20,339 --> 00:06:27,629 make it through. Getting your heart rate up, getting outside, breathing, feeling 71 00:06:27,629 --> 00:06:31,228 connected, getting out of your house which may make you feel depressed and 72 00:06:31,228 --> 00:06:38,129 trapped. The man I am with you right now as I speak with as much authenticity as 73 00:06:38,129 --> 00:06:44,029 I know how to share is the result of my times in the valley of darkness. 74 00:06:44,829 --> 00:06:49,609 Doing that everyday, that physical push you don't have to run, you don't have to 75 00:06:49,610 --> 00:06:53,780 go to an aerobics class- class get outside with your dog in the woods, walk 76 00:06:53,779 --> 00:06:58,339 with a good friend for two or three miles, doing that every single day not 77 00:06:58,339 --> 00:07:01,669 only moves your body which changes your mind it gets you out of your physical 78 00:07:01,670 --> 00:07:04,610 environment which is one of the things that people with depression tend to have 79 00:07:04,610 --> 00:07:08,870 a hard time doing and it also creates a bit of momentum and a bit of a routine 80 00:07:08,870 --> 00:07:14,060 in your life. Every time I experience a bout of depression I come out on the 81 00:07:14,060 --> 00:07:19,670 other end a different person, doing different things but it's because I'm 82 00:07:19,670 --> 00:07:24,170 aware of what's happening and I'm looking, I'm aware, I want to see the 83 00:07:24,170 --> 00:07:28,460 opportunities as they present themselves to me instead of falling into the depths 84 00:07:28,459 --> 00:07:32,930 of a spiral down depression because I'm personally identifying with what is 85 00:07:32,930 --> 00:07:38,930 happening when I'm upset and your schedule is not full and you actually 86 00:07:38,930 --> 00:07:44,439 feel like you're wasting your life because you're not this epic producer. 87 00:07:44,439 --> 00:07:50,930 What if those times were actually a different form of productivity, what if 88 00:07:50,930 --> 00:07:55,970 those times were actually being productive in a different way where 89 00:07:55,970 --> 00:07:59,590 you're actually producing not in the world but producing within yourself 90 00:07:59,589 --> 00:08:04,459 producing strengths, producing new insights, producing new ideas, producing 91 00:08:04,459 --> 00:08:08,810 new capabilities, producing new energies producing new emotions, shifting from 92 00:08:08,810 --> 00:08:12,139 fear to love because when you go through difficult times what do you really do if 93 00:08:12,139 --> 00:08:16,430 you feel your fear and your pain? You release it. It's out of your system and 94 00:08:16,430 --> 00:08:19,850 you grow in love and bravery and strength, what does that do to your craft 95 00:08:19,850 --> 00:08:23,480 what does that do to your power, what does that do to your bravery, what does 96 00:08:23,480 --> 00:08:26,930 that do to the light that you bring into the world? You become this incredible 97 00:08:26,930 --> 00:08:32,830 force that is undefeatable. I suggest to you that if you are facing 98 00:08:32,830 --> 00:08:37,500 a challenge don't stop. Stay busy, work your plan 99 00:08:37,500 --> 00:08:41,408 continue to do those things that you know that work for you after you have 100 00:08:41,408 --> 00:08:46,419 evaluated yourself in the situation. Continue to move, stay busy, stay busy 101 00:08:46,419 --> 00:08:53,039 stay busy. You are part of a larger cosmos whether you know it or not and 102 00:08:53,039 --> 00:08:59,230 communing with nature allows you not to see the bars of the prison cell but the 103 00:08:59,230 --> 00:09:04,120 stars of the universe and if you can connect with those every day, my dear 104 00:09:04,120 --> 00:09:11,620 friend you will use your pain as an instrument for your greatest growth and then 105 00:09:11,620 --> 00:09:14,919 you try something new and then you'll also go to school and people will put 106 00:09:14,919 --> 00:09:17,439 you down and parents will tell you that you're a failure because you failed at a test 107 00:09:17,440 --> 00:09:22,990 and you start believing the lies around you saying that you're not good 108 00:09:22,990 --> 00:09:26,289 enough and no one's gonna want you and you'll never ever do anything good in 109 00:09:26,289 --> 00:09:30,099 your life and you'll never ever- you know achieve the dreams and goals 110 00:09:30,100 --> 00:09:36,310 that you wish you had done, or wish that you could do and these steps take you 111 00:09:36,309 --> 00:09:41,319 closer. That voice saying you're not good enough, you're not good enough, you're not 112 00:09:41,320 --> 00:09:47,010 good enough and all you need is one more step to fall so you have a choice to 113 00:09:47,009 --> 00:09:51,419 know which step you're gonna take today. 114 00:09:53,440 --> 00:09:59,530 I want you to know that no matter where you are in life, no matter how low you 115 00:09:59,529 --> 00:10:05,079 have sunk no matter how bleak your situation, this 116 00:10:05,080 --> 00:10:13,600 is not the end. This is not the end of your story, this is not the final chapter 117 00:10:13,600 --> 00:10:23,500 of your life, I know it may be hard right now but if you just hang in there, stick 118 00:10:23,500 --> 00:10:30,940 it out, stay with me for a little while you will find that this tough moment 119 00:10:30,940 --> 00:10:37,690 will pass and if you are committed to using this pain, using it to build your 120 00:10:37,690 --> 00:10:46,570 character, finding a greater meaning for the pain, you will find that in time you 121 00:10:46,570 --> 00:10:57,528 can turn your life around and help others going through the same struggles. 122 00:10:57,528 --> 00:11:01,470 The world right now is in the middle of a mental health crisis. 123 00:11:01,470 --> 00:11:06,089 It's estimated almost half the population suffers from depression at 124 00:11:06,089 --> 00:11:11,310 some stage throughout their life rather than join the queue, it's important we 125 00:11:11,309 --> 00:11:17,549 learn why we get down and then how we can change it because believe it or not 126 00:11:17,549 --> 00:11:23,069 we create our own negative feelings and we can also ensure that we turn our 127 00:11:23,070 --> 00:11:28,680 lives around and be a positive change for others. The reason anyone gets 128 00:11:28,679 --> 00:11:33,569 depressed always comes down to the consistent thoughts we think and the 129 00:11:33,570 --> 00:11:40,200 consistent beliefs we hold. Let me say that again. The reason anyone gets 130 00:11:40,200 --> 00:11:45,600 depressed always comes down to the consistent thoughts we think and the 131 00:11:45,600 --> 00:11:52,080 consistent beliefs we hold. The point here is that anyone that is depressed is 132 00:11:52,080 --> 00:11:57,200 so because there is an external factor that didn't materialize in their life. 133 00:11:57,200 --> 00:12:01,589 They have lost something outside of their control or don't have something 134 00:12:01,589 --> 00:12:07,240 that is out of their control. In school we are taught how to get a job 135 00:12:07,240 --> 00:12:13,210 but no one teaches us how to live in a state of happiness. No one teaches us how 136 00:12:13,210 --> 00:12:18,190 important our conscious and unconscious thoughts and associations are. Is our 137 00:12:18,190 --> 00:12:24,430 happiness not worth more than a job? Yes it is and before you say happiness won't 138 00:12:24,429 --> 00:12:27,819 pay my bills, happiness will pay your bills. When you 139 00:12:27,820 --> 00:12:31,690 realize you will be 10 times more energized, focused and take positive 140 00:12:31,690 --> 00:12:35,950 action in your life when you first choose to develop yourself as a priority 141 00:12:35,950 --> 00:12:42,700 and then get to the stuff of the world. I've seen some people who many would 142 00:12:42,700 --> 00:12:47,110 consider to have it all in their life because they thought they were not good 143 00:12:47,110 --> 00:12:52,990 enough, a though,t a belief within them told them they were not worthy. These 144 00:12:52,990 --> 00:12:58,960 people that many were jealous of, many envious of, were not good enough. 145 00:12:58,960 --> 00:13:05,759 You must value yourself enough to take the time every single day to work on you 146 00:13:05,759 --> 00:13:10,990 to engage in something that will ensure you are a positive influence on the 147 00:13:10,990 --> 00:13:14,149 world. This of course doesn't mean life will 148 00:13:14,149 --> 00:13:18,769 suddenly be perfect, the same life challenges will show up but if your mind 149 00:13:18,769 --> 00:13:25,039 is strong, if your mind is at peace, your reaction to the challenging times will 150 00:13:25,039 --> 00:13:31,458 be very different. Your reaction will be how can I make this work, not why is this 151 00:13:31,458 --> 00:13:35,179 happening to me and then others will look to you not 152 00:13:35,179 --> 00:13:38,620 with pity but with hope 153 00:13:38,789 --> 00:13:44,639 because your strength will become their hope, their strength. You really can be 154 00:13:44,639 --> 00:13:50,309 that powerful. You can ditch the victim story, you can leave the pain behind and 155 00:13:50,309 --> 00:13:58,219 focus on how you will react next, how you will react positively. 156 00:13:58,220 --> 00:14:03,830 Read, read all you can read to get your mind in a positive place, take steps to 157 00:14:03,830 --> 00:14:07,580 ensure you will be in a better position next time, whatever pain you are 158 00:14:07,580 --> 00:14:13,370 suffering from how you can ensure it won't show again. Take little steps and 159 00:14:13,370 --> 00:14:19,460 soon you will be at the top of the staircase. Don't give up, you are worthy 160 00:14:19,460 --> 00:14:25,970 you are more than worthy, you deserve to experience how great life can be and you 161 00:14:25,970 --> 00:14:31,550 owe it to the world to be that positive change for others, to inspire others who 162 00:14:31,549 --> 00:14:39,519 will look to you and say he did it, she did it and I can do it too.