I changed virtually everything in my life from my emotions to my finances from my confidence to my physical health how do they do it well I use what I call the ultimate success formula and here's what it is it has four steps if you want to create the success in your life it always comes back to this you can use whatever technology you want to reprogram yourself but these are the four steps for success step number one you've got to know your outcome in any situation in life you've got to decide right now what do I want out of this situation in my life the more clear you are on what you want the more you empower your brain to come up with answers there's an old phrase that may have been overused but I think it's pretty accurate it says clarity is power you must get focused on what you want and in this tape program we have a goal-setting workshop it's going to help you to get precisely clear and what you want in your life mentally emotionally socially spiritually intellectually so that you have something that's the driving force behind your behavior how can you use this first formula to make a difference in your life right now how could just getting clear and knowing your outcome help you well I believe when you know your outcome you've empowered yourself I mean let's say for example you're in the middle of an argument and have you ever gotten caught up in an argument we're so caught up in it that you forgot what you're even arguing for but you knew you had to win I know I've been there see if in the middle of that argument you would ask the question hey what's my outcome in this situation you're going to probably find out your outcome is not to argue the outcome you want is to resolve something when you get focused on what you really want out of a situation you empower your brain to use its resources to produce results right now so get into that habit the habit of asking yourself what's my outcome and throughout these 30 days I'm going to constantly ask you how can you use this what I just said what's useful about that for your life what is your outcome and applying this in your own life it's critical to continually focus on your target even if you're just going to buy to visit with a friend on the way over to see a friend ask yourself what's my outcome maybe the answer is we'll just have fun or to make my friend feel really appreciated and loved now if you know that your outcome your chances of having more fun or making friends feel love go up a thousand percent versus if you just go over and hang out and wonder why you're bored now I'm not saying you have to be so goal-oriented that every minute you're trying to achieve something I'm just saying it's useful to let your brain know the direction that you're heading and everyone I know who succeeded had to start with getting clear on exactly what they wanted your step to the ultimate success form by the way step one I did I decided what I wanted physically financially emotionally in my business I looked at everything spiritually once I knew I had the first stage of my personal power step two - tapping your power is you've got to use it that is you've got to get yourself to take action and move towards the achievement of your goals now what most people tell me is but I don't know what to do I don't know I'd never ever what if I try and it doesn't work all I can say Dee is this if you try it it doesn't work you got an education you're better off than where you were before because you now know what doesn't work and you'll probably make a distinction or two that'll help you succeed even more most people life have no idea what they want but worse a few people know what they want but they don't do anything about it they just sit around and hope or say someday honey we'll do this someday is now some day is here I remember hearing a phrase years ago that said the road to someday leads to a town of nowhere it's a place you don't want to end up in so you got to get yourself to take action how do you do that you decide I hear people all the time saying well gosh how do I change my life and my answer is decide to make a decision right now you're not willing to settle for anything less than you can be that you're not willing to live the way you're living right now no matter how good it may seem but you're going to push yourself to the next level demanding more from yourself than anybody else could possibly expect is true power and all it takes is deciding remember the word decision in its original Latin root means to cut off from when you decide you cut off from any other possibility the biggest trap that keeps people from taking action is their fear their fear of failure their fear of success their fear of rejection their fear of pain if you're the unknown the only way to deal with fear is face it look at I - I and take action in spite of it I'm sure you've probably heard of some of the seminar I do in which we teach people how to break through their fears and take action and at the end of the seminar they get a chance to use what they've learned to overcome a major fear and literally walk through fire between 800 and 2,000 degrees Fahrenheit now a lot of people think it's crazy but why would you do a thing like that well it's not to teach people new picnic skills and if not mind over matter right now you could walk through fire I'm not encouraging you to make sure you hear me but you could it's absolutely possible you don't need me to do it you could also be up at 6 o'clock a.m. with total passion for living you could also have the person of your dreams be in your life right now you could also be earning what you're worth you could also have more influence on your children than virtually anyone else but few people do it's not what we can do in life that makes the difference it's what we will do and we don't follow through because we don't know what we want oftentimes and when we know we're afraid to take action listen fear can service fear isn't all bad it'll make us pay attention as long as fear is a counselor and not a jailer make sure that you listen to your fear make some more distinctions and get yourself to take action in spite of it and I got to tell you breaking through fear is like anything else it's like a muscle in the beginning if you try and lift a heavy weight boy you might say gosh I can't do this but if you start small and you build every single day for like 30 days for example and what's going to happen is every day you get a little stronger and pretty soon it becomes effortless to do what used to feel like it was impossible it's time for you to develop the muscle of making decisions quickly and easily and following through on them here's the third key element to the ultimate success formula once you know what you want and you get yourself to take action do your actions always work of course not most people might fail much more often they succeed in fact the most successful people are the most successful people because they failed more than anybody else I mean think about it think about any baseball in baseball a Hall of Famer someone who's the best in the world at what they do in the area of baseball they fail 7 times out of 10 how'd you like to have a life like that bottom line is to get in the Hall of Fame they only succeed about 30% of the time they failed more than 70% of the time and you know that's how life is - he listened and doing this taping with you and talking you personally I may not sound elegant all the time because I don't care what I want to do is get across you I want you to get the message in your gut that's what matters me if I say something doesn't work I just move on to something else and I ask you to try the same thing in life most people life has a fear of failure don't try anything at all that's ultimate failure you got to get yourself to take action you got to get yourself to follow through and you've got to be willing to notice whether it's working or not that's step three notice what you're getting from your actions in other words you know what you want you got yourself to take action now notice is it working am I getting closer to my goal or further away don't kid yourself or just keep taking action because after all you work so hard to do it this way I might as well keep on doing it so you don't want to get locked in a tunnel vision remember flexibility is power what you've got to do those know what you're getting I mean a standard example is have you ever had somebody come up and talk to you and they're going on and on and on and you're trying to be very polite and they mistake you're being polite there's a way to speed up this formula and that way is this instead of just knowing what you want and taking random actions you can use what I call role modeling to accelerate the pace of your success what I did is I said okay what do I want I'm 38 pounds overweight I want to lose this weight I want to be 38 pounds lighter and I want to have more energy I want to feel more vibrant in my life you can tell by my energy level that I'm real low energy person now compared to I was then seriously I decided what I wanted and then what I did is I said okay I got to take action but what action should I take I didn't know I tried dieting a zillion times and you know what it would work I would lose weight then I gained it right back again and I'd lose weight and gain it back again so what I decided to do is instead of just taking some actions and sooner or later figuring it out I decided to use a role model I said let me find someone who's already getting the results that I want let me find out what that person is doing and do the same things not as I believe that success leaves clues that if people succeed it's because they're doing certain things over and over and over again and if we do the same kinds of things if we plant the same kinds of seeds we're going to reap the same kind regardless of our age or a background or religion or color or a gender none of that matters what matters is the law works for everyone and if you apply it it'll work but you got to know what to do and so this program is the result of me going out and modeling people that are successful that is instead of reinventing the wheel and having you and I keep doing trial and error on everything I said hey let me find some he's already in the results find out what they do do the same thing get the same results speed up time you gotta remember knowledge is not power knowledge is potential power I mean don't you know someone who knows what they should do with their life knows they should change your life knows how they can change the life and they still don't do it you know somebody like that may be intimately like maybe you for example at times then the bottom line is knowledge is not enough we got to get ourselves to follow through so what did I do I found somebody who had been overweight like me had become thin and stayed thin for years I found out what this person did and I did the same things I'm going to teach you in this program what to do to do that it wasn't just dieting that's not enough that's a result of following through and taking the same actions I lost 30 pounds in 30 days I lost all 38 pounds in about 7 weeks and I haven't gone back and the reason is I didn't just change my diet I learned to mentally conditioned myself to feel differently about certain foods I was addicted to so I no longer had a desire for them the things that used to push me over the edge I did the same thing in the area of relationships I found a man who had the woman of my dreams and I talked to her today how did you attract this woman and I talked to her and said why do you like this guy you know why are you in a relationship with him and I began to find out certain things he did that made that relationship work and I start applying some of the same things and I did the same thing financially I went from a place where I had no confidence in myself emotionally feeling depressed to a place of total strength and financially I mean a measurable change to say the least I was broke living in my for mid square-foot bachelor apartment what happened in less than 12 months I moved my 1,200 square foot apartment major progress at the time 3 times bigger to about 4 months later I moved to a 10,000 square foot castle literally a castle built in 1925 with a big three-story turret we're looking the crashing waves of Del Mar California I don't tell you this to impress you I tell it to impress upon you how quickly you can make changes in your life if you learn to master this incredible computer between your ears called your brain that's we're going to study we're going to study neurosciences the sciences of success conditioning that's what this whole program is about we're going to do it a little piece at a time so it's simple if you will do that the culmination of the 30 days you will find you've gone on a mental diet that will change your life forever if success is really this simple if you could go from being where I was years ago broken every sense of the word emotionally broke physically broke socially broke and financially broke to wealthy in all those areas meeting my dreams becoming a millionaire in less than 12 months that's really possible if it's really as simple as using your personal power and being flexible in your approach and modeling those successful people if it's really that simple how come everybody doesn't do this that's a good question a lot of things in life are really simple that people don't apply them because they get caught up in day to day stuff like well you know I've got to pay my dues I get caught up in making that living it's better designing the life and they come to the end of their life and find out they lived only 1/10 of it not because they weren't intelligent simply because they didn't get clear about what they wanted they didn't get themselves to consistently take action and develop that decision-making massive action muscle in an emotional body they didn't vary their behaviors and now they're stuck it's not a place I think you want to be otherwise you wouldn't invested in this program and you wouldn't be taking the time to listen now so what I'm asking to do is break through those fears that stop you and you know the biggest one that comes up again and again we've already mentioned is failure I want you to know that failure can be your best friend I mean think about it the greatest successes in the world are people who often have so much pain from a failure that drove them to much greater success did you know those little 3m stickers for example those ones that you see that you can put there I think they're called post-it notes you can write on and put them on something and take it right off instantly do you know that was a result of a massive failure by the chemist he was working at the time to create and he civ that would last forever something that you could never pry things apart and as a result he came up with a stuff that didn't work at all but he was smart enough to say hey what can I use this for how could I use the supposed failure and he turned it into a multimillion-dollar business Lee Iacocca most people would agree with one of the more successful role models in our country now I got a question for you how come he so successful because he's a wonder kid well yeah you could say that he worked for a company called Ford Motor Company and he worked his way through the ranks right up to the top worked his tail off was driven what really marked him his ability to get people to take action his personal power he develops skill because he's one to try almost anything he wouldn't accept no for an answer but you know what he had a little run-in with a guy by the name of Ford and he fired him and burned him pretty good now I got a question for you do you think when this company named Chrysler came by and they look like for sure there was no way they could have turned around do you think if he hadn't been fired by Ford that he would have taken it you might say oh of course he would that's the way Lee is well I don't know according to his wife she said at the time he said honey I don't think anybody could turn this thing around she said boy well I bet mr. Ford will be real happy to hear that that's all it took he was so angry from the pain and failure of his past quote unquote failure that he was going to show him it wasn't his failure that mr. Ford made the mistake another company to mention IBM it all started he's a guy by the name of Tom Watson who worked for a competing company called NCR got fired by the CEO there also he got so mad he said I'm going to develop a company that will dwarf your someday see welcome frustration I got to tell you something when I get frustrated I've learned to get excited I learned to literally condition myself so that frustration great excitement you know why because I'm frustrated I know I'm about to have a breakthrough it means my brain is searching if I get confused about some things that are going I'll never learn this my response to that is hey I'm about to learn something because my brain is searching for a new answer and if it keeps searching it's going to come up with one I believe the emotions that many of us consider negative like frustration and rejection and pain can be our greatest friends because they can drive us to success you know what I think one of the things that happens for a lot of people make it successful is it gets superstitious it's like they work so hard for the success they now finally haven't so all of a sudden they don't change they don't vary maybe they kind of like want to stay the way things are they get incredibly conservative and they miss out on the juice of life stay out of the trap listen when people succeed they tend to party when they fail they tend to ponder now the pondering many times we create our greatest successes in life just remember it's impossible to fail if you try something it doesn't work just try something else and learn something from what you just did as long as you learn something you've succeeded something else I want to remind you of as well and that is sometimes people say well gosh I'm gonna do these exercises I know I'm going to be better physically and emotionally and psychologically and I'll feel more confident but I want to work on my career I want to take my business next level I want a business program let me tell you what personal power is one of the most powerful business programs because it deals with the source of all your business which is you when you're in better shape suddenly you negotiate more effectively when you're in better shape your creativity flows when you're in better shape you're a better manager of people that's why if you saw the infomercial which is how I assume you got to this program then you saw people like for example Bill Farley of Farley industries endorsing this program saying is one of the best business programs they ever went through well that's because bill became a billionaire before the age of 40 all by using these personal power type of techniques so I want you know this is very business oriented or a Bill Nicholson it was a turn around expert from major corporations you know in the early 80s he took on a major corporation losing a million dollars a day and turned it around so within four years it was doing more than four billion dollars in revenue in the highest net returns of the history of the company so I want you to know that these people endorses because it works so if you're a little bit skeptical I understand that but understand changing yourself is the first place to change in your career and changing your business right now as this tape ends I want you to do your first assignment really simple remember I told you the way to build a muscle so that you're really strong it starts small and build so we're gonna start with something really simple I want you to think of two actions you've been putting off two things that you should do two things that you need to do but you keep putting it off maybe it's a phone call or two maybe it's somebody you've had some poor communication with and you need to clean it up but you're not it may be it's just going in the house and cleaning it up right now maybe it's some kind of report you need to do I don't know what it is but right now I want you to think of what are two actions you've been putting off that if you were to take them now it would increase the quality of your life either simply would just increase the quality of your self-esteem because you feel good because you actually follow through or maybe even more powerfully what are two decisions or two actions you could take right now that would immediately change the quality of your life maybe it's to stop smoking maybe it's to eliminate certain kinds of food but if you were going to do something right now there's going to change your life what are those two actions and what I want you to do is decide remember to decide means to cut off any of the possibility to resolve once and for all this is it there's tremendous power in that start with something small if you want and then build but right now right down to decisions you've made and then take action on them immediately I mean right now I mean even before I finish talking here stop the day pick up the phone and make that call you've been waiting for do not put it off another minute I don't care what it takes there's power and momentum I'm a big believer that once you set a goal once you make a decision you should immediately in that moment do something to start making progress towards it that way you can't cop out later on or get caught up or lose your momentum so please do it now I know not all things can be done right now so maybe it's something that to do tomorrow morning but whatever you're going to do make the decision and then commit to follow-through and then check in tomorrow because this is the first step to grabbing your personal power and remember there's no way to fail you might simple gosh what if I do this and it doesn't work what if I try this and it doesn't happen hey what if I screw up then screw up big go for do a big screw up because then you'll learn something hey remember success in life is the result of good judgment good judgment is usually the result of experience experience is usually the result of bad judgment so if you got some bad judgment it doesn't work out you'll learn something it'll make you more successful in the future just go for it don't be afraid make it happen you may say wow that's such a little thing to do I'll do it later if it's little then do it now don't put it off okay I'm on your side hey what I'm trying to be here for you is a good you know I don't care how successful you are we all need a coach you [Music]