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Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.65,0:00:46.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ian and Larissa asked me to read a couple of quotes
Dialogue: 0,0:00:46.58,0:00:48.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from a man named John Piper
Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.76,0:00:50.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who is a well-known Bible teacher
Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.95,0:00:53.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he talks about marriage
Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.78,0:00:58.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and how this mystery refers to Christ and the church
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.03,0:00:59.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he says this
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.85,0:01:04.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Marriage is not mainly about prospering economically
Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.72,0:01:10.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is mainly about displaying the covenant-keeping love
Dialogue: 0,0:01:10.04,0:01:13.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,between Christ and his Church"
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.07,0:01:19.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he says, "Knowing Christ is more important
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.52,0:01:22.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than making a living
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.01,0:01:25.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,treasuring Christ is more important
Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.61,0:01:28.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than bearing children
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.23,0:01:33.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,either way, it is short
Dialogue: 0,0:01:33.53,0:01:36.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it may have many bright days
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.43,0:01:39.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or it may be covered with clouds
Dialogue: 0,0:01:39.08,0:01:43.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but if we set our face to make of marriage
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.10,0:01:46.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mainly what God designed it to be
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.18,0:01:50.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,no sorrows and no calamities can stand in our way
Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.76,0:01:54.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,every one of them will be not an obstacle to success
Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.58,0:01:57.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but a way to succeed
Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.00,0:02:13.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the beauty of the covenant-keeping love
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.60,0:02:16.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,between Christ and his Church
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.28,0:02:23.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,shines brightest when nothing but Christ can sustain it"
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.14,0:02:32.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ian and I first met in 2005 at college
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.89,0:02:36.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and had a blast for ten months getting to know each other
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.78,0:02:39.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was looking through and I found one of my favorite pictures
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.62,0:02:42.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which I think was actually taken right before his accident
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.33,0:02:44.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he set up a camera on his tripod
Dialogue: 0,0:02:44.90,0:02:47.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's just a classic Ian face
Dialogue: 0,0:02:47.20,0:02:50.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that, to me, sums up who he is
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.54,0:02:52.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we had been dating for ten months
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.05,0:02:55.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he was working an extra job for his dad
Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.07,0:02:57.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he was on his way to work near Pittsburg
Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.85,0:03:00.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we got a phone call that he had been in an accident
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.71,0:03:02.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we didn't know if it was when he got to work
Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.68,0:03:04.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or on his way
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.37,0:03:07.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so we got down to Pittsburg
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.04,0:03:08.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was just praying the whole time in the car
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.90,0:03:10.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it wouldn't be his brain
Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.49,0:03:12.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,after being at the hospital for a few hours
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.37,0:03:14.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we found out that it was
Dialogue: 0,0:03:14.02,0:03:16.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he had been in brain surgery for a few hours
Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.97,0:03:20.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and had suffered a traumatic brain injury
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.80,0:03:23.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,God totally spared his life
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.45,0:03:26.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one night he was failing four out of five brain activity tests
Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.15,0:03:29.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the next morning he was doing well
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.48,0:03:32.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and his brain was starting to respond again
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.60,0:03:38.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I moved in with his family after the accident
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.68,0:03:40.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I was really involved in his therapy
Dialogue: 0,0:03:40.84,0:03:44.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and just did whatever I could to make his life fun
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.64,0:03:47.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we'd go out on dates and, looking back, it's weird
Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.49,0:03:49.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,cause he couldn't talk
Dialogue: 0,0:03:49.12,0:03:50.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he couldn't eat
Dialogue: 0,0:03:50.57,0:03:53.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so we probably looked like complete weirdos being on dates
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.52,0:03:57.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we had a blast and I just talked to him all the time
Dialogue: 0,0:03:59.81,0:04:02.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I knew that before Ian's accident he was very serious
Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.97,0:04:04.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about marriage and was ring shopping
Dialogue: 0,0:04:04.54,0:04:07.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I knew where he was
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.33,0:04:09.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that helped me so much
Dialogue: 0,0:04:09.36,0:04:11.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,after he couldn't talk
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.20,0:04:12.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I knew that he loved me
Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.87,0:04:15.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I knew where he wanted the relationship to go
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.61,0:04:18.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because we were dating very intentionally
Dialogue: 0,0:04:18.63,0:04:21.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we just prayed that marriage would someday happen
Dialogue: 0,0:04:21.15,0:04:23.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and watched all of our friends get married
Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.25,0:04:24.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and start having families
Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.98,0:04:26.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that was challenging
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.24,0:04:28.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we just tried to hold out hope
Dialogue: 0,0:04:28.21,0:04:30.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that that would be us someday
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.14,0:04:37.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is our board of gratefulness
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.50,0:04:39.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we encourage anybody who comes in
Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.96,0:04:42.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to write a note of something they're thankful for
Dialogue: 0,0:04:42.22,0:04:43.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it could be really small
Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.57,0:04:45.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mine is just Saturday mornings
Dialogue: 0,0:04:45.64,0:04:49.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's just a good way that we found to be
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.95,0:04:53.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just practicing gratefulness
Dialogue: 0,0:04:53.02,0:04:57.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ian, I think half of yours say, "My wifey"
Dialogue: 0,0:04:57.82,0:04:58.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,yeah
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.59,0:05:00.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is pretty cool
Dialogue: 0,0:05:00.34,0:05:02.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,yeah
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.70,0:05:07.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we decided that we couldn't really
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.72,0:05:09.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,consider marriage as an option
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.22,0:05:10.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,until Ian was able to communicate
Dialogue: 0,0:05:10.88,0:05:12.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but if he could communicate with me
Dialogue: 0,0:05:12.35,0:05:14.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then we could have a marriage
Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.18,0:05:16.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,knowing it would be really different
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.72,0:05:18.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but as long as Ian could talk to me
Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.77,0:05:21.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then we could make it work
Dialogue: 0,0:05:21.08,0:05:23.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so once Ian began communicating
Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.57,0:05:25.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it became a little bit more of an option
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.68,0:05:28.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then we just kind of watched Ian progress
Dialogue: 0,0:05:30.20,0:05:32.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hi, husband!
Dialogue: 0,0:05:32.18,0:05:34.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hi, wifey!
Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.49,0:05:35.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How are you?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.89,0:05:38.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Fine. How are you?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.39,0:05:39.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:39.41,0:05:40.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How are you?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.67,0:05:43.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm good, it's good to see you
Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.12,0:05:45.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How was your day? Good?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:45.56,0:05:46.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Good, yes
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.85,0:05:49.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A conversation I had with his dad
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.73,0:05:50.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it was one of those conversations
Dialogue: 0,0:05:50.81,0:05:52.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where I realized this could happen
Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.80,0:05:56.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then that August his dad was diagnosed with brain cancer
Dialogue: 0,0:05:56.53,0:06:00.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and at that point his dad's biggest concern was Ian and I
Dialogue: 0,0:06:00.60,0:06:04.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and whether or not we were going to get married
Dialogue: 0,0:06:04.25,0:06:05.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or step away from our relationship
Dialogue: 0,0:06:05.86,0:06:07.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he wanted us to make a decision
Dialogue: 0,0:06:07.97,0:06:11.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to move our lives in some direction
Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.24,0:06:15.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he passed away before he was able to see us get engaged
Dialogue: 0,0:06:15.28,0:06:21.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but that was a huge impetus in why we started to pursue engagement
Dialogue: 0,0:06:27.82,0:06:29.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,throughout premarital counseling
Dialogue: 0,0:06:29.25,0:06:32.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we just used This Momentary Marriage
Dialogue: 0,0:06:32.64,0:06:34.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it was so helpful because John Piper talked a lot about
Dialogue: 0,0:06:34.87,0:06:38.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,primary things and secondary things
Dialogue: 0,0:06:38.20,0:06:39.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is real important for us
Dialogue: 0,0:06:39.68,0:06:44.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because we were walking out our marriage practically
Dialogue: 0,0:06:44.65,0:06:48.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ian can't do the secondary things like working
Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.18,0:06:49.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or making a meal for me
Dialogue: 0,0:06:49.88,0:06:52.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,everything that's primary, though, he can do
Dialogue: 0,0:06:52.01,0:06:53.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is leading me spiritually
Dialogue: 0,0:06:53.54,0:06:54.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ian always comes back to
Dialogue: 0,0:06:54.75,0:06:57.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the foundational truths of who God is
Dialogue: 0,0:06:57.53,0:06:59.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and kind of reels me back in from my emotions
Dialogue: 0,0:06:59.98,0:07:01.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's the most important thing
Dialogue: 0,0:07:03.20,0:07:06.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we have two friends that we're going through the book with
Dialogue: 0,0:07:06.89,0:07:09.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think we've just been able to help them see
Dialogue: 0,0:07:09.27,0:07:12.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that maybe the little things that they're excited for
Dialogue: 0,0:07:12.52,0:07:14.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about marriage are worth being excited about
Dialogue: 0,0:07:14.58,0:07:20.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but they're not the end-all and be-all of their marriage
Dialogue: 0,0:07:21.45,0:07:23.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we also have so much to learn
Dialogue: 0,0:07:23.97,0:07:25.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we're learning from them
Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.99,0:07:27.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and things that they share
Dialogue: 0,0:07:27.45,0:07:28.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because our relationships are different
Dialogue: 0,0:07:28.74,0:07:33.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we can glean different things from each other
Dialogue: 0,0:07:33.34,0:07:35.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think what helped us in deciding to make
Dialogue: 0,0:07:35.53,0:07:36.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this commitment to each other
Dialogue: 0,0:07:36.86,0:07:37.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at least for me
Dialogue: 0,0:07:37.96,0:07:39.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is knowing that Ian wouldn't have left me
Dialogue: 0,0:07:39.69,0:07:42.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if the roles were reversed
Dialogue: 0,0:07:42.68,0:07:45.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that we love each other and we know
Dialogue: 0,0:07:45.54,0:07:49.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that God is going to be faithful to our marriage
Dialogue: 0,0:07:51.12,0:07:53.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we're able to love each other
Dialogue: 0,0:07:53.33,0:07:54.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with, I think, a more Christ-like love
Dialogue: 0,0:07:54.98,0:07:57.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because of Ian's disability
Dialogue: 0,0:07:57.04,0:07:58.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and just understand that picture
Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.60,0:08:01.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a little bit better than if you were healthy
Dialogue: 0,0:08:01.49,0:08:02.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you agree?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:02.85,0:08:03.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes
Dialogue: 0,0:08:04.87,0:08:09.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What about God enables you to have a happy marriage?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:09.02,0:08:10.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know...
Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.63,0:08:11.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:11.39,0:08:12.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He's awesome!
Dialogue: 0,0:08:12.100,0:08:13.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He's awesome?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:13.93,0:08:15.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah
Dialogue: 0,0:08:28.53,0:08:33.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"When all around my soul gives way\NHe then is all my hope and stay."
Dialogue: 0,0:08:33.86,0:08:37.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Desiring God exists to spread the truth that
Dialogue: 0,0:08:38.33,0:08:42.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,God is most glorified in us \Nwhen we are most satisfied in him.