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Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.32,0:00:24.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Bell)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:28.21,0:00:33.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dear Thay, Oprah magazine is asking:\N"How can we let go of anger
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.64,0:00:36.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whether it is directed at family members
Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.99,0:00:39.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or someone who has wronged us in the past?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.88,0:00:42.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's easy to let anger consume us.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.22,0:00:46.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So how can we move past it\Nand move on in our lives?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.74,0:00:51.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is not quite the same as\Nforgiving and forgetting,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.92,0:00:55.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but just letting go of any anger we hold."
Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.66,0:01:09.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Oprah magazine is speaking about anger\Nvis-à-vis family members
Dialogue: 0,0:01:10.30,0:01:13.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or someone who has wronged us\Nin the past.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.14,0:01:22.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They want to know whether\Nthere is anything we can do
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.42,0:01:29.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to transform that anger,\Nto let go of that anger.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:33.93,0:01:37.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And forgiving does not seem to be enough.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:42.90,0:01:45.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is a very important question.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.99,0:01:54.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think the first thing we do\Nwhen anger is about to come up
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.77,0:02:01.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is to go back to our breath\Nand breathe in mindfully.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.85,0:02:06.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because anger is like a storm.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.53,0:02:11.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It has...
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.10,0:02:15.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are symptoms.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.16,0:02:19.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you feel that anger is coming up,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.05,0:02:27.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is coming up from down there\Nin the bottom of our consciousness.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.40,0:02:35.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when the storm\Nis about to break out, we know.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.69,0:02:38.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We feel signs of the storm.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.94,0:02:47.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we have to prepare in order to\Nbe able to resist, to deal with the storm.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.08,0:02:50.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when anger is about to come up...
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.12,0:02:57.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it might take\Ntwo or three seconds to come up.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.03,0:03:05.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So during that time we can go back\Nto our breathing and breathe in.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.86,0:03:16.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And instead of focusing our self on anger,\Nwe focus our mind on our breath.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.18,0:03:27.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are not afraid of anger,\Nbecause we know how to handle our anger.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.28,0:03:34.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And to deal with anger\Nfirst of all we have to breathe in
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.67,0:03:38.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and focus our attention on our in breath.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.54,0:03:45.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we focus our attention\Non our in breath
Dialogue: 0,0:03:45.32,0:03:49.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we bring our mind home\Nto our body, we are truly there.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:49.20,0:03:52.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are strong enough\Nto take care of ourselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:54.72,0:04:03.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then we may look at the person whom\Nwe think to be the cause of our anger.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:06.71,0:04:09.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is that person a member of our family?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.48,0:04:19.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or is that person...someone who has\Ndone us a lot of injustice?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.28,0:04:30.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With that kind of mindfulness of breathing\Nwe can look at the other person and see.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.84,0:04:35.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What we see is that\Nthere is suffering in him or in her.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.52,0:04:38.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That person is not happy.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:38.51,0:04:43.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That person has violence\Nin him or in her.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.44,0:04:50.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That person has wrong perceptions...\Nin him or in her.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:53.94,0:04:59.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Breathing in mindfully and\Nlooking at him or her we can see that.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.34,0:05:02.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can see the wrong perception\Nin him or her.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.20,0:05:04.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can see the suffering in him or her.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.86,0:05:08.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can see the violence in him or her.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.10,0:05:12.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we can see that\Nthat person is not beautiful
Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.97,0:05:20.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when she acts violently and\Nshe says things that are not kind.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.24,0:05:31.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Looking like that, at the same time\Nwe see that we don't want to be like that.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.91,0:05:35.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We don't want to be victim\Nof anger and violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.61,0:05:38.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We want only to be a flower.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.63,0:05:41.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So looking at him, at her,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.12,0:05:44.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we see the suffering,\Nwe see the lack of beauty.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.98,0:05:49.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And looking at ourselves, we know that\Nwe don't want to be like that,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.53,0:05:53.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We don't want to be possessed\Nby anger and wrong perceptions.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:53.91,0:05:57.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We want to be a flower, fresh.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:58.38,0:06:05.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So that one mindful in breath, can already\Nhelp us to see things more clearly.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:06.26,0:06:13.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when you see things clearly...\Nanger cannot take hold of you
Dialogue: 0,0:06:16.98,0:06:24.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you want to say or do something nice\Nto help that person to suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:28.47,0:06:34.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It means that you have been able\Nto create compassion in you.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:36.14,0:06:43.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Compassion is a kind of energy\Nthat can make us stop suffering right away.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:45.68,0:06:52.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Compassion is the nectar of\Npeace and happiness.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:54.09,0:06:58.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Compassion is born when you see\Nthe suffering in him, in her
Dialogue: 0,0:07:01.05,0:07:04.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you want to help him or her.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:06.10,0:07:08.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everyone of us is capable of doing so.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:11.96,0:07:20.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Suppose...we think that the other person\Ndoes not like us,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:21.34,0:07:24.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the other person is trying\Nto do harm to us.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.60,0:07:27.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That may be a wrong perception.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:33.07,0:07:38.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He may not have the intention to harm you,\Nbut you still think he has.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:43.13,0:07:46.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But if you have that wrong perception,\Nyou will be angry.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:46.92,0:07:48.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You want to punish him.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.83,0:07:52.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You want to harm him\Nbefore he can harm you.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.75,0:08:09.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is why a wrong perception\Ncan make a person violent, angry.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:13.36,0:08:18.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A wrong perception is something that\Ncan bring anger and fear.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:20.11,0:08:22.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is the case of many terrorists.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:24.15,0:08:26.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They have many wrong perceptions.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:26.36,0:08:30.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They believe the other people\Nare trying to destroy them
Dialogue: 0,0:08:32.15,0:08:39.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as a religion, as a way of life,\Nas a culture, as a nation.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.74,0:08:47.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the fact is that they\Nthey do not have that intention at all.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:48.98,0:08:53.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So if you believe that someone\Nis trying to kill you, to destroy you
Dialogue: 0,0:08:53.33,0:08:56.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as a religion, as a culture\Nas a civilization,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:57.53,0:08:59.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you get very angry at him.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:00.64,0:09:04.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you want to destroy them\Nbefore they destroy you.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:04.29,0:09:07.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is the case of many terrorists.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:08.73,0:09:16.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you look at the terrorist in that way,\Nyou feel he is victim of wrong perception,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:16.08,0:09:21.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he is victim of violence and anger.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:22.38,0:09:25.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You do not want to punish\Nor kill him anymore.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:26.41,0:09:31.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You want to do something to help\Nremove the wrong perception in him.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:33.15,0:09:39.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And there are ways to do that, like\Ncompassionate listening or loving speech.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:42.62,0:09:47.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These can help a person to remove\Nwrong perceptions.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:47.58,0:09:50.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that is the best way\Nto deal with terrorism.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:50.82,0:09:55.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You cannot remove terrorism\Nwith bombs and guns.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:56.04,0:10:00.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You have to remove it with loving speech\Nand deep listening,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:01.11,0:10:05.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to help them remove wrong perceptions.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:06.42,0:10:09.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is why you should breathe in\Nand look deeply,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:09.85,0:10:16.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to see that the other is a victim of\Nwrong perception, of violence, of suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:18.46,0:10:20.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That makes your compassion arise.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:21.52,0:10:28.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when compassion arises,\Nanger is transformed, anger is deleted.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:33.55,0:10:35.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you don't suffer.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:35.10,0:10:37.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Instead you want to help him or her,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:37.67,0:10:43.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whether he is a family member or\Nsomeone that has made you suffer,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:43.55,0:10:48.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because of his or her\Nwrong perception and suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:51.95,0:10:55.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in a few days we can practice this.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:55.90,0:11:01.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sitting or walking alone, we can think of\Nthe person who has made us suffer.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:02.32,0:11:11.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And looking deeply we can see\Nhis suffering, the wrong perception he has.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:14.20,0:11:15.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And after having seen that,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:15.97,0:11:23.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you are motivated by the desire\Nto go back and try to help him or her
Dialogue: 0,0:11:25.19,0:11:30.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to remove that kind of wrong perceptions,\Nviolence and anger,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:30.09,0:11:32.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to make him or her suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:33.46,0:11:39.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you have that intention, it means\Ncompassion is already born in your heart.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:40.96,0:11:45.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When compassion is there,\Nanger is no longer there.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:46.04,0:11:52.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is my question for Oprah Magazine\Nand the readers of Oprah Magazine.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:54.25,0:11:57.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You think that is good enough?\N(Crowd laughs)
Dialogue: 0,0:11:57.71,0:12:00.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you for asking the question.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:07.76,0:12:33.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Bell)