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I'm trying to compose
my blog post for tonight,

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and I'm thinking
it sounds really believable

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that I went to prison and hugged
a bunch of really nice prisoners,

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while a DJ busy, threw on some records,

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and Richard Branson told me
where I can score some free heroin.

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(Laughter)

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(Applause)

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True story!

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(Laughter)

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Lesson number one:

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never believe a prediction
that doesn't empower you.

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When I was born,
the doctors told my parents

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that I would be dead
within the first 24 hours of my life.

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35 years later, all those doctors are dead

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(Laughter)

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and I am the only doctor that remains.

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(Laughter)

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(Applause)

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Never believe a prediction
that doesn't empower you.

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How many predictions have been
thrown at you your whole life?

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If you believe predictions
that do not empower you,

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you will wither away and die,

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either physically die
or your spirit will die

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as you just walk around
the world like a carcass

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that is just following the masses.

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You'll be given
a lot of titles in your life,

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you'll be told so many different things.

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You must only listen
to that which empowers you.

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I have a belief
that has served me in my life,

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and that is that everyone
is rooting from me to win,

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even those that do not know it.

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And I'm not here today to tell you
that I've had adversity in my life

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and therefore, I know
what you are going through.

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I don't have a clue what any of you
are going through in your lives.

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I did not grow up in your neighborhoods
more than likely.

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I did not have your set of parents,
nor do I live in your body.

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I've not had the events
that you've had happened to you.

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I can tell you I am only
an expert on one thing,

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and that's how to be me, and I do it well.

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(Applause)

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But it's not come easily,

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I've gone through things that I don't wish
upon anyone in this room.

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I've had metal rods pulled out
of bone marrow while I was awake,

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I've had jaw infections
where teeth had to be extracted

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and I can no longer chew my own food.

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I have to get up everyday,

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and be showered and cared for
physically by another human being;

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fortunately, she's a gorgeous
woman that I married.

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(Applause)

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I get stared at everywhere I go,

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and the moment people meet me,

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if they don't know a thing
about my résumé,

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they automatically, just by
the human nature, think to themselves:

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"Oh, it must be so difficult
to be that man!"

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If somebody pities me,
they're wasting their time,

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because I have chosen a life of strength,

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I am here to help you
choose a life of strength,

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but I'm going to tell you,
we've talked about drugs here.

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You know what the worst drug
that ever hit the human race is?

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Pity.

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The moment you feel sorry
for another person

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or the moment you feel sorry
for yourself, you're hosed.

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You're totally, completely
frozen in potential.

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We can not pity ourselves,
we can not pity you.

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Yes, I get to go home today, yes, I get
to have what many would call freedom,

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but I'm going to talk to you about freedom

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about what I really choose
to see freedom as,

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because like I said,

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you can not believe predictions
that do not empower you!.

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The second lesson today is
you are not your condition.

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You're not.

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I'm not disabled!

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Sure, I'll take the handicapped
parking privileges

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(Laughter)

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but that does not define me as a man.

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Not able?

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I've been looked at and treated
my whole life as if I am not able.

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I have had to rise above and show people

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that the only disability
is one's refusal to adapt.

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You have to adapt to whatever
environment you're in,

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even if it's prison.

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And what does adaption look like?
I think it looks like celebration.

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Because when you meet people
that are celebrating their life,

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you want to be around them,
you want to learn from them,

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you want to do business with them,
you want to hire them.

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Look! If you do not want to be seen
as a prisoner or a convict

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when you get out of this,
or even while you're in this,

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there is an attitude,

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it is a belief in yourself that you bring
value to the human race,

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no matter what your current condition,
title, or stature is.

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Because if I believe that I am disabled,
I would wither up, I would be shy,

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I would be insecure, I would be afraid,
I would act like I need your help.

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And the rest of humanity
would be OK with that,

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but I choose something else,

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I choose to be strong,
I choose to be a leader,

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I choose to have words
to move this planet,

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I'll tell you why I was born.

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And I hope it inspires you to
find out why you were born.

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I was born to rid
this world of insecurity.

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Because when a human being
is insecure, they do stupid stuff.

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When we feel like we're not enough,

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we chase external validation,
and external objects

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to try to tell us we're enough.

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(Applause)

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Thank you.

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You are enough.

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I'll tell you I've made
a pledge of the therapist

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to love all human beings,
no matter what they've done.

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Because deep down inside,

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I found that every human being
just wants to be loved,

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even if they're tough,
even if they're scary,

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even if they're viscous.

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You get them in the right position,
at the right time,

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they'll tell you the truth.

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They just want to be loved.

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Do you know whom they want
the love from the most?

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Not their moms, not their dads,
not their wardens.

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None of these people.

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They want to be able to look in
the mirror and love themselves.

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And if you can figure that out,
then you're going somewhere.

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(Applause)

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But you can not feel sorry for yourself.

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When you feel sorry
for yourself, you will wither.

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But there's a contradiction
to feeling sorry for yourself,

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it's the opposite extreme,
it's what I call 'bullying yourself, '

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beating yourself up, being
your own enemy and telling yourself

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that all those predictions,
those negative opinions

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that they're true, they're right,
you're washed up, failure.

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You're not going to amount to anything.

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Bullying yourself is the most
dangerous thing that you could do.

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You can not afford to pity yourself,
you can not afford to bully yourself,

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you have to love yourself,

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because the last lesson that I'm going
to share with you today

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that is I'm going to teach you
what the real prison is,

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it's not surrounded by bar,
wire, or electrical fences,

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the real prisons do not have guards,

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the real prison's up here.

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And we all got it,

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we all have a mind that chatters,
so often won't stop chattering.

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Do you know where your salvation is?
It's not outside these walls.

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I've met so many people that are
so extremely successful and famous,

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that are in prison,

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because they're stuck in their minds,

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bullying themselves, pitying themselves.

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True freedom is dropping down
out of that mind.

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And what my wife has taught me
is to drop into your hearts.

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in the mastering this beating thing

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that is more than just sending
blood to the extremities.

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What is it doing?

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It's sending emotional possibilities,
infinite possibilities of choice

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in our behavior, in our life,
in our attitude.

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When you love yourself,

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whether you're sleeping
on a prison cot, or in a mansion,

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whether you have food in your belly,

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or you don't know
when your next meal is coming,

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when you love yourself,

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when you learn to master your emotions,

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then and only then are you free.

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I love you, each and everyone of you,
and I wish you freedom within these walls.

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God bless.

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(Applause)