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Dialogue: 0,0:00:02.95,0:00:06.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Think of one thing that you do\Nwhen you are procrastinating,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.09,0:00:08.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you're not doing\Nthe thing you ought be doing.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.39,0:00:10.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One thing.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.40,0:00:11.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everybody got one?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.86,0:00:13.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay, can I hear a few?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.27,0:00:14.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Audience) E-mail.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:14.34,0:00:15.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,E-mail.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.20,0:00:16.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Audience) Clean the house.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:16.49,0:00:18.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Clean the house.\NWhy don't you live with me?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.56,0:00:19.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.83,0:00:20.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Audience) Facebook.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.88,0:00:22.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Television, Facebook, one more?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.52,0:00:23.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Audience) Play with the dogs.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.95,0:00:24.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Pardon?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.85,0:00:27.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You play with the dogs, right.\NPlay with the dogs.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.18,0:00:31.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You have a duty to perform,\Nthis is Jalal ad-Din Rumi.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.74,0:00:33.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You have a duty to perform.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:33.49,0:00:37.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do anything else, do any number of things:\Nclean the house, go on e-mail, eat.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.65,0:00:38.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Audience) Eat.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.91,0:00:40.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.18,0:00:43.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Eat, walk the dogs.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.10,0:00:47.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do anything else, do any number of things,\Noccupy your time fully.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.20,0:00:53.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And yet, if you do not do this task,\Nyour time here will have been wasted.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.54,0:00:55.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A very fierce teaching.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:55.76,0:00:59.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You have a duty to perform, and yet,\Nif you do not do this one task,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.38,0:01:01.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your time here will have been wasted.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.31,0:01:04.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What is he talking about?\NWhat was Rumi trying to tell us?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.04,0:01:07.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was trying to tell us\Nthat it is up to us to come awake,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.52,0:01:10.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to come alive, fully alive,\Nin the one life that we can live;
Dialogue: 0,0:01:10.60,0:01:14.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to move away from the limitations\Nthat keep us small and boxed in;
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.14,0:01:20.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to come into the unique\Nparticular being that we are, each of us.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.07,0:01:25.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He understood, Rumi, that this\Nwas a particularly kind of difficult task.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.51,0:01:28.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It isn't easy to know what it means\Nto live an authentic life,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.52,0:01:30.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be fully in yourself, all of the time.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.89,0:01:36.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so, he also then wrote a beautiful\Ninvitation to sort of self-compassion.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.32,0:01:40.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Come, he said, come, whoever you are;
Dialogue: 0,0:01:40.04,0:01:43.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,wanderers, worshippers, lovers of leaving,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.04,0:01:46.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,eaters, house cleaners, e-mail doers,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.60,0:01:47.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whoever you are.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.61,0:01:51.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ours is not a caravan of despair.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.15,0:01:55.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Come, even if you have broken your vow,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.22,0:01:59.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if we've fallen off\Nour own wagon a thousand times:
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.29,0:02:02.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,come, come yet again, come.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.75,0:02:08.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm Maria Sirois, a clinical psychologist\Nand inspirational speaker.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.70,0:02:12.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I work, as Jamie said,\Nin the world of death and dying,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:12.19,0:02:14.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but also the world of flourishing,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.33,0:02:16.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and one minute into my first experience
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.62,0:02:19.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of working with a child\Nwho had a terminal illness,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.81,0:02:21.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at Dana-Farber in Boston,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.47,0:02:23.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I figured out that I\Nwas going to have to figure out
Dialogue: 0,0:02:23.90,0:02:25.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what we knew about how to survive well,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:25.87,0:02:28.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know, how do we rise\Nin the presence of difficult moments,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:28.81,0:02:32.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how do we thrive\Nwhen Haiti crashes and crumbles,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.42,0:02:35.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how do we keep ourselves intact?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.52,0:02:37.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it turns out,\Nwe do know how to do this,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:37.61,0:02:41.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"we" meaning the positive psychologists\Nand the mind-body medicine people
Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.31,0:02:43.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the poets and the artists
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.28,0:02:45.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,throughout the centuries\Ndo know something,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.31,0:02:50.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it has to do with this notion\Nof actually living an authentic life.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.09,0:02:52.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That when we live an authentic life,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.83,0:02:55.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when we live our life,\Nwe actually can thrive.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.85,0:02:59.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we try and live someone else's life,\Nhave you ever tried that?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.14,0:03:01.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Have you ever married\Nsomebody else's spouse?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.42,0:03:04.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Worked somebody else's job, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.12,0:03:07.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Wore somebody else's clothes,\Nday after day after day after day?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.12,0:03:09.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what starts to happen\Nis you start to...
Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.48,0:03:12.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,feel un-alive.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.04,0:03:13.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The opposite of thriving.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.18,0:03:16.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sup at your own table -
Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.70,0:03:19.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is Marcus Tullius Tiro,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:19.29,0:03:22.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,slave and then eventually\Nassistant to Cicero and freedman -
Dialogue: 0,0:03:22.11,0:03:23.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sup at your own table,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.36,0:03:27.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,drink from your own well,\Nspeak from your own heart,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.16,0:03:30.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,follow where your own path leads,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.49,0:03:36.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for anyone who hopes to lead you\Ncannot help but lead you astray.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.19,0:03:39.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Drink from your own wells.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.04,0:03:43.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, what does this look like,\Nlike in real life terms today?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:43.85,0:03:45.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What does this really look like?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:45.39,0:03:49.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It looks like a woman\NI was teaching a couple of weeks ago,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:49.73,0:03:52.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who was at the start\Nof a five-day retreat program.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:52.46,0:03:54.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This was opening night,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:54.15,0:03:57.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was invited to talk\Na little bit about how we thrive,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.35,0:03:59.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I had introduced\Nthis notion of authenticity,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:59.79,0:04:02.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it was the end of the program,\Nand I said, "Okay,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.29,0:04:03.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you would to do this week,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.77,0:04:05.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you were going to do this one week,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.58,0:04:09.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just one week, five percent\Nmore authentically than before,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:09.10,0:04:10.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what would you do?"
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.09,0:04:14.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this woman in her mid-50s,\Nlate 60s stood up and said,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:14.33,0:04:15.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from Toronto, stood up and said:
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.90,0:04:17.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I would wear the bunny suit."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.94,0:04:19.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.01,0:04:22.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, it was Easter time,\Nand she had come to the Berkshires
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.21,0:04:26.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with a full-on, furry, tail, ears,\Nthe whole thing bunny suit,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.71,0:04:30.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and had this this urge\Nto be the Easter Bunny.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.44,0:04:34.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was a dream\Nshe had had her entire life,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:34.05,0:04:36.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she was determined\Nthat at this moment in her life,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.63,0:04:37.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she was going to do it.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.75,0:04:41.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't see her the rest of the week\Nuntil she was getting ready to leave.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.61,0:04:44.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I said: "Did you do it?\NDid you wear the bunny suit?"
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.10,0:04:46.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She says: "I did. It was amazing.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:46.64,0:04:49.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I put it on, and I thought,\N'I don't care, I don't care anymore,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.89,0:04:52.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't care anymore\Nwhat anybody else thinks,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.27,0:04:54.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am going to be what I wanted to be.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:54.68,0:04:55.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't care.'
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.90,0:04:59.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I took my basket of chocolates,\Nand every single person I saw that day,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.56,0:05:04.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I said to them the thing\NI most wanted to hear when I was a girl,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.06,0:05:09.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I said to them: 'Here,\Ntake as much as you want.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.49,0:05:13.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Take as much as you want.'"
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.35,0:05:20.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You see, when we're authentic,\Nwe are self-authoring.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.38,0:05:23.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We author our own way,\Nwe author our own day,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.67,0:05:27.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we create our own look,\Nour own music, our own sound,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:27.99,0:05:32.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we come up with ideas that are ours,\Nthat are uniquely ours,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:32.11,0:05:34.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we are self-measured and self-authoring,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.17,0:05:37.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we quiet other people's voices,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.68,0:05:41.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we become who we can best be.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:42.58,0:05:46.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And to be authentic\Nalso means that we are congruent.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.44,0:05:49.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What that means is\Nthat how you think and feel and act
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.43,0:05:51.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and what you value in the world,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.02,0:05:53.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they all sort of cohere together
Dialogue: 0,0:05:53.46,0:05:56.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that, if you were to say\Nto the world: I'm a kind person,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:56.60,0:05:59.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you would actually be kind,\Nand move in kind ways,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:59.32,0:06:01.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and elevate kindness when you'd see it,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:01.18,0:06:03.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you would reflect it back,\Nand you would honor it,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:03.91,0:06:08.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you would be kind\Nand bring kindness alive.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:10.27,0:06:13.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And third, it also means
Dialogue: 0,0:06:13.04,0:06:17.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we give ourselves\Npermission to be fully human.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:18.07,0:06:20.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is from Tal Ben-Shahar,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:20.05,0:06:22.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Israeli psychologist,\Nformer Harvard professor:
Dialogue: 0,0:06:22.99,0:06:26.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the notion that we get to have\Nall parts of us exist
Dialogue: 0,0:06:26.96,0:06:28.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and all parts of us be honored,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:28.58,0:06:32.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because there isn't a person yet,\NI think, in the world
Dialogue: 0,0:06:32.76,0:06:35.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who has figured out\Nhow to be perfect, am I right?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:35.30,0:06:37.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At least in Berkshire County?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:37.15,0:06:41.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's one guy, it was a rumor,\Nit was a rumor, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:43.21,0:06:44.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,2,000 years ago.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:44.64,0:06:46.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Permission to be fully human.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:46.06,0:06:47.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I was a ehm...
Dialogue: 0,0:06:49.39,0:06:51.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,younger mother,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:51.08,0:06:53.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had one of those moments\Nwith my daughter
Dialogue: 0,0:06:53.38,0:06:54.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,- frequent moments back then -
Dialogue: 0,0:06:54.98,0:06:57.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when I had to give her\Na consequence for something
Dialogue: 0,0:06:58.01,0:06:59.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,- I would say punished,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:59.12,0:07:02.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but thought it was too hard a word\Nfor a modern mom so I said consequence,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:02.60,0:07:04.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so notice how already, just standing here,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:04.60,0:07:06.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we edit ourselves\Nfor the benefit of others -
Dialogue: 0,0:07:06.70,0:07:09.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the truth of the matter is\NI punished the heck out of her,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:09.41,0:07:11.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I sent her slamming upstairs,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:11.35,0:07:13.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she got halfway up,\Nthree and a half years old,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:13.79,0:07:15.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she stopped dramatically on the landing,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:15.70,0:07:20.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she screamed down at me:\N"I hate you and I hate all of your parts."
Dialogue: 0,0:07:20.88,0:07:23.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:07:26.65,0:07:30.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we are authentic,\Nall the parts get to exist,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:30.26,0:07:31.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all of them get to play together,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:31.87,0:07:34.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all the voices at the table\Nget to be heard.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:34.30,0:07:36.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We don't necessarily move\Nfrom all of those voices,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:36.97,0:07:41.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we choose the ones, most wisely of course,\Nthat we live from and bring forward,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:41.08,0:07:43.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but they all get to exist:\Nthe depressed voice,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:43.36,0:07:45.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the sad voice, the weary, the embittered,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:45.80,0:07:47.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the passionate, the impassionate,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.21,0:07:52.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the kind, the bold, the dull, the soft,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:52.66,0:07:53.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the still,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:54.45,0:07:58.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the shy, the introverted voices,\Nthey all get to exist.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.74,0:08:00.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when that happens,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:01.49,0:08:05.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when the bunny gets to play,\Nwhatever that might mean for us,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:05.83,0:08:08.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the buffalo also gets to play.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:09.00,0:08:11.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Brené Brown talks about,\Nfrom the University of Houston,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:11.66,0:08:14.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how those of us\Nwho live wholehearted lives
Dialogue: 0,0:08:14.74,0:08:18.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are those of us who allow\Nall of our parts to come together
Dialogue: 0,0:08:18.83,0:08:19.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and be...
Dialogue: 0,0:08:22.28,0:08:24.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,well, you know,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:24.91,0:08:25.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just be.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:27.21,0:08:28.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just be.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:28.86,0:08:30.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That none of us is anything
Dialogue: 0,0:08:30.88,0:08:33.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,except who we are most fully\Nwhen we are wholehearted.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:33.84,0:08:39.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the beauty of being wholehearted\Nis that we can then bring that to others.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:39.77,0:08:44.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Living authentically actually\Ngenerates authenticity in others.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:44.65,0:08:46.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's one of the great benefits.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:46.19,0:08:47.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It passes itself on,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:47.54,0:08:51.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like generosity begets generosity\Nand kindness begets kindness,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:51.08,0:08:52.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,authenticity does the same.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:52.37,0:08:54.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you're standing with someone,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:54.10,0:08:56.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the presence of someone\Nwho is living truthfully,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:56.92,0:08:59.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you feel that urgency\Nto live that way too,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:59.66,0:09:04.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to figure out what your own\Nbunny suit might be, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:04.86,0:09:07.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the other benefits that accrue
Dialogue: 0,0:09:07.09,0:09:09.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from taking the time to figure out\Nwhat our one task is
Dialogue: 0,0:09:09.72,0:09:12.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then going there\Ncourageously step-by-step,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:12.09,0:09:14.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the other benefits\Nare increased self-esteem
Dialogue: 0,0:09:14.83,0:09:17.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and overall psychological well-being,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:17.11,0:09:19.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,less depression, less anxiety,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:19.35,0:09:21.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,less ridiculous eating\Nin the middle of the night,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:21.85,0:09:26.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know, three o'clock in the morning,\Ngoing for the the third bag of Doritos.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:27.23,0:09:30.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We actually have more pleasure,\Na sense of meaning in life,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:30.98,0:09:33.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and because of those we are happier.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:36.08,0:09:41.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And, beautifully, wonderfully,\Nwhat we now understand
Dialogue: 0,0:09:41.82,0:09:47.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that those of us who live more and more\Ninto the truth of our own particular being
Dialogue: 0,0:09:47.34,0:09:50.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,actually innovate more,\Nwe are more creative,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:50.93,0:09:53.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we generate, we make things happen,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:53.10,0:09:54.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when we are who we are,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:54.46,0:09:56.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can take a problem\Nlike Duchenne muscular dystrophy
Dialogue: 0,0:09:56.98,0:09:58.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and say, thank you very much,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:58.36,0:10:00.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I understand how this\Nwas done for the last 200 years,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:00.89,0:10:02.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we are not going there.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:02.08,0:10:05.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are going here, we are going\Nto talk directly to the scientist,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:05.29,0:10:08.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we're going to talk to other parents\Nabout what has to happen,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:08.48,0:10:11.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we're going to bring two worlds together\Nand make something happen.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:11.62,0:10:13.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or you can be a doctor\Nlike Mark Hyman and say:
Dialogue: 0,0:10:13.81,0:10:15.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I know about obesity,\NI'm a medical doctor,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:15.98,0:10:18.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I also know something\Nabout the human condition
Dialogue: 0,0:10:18.39,0:10:19.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I can understand
Dialogue: 0,0:10:19.75,0:10:23.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that connection has to live fully\Nin order for health to arise,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:23.29,0:10:25.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so why can't I bring\Nthose two together?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:25.40,0:10:26.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why can't I create it together?"
Dialogue: 0,0:10:26.96,0:10:29.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or you can be like,\NI don't even know his name,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:29.20,0:10:32.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who makes organs with a printing machine,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:32.31,0:10:33.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:33.39,0:10:37.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we are authentic,\Nwe are freed up to create,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:37.38,0:10:38.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because we aren't damped down.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:38.98,0:10:40.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you damp down a part of yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:40.91,0:10:44.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when I damp down parts of myself,\Nthe other parts don't get to exist.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:45.26,0:10:47.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it was Golda Meir who said:
Dialogue: 0,0:10:47.05,0:10:49.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"If you do not experience\Nthe depth of your sadness,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:49.50,0:10:52.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you cannot experience\Nthe fullness of your joy."
Dialogue: 0,0:10:58.26,0:10:59.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so...
Dialogue: 0,0:11:01.78,0:11:05.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I invite you, tonight, as you go home,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:05.100,0:11:09.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like not right now,\Nbut soon, when you go home,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:09.48,0:11:12.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to think about what it would be like to -
Dialogue: 0,0:11:12.26,0:11:15.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for the next few hours,\Nmaybe just the rest of this day -
Dialogue: 0,0:11:15.24,0:11:18.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to step into five percent\Nmore authenticity.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:19.16,0:11:21.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What might that be like?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:22.17,0:11:24.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Would you go to bed early? Would you not?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:24.13,0:11:26.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Would you wear, you know,\Nflannel pajamas
Dialogue: 0,0:11:26.91,0:11:28.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or not wear nothing at all?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:28.64,0:11:31.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Would you stay awake late into the night
Dialogue: 0,0:11:31.38,0:11:34.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because you've seen or heard\None thing tonight
Dialogue: 0,0:11:34.05,0:11:36.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is so, like, fascinating to you
Dialogue: 0,0:11:36.40,0:11:38.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the thought of staying\Nwith that one thing
Dialogue: 0,0:11:38.59,0:11:40.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for just a little bit longer
Dialogue: 0,0:11:40.15,0:11:42.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,helps you feel like\Nyou're six years old again,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:42.89,0:11:45.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the world was bright and magical,\Nand anything could happen,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:45.92,0:11:48.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the Easter Bunny actually\Ncould show up the next morning,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:48.86,0:11:50.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and chocolate could be given,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:50.24,0:11:52.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you could take as much\Nas you wanted from the world.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:52.87,0:11:54.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Remember when you were six?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:54.61,0:11:58.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Remember when we were six,\Nand the world had a kind of magic to it?
Dialogue: 0,0:12:01.15,0:12:05.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I was six,\NI spent a lot of time in church.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:06.76,0:12:10.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I loved my church,\Nand I loved my faith,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:10.12,0:12:13.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I loved it so much, the whole thing:\Nthe story, the Catholic church,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:13.60,0:12:16.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the son of God, the mystery,\Nthe ritual, the rite, the incense,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:16.57,0:12:18.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the whole thing, loved it all.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:18.11,0:12:21.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so by the time I was eight,\NI'd screwed up my courage enough
Dialogue: 0,0:12:21.23,0:12:24.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to go to the nuns and say the thing\Nthat had been in my heart
Dialogue: 0,0:12:24.09,0:12:25.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for a very long time already -
Dialogue: 0,0:12:25.54,0:12:28.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,six to eight is a very long time\Nwhen you're a young girl -
Dialogue: 0,0:12:28.31,0:12:30.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I went up to the nuns on a Wednesday -
Dialogue: 0,0:12:30.32,0:12:33.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't know why catechism\Nwas always on Wednesday in the 1960s -
Dialogue: 0,0:12:33.39,0:12:36.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I went up to them and said:\N"I want to go to the priest classes,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:36.59,0:12:38.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't want to go\Nto regular class anymore,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:38.94,0:12:40.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want to know how to be a priest,"
Dialogue: 0,0:12:40.67,0:12:42.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she said-\Nwell, you know what she said.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:42.72,0:12:45.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:12:47.04,0:12:49.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She said, "That is not going to happen."
Dialogue: 0,0:12:53.60,0:12:59.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And yet, I have to tell you\Nhow very grateful I am to be here tonight.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:59.56,0:13:03.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The generosity of our hosts\Nand of this community,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:04.29,0:13:07.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to have the opportunity\Nto talk about something
Dialogue: 0,0:13:07.01,0:13:09.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's powerful and meaningful\Nand potent for me,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:09.57,0:13:12.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it was at that moment\Nat the age of eight,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:12.09,0:13:15.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when some part of me kicked in\Nand said: "I'm sorry,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:15.98,0:13:18.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm going to figure out a way, anyway,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:19.57,0:13:21.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to teach, and to offer,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:21.21,0:13:25.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to figure out how this part of me\Nthat's alive spiritually
Dialogue: 0,0:13:25.05,0:13:26.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,gets to live anyway;
Dialogue: 0,0:13:26.51,0:13:28.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to say something that is sacred,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:28.40,0:13:32.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just because it's sacred to me\Nand share that and see what happens -
Dialogue: 0,0:13:32.11,0:13:33.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and see what happens.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:36.49,0:13:38.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I urge you to go home tonight,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:38.51,0:13:41.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,step out of this room, step into yourself.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:41.51,0:13:42.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You- we...
Dialogue: 0,0:13:43.02,0:13:45.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We have a duty to perform.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:45.96,0:13:48.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Come, come, whoever you are.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:51.15,0:13:53.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do anything else,\Ndo any number of things,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:53.13,0:13:54.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,occupy your time fully,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:54.99,0:13:58.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,wanderers, worshippers, lovers of leaving.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:59.68,0:14:02.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you do not do this one thing,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:03.24,0:14:09.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even, if we have broken our vows\Na thousand times, it's okay.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:10.76,0:14:12.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your time here.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:15.53,0:14:17.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is our time.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:17.68,0:14:18.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is our time.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:18.71,0:14:19.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:20.27,0:14:23.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)