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Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.17,0:00:13.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you. Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:14.46,0:00:16.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Beyond boundaries.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:16.71,0:00:18.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What a theme, huh?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.13,0:00:20.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, when I think of boundaries,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.42,0:00:25.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think of rules, regulations,\Nand restrictions.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.42,0:00:30.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I think of the parents,\Nand the teachers, and the supervisors,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.13,0:00:33.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who hold us accountable\Nwith regard to those boundaries.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.52,0:00:36.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's not a bad thing.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.10,0:00:38.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah, I know, if you're like me,\NI need supervisors,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.56,0:00:42.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I need someone holding me accountable\Nto do the right thing.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.82,0:00:45.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But beyond boundaries\Nis something different.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.59,0:00:50.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think of those leaders, those teachers,\Nthose supervisors, those parents
Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.78,0:00:55.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who inspire us\Nto go beyond the call of duty,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:55.22,0:00:57.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to do more than we have to,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.95,0:01:02.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to do it not because they tell us,\Nbut because we want to.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.37,0:01:04.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would like to share with you
Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.82,0:01:08.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what the research says\Nabout how to make that happen.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.07,0:01:12.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And not just for other people,\Nbut for yourself.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.09,0:01:18.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Here is the deal, how could we inspire\Npeople and ourselves to be self-motivated?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.27,0:01:23.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is another word.\NIt's called "empowerment".
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.25,0:01:24.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You've heard that word, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.68,0:01:27.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, the management definition\Nof empowerment is,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.18,0:01:29.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Get it done. Just get it done.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.44,0:01:34.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With fewer resources and less time,\NI empower you, make it happen."
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.58,0:01:37.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm talking about feeling empowered.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.36,0:01:38.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's different.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.66,0:01:41.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Feeling empowered\Nis when you're self-motivated.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.41,0:01:44.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, if you want to know\Nif you feel empowered,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.38,0:01:49.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or if your child, your student,\Nyour worker feels empowered,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.16,0:01:51.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ask them three questions.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.10,0:01:55.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If they say yes to these three questions,\Nthey will feel empowered.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.64,0:01:56.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And by the way,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.83,0:01:59.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is not based on common sense, \Nthis is based on research.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.93,0:02:04.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But you've all been there,\Nso it'll feel like common sense.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.12,0:02:09.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Question number one: can you do it?\NAlbert Bandura calls it self-efficacy.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.90,0:02:12.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you believe you can do it?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:12.60,0:02:16.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you have the time,\Nthe knowledge, and the training
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.09,0:02:18.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to do what we are asking you to do?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.47,0:02:20.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you answer yes, good.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.41,0:02:23.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Second question: will it work?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:23.96,0:02:28.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you believe that what we're asking you\Nto do, the process, will work?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:28.69,0:02:32.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Albert Bandura calls that\Nresponse-efficacy:
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.24,0:02:36.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,believing that the behavior\Nwould lead to the ultimate outcome.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.14,0:02:39.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,By the way, that takes education.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.12,0:02:42.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We have to show them the data,\Nwe might show them some theory,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.61,0:02:46.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we show them, teach them\Nwhy this might work.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.80,0:02:50.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I just used the word 'education'.\NEarlier, I used the word 'training'.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.08,0:02:54.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is there a difference?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.32,0:02:58.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In elementary school,\Nwe call it education.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.04,0:03:01.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Middle school: education.\NHigh school: education.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.12,0:03:05.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,College: higher education. (Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.50,0:03:07.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then you go to industry,\Nwhat do you call it?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.64,0:03:08.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Training.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.88,0:03:12.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You have your training department.\NThere must be a difference.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.46,0:03:15.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, you know the difference.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.93,0:03:19.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you want your kids to have\Nsex education or sex training?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:19.18,0:03:21.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.68,0:03:24.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And your kids might answer\Nthe question differently.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.97,0:03:26.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.49,0:03:31.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because you know that training means\Nyou do the behavior and you get feedback.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.76,0:03:34.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's powerful. Powerful.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.11,0:03:37.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Have you ever heard this word\N'online training'?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.61,0:03:40.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's an oxymoron, isn't it?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:40.57,0:03:43.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean training is to watch the behavior,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:43.11,0:03:46.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but online training is\Nlike plastic silverware,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.25,0:03:51.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,jumbo shrimp, legal brief, country music.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.50,0:03:54.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:54.26,0:03:55.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, it doesn't work.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.60,0:03:59.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,OK, so if you answer yes,\Ntill it will work,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:59.71,0:04:02.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,third question: is it worth it?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.62,0:04:07.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we've had a training question,\Nwe've had an educational question;
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.35,0:04:10.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is the motivational question.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.11,0:04:13.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you believe the consequences--\NThis is about the consequences.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.52,0:04:17.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,B.F. Skinner taught us this:\N"selection by consequences".
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.24,0:04:20.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dale Carnegie quoted\NB.F. Skinner and said
Dialogue: 0,0:04:20.18,0:04:21.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that from the day you were born,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:21.76,0:04:25.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,everything you did was because you\Nwanted something for doing it.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.88,0:04:29.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Consequences. Is it worth it?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.42,0:04:31.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So you have to convince people\Nthat it's worth it.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:31.88,0:04:36.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, by the way, if you answer\Nyes to those three questions,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.69,0:04:39.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you feel competent, am I right?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.37,0:04:42.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You feel competent\Nat doing worthwhile work.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:42.44,0:04:43.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You've all been there.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.79,0:04:47.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you feel competent\Nat doing worthwhile work,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.02,0:04:50.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're more likely to be self-motivated.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:50.63,0:04:53.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You've been there.\NNo one has to look over you.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:53.81,0:04:56.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Here is the challenge leaders, teachers.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.54,0:04:59.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How do you inspire people\Nto feel competent?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.48,0:05:03.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, you give them feedback.\NYou give them recognition.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:03.28,0:05:06.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You show them they are competent.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.25,0:05:12.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,OK. I got one more another C word: choice.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.04,0:05:14.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your common sense will tell you.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.95,0:05:17.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you believe\Nyou have a sense of autonomy,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:17.91,0:05:21.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a sense of choice in what you're doing,\Nyou feel more self-motivated.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:21.72,0:05:25.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,B.F. Skinner taught us that, too,\Nin his book "Beyond Freedom and Dignity",
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.45,0:05:27.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,way back in 1971.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:27.39,0:05:29.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Reading that book changed my life,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:29.04,0:05:33.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I realized\Nthat I am controlled by consequences.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.17,0:05:35.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But sometimes I don't feel controlled.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.92,0:05:38.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I'm working\Nfor a pleasant consequence,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.32,0:05:41.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it feels good, it feels\Nlike I'm working to get something.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.12,0:05:44.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I'm working to avoid\Nan aversive consequence,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.56,0:05:46.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I feel controlled.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.10,0:05:48.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is called negative reinforcement.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:48.51,0:05:50.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So here is a challenge, leaders:
Dialogue: 0,0:05:50.20,0:05:52.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how do we get people\Nto become success seekers,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.96,0:05:56.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,rather than failure avoiders?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:56.21,0:05:58.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,First day of Introductory Psychology class
Dialogue: 0,0:05:58.21,0:06:00.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,- I teach two classes of 600 students,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:00.35,0:06:02.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe some of you've been\Nin that class and remember -
Dialogue: 0,0:06:02.88,0:06:08.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the first day I say,\N"How many are here to avoid failure?"
Dialogue: 0,0:06:08.23,0:06:10.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And 80% raise your hand.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:10.81,0:06:15.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I say, "Well, thanks for coming,\NI know you're motivated,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:15.04,0:06:17.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but you are not happy campers.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:17.44,0:06:18.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You probably told your friends,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:18.91,0:06:22.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,'I've got to go to class.\NIt's a requirement.'
Dialogue: 0,0:06:22.96,0:06:27.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not 'I get to go to class.\NIt's an opportunity.'
Dialogue: 0,0:06:27.06,0:06:31.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You probably woke up to an alarm clock\Nnot an opportunity clock."
Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.33,0:06:32.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:06:32.70,0:06:36.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's all in how you see it.\NReally, it's all in how you see it.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:36.08,0:06:37.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's your paradigm.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:37.33,0:06:42.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's how you communicate to others\Nand how you communicate to yourself.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:42.67,0:06:47.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, Ellen Langer said\Nin her book "Mindfulness",
Dialogue: 0,0:06:47.06,0:06:48.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,- and psychologists know -
Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.92,0:06:53.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"When you perceive choice,\Nyou perceive motivation."
Dialogue: 0,0:06:53.77,0:06:55.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're more motivated.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:55.55,0:06:58.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the deal is, for yourself\Nsit back and reflect,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:58.53,0:07:01.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,be mindful of the choices you have.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:01.46,0:07:05.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And talk about being a success seeker,\Nrather than a failure "avoider".
Dialogue: 0,0:07:05.26,0:07:09.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's all how you talk, how you communicate\Nto yourself and to others.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:09.70,0:07:13.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I got a fourth C word: community.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:13.70,0:07:14.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Powerful word.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:14.74,0:07:19.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Psychologists know\Nthat social support is critical.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:19.18,0:07:21.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,People who perceive\Na sense of relatedness,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:21.84,0:07:27.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a sense of connection with other people,\Nfeel motivated, and they are happier.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:28.55,0:07:31.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want to recite a poem.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:31.50,0:07:34.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's called "The cookie thief"\Nby Valerie Cox.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:34.60,0:07:36.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And as I recite this poem,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:36.60,0:07:39.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,- there is only two characters,\Na men and a lady -
Dialogue: 0,0:07:39.19,0:07:41.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,put yourself in the situation.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:41.54,0:07:46.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Be mindful, think about the situation\Nand what you would do.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:46.56,0:07:48.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,OK? Here we go.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.46,0:07:50.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A woman was waiting\Nat an airport one night
Dialogue: 0,0:07:50.50,0:07:52.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With several [long] hours\Nbefore her flight.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:52.96,0:07:55.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She hunted for a book in the airport shop
Dialogue: 0,0:07:55.89,0:07:59.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Bought a bag of cookies\Nand found a place to drop.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:59.34,0:08:01.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was engrossed in her book\Nbut happened to see
Dialogue: 0,0:08:01.63,0:08:04.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That the man beside her\Nas bold as could be
Dialogue: 0,0:08:04.54,0:08:07.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[Grabbed] a cookie or two\Nfrom the bag between
Dialogue: 0,0:08:07.54,0:08:11.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Which she tried to ignore to avoid a scene
Dialogue: 0,0:08:11.43,0:08:14.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She read, munched cookies,\Nand watched the clock
Dialogue: 0,0:08:14.81,0:08:18.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As this gutsy cookie thief\Ndiminished her stock
Dialogue: 0,0:08:18.33,0:08:21.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was getting more irritated\Nas the minutes ticked by
Dialogue: 0,0:08:21.35,0:08:25.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thinking, "If I wasn't so nice,\NI'd blacken his eye."
Dialogue: 0,0:08:25.75,0:08:29.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With each cookie she took, he took one too
Dialogue: 0,0:08:29.39,0:08:31.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When only one was left\Nshe wondered what he'd do
Dialogue: 0,0:08:31.64,0:08:34.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With a smile on his face\Nand a nervous laugh
Dialogue: 0,0:08:34.45,0:08:37.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He took the last cookie\Nand he broke it in half
Dialogue: 0,0:08:37.74,0:08:38.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:08:38.93,0:08:42.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He offered her a half as he ate the other
Dialogue: 0,0:08:42.29,0:08:44.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She snatched it from him\Nand thought, "Oh, brother.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:44.90,0:08:48.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This guy has some nerve,\Nand he’s also rude.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:48.51,0:08:51.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[Why] he didn't even show any gratitude."
Dialogue: 0,0:08:51.44,0:08:53.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She had never known\Nwhen she had been so galled
Dialogue: 0,0:08:53.68,0:08:55.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And sighed with relief\Nwhen her flight was called
Dialogue: 0,0:08:55.97,0:08:58.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She gathered her belongings\Nand headed for the gate
Dialogue: 0,0:08:58.37,0:09:02.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Refusing to look back\Nat the thieving ingrate
Dialogue: 0,0:09:02.25,0:09:04.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She boarded the plane and sank in her seat
Dialogue: 0,0:09:04.83,0:09:08.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then she sought her book\Nwhich was almost complete
Dialogue: 0,0:09:08.56,0:09:12.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As she reached in her baggage,\Nshe gasped with surprise
Dialogue: 0,0:09:12.43,0:09:15.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There was her bag of cookies\Nin front of her eyes
Dialogue: 0,0:09:15.69,0:09:17.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:09:17.14,0:09:21.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"If mine are here,"\Nshe moaned with despair
Dialogue: 0,0:09:21.01,0:09:25.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Then the others were his,\Nand he tried to share."
Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.42,0:09:28.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Too late to apologize,"\Nshe realized with grief
Dialogue: 0,0:09:28.75,0:09:33.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That she was the rude one,\Nthe ingrate, the thief.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:34.54,0:09:36.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, where were you, when I was--
Dialogue: 0,0:09:36.52,0:09:38.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Where were you? Who's side were you on?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:38.98,0:09:43.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Were you thinking independent?\NOr interdependent?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:43.22,0:09:45.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't blame you\Nif you think independent.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:45.88,0:09:47.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's how we are raised.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:47.08,0:09:50.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nice guys finish last.\NSqueaky wheel gets the grease.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:50.75,0:09:54.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Gotta blow your own horn.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:54.05,0:09:55.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Independent.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:55.07,0:09:58.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We come in this life of ours\Ndependent of others,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:58.39,0:10:01.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then we can't wait\Nto become teenagers.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:01.37,0:10:05.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are too old to do what kids do.\NToo young to do what adults do.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:05.08,0:10:09.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So that we will do that nobody else\Nwould do to assert our independence.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:09.37,0:10:12.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And some of us gets stuck there.\NWe are stuck.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:12.90,0:10:16.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'll do it myself. I don't need you.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:16.23,0:10:17.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not good.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:17.84,0:10:22.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We need each other.\NWe have to have each other's back.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:22.15,0:10:25.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We need a sense of community.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:25.10,0:10:30.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This independence culture that we got,\Nwe have to move to interdependent.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:31.02,0:10:35.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,OK, four "C" words\Nthat can fuel self-motivation,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:35.66,0:10:39.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I think can fuel\Nactively caring for people.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:39.33,0:10:42.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let me tell you a story\Nto put it all together.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:42.32,0:10:46.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It happened over 60 years ago.\NI remember it like yesterday.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:46.89,0:10:49.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My parents asked me, "Hey, Scott.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:49.45,0:10:53.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How would you like to get drum lessons?\NHow would you like to play the drums?"
Dialogue: 0,0:10:53.64,0:10:55.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Oh man! Would I ever?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:55.53,0:10:58.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm thinking of Buddy Rich\Nand Gene Krupa.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:58.51,0:11:01.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Most of you guys don't know those names,\Nbut they were the drummers.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:01.70,0:11:03.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In those days, the drum\Nwas in front of the band.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:03.100,0:11:07.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They had White Pearl drum sets,\Nand I saw it myself. That was my vision.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:07.94,0:11:10.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had a vision: consequences.\NThat was my vision.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:10.68,0:11:13.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I said, "Yeah, I want\Nto take drum lessons."
Dialogue: 0,0:11:13.42,0:11:16.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the teacher would bring\Nhis drum set next to mine.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:16.06,0:11:17.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't have a nice drum like this.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:17.79,0:11:20.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My parents bought me\Na beatable drum at an auction.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:20.86,0:11:26.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they said to me, "If you get better,\Nif your teacher tells us you get--
Dialogue: 0,0:11:26.23,0:11:27.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,- they are holding me accountable -
Dialogue: 0,0:11:27.94,0:11:31.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,teacher says you are getting better,\Nwe will get you a better snare drum,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:31.36,0:11:33.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then a bass drum,\Nand then some cymbals."
Dialogue: 0,0:11:33.51,0:11:35.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that was my vision,\Nand that kept me going:
Dialogue: 0,0:11:35.70,0:11:37.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,consequences.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:37.37,0:11:40.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the teacher would come in,\Nand he would show me stuff:
Dialogue: 0,0:11:40.04,0:11:41.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is how--, left hand;
Dialogue: 0,0:11:41.46,0:11:44.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is how Buddy Rich plays\Nwith his left hand and his right hand.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:44.97,0:11:46.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then he'd do things like a flam.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:46.85,0:11:48.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Drum)
Dialogue: 0,0:11:48.42,0:11:52.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you hear that at the back? You OK?\NAnd this is a rimshot.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:52.33,0:11:53.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Drum)
Dialogue: 0,0:11:53.51,0:11:56.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He would show me stuff.\NI was just 10 years old, remember?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:56.47,0:11:58.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when he showed me stuff,\NI felt, "Wow!"
Dialogue: 0,0:11:58.71,0:12:02.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He showed me this little simple drumbeat,\N"Watch me, Scott, watch this."
Dialogue: 0,0:12:02.11,0:12:05.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Drum)
Dialogue: 0,0:12:05.19,0:12:09.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I practiced it. And I did it.\NI am feeling competent.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:09.17,0:12:13.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He showed me a paradiddle, "Listen.\N(Playing drums) Paradiddle, paradiddle."
Dialogue: 0,0:12:13.71,0:12:17.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"You go home and practice; next week,\NI want to see your paradiddling.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:17.00,0:12:18.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I said, "Watch this."
Dialogue: 0,0:12:18.10,0:12:20.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Drumming)
Dialogue: 0,0:12:20.96,0:12:22.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I said, "Watch this."
Dialogue: 0,0:12:22.18,0:12:24.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Drumming)
Dialogue: 0,0:12:24.04,0:12:27.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said, "That's a double paradiddle.\NWe didn't get there yet."
Dialogue: 0,0:12:27.70,0:12:32.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am really ahead. (Laughter)\NBecause I'm self-motivated.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:32.40,0:12:33.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I feel competent.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:33.65,0:12:36.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm walking through Newberg High School,\NAllentown, Pennsylvania.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:36.70,0:12:38.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I see the music teacher, and he says,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:38.52,0:12:40.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I've heard you're learning\Nto play the drums."
Dialogue: 0,0:12:40.72,0:12:42.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I said, "Yeah! I'm getting good."
Dialogue: 0,0:12:42.29,0:12:45.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said, "You can march in the band.\NYou can be the snare drummer."
Dialogue: 0,0:12:45.45,0:12:48.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Wow! That felt good. Another vision.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:49.66,0:12:51.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then the teacher comes into my--
Dialogue: 0,0:12:51.77,0:12:56.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,- these are private lessons, by the way,\Ntwo dollars, that was a long time ago -
Dialogue: 0,0:12:56.82,0:13:00.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said, "Scott! Ready to do a drum roll."
Dialogue: 0,0:13:00.38,0:13:02.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I said, "Of course,\NI'm ready for a drum roll."
Dialogue: 0,0:13:02.68,0:13:05.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he says, "Watch this, Scott!\NHere you go. Watch this."
Dialogue: 0,0:13:05.41,0:13:06.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Drumming)
Dialogue: 0,0:13:08.75,0:13:12.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Hmm... could you do that again?"
Dialogue: 0,0:13:12.19,0:13:16.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Scott. This is easy. Watch me."
Dialogue: 0,0:13:16.06,0:13:19.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Drumming)
Dialogue: 0,0:13:20.22,0:13:25.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Now, you practice that, and next week,\NI want to see your drum roll."
Dialogue: 0,0:13:25.47,0:13:28.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He comes back the next week\Nand says, "How is your drum?"
Dialogue: 0,0:13:28.15,0:13:30.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Hmm... I can do a paradiddle."\N(Drumming)
Dialogue: 0,0:13:30.82,0:13:34.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"That's regression. Ha-ha.\NI want to see a drum roll."
Dialogue: 0,0:13:35.70,0:13:40.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Week after week,\Nnow we're talking about distress.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:40.33,0:13:42.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now we're talking about apathy.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:42.69,0:13:45.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now we are talking\Nabout learned helplessness.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:45.17,0:13:47.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's what psychologists call it.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:47.58,0:13:49.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember walking\Nthrough that elementary school
Dialogue: 0,0:13:49.88,0:13:52.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and seeing the music teacher who said,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:52.14,0:13:54.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"So, Scott, how are you doing?\NHow are the drums?"
Dialogue: 0,0:13:54.69,0:13:59.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Huh, not so good.\NI can't do a drum roll."
Dialogue: 0,0:13:59.56,0:14:02.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, like adults\Nalways say, " Never say can't.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:02.18,0:14:05.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can be anything\Nyou want to be, Scott."
Dialogue: 0,0:14:05.02,0:14:06.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"No. I can't do a drum roll.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:06.83,0:14:09.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've tried and I tried,\Nand I've kind of given up."
Dialogue: 0,0:14:09.43,0:14:13.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he says, "Scott, when you ever\Nget overwhelmed, break it down."
Dialogue: 0,0:14:13.37,0:14:15.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Break it down. Can you do a paradiddle?"
Dialogue: 0,0:14:15.79,0:14:16.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Yeah!"
Dialogue: 0,0:14:16.84,0:14:18.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Drumming)
Dialogue: 0,0:14:18.71,0:14:20.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"OK, what's the second beat?"\N"Two beats."
Dialogue: 0,0:14:20.67,0:14:21.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Drumming)
Dialogue: 0,0:14:21.96,0:14:25.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Yeah. Well, that's a drum roll, Geller.\NIt's two beats."
Dialogue: 0,0:14:25.80,0:14:26.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Drumming)
Dialogue: 0,0:14:26.96,0:14:29.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You go home and practice,\Nand you say, "Dad and mama,"
Dialogue: 0,0:14:29.50,0:14:30.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,- remember I was just 10 -
Dialogue: 0,0:14:30.75,0:14:33.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"You go 'dad and mama, dad and mama'."
Dialogue: 0,0:14:33.28,0:14:36.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Drum)
Dialogue: 0,0:14:36.37,0:14:37.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a drum roll.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:37.82,0:14:39.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That teacher came back the next week,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:39.73,0:14:43.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"OK, Scott. I guess\Nyou can't do a drum roll."
Dialogue: 0,0:14:43.36,0:14:44.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I said, "Watch this."
Dialogue: 0,0:14:44.90,0:14:47.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Drumming)
Dialogue: 0,0:14:47.13,0:14:51.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said, "Wow!\NHow did you learn to do that?"
Dialogue: 0,0:14:51.07,0:14:52.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I showed my teacher.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:52.53,0:14:54.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Drumming)
Dialogue: 0,0:14:56.08,0:14:58.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I taught my teacher. 10 years old.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:58.70,0:15:03.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said, "I've forgotten.\NI got into the habit of just doing this
Dialogue: 0,0:15:03.45,0:15:04.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Drumming)
Dialogue: 0,0:15:04.72,0:15:07.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I forgot that it is two beats.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:07.41,0:15:11.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You taught me how to teach\Nthe drum roll, Scott.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:12.52,0:15:17.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is a lesson there:\Nwe can always learn from each other.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:17.18,0:15:20.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We need to have the humility\Nto accept feedback,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:20.91,0:15:23.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the courage to speak up.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:23.32,0:15:27.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we need to help each other\Nfeel self-motivated.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:27.08,0:15:28.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How?
Dialogue: 0,0:15:28.36,0:15:34.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Give them the perception of competence.\NTeach them about 'consequences drive us'.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:35.15,0:15:40.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let them perceive choice,\Nand let them know it's community.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:40.52,0:15:43.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're all in this together.\NAnd we need each other.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:44.75,0:15:46.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:46.15,0:15:47.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)