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I didn't know when I agreed to do this,

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whether I was expected to talk, or to sing.

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But when I was told that the topic was language,

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I felt that I had to speak about something for a moment.

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I have a problem.

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It's not the worst thing in the world,

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I'm fine,

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I'm not on fire,

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I know that other people in the world

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have far worst things to deal with,

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but for me, language and music are

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inextricably linked through this one thing.

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And the thing is that I have a stutter.

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It might seem curious given that I spend

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a lot of my life on the stage.

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One would assume that i'm comfortable

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in the public sphere and comfortable here,

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speaking to you guys.

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But the truth is that I've spent[br]my life up on to this point

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and including this point, living in mortal dread

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of public speaking.

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Public 'singing', whole different thing. (Laughter)

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But we'll get to that in a moment.

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I've never really talked about it before so explicitly.

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I think that that's because I've always lived in hope

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that when I was a grown-up,

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I wouldn't have one.

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I sort of lived with this idea that when i'm grown,

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I'll have learn to speak French,

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and when i'm grown, i'll learn[br]how to manage my money,

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and when i'm grown, I won't have a stutter,

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and i'll be able to public speak[br]and maybe be the Prime Minister

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and anything's possible and, you know.

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(Laughter)

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So I can talk about it now

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because I've reached this point, where,

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I mean, i'm 28.

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I'm pretty sure that i'm grown now.

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(Laughter)

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And i'm an adult woman

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who spends her life as a performer,

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with a speech impediment.

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So, I might as well come clean about it.

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There are some interesting[br]angles to having a stutter.

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For me, the worst thing that can happen

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is meeting another stutterer.

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(Laughter)

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This happened to me in Hamburg, when

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this guy, we met and he said,

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"Hello, m..m..m..my name is Joe",

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and I said, "Oh, hello, m..m..m..my name is Mey".

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Imagine my horror when I realized

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he thought that I was making fun of him.

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(Laughter)

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People think i'm drunk all the time.

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(Laughter)

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People think that I've forgotten their name

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when I hesitate before saying it.

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And it is a very weird thing, because

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proper nouns are the worst.

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If i'm gonna use the word[br]"Wednesday" in a sentence,

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and i'm coming up to the word,

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and I can feel that i'm gonna stutter or something,

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I can change the word to "tomorrow"

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or "the day after Tuesday,"

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or something else, you know.

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It's clunky, but you can get away with it,

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because over time, I've developed this

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loophole method of using speech

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where right at the last minute you

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change the thing and you trick your brain.

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But with peoples' names, you can't change them.

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(Laughter)

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When I was singing a lot of jazz,

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I worked a lot with a pianist whose name was Steve.

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As you can probably gather,

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'S's and 'T's together, or independently,

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are my Kryptonite.

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(Laughter)

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But I would have to introduce the band

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over this rolling vamp, you know,

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and when I got around to Steve,

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I'd often find myself stuck on the 'St'.

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And it was a bit awkward and uncomfortable[br]and it totally kills the vibe, you know.

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So after a few instances of this,

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Steve happily became "Seve"

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and we got through it that way.

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I've had a lot of therapy,

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and a common form of treatment is to use

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this technique that's called "Smooth Speech,"

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which is where you almost[br]sing everything that you say.

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You kind of join everything together in this

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very sing-song, kindergarten teacher way,

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and it makes you sound very serene,[br]like you've had lots of valium,

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and everything is calm.

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That's not actually me, you know.

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And I do use that. I do.

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I use it when I have to be on panel shows,

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or when I have to do radio interviews,

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when the economy of airtime is paramount.

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(Laughter)

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I get through it that way, you know, for my job.

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But as an artist who feels that their work

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is based solely on a platform of honesty

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and being real,

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that feels often like cheating.

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Which is why before I sing, I wanted to tell you

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what singing means to me.

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It's more than making nice sounds,

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and it's more than making nice songs.

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It's more than feeling known, or understood.

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It's more than making you feel the things that I feel.

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It's not about mythology,

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or mythologizing myself to you.

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Somehow, through some miraculous

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synaptic function of the human brain,

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it's impossible to stutter when you sing.

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And when I was younger,[br]that was a method of treatment

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that worked very well for me:

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singing.

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So I did it a lot.

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And that's why I'm here today.

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(Applause)

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Thank you.

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Singing for me is sweet relief.

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It is the only time when I feel fluent.

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It is the only time when what comes out of my mouth

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is comprehensively exactly what I intended.

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(Laughter)

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So I know that this is a TED talk,

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but now i'm going to TED sing.

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This is a song that I wrote last year.

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Thank you very much. Thank you.

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(Applause)

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(Piano)

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♪ I would be a beauty ♪

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♪ but my nose ♪

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♪ is slightly too big ♪

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♪ for my face ♪

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♪ And I would be a dreamer ♪

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♪ but my dream ♪

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♪ is slightly too big ♪

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♪ for this space ♪

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♪ And I would be an angel ♪

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♪ but my halo ♪

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♪ impales in the glow ♪

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♪ of your grace ♪

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♪ And I would be a joker ♪

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♪ but that could look silly when you play ♪

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♪ your ace ♪

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♪ And I'd like to know ♪

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♪ Are there stars in hell? ♪

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♪ And I'd like to know ♪

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♪ know if you can tell ♪

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♪ that you make me lose everything I know ♪

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♪ That I cannot choose to or not let go ♪

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♪ And I'd stay forever ♪

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♪ but my home ♪

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♪ is slightly too far ♪

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♪ from this place ♪

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♪ And I swear I tried to ♪

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♪ slow it down ♪

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♪ when I am walking at your pace ♪

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♪ But all I could think ♪

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♪ Idling through the cities, ♪

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♪ Do I look pretty in the rain? ♪

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♪ And I don't know how someone ♪

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♪ quite so lovely ♪

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♪ makes me feel ugly ♪

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♪ So much shame ♪

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♪ And I'd like to know ♪

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♪ Are there stars in hell? ♪

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♪ And I'd like to know, ♪

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♪ know if you can tell ♪

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♪ that you make me lose everything I know ♪

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♪ that I cannot choose to or not let go ♪

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Thank you very much. (Applause)