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When I was a child,
I knew I had superpowers.

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That's right.

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I thought I was absolutely amazing
because I could understand

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and relate to the feelings
of brown people, like my grandfather,

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a conservative Muslim guy.

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And also, I could understand
my Afghan mother, my Pakistani father,

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not so religious but
laid-back, fairly liberal.

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And of course, I could understand
and relate to the feelings of white people.

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The white Norwegians of my country.
You know, white, brown, whatever,

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I loved them all. I understood them all,

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even if they didn't always
understand each other,

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they were all my people.

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My father, though,
was always really worried.

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He kept saying that
even with the best education,

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I was not going to get a fair shake.

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I would still face discrimination,
according to him, and that they only way

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to be accepted by white people
would be to become famous.

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Now mind you, he had this conversation
with me when I was seven-years-old.

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So while I'm seven-years-old,
he said, look,

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so its either got to be sports,
or its got to be music.

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He didn't know anything about sports --
bless him -- so it was music.

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So when I was seven-years-old,
he gathered all my toys, all my dolls,

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and he threw them all away.

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In exchange, he gave me a crappy little
Casio keyboard and singing lessons.

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He forced me, basically, to practice
for hours and hours every single day.

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Very quickly, he also had me performing
for larger and larger audiences,

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and bizarrely, I became almost
a kind of poster child

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for Norwegian multi-culturalism.

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I felt very proud, of course.

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Even the newspapers were starting
to write nice things about brown people,

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so I could feel that
my superpower was growing.

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So when I was 12-years-old,
walking home from school,

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I took a little detour
because I wanted to buy

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my favorite sweets called Salty Feets.

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I know they sound kind of awful,
but I absolutely love them.

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They're basically these little salty
licorice bits in the shape of feet.

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And now that I say it out loud,
I realize how terrible that sounds,

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but be that as it may,
I absolutely love them.

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So on my way into the store,
there was this grown white guy

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in the doorway blocking my way.

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So I tried to walk around him,
and as I did that, he stopped me

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and he was staring at me,
and he spit in my face,

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and he said, get out of my way
you little black bitch,

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you little Paki bitch,
go back home where you came from.

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I was absolutely horrified.
I was staring at him.

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I was too afraid to wipe
the spit off my face,

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even as it was mixing with my tears.

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I remember looking around,
hoping that any minute now,

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a grown-up is going to come 
and make this guy stop.

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But instead, people kept hurrying past me
and pretended not to see me.

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I was very confused
because I was thinking,

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well, my white people, come on!
Where are they? What's going on?

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How come they're not
coming and rescuing me?

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So, needless to say,
I didn't buy the sweets.

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I just ran home as fast as I could.

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Things were still okay, though, I thought.

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As time went on, the more successful
I became, I eventually started attracting

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harassment from brown people.

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Some men in my parent's community
felt that it was unacceptable

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and dishonorable for a woman
to be involved in music

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and to be so present in the media.

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So very quickly, I was starting to become
attacked at my own concerts.

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I remember one of the concerts,
I was onstage, I lean into the audience

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and the last thing I see is
a young brown face

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and the next thing I know
some sort of chemical is thrown in my eyes

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and I remember I couldn't really see
and my eyes were watering

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but I kept singing anyway.

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I was spit in the face in the streets
of Oslo, this time by brown men.

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They even tried to
kidnap me at one point.

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The death threats were endless.

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I remember one older bearded guy
stopped me in the street one time,

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and he said, the reason
I hate you so much

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is because you make
our daughters think

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they can do whatever they want.

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A younger guy warned me
to watch my back.

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He said music is un-Islamic
and the job of whores,

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and if you keep this up,
you are going to be raped

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and your stomach will be cut out so that
another whore like you will not be born.

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Again, I was so confused.

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I couldn't understand
what was going on.

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My brown people now starting
to treat me like this -- how come?

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Instead of bridging the worlds, 
the two worlds, I felt like I was

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falling between my two worlds.
I suppose for me, spit was kryptonite.

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So by the time I was 17-years-old,
the death threats were endless

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and the harassment was constant.
It got so bad, at one point my mother

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sat me down and said, look,
we can no longer protect you,

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we can no longer keep you safe,
so you're going to have to go.

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So I bought a one-way ticket to London.
I packed my suitcase, and I left.

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My biggest heartbreak at that point
was that nobody said anything.

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I had a very public exit from Norway.

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My brown people, my white people,
nobody said anything.

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Nobody said, hold on, this is wrong.

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Support this girl, protect this girl
because she is one of us.

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Nope. Nobody said that.

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Instead, I felt like,
you know at the airport, on the baggage

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carousel you have these different
suitcases going around and around

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and there's always that one suitcase left
at the end, the one that nobody wants,

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the one that nobody comes to claim.

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I felt like that. I'd never felt so alone.
I'd never felt so lost.

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So, after coming to London,
I did eventually resume my music career.

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Different place but unfortunately
the same old story.

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I remember a message sent to me
saying that I was going to be killed

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and that rivers of blood were going
to flow and that I was going to be raped

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many times before I died.

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By this point, I have to say,

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I was actually getting used
to messages like this,

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but what became different was that
now they started threatening my family.

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So once again, I packed my suitcase,
I left music and I moved to the US.

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I'd had enough. I didn't want to have
anything to do with this anymore.

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And I was certainly not
going to be killed for something

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that wasn't even my dream --
it was my father's choice.

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So I kind of got lost.
I kind of fell apart.

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But I decided that what I wanted to do
is spend the next however many years

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of my life supporting young people
and to try to be there in some small way,

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whatever way that I could.

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I started volunteering for various
organizations that were working

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with young Muslims inside of Europe.


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And, to my surprise, what I found
was so many of these young people

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were suffering and struggling.

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They were facing so many problems
with their families and their communities

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who seemed to care more about
their honor and their reputation than the

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happiness and the lives of their own kids.

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I started feeling like maybe I wasn't
so alone, maybe I wasn't so weird.

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Maybe there are more of
my people out there.

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The thing is, what most people
don't understand is that there are so many

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of us growing up in Europe who
are not free to be ourselves.

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We're not allowed to be who we are.

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We are not free to marry or to be in
relationships with people that we choose.

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We can't even pick our own career.

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This is the norm in the
Muslim heartlands of Europe,

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even in the freest societies in the world,
we're not free.

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Our lives, our dreams, our future does not belong to us, it belongs to our parents and their community. I found endless stories of young people who are lost to all of us, who are invisible to all of us but who are suffering and they are suffering alone. Kids that we are losing to forced marriages, honor-based violence and abuse. So, eventually, I realized, after several years of working with these young people that I will not be able to keep running. I can't spend the rest of my life being scared and hiding and that I'm actually going to have to do something. And I also realized that my silence, our silence, allows abuse like this to continue. So I decided that I wanted to put my childhood superpower to some use by trying to make people on the different sides of these issues understand what its like to be a young person stuck between your family and your country. So I started making films and I started telling stories. I also wanted people to understand the deadly consequences of us not taking these problems seriously. So the first film I made was about Denaz.