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Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.20,0:00:04.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I was a child,\NI knew I had superpowers.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.92,0:00:08.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's right.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:08.16,0:00:09.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.28,0:00:13.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I thought I was absolutely amazing\Nbecause I could understand
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.32,0:00:15.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and relate to the feelings\Nof brown people,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.48,0:00:18.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like my grandfather,\Na conservative Muslim guy.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.36,0:00:24.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And also, I could understand\Nmy Afghan mother, my Pakistani father,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.28,0:00:28.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not so religious\Nbut laid-back, fairly liberal.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:28.48,0:00:30.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And of course, I could understand
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.12,0:00:32.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and relate to the feelings\Nof white people.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.56,0:00:34.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The white Norwegians of my country.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.48,0:00:38.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, white, brown, whatever --
Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.08,0:00:39.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I loved them all.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.92,0:00:41.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I understood them all,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.20,0:00:43.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if they didn't always\Nunderstand each other;
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.56,0:00:44.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they were all my people.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.60,0:00:48.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My father, though,\Nwas always really worried.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.56,0:00:51.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He kept saying that\Neven with the best education,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.92,0:00:55.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was not going to get a fair shake.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:55.12,0:00:58.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would still face discrimination,\Naccording to him.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.56,0:01:01.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that the only way\Nto be accepted by white people
Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.40,0:01:03.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,would be to become famous.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.60,0:01:07.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, mind you, he had this conversation\Nwith me when I was seven years old.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.44,0:01:11.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So while I'm seven years old, he said,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.44,0:01:14.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Look, so it's either got to be sports,\Nor it's got to be music."
Dialogue: 0,0:01:14.84,0:01:19.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He didn't know anything about sports --\Nbless him -- so it was music.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.32,0:01:23.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when I was seven years old,\Nhe gathered all my toys, all my dolls,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.68,0:01:25.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he threw them all away.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.16,0:01:30.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In exchange he gave me\Na crappy little Casio keyboard and --
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.04,0:01:31.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.28,0:01:33.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah. And singing lessons.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:33.32,0:01:38.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he forced me, basically, to practice\Nfor hours and hours every single day.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.12,0:01:42.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Very quickly, he also had me performing\Nfor larger and larger audiences,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:42.40,0:01:46.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and bizarrely, I became\Nalmost a kind of poster child
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.20,0:01:48.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for Norwegian multiculturalism.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.76,0:01:50.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt very proud, of course.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.52,0:01:53.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because even the newspapers at this point
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.88,0:01:56.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were starting to write\Nnice things about brown people,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.48,0:01:59.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I could feel\Nthat my superpower was growing.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.96,0:02:03.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when I was 12 years old,\Nwalking home from school,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.96,0:02:05.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I took a little detour
Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.20,0:02:08.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I wanted to buy\Nmy favorite sweets called "salty feet."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.76,0:02:10.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know they sound kind of awful,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.64,0:02:13.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I absolutely love them.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.16,0:02:17.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're basically these little\Nsalty licorice bits in the shape of feet.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.12,0:02:23.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And now that I say it out loud,\NI realize how terrible that sounds,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.28,0:02:26.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but be that as it may,\NI absolutely love them.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.80,0:02:28.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So on my way into the store,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:28.92,0:02:33.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there was this grown white guy\Nin the doorway blocking my way.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.48,0:02:39.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I tried to walk around him,\Nand as I did that, he stopped me
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.44,0:02:41.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he was staring at me,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.20,0:02:44.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he spit in my face, and he said,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:44.16,0:02:45.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Get out of my way
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.40,0:02:48.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you little black bitch,\Nyou little Paki bitch,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.68,0:02:50.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,go back home where you came from."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.60,0:02:54.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was absolutely horrified.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.72,0:02:56.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was staring at him.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.04,0:02:58.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was too afraid\Nto wipe the spit off my face,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.84,0:03:01.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even as it was mixing with my tears.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.00,0:03:05.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember looking around,\Nhoping that any minute now,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.72,0:03:09.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a grown-up is going to come\Nand make this guy stop.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.40,0:03:13.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But instead, people kept hurrying past me\Nand pretended not to see me.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:14.16,0:03:17.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was very confused\Nbecause I was thinking, well,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:18.64,0:03:21.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"My white people, come on!\NWhere are they? What's going on?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.96,0:03:24.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How come they're not\Ncoming and rescuing me?"
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.76,0:03:27.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, needless to say,\NI didn't buy the sweets.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.04,0:03:29.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I just ran home as fast as I could.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.04,0:03:32.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Things were still OK, though, I thought.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.80,0:03:35.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As time went on,\Nthe more successful I became,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.92,0:03:40.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I eventually started also\Nattracting harassment from brown people.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.52,0:03:44.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some men in my parent's community\Nfelt that it was unacceptable
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.84,0:03:49.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and dishonorable for a woman\Nto be involved in music
Dialogue: 0,0:03:49.72,0:03:51.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to be so present in the media.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.28,0:03:58.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So very quickly, I was starting\Nto become attacked at my own concerts.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:58.72,0:04:03.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember one of the concerts,\NI was onstage, I lean into the audience
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.76,0:04:07.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the last thing I see\Nis a young brown face,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.04,0:04:11.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the next thing I know is some sort\Nof chemical is thrown in my eyes
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.28,0:04:14.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I remember I couldn't really see\Nand my eyes were watering
Dialogue: 0,0:04:14.52,0:04:16.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I kept singing anyway.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:16.84,0:04:21.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was spit in the face in the streets\Nof Oslo, this time by brown men.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.36,0:04:25.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They even tried to kidnap me at one point.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.60,0:04:27.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The death threats were endless.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:27.68,0:04:30.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember one older bearded guy\Nstopped me in the street one time,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.96,0:04:33.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he said, "The reason\NI hate you so much
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.12,0:04:35.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is because you make our daughters think
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.20,0:04:36.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they can do whatever they want."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:38.56,0:04:41.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A younger guy warned me to watch my back.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.40,0:04:44.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said music is un-Islamic\Nand the job of whores,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.44,0:04:47.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and if you keep this up,\Nyou are going to be raped
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.20,0:04:51.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and your stomach will be cut out so that\Nanother whore like you will not be born.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:53.56,0:04:55.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Again, I was so confused.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.28,0:04:57.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I couldn't understand what was going on.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:57.21,0:05:00.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My brown people now starting\Nto treat me like this -- how come?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.56,0:05:04.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Instead of bridging the worlds,\Nthe two worlds,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.68,0:05:07.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt like I was falling\Nbetween my two worlds.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:08.00,0:05:10.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I suppose, for me, spit was kryptonite.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:12.56,0:05:14.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So by the time I was 17 years old,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.60,0:05:17.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the death threats were endless,\Nand the harassment was constant.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:17.64,0:05:20.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It got so bad, at one point\Nmy mother sat me down and said,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.43,0:05:23.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Look, we can no longer protect you,\Nwe can no longer keep you safe,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.92,0:05:25.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so you're going to have to go."
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.72,0:05:31.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I bought a one-way ticket to London,\NI packed my suitcase and I left.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:32.16,0:05:35.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My biggest heartbreak at that point\Nwas that nobody said anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.88,0:05:38.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had a very public exit from Norway.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:39.12,0:05:42.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My brown people, my white people --\Nnobody said anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:42.68,0:05:44.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nobody said, "Hold on, this is wrong.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:45.96,0:05:49.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Support this girl, protect this girl,\Nbecause she is one of us."
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.68,0:05:51.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nobody said that.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.32,0:05:54.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Instead, I felt like --\Nyou know at the airport,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:55.12,0:05:57.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on the baggage carousel\Nyou have these different suitcases
Dialogue: 0,0:05:58.00,0:05:59.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,going around and around,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:59.28,0:06:01.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there's always\Nthat one suitcase left at the end,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:01.80,0:06:04.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the one that nobody wants,\Nthe one that nobody comes to claim.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:04.84,0:06:06.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt like that.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:07.04,0:06:10.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd never felt so alone.\NI'd never felt so lost.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.36,0:06:16.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, after coming to London,\NI did eventually resume my music career.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:17.00,0:06:20.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Different place, but unfortunately\Nthe same old story.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:20.84,0:06:24.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember a message sent to me\Nsaying that I was going to be killed
Dialogue: 0,0:06:24.40,0:06:27.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that rivers of blood\Nwere going to flow
Dialogue: 0,0:06:27.80,0:06:31.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that I was going to be raped\Nmany times before I died.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.28,0:06:32.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,By this point, I have to say,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:32.72,0:06:35.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was actually getting used\Nto messages like this,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:35.20,0:06:39.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but what became different was that\Nnow they started threatening my family.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:40.76,0:06:46.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So once again, I packed my suitcase,\NI left music and I moved to the US.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:46.52,0:06:47.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd had enough.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:47.80,0:06:50.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't want to have anything\Nto do with this anymore.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.44,0:06:53.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I was certainly not\Ngoing to be killed for something
Dialogue: 0,0:06:53.12,0:06:55.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that wasn't even my dream --\Nit was my father's choice.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:58.20,0:07:01.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I kind of got lost.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:01.40,0:07:02.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I kind of fell apart.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:02.96,0:07:05.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I decided that what I wanted to do
Dialogue: 0,0:07:05.32,0:07:08.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is spend the next\Nhowever many years of my life
Dialogue: 0,0:07:08.68,0:07:10.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,supporting young people
Dialogue: 0,0:07:10.36,0:07:13.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to try to be there in some small way,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:13.28,0:07:14.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whatever way that I could.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:15.00,0:07:18.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I started volunteering\Nfor various organizations
Dialogue: 0,0:07:18.28,0:07:22.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that were working\Nwith young Muslims inside of Europe.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:24.08,0:07:27.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And, to my surprise, what I found was
Dialogue: 0,0:07:27.12,0:07:31.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so many of these young people\Nwere suffering and struggling.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:32.44,0:07:35.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They were facing so many problems\Nwith their families and their communities
Dialogue: 0,0:07:36.00,0:07:39.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who seemed to care more\Nabout their honor and their reputation
Dialogue: 0,0:07:39.64,0:07:42.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than the happiness\Nand the lives of their own kids.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:43.76,0:07:47.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I started feeling like maybe I wasn't\Nso alone, maybe I wasn't so weird.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.28,0:07:50.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe there are more\Nof my people out there.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:51.28,0:07:53.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The thing is, what most people\Ndon't understand
Dialogue: 0,0:07:53.52,0:07:57.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that there are so many of us\Ngrowing up in Europe
Dialogue: 0,0:07:57.84,0:08:00.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who are not free to be ourselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:00.28,0:08:02.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're not allowed to be who we are.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:03.36,0:08:07.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are not free to marry
Dialogue: 0,0:08:07.44,0:08:10.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or to be in relationships\Nwith people that we choose.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.40,0:08:12.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can't even pick our own career.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:12.08,0:08:15.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is the norm in the Muslim\Nheartlands of Europe.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:15.88,0:08:18.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even in the freest societies\Nin the world, we're not free.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:19.64,0:08:23.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our lives, our dreams, our future\Ndoes not belong to us,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:23.56,0:08:26.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it belongs to our parents\Nand their community.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:26.84,0:08:29.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I found endless stories of young people
Dialogue: 0,0:08:30.88,0:08:33.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who are lost to all of us,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:33.80,0:08:35.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who are invisible to all of us
Dialogue: 0,0:08:35.56,0:08:38.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but who are suffering,\Nand they are suffering alone.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:39.52,0:08:43.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Kids we are losing to forced marriages,\Nto honor-based violence and abuse.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:45.28,0:08:48.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Eventually, I realized after several\Nyears of working with these young people,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:49.00,0:08:51.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I will not be able to keep running.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:51.04,0:08:55.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can't spend the rest of my life\Nbeing scared and hiding
Dialogue: 0,0:08:55.72,0:08:58.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that I'm actually\Ngoing to have to do something.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:59.64,0:09:02.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I also realized\Nthat my silence, our silence,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:02.76,0:09:05.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,allows abuse like this to continue.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:06.00,0:09:10.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I decided that I wanted to put\Nmy childhood superpower to some use
Dialogue: 0,0:09:10.52,0:09:15.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by trying to make people on the different\Nsides of these issues understand
Dialogue: 0,0:09:15.24,0:09:20.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what it's like to be a young person stuck\Nbetween your family and your country.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:20.96,0:09:24.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I started making films,\Nand I started telling these stories.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:24.88,0:09:29.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I also wanted people to understand\Nthe deadly consequences of us
Dialogue: 0,0:09:29.32,0:09:31.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not taking these problems seriously.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:32.00,0:09:34.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the first film I made was about Banaz.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:35.44,0:09:38.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was a 17-year-old\NKurdish girl in London.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:39.52,0:09:42.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was obedient, she did\Nwhatever her parents wanted.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:42.84,0:09:45.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She tried to do everything right.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:45.28,0:09:47.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She married some guy\Nthat her parents chose for her,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:47.92,0:09:50.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even though he beat\Nand raped her constantly.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:51.88,0:09:54.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when she tried to go\Nto her family for help, they said,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:54.72,0:09:56.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Well, you got to go back\Nand be a better wife."
Dialogue: 0,0:09:57.00,0:09:59.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because they didn't want\Na divorced daughter on their hands
Dialogue: 0,0:09:59.84,0:10:02.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because, of course, that would\Nbring dishonor on the family.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:03.68,0:10:06.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was beaten so badly\Nher ears would bleed,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:07.20,0:10:12.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and when she finally left\Nand she found a young man that she chose
Dialogue: 0,0:10:12.32,0:10:14.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she fell in love with,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:14.16,0:10:16.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the community and the family found out
Dialogue: 0,0:10:16.44,0:10:17.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she disappeared.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:18.44,0:10:20.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was found three months later.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:21.20,0:10:25.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She'd been stuffed into a suitcase\Nand buried underneath the house.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:28.04,0:10:31.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She had been strangled,\Nshe had been beaten to death
Dialogue: 0,0:10:32.76,0:10:37.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by three men, three cousins,\Non the orders of her father and uncle.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:37.96,0:10:40.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The added tragedy of Banaz's story
Dialogue: 0,0:10:40.16,0:10:46.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that she had gone to the police\Nin England five times asking for help,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:46.08,0:10:49.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,telling them that she was\Ngoing to be killed by her family.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:49.16,0:10:52.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The police didn't believe her\Nso they didn't do anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:53.08,0:10:54.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the problem with this
Dialogue: 0,0:10:54.36,0:10:58.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that not only are so many of our kids\Nfacing these problems
Dialogue: 0,0:10:58.76,0:11:01.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,within their families\Nand within their families' communities,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:01.88,0:11:05.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but they're also meeting misunderstandings
Dialogue: 0,0:11:06.64,0:11:10.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and apathy in the countries\Nthat they grow up in.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:11.64,0:11:16.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When their own families betray them,\Nthey look to the rest of us,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:16.36,0:11:18.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and when we don't understand,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:18.44,0:11:19.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we lose them.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:21.12,0:11:24.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So while I was making this film,\Nseveral people said to me,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:24.32,0:11:26.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Well, Deeyah, you know,\Nthis is just their culture,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:26.88,0:11:29.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is just what those people\Ndo to their kids
Dialogue: 0,0:11:29.10,0:11:30.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we can't really interfere."
Dialogue: 0,0:11:31.88,0:11:35.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can assure you\Nbeing murdered is not my culture.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:36.28,0:11:37.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:37.52,0:11:39.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And surely people who look like me,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:39.24,0:11:41.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,young women who come\Nfrom backgrounds like me,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:41.76,0:11:45.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,should be subject to the same rights,\Nthe same protections
Dialogue: 0,0:11:45.88,0:11:48.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as anybody else in our country, why not?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:50.36,0:11:55.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, for my next film,\NI wanted to try and understand
Dialogue: 0,0:11:55.12,0:11:57.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why some of our young\NMuslim kids in Europe
Dialogue: 0,0:11:58.00,0:12:00.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are drawn to extremism and violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:00.88,0:12:02.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But with that topic,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:02.16,0:12:05.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also recognized that I was going\Nto have to face my worst fear:
Dialogue: 0,0:12:07.04,0:12:08.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the brown men with beards.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:10.88,0:12:13.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The same men, or similar men,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:13.72,0:12:16.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the ones that have hounded me\Nfor most of my life.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:17.56,0:12:20.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Men that I've been afraid of\Nmost of my life.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:20.28,0:12:23.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Men that I've also deeply disliked,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:23.16,0:12:24.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for many, many years.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:25.16,0:12:29.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I spent the next two years\Ninterviewing convicted terrorists,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:29.16,0:12:31.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,jihadis and former extremists.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:31.68,0:12:35.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What I already knew,\Nwhat was very obvious already,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:35.04,0:12:40.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was that religion, politics,\NEurope's colonial baggage,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:40.24,0:12:44.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,also Western foreign policy\Nfailures of recent years,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:44.52,0:12:46.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were all a part of the picture.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:46.52,0:12:49.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what I was more interested\Nin finding out was what are the human,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:49.80,0:12:51.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what are the personal reasons
Dialogue: 0,0:12:51.40,0:12:55.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why some of our young people\Nare susceptible to groups like this.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:57.00,0:13:01.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what really surprised me\Nwas that I found wounded human beings.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:03.76,0:13:06.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Instead of the monsters\Nthat I was looking for,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:06.24,0:13:07.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I was hoping to find --
Dialogue: 0,0:13:07.64,0:13:10.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,quite frankly because\Nit would have been very satisfying --
Dialogue: 0,0:13:10.80,0:13:12.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I found broken people.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:13.52,0:13:15.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just like Banaz,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:15.04,0:13:18.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I found that these young men\Nwere torn apart
Dialogue: 0,0:13:18.32,0:13:20.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from trying to bridge the gaps
Dialogue: 0,0:13:20.88,0:13:24.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,between their families\Nand the countries that they were born in.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:25.72,0:13:29.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what I also learned\Nis that extremist groups, terrorist groups
Dialogue: 0,0:13:29.12,0:13:32.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are taking advantage\Nof these feelings of our young people
Dialogue: 0,0:13:32.60,0:13:36.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and channeling that -- cynically --\Nchanneling that toward violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:36.48,0:13:38.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Come to us," they say.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:38.08,0:13:41.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Reject both sides,\Nyour family and your country
Dialogue: 0,0:13:41.08,0:13:42.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because they reject you.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:42.76,0:13:45.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For your family, their honor\Nis more important than you
Dialogue: 0,0:13:45.88,0:13:47.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and for your country,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:47.16,0:13:53.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a real Norwegian, Brit or a French person\Nwill always be white and never you."
Dialogue: 0,0:13:54.04,0:13:57.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're also promising our young people\Nthe things that they crave:
Dialogue: 0,0:13:57.52,0:14:01.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,significance, heroism,\Na sense of belonging and purpose,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:01.88,0:14:04.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a community that loves and accepts them.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:05.20,0:14:08.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They make the powerless feel powerful.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:08.16,0:14:13.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The invisible and the silent\Nare finally seen and heard.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:15.12,0:14:17.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is what they're doing\Nfor our young people.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:17.68,0:14:21.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why are these groups doing this\Nfor our young people and not us?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:22.76,0:14:24.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The thing is,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:24.36,0:14:27.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm not trying to justify
Dialogue: 0,0:14:27.72,0:14:31.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or excuse any of the violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:31.48,0:14:35.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What I am trying to say\Nis that we have to understand
Dialogue: 0,0:14:35.08,0:14:38.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why some of our young people\Nare attracted to this.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:39.68,0:14:42.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would like to also show you, actually --
Dialogue: 0,0:14:42.04,0:14:45.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,these are childhood photos\Nof some of the guys in the film.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:47.24,0:14:50.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What really struck me\Nis that so many of them --
Dialogue: 0,0:14:50.96,0:14:52.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I never would have thought this --
Dialogue: 0,0:14:52.64,0:14:55.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but so many of them\Nhave absent or abusive fathers.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:56.80,0:14:58.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And several of these young guys
Dialogue: 0,0:14:58.76,0:15:02.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ended up finding caring\Nand compassionate father figures
Dialogue: 0,0:15:02.92,0:15:04.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,within these extremist groups.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:05.92,0:15:09.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also found men\Nbrutalized by racist violence,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:09.80,0:15:12.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but who found a way\Nto stop feeling like victims
Dialogue: 0,0:15:12.08,0:15:13.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by becoming violent themselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:13.60,0:15:18.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In fact, I found something,\Nto my horror, that I recognized.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:18.92,0:15:25.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I found the same feelings that I felt\Nas a 17-year-old as I fled from Norway.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:26.16,0:15:29.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The same confusion, the same sorrow,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:29.56,0:15:33.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the same feeling of being betrayed
Dialogue: 0,0:15:34.76,0:15:36.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and not belonging to anyone.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:38.56,0:15:41.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The same feeling of being lost\Nand torn between cultures.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:42.76,0:15:45.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Having said that,\NI did not choose destruction,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:45.32,0:15:48.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I chose to pick up a camera\Ninstead of a gun.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:48.08,0:15:51.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the reason I did that\Nis because of my superpower.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:51.44,0:15:56.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I could see that understanding\Nis the answer, instead of violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:56.36,0:15:58.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Seeing human beings
Dialogue: 0,0:15:58.08,0:16:01.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with all their virtues and all their flaws
Dialogue: 0,0:16:01.84,0:16:03.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,instead of continuing the caricatures:
Dialogue: 0,0:16:03.72,0:16:06.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the us and them, the villains and victims.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:06.40,0:16:08.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd also finally\Ncome to terms with the fact
Dialogue: 0,0:16:08.52,0:16:12.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that my two cultures\Ndidn't have to be on a collision course
Dialogue: 0,0:16:12.20,0:16:15.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but instead became a space\Nwhere I found my own voice.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:15.84,0:16:18.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I stopped feeling\Nlike I had to pick a side,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:18.60,0:16:20.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but this took me many, many years.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:21.64,0:16:23.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are so many\Nof our young people today
Dialogue: 0,0:16:23.68,0:16:25.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who are struggling with these same issues,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:25.72,0:16:27.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they're struggling with this alone.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:29.44,0:16:32.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this leaves them open like wounds.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:32.56,0:16:35.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And for some, the worldview\Nof radical Islam
Dialogue: 0,0:16:35.64,0:16:39.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,becomes the infection\Nthat festers in these open wounds.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:41.16,0:16:44.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's an African proverb that says,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:45.96,0:16:48.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"If the young are not\Ninitiated into the village,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:49.00,0:16:51.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they will burn it down\Njust to feel its warmth."
Dialogue: 0,0:16:53.24,0:16:54.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would like to ask --
Dialogue: 0,0:16:55.64,0:16:58.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to Muslim parents and Muslim communities,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:58.20,0:17:00.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,will you love and care for your children
Dialogue: 0,0:17:00.64,0:17:03.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without forcing them\Nto meet your expectations?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:03.44,0:17:05.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you choose them instead of your honor?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:06.40,0:17:09.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you understand\Nwhy they're so angry and alienated
Dialogue: 0,0:17:09.44,0:17:11.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you put your honor\Nbefore their happiness?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:12.52,0:17:15.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you try to be a friend to your child
Dialogue: 0,0:17:15.12,0:17:16.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that they can trust you
Dialogue: 0,0:17:16.92,0:17:19.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and want to share with you\Ntheir experiences,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:19.24,0:17:21.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,rather than having\Nto seek it somewhere else?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:22.36,0:17:25.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And to our young people\Ntempted by extremism,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:26.68,0:17:30.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can you acknowledge\Nthat your rage is fueled by pain?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:31.64,0:17:35.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Will you find the strength\Nto resist those cynical old men
Dialogue: 0,0:17:35.08,0:17:38.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who want to use your blood\Nfor their own profits?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:39.04,0:17:40.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you find a way to live?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:41.88,0:17:44.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you see that the sweetest revenge
Dialogue: 0,0:17:44.16,0:17:47.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is for you to live\Na happy, full and free life?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:47.64,0:17:50.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A life defined by you and nobody else.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:50.56,0:17:54.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why do you want to become\Njust another dead Muslim kid?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:55.08,0:17:59.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And for the rest of us, when will we start\Nlistening to our young people?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:00.52,0:18:01.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How can we support them
Dialogue: 0,0:18:01.80,0:18:05.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in redirecting their pain\Ninto something more constructive?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:06.76,0:18:08.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They think we don't like them.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:08.24,0:18:11.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They think we don't care\Nwhat happens to them.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:11.04,0:18:12.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They think we don't accept them.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:12.84,0:18:15.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can we find a way\Nto make them feel differently?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:17.28,0:18:20.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What will it take for us\Nto see them and notice them
Dialogue: 0,0:18:20.24,0:18:25.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,before they become either the victims\Nor the perpetrators of violence?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:25.20,0:18:28.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can we make ourselves care about them\Nand consider them to be our own?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:28.80,0:18:33.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And not just be outraged when the victims\Nof violence look like ourselves?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:33.68,0:18:38.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can we find a way to reject hatred\Nand heal the divisions between us?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:38.72,0:18:42.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The thing is we cannot afford\Nto give up on each other or on our kids,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:42.72,0:18:44.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if they've given up on us.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:44.88,0:18:47.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are all in this together.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:47.08,0:18:52.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in the long term, revenge and violence\Nwill not work against extremists.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:53.48,0:18:57.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Terrorists want us\Nto huddle in our houses in fear,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:57.28,0:18:59.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,closing our doors and our hearts.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:59.48,0:19:03.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They want us to tear open\Nmore wounds in our societies
Dialogue: 0,0:19:03.32,0:19:06.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that they can use them\Nto spread their infection more widely.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:06.88,0:19:09.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They want us to become like them:
Dialogue: 0,0:19:09.60,0:19:11.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,intolerant, hateful and cruel.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:14.20,0:19:16.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The day after the Paris attacks,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:16.68,0:19:20.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a friend of mine\Nsent this photo of her daughter.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:20.80,0:19:23.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is a white girl and an Arab girl.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:23.28,0:19:24.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're best friends.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:25.12,0:19:28.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This image is the kryptonite\Nfor extremists.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:31.24,0:19:34.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These two little girls\Nwith their superpowers
Dialogue: 0,0:19:34.32,0:19:35.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are showing the way forward
Dialogue: 0,0:19:35.84,0:19:39.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,towards a society\Nthat we need to build together,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:40.12,0:19:43.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a society that includes and supports,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:44.48,0:19:46.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,rather than rejects our kids.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:47.96,0:19:49.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you for listening.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:49.32,0:19:55.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)