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When I was a child,[br]I knew I had superpowers.

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That's right.

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I thought I was absolutely amazing[br]because I could understand

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and relate to the feelings[br]of brown people,

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like my grandfather,[br]a conservative Muslim guy.

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And also, I could understand[br]my Afghan mother, my Pakistani father,

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not so religious but[br]laid-back, fairly liberal.

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And of course, I could understand and[br]relate to the feelings of white people.

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The white Norwegians of my country.

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You know, white, brown, whatever,

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I loved them all.

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I understood them all,

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even if they didn't always[br]understand each other,

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they were all my people.

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My father, though,[br]was always really worried.

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He kept saying that[br]even with the best education,

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I was not going to get a fair shake.

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I would still face discrimination,[br]according to him.

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And that they only way[br]to be accepted by white people

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would be to become famous.

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Now mind you, he had this conversation[br]with me when I was seven-years-old.

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So while I'm seven-years-old,[br]he said, look,

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so its either got to be sports,[br]or its got to be music.

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He didn't know anything about sports --[br]bless him -- so it was music.

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So when I was seven-years-old,[br]he gathered all my toys, all my dolls,

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and he threw them all away.

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In exchange he gave me[br]a crappy little Casio keyboard

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and singing lessons.

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He forced me, basically, to practice[br]for hours and hours every single day.

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Very quickly, he also had me performing[br]for larger and larger audiences,

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and bizarrely, I became almost[br]a kind of poster child

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for Norwegian multi-culturalism.

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I felt very proud, of course.

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Because even the [br]newspapers at this point

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were starting to write[br]nice things about brown people,

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so I could feel that[br]my superpower was growing.

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So when I was 12-years-old,[br]walking home from school,

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I took a little detour[br]because I wanted to buy

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my favorite sweets called Salty Feets.

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I know they sound kind of awful,

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but I absolutely love them.

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They're basically these little salty[br]licorice bits in the shape of feet.

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And now that I say it out loud,[br]I realize how terrible that sounds,

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but be that as it may,[br]I absolutely love them.

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So on my way into the store,

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there was this grown white guy[br]in the doorway blocking my way,

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So I tried to walk around him,[br]and as I did that, he stopped me

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and he was staring at me,[br]and he spit in my face,

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and he said, get out of my way

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you little black bitch,[br]you little Paki bitch,

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go back home[br]where you came from.

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I was absolutely horrified.

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I was staring at him.

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I was too afraid to wipe[br]the spit off my face,

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even as it was mixing with my tears.

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I remember looking around,[br]hoping that any minute now,

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a grown-up is going to come [br]and make this guy stop.

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But instead, people kept hurrying past me[br]and pretended not to see me.

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I was very confused[br]because I was thinking, well

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my white people, come on![br]Where are they? What's going on?

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How come they're not[br]coming and rescuing me?

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So, needless to say,[br]I didn't buy the sweets.

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I just ran home as fast as I could.

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Things were still okay, though, I thought.

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As time went on, the more successful[br]I became, I eventually started also

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attracting harassment from brown people.

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Some men in my parent's community[br]felt that it was unacceptable

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and dishonorable for a woman[br]to be involved in music

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and to be so present in the media.

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So very quickly, I was starting to become[br]attacked at my own concerts.

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I remember one of the concerts,[br]I was onstage, I lean into the audience

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and the last thing I see is[br]a young brown face

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and the next thing I know is some sort[br]of chemical is thrown in my eyes

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and I remember I couldn't really see[br]and my eyes were watering

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but I kept singing anyway.

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I was spit in the face in the streets[br]of Oslo, this time by brown men.

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They even tried to[br]kidnap me at one point.

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The death threats were endless.

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I remember one older bearded guy[br]stopped me in the street one time,

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and he said, the reason[br]I hate you so much

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is because you make[br]our daughters think

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they can do whatever they want.

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A younger guy warned me[br]to watch my back.

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He said music is un-Islamic[br]and the job of whores,

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and if you keep this up,[br]you are going to be raped

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and your stomach will be cut out so that[br]another whore like you will not be born.

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Again, I was so confused.

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I couldn't understand[br]what was going on.

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My brown people now starting[br]to treat me like this -- how come?

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Instead of bridging the worlds, [br]the two worlds,

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I felt like I was failling[br]between my two worlds.

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I suppose, for me, spit was kryptonite.

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So by the time I was 17-years-old,[br]the death threats were endless,

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and the harassment was constant.

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It got so bad, at one point my mother[br]sat me down and said, look,

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we can no longer protect you,[br]we can no longer keep you safe,

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so you're going to have to go.

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So I bought a one-way ticket to London,[br]I packed my suitcase, and I left.

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My biggest heartbreak at that point[br]was that nobody said anything.

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I had a very public exit from Norway.

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My brown people, my white people,[br]nobody said anything.

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Nobody said, hold on, this is wrong.

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Support this girl, protect this girl,[br]because she is one of us.

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Nobody said that.

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Instead, I felt like,[br]you know at the airport,

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on the baggage carousel[br]you have these different suitcases

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going around and around

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and there's always that one[br]suitcase left at the end,

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the one that nobody wants,[br]the one that nobody comes to claim.

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I felt like that.

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I'd never felt so alone.[br]I'd never felt so lost.

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So, after coming to London,[br]I did eventually resume my music career.

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Different place, but unfortunately[br]the same old story.

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I remember a message sent to me[br]saying that I was going to be killed

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and that rivers of blood were going[br]to flow and that I was going to be raped

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many times before I died.

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By this point, I have to say,

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I was actually getting used[br]to messages like this,

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but what became different was that[br]now they started threatening my family.

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So once again, I packed my suitcase,[br]I left music and I moved to the US.

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I'd had enough.

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I didn't want to have anything[br]to do with this anymore.

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And I was certainly not[br]going to be killed for something

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that wasn't even my dream --[br]it was my father's choice.

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So I kind of got lost.[br]I kind of fell apart.

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But I decided that what I wanted to do[br]is spend the next however many years

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of my life supporting young people[br]and to try to be there in some small way,

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whatever way that I could.

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I started volunteering for various[br]organizations that were working

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with young Muslims inside of Europe.[br]

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And, to my surprise, what I found[br]was so many of these young people

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were suffering and struggling.

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They were facing so many problems[br]with their families and their communities

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who seemed to care more about[br]their honor and their reputation

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than the happiness and the[br]llives of their own kids.

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I started feeling like maybe I wasn't[br]so alone, maybe I wasn't so weird.

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Maybe there are more of[br]my people out there.

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The thing is -- what most people[br]don't understand --

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is that there are so many of us[br]growing up in Europe

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who are not free to be ourselves.

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We're not allowed to be who we are.

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We are not free to marry or to be in[br]relationships with people that we choose.

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We can't even pick our own career.

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This is the norm in the[br]Muslim heartlands of Europe.

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Even in the freest societies[br]in the world, we're not free.

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Our lives, our dreams, our future[br]does not belong to us,

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it belongs to our parents[br]and their community.

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I found endless stories of young people[br]who are lost to all of us,

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who are invisible to all of us[br]but who are suffering

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and they are suffering alone.

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Kids we are losing to forced marriages,[br]to honor-based violence and abuse.

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Eventually, I realized after several[br]years of working with these young people,

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that I will not be able to keep running.

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I can't spend the rest of my life[br]being scared and hiding

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and that I'm actually going[br]to have to do something.

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And I also realized that[br]my silence, our silence,

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allows abuse like this to continue.

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So I decided that I wanted to put[br]my childhood superpower to some use

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by trying to make people on the different[br]sides of these issues understand

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what its like to be a young person stuck[br]between your family and your country.

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So I started making films[br]and I started telling these stories.

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I also wanted people to understand[br]the deadly consequences of us

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not taking these problems seriously.

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So the first film I made was about Banaz.

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She was a 17-year-old[br]Kurdish girl in London.

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She was obedient, she did[br]whatever her parents wanted.

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She tried to do everything right.

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She married some guy that[br]her parents chose for her,

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even though he beat[br]and raped her constantly.

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And when she tried to go[br]to her family for help, they said,

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well you got to go back,[br]and be a better wife.

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Because they didn't want[br]a divorced daughter on their hands

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because, of course, that would[br]bring dishonor on the family.

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She was beaten so badly[br]her ears would bleed,

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and when she finally left and[br]she found a young man that she chose

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and she fell in love with,[br]the community and the family found out

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and she disappeared.

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She was found three months later.

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She'd been stuffed into a suitcase[br]and buried underneath the house.

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She had been strangled,[br]she had been beaten to death

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by three men, three cousins,[br]on the orders of her father and uncle.

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The added tragedy of Banaz's story[br]is that she had gone to the police

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in England five times asking for help,

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telling them that she was[br]going to be killed by her family.

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The police didn't believe her[br]so they didn't do anything.

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And the problem with this is that[br]not only are so many of our kids

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facing this problem within their families[br]and within their families' communities,

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but they're also[br]meeting misunderstandings

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and apathy in the countries[br]that they grow up in.

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When their own families betray them,[br]they look to the rest of us,

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and when we don't understand,[br]we lose them.

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So while I was making this film,[br]several people said to me:

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Well, Deeyah, you know,[br]this is just their culture,

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this is just what those people do to[br]their kids and we can't really interfere.

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I can assure you being murdered[br]is not my culture -- you know?

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And surely people who look like me,

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young women who come[br]from backgrounds like me,

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should be subject to the same rights,[br]the same protections,

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as anybody else in our country, why not?

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So, for my next film, I wanted[br]to try and understand why

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some of our young Muslim kids in Europe[br]are drawn to extremism and violence.

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But with that topic,[br]I also recognized that

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I was going to have to face my worst fear:

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the brown men with beards.

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The same men, or similar men, to the ones[br]that have hounded me for most of my life.

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Men that I've been afraid of[br]most of my life.

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Men that I've also deeply disliked,[br]for many, many years.

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So I spent the next two years[br]interviewing convicted terrorists,

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jihadis and former extremists.

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What I already knew,[br]what was very obvious already,

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was that religion, politics,[br]Europe's colonial baggage, also

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Western foreign policy[br]failures of recent years,

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were all a part of the picture.

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But what I was more interested[br]in finding out was what are the human,

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what are the personal[br]reasons why some of

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our young people are[br]susceptible to groups like this.

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And what really surprised me[br]was that I found wounded human beings.

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Instead of the monsters that I was[br]looking for, that I was hoping to find --

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quite frankly because it [br]would have been very satisfying --

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I found broken people.

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Just like Banaz, I found that these[br]young men were torn apart from trying

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to bridge the gaps between their families[br]and the countries that they were born in.

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And what I also learned is that[br]extremist groups, terrorist groups

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are taking advantage of these[br]feelings of our young people

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and channeling that cynically,[br]channeling that toward violence.

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Come to us, they say. "Reject both sides,[br]your family and your country

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because they reject you.

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For your family, their honor is more[br]important than you and for your country,

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a real Norwegian, Brit, or a French person[br]will always be white and never you."

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They're also promising our young people[br]the things that they crave:

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significance, heroism,[br]a sense of belonging and purpose,

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a community that loves[br]and accepts them.

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They make the powerless feel powerful.

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The invisible and the silent[br]are finally seen and heard.

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This is what they're doing[br]for our young people.

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Why are these groups doing this[br]for our young people and not us?

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The thing is, I'm not trying to justify[br]or excuse any of the violence.

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What I am trying to say is that[br]we have to understand

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why some of our young people[br]are attracted to this.

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I would like to also show you, actually,[br]these are childhood photos

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of some of the guys in the film.

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What really struck me is[br]that so many of them

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-- I never would have thought this --

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but so many of them have[br]absent or abusive fathers.

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And several of these young guys ended up[br]finding caring and compassionate

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father figures within[br]these extremist groups.

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I also found men brutalized[br]by racist violence, but who found a way

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to stop feeling like victims[br]by becoming violent themselves.

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In fact, I found something,[br]to my horror, that I recognized.

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I found the same feelings that I felt[br]as a 17-year-old as I fled from Norway.

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The same confusion, the same sorrow,[br]the same feeling of being betrayed

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and not belonging to anyone.

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The same feeling of being lost[br]and torn between cultures.[br]

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Having said that,[br]I did not choose destruction,

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I chose to pick up a camera[br]instead of a gun.

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And the reason I did that[br]is because of my superpower.

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I could see that understanding[br]is the answer, instead of violence.

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Seeing human beings with all[br]their virtues and all their flaws

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instead of continuing the caricatures:

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the us and them,[br]the villains and victims.

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I'd also finally come to terms with[br]the fact that my two cultures

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didn't have to be on a collision course

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but instead became a space[br]where I found my own voice.

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I stopped feeling like I had to pick[br]a side, but this took me many, many years.

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There are so many of our young people[br]today who are struggling

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with these same issues and[br]they're struggling with this alone.

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And this leaves them[br]open like wounds.

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And for some, the worldview of radical[br]Islam becomes the infection that festers

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in these open wounds.

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There's an African proverb that says,

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if the young are not initiated[br]into the village,

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they will burn it down[br]just to feel its warmth.

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I would like to ask to Muslim[br]parents and Muslim communities,

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will you love and care for[br]your children without forcing them

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to meet your expectations?

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Can you choose them instead of your honor?

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Can you understand why they're so angry[br]and alienated when you put your honor

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before their happiness?

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Can you try to be a friend to your child[br]so that they can trust you

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and want to share with you[br]their experiences,

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rather than having[br]to seek it somewhere else?

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And to our young people,[br]tempted by extremism,

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can you acknowledge that[br]your rage is fueled by pain?

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Will you find the strength to resist[br]those cynical old men

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who want to use your blood[br]for their own profits?

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Can you find a way to live?

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Can you see that the sweetest revenge

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is for you to live a happy,[br]full and free life?

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A life defined by you and nobody else.

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Why do you want to become[br]just another dead Muslim kid?

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And for the rest of us, when will we start[br]listening to our young people?

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How can we support them[br]in re-directing their pain

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into something more constructive?

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They think we don't like them.

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They think we don't care[br]what happens to them.

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They think we don't accept them.

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Can we find a way to make[br]them feel differently?

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What will it take for us to see them[br]and notice them before they become

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either the victims or[br]the perpetrators of violence?

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Can we make ourselves care about them[br]and consider them to be our own?

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And not just be outraged when the victims[br]of violence look like ourselves?

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Can we find a way to reject hatred[br]and heal the divisions between us?

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The thing is, we cannot afford to give up[br]on each other or on our kids,

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even if they've given up on us.

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We are all in this together.

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And in the long term, revenge and violence[br]will not work against extremists.

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Terrorists want us to huddle in our houses[br]in fear, closing our doors and our hearts.

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They want us to tear open[br]more wounds in our societies

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so that they can use them to spread[br]their infection more widely.

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They want us to become like them:[br]intolerant, hateful and cruel.

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The day after the Paris attacks, a friend[br]of mine sent this photo of her daughter.

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This is a white girl and an Arab girl.

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They're best friends.

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This image is the kryptonite[br]for extremists.

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These two little girls with[br]their superpowers are showing

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the way forward towards a society[br]that we need to build together,

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a society that includes and supports,[br]rather than rejects our kids.

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Thank you for listening.

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(Applause)