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Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.28,0:00:04.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I was a child,\NI knew I had superpowers.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:07.04,0:00:08.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's right.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.34,0:00:12.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I thought I was absolutely amazing\Nbecause I could understand
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.00,0:00:15.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and relate to the feelings\Nof brown people,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.80,0:00:18.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like my grandfather,\Na conservative Muslim guy.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.53,0:00:23.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And also, I could understand\Nmy Afghan mother, my Pakistani father,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.52,0:00:27.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not so religious but\Nlaid-back, fairly liberal.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:28.87,0:00:32.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And of course, I could understand\Nand relate to the feelings of white people.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.72,0:00:35.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The white Norwegians of my country.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.55,0:00:37.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, white, brown, whatever,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.31,0:00:39.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I loved them all.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.96,0:00:41.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I understood them all,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.39,0:00:43.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if they didn't always\Nunderstand each other,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.68,0:00:45.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they were all my people.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.86,0:00:48.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My father, though,\Nwas always really worried.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.83,0:00:51.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He kept saying that\Neven with the best education,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.06,0:00:54.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was not going to get a fair shake.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:55.54,0:00:58.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would still face discrimination,\Naccording to him.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.48,0:01:01.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that they only way\Nto be accepted by white people
Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.29,0:01:03.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,would be to become famous.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.80,0:01:07.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now mind you, he had this conversation\Nwith me when I was seven-years-old.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.76,0:01:11.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So while I'm seven-years-old,\Nhe said, look,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.13,0:01:14.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so its either got to be sports,\Nor its got to be music.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.16,0:01:18.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He didn't know anything about sports --\Nbless him -- so it was music.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.30,0:01:23.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when I was seven-years-old,\Nhe gathered all my toys, all my dolls,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.78,0:01:26.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he threw them all away.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.35,0:01:29.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In exchange he gave me\Na crappy little Casio keyboard
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.80,0:01:33.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and singing lessons.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.03,0:01:37.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He forced me, basically, to practice\Nfor hours and hours every single day.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.43,0:01:41.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Very quickly, he also had me performing\Nfor larger and larger audiences,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:42.55,0:01:46.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and bizarrely, I became almost\Na kind of poster child
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.54,0:01:48.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for Norwegian multi-culturalism.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.91,0:01:50.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt very proud, of course.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.62,0:01:53.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because even the \Nnewspapers at this point
Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.04,0:01:56.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were starting to write\Nnice things about brown people,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.58,0:01:59.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I could feel that\Nmy superpower was growing.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.08,0:02:03.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when I was 12-years-old,\Nwalking home from school,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.14,0:02:06.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I took a little detour\Nbecause I wanted to buy
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.07,0:02:08.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my favorite sweets called Salty Feets.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.10,0:02:11.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know they sound kind of awful,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.94,0:02:13.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I absolutely love them.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.54,0:02:17.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're basically these little salty\Nlicorice bits in the shape of feet.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.30,0:02:22.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And now that I say it out loud,\NI realize how terrible that sounds,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.42,0:02:26.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but be that as it may,\NI absolutely love them.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.16,0:02:29.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So on my way into the store,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.15,0:02:33.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there was this grown white guy\Nin the doorway blocking my way,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.96,0:02:39.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I tried to walk around him,\Nand as I did that, he stopped me
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.54,0:02:43.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he was staring at me,\Nand he spit in my face,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.85,0:02:45.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he said, get out of my way
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.71,0:02:48.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you little black bitch,\Nyou little Paki bitch,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.59,0:02:50.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,go back home\Nwhere you came from.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.88,0:02:54.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was absolutely horrified.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.12,0:02:56.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was staring at him.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.50,0:02:59.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was too afraid to wipe\Nthe spit off my face,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.75,0:03:02.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even as it was mixing with my tears.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.45,0:03:05.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember looking around,\Nhoping that any minute now,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.90,0:03:08.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a grown-up is going to come \Nand make this guy stop.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.56,0:03:13.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But instead, people kept hurrying past me\Nand pretended not to see me.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:14.55,0:03:17.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was very confused\Nbecause I was thinking, well
Dialogue: 0,0:03:18.72,0:03:21.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my white people, come on!\NWhere are they? What's going on?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:22.34,0:03:24.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How come they're not\Ncoming and rescuing me?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.02,0:03:27.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, needless to say,\NI didn't buy the sweets.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.49,0:03:29.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I just ran home as fast as I could.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.38,0:03:32.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Things were still okay, though, I thought.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.26,0:03:37.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As time went on, the more successful\NI became, I eventually started also
Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.33,0:03:40.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,attracting harassment from brown people.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.70,0:03:44.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some men in my parent's community\Nfelt that it was unacceptable
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.98,0:03:49.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and dishonorable for a woman\Nto be involved in music
Dialogue: 0,0:03:49.93,0:03:52.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to be so present in the media.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.42,0:03:58.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So very quickly, I was starting to become\Nattacked at my own concerts.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:59.02,0:04:03.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember one of the concerts,\NI was onstage, I lean into the audience
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.93,0:04:06.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the last thing I see is\Na young brown face
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.32,0:04:11.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the next thing I know is some sort\Nof chemical is thrown in my eyes
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.52,0:04:14.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I remember I couldn't really see\Nand my eyes were watering
Dialogue: 0,0:04:14.98,0:04:17.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I kept singing anyway.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.54,0:04:21.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was spit in the face in the streets\Nof Oslo, this time by brown men.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.62,0:04:24.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They even tried to\Nkidnap me at one point.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.84,0:04:27.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The death threats were endless.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:27.98,0:04:30.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember one older bearded guy\Nstopped me in the street one time,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:31.17,0:04:33.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he said, the reason\NI hate you so much
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.15,0:04:35.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is because you make\Nour daughters think
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.46,0:04:37.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they can do whatever they want.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:38.71,0:04:41.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A younger guy warned me\Nto watch my back.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.59,0:04:44.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said music is un-Islamic\Nand the job of whores,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.47,0:04:46.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and if you keep this up,\Nyou are going to be raped
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.41,0:04:52.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and your stomach will be cut out so that\Nanother whore like you will not be born.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:53.69,0:04:55.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Again, I was so confused.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.61,0:04:57.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I couldn't understand\Nwhat was going on.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:57.46,0:05:00.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My brown people now starting\Nto treat me like this -- how come?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.62,0:05:04.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Instead of bridging the worlds, \Nthe two worlds,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.82,0:05:07.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt like I was failling\Nbetween my two worlds.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:08.33,0:05:11.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I suppose, for me, spit was kryptonite.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:12.71,0:05:15.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So by the time I was 17-years-old,\Nthe death threats were endless,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.97,0:05:17.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the harassment was constant.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:17.87,0:05:20.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It got so bad, at one point my mother\Nsat me down and said, look,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:21.16,0:05:24.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can no longer protect you,\Nwe can no longer keep you safe,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.44,0:05:26.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so you're going to have to go.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:26.44,0:05:31.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I bought a one-way ticket to London,\NI packed my suitcase, and I left.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:32.22,0:05:35.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My biggest heartbreak at that point\Nwas that nobody said anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:36.18,0:05:39.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had a very public exit from Norway.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:39.36,0:05:42.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My brown people, my white people,\Nnobody said anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.19,0:05:45.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nobody said, hold on, this is wrong.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.26,0:05:49.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Support this girl, protect this girl,\Nbecause she is one of us.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.84,0:05:51.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nobody said that.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.66,0:05:54.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Instead, I felt like,\Nyou know at the airport,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:55.34,0:05:58.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on the baggage carousel\Nyou have these different suitcases
Dialogue: 0,0:05:58.07,0:05:59.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,going around and around
Dialogue: 0,0:05:59.57,0:06:02.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there's always that one\Nsuitcase left at the end,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:02.10,0:06:05.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the one that nobody wants,\Nthe one that nobody comes to claim.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:05.04,0:06:06.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt like that.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:07.37,0:06:10.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd never felt so alone.\NI'd never felt so lost.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.60,0:06:16.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, after coming to London,\NI did eventually resume my music career.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:17.34,0:06:20.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Different place, but unfortunately\Nthe same old story.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.09,0:06:24.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember a message sent to me\Nsaying that I was going to be killed
Dialogue: 0,0:06:24.80,0:06:29.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that rivers of blood were going\Nto flow and that I was going to be raped
Dialogue: 0,0:06:29.31,0:06:31.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,many times before I died.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.60,0:06:33.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,By this point, I have to say,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:33.12,0:06:35.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was actually getting used\Nto messages like this,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:35.75,0:06:39.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but what became different was that\Nnow they started threatening my family.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:40.95,0:06:45.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So once again, I packed my suitcase,\NI left music and I moved to the US.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:46.80,0:06:47.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd had enough.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:47.80,0:06:50.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't want to have anything\Nto do with this anymore.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.48,0:06:53.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I was certainly not\Ngoing to be killed for something
Dialogue: 0,0:06:53.12,0:06:56.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that wasn't even my dream --\Nit was my father's choice.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:58.50,0:07:02.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I kind of got lost.\NI kind of fell apart.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:03.33,0:07:07.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I decided that what I wanted to do\Nis spend the next however many years
Dialogue: 0,0:07:07.64,0:07:13.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of my life supporting young people\Nand to try to be there in some small way,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:13.44,0:07:15.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whatever way that I could.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:15.45,0:07:18.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I started volunteering for various\Norganizations that were working
Dialogue: 0,0:07:19.07,0:07:22.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with young Muslims inside of Europe.\N
Dialogue: 0,0:07:24.18,0:07:29.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And, to my surprise, what I found\Nwas so many of these young people
Dialogue: 0,0:07:29.98,0:07:32.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were suffering and struggling.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:32.75,0:07:36.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They were facing so many problems\Nwith their families and their communities
Dialogue: 0,0:07:36.30,0:07:39.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who seemed to care more about\Ntheir honor and their reputation
Dialogue: 0,0:07:39.73,0:07:42.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than the happiness and the\Nllives of their own kids.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:44.06,0:07:47.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I started feeling like maybe I wasn't\Nso alone, maybe I wasn't so weird.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.55,0:07:51.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe there are more of\Nmy people out there.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:51.41,0:07:53.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The thing is -- what most people\Ndon't understand --
Dialogue: 0,0:07:53.84,0:07:57.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that there are so many of us\Ngrowing up in Europe
Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.25,0:08:00.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who are not free to be ourselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:00.51,0:08:03.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're not allowed to be who we are.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:03.64,0:08:10.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are not free to marry or to be in\Nrelationships with people that we choose.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.60,0:08:12.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can't even pick our own career.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:12.40,0:08:15.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is the norm in the\NMuslim heartlands of Europe.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:16.25,0:08:19.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even in the freest societies\Nin the world, we're not free.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:19.80,0:08:23.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our lives, our dreams, our future\Ndoes not belong to us,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:23.83,0:08:26.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it belongs to our parents\Nand their community.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:27.07,0:08:33.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I found endless stories of young people\Nwho are lost to all of us,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:33.96,0:08:36.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who are invisible to all of us\Nbut who are suffering
Dialogue: 0,0:08:37.07,0:08:39.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they are suffering alone.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:39.58,0:08:43.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Kids we are losing to forced marriages,\Nto honor-based violence and abuse.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:45.54,0:08:49.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Eventually, I realized after several\Nyears of working with these young people,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:49.22,0:08:51.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I will not be able to keep running.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:51.48,0:08:55.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can't spend the rest of my life\Nbeing scared and hiding
Dialogue: 0,0:08:56.01,0:08:58.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that I'm actually going\Nto have to do something.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:59.82,0:09:02.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I also realized that\Nmy silence, our silence,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:02.91,0:09:04.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,allows abuse like this to continue.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:06.30,0:09:10.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I decided that I wanted to put\Nmy childhood superpower to some use
Dialogue: 0,0:09:10.66,0:09:15.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by trying to make people on the different\Nsides of these issues understand
Dialogue: 0,0:09:15.45,0:09:20.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what its like to be a young person stuck\Nbetween your family and your country.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:21.16,0:09:24.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I started making films\Nand I started telling these stories.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.09,0:09:29.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also wanted people to understand\Nthe deadly consequences of us
Dialogue: 0,0:09:29.54,0:09:31.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not taking these problems seriously.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:32.30,0:09:35.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the first film I made was about Banaz.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:35.73,0:09:38.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was a 17-year-old\NKurdish girl in London.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:39.64,0:09:42.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was obedient, she did\Nwhatever her parents wanted.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:43.10,0:09:45.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She tried to do everything right.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:45.60,0:09:48.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She married some guy that\Nher parents chose for her,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:48.21,0:09:50.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even though he beat\Nand raped her constantly.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:51.99,0:09:54.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when she tried to go\Nto her family for help, they said,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:54.43,0:09:56.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,well you got to go back,\Nand be a better wife.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:57.09,0:09:59.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because they didn't want\Na divorced daughter on their hands
Dialogue: 0,0:09:59.93,0:10:03.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because, of course, that would\Nbring dishonor on the family.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:03.96,0:10:06.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was beaten so badly\Nher ears would bleed,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:07.50,0:10:11.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and when she finally left and\Nshe found a young man that she chose
Dialogue: 0,0:10:12.39,0:10:15.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she fell in love with,\Nthe community and the family found out
Dialogue: 0,0:10:16.52,0:10:18.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she disappeared.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:18.75,0:10:21.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was found three months later.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:21.48,0:10:24.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She'd been stuffed into a suitcase\Nand buried underneath the house.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:28.33,0:10:31.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She had been strangled,\Nshe had been beaten to death
Dialogue: 0,0:10:33.10,0:10:37.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by three men, three cousins,\Non the orders of her father and uncle.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:38.27,0:10:42.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The added tragedy of Banaz's story\Nis that she had gone to the police
Dialogue: 0,0:10:42.52,0:10:46.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in England five times asking for help,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:46.29,0:10:49.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,telling them that she was\Ngoing to be killed by her family.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:49.51,0:10:52.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The police didn't believe her\Nso they didn't do anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:53.21,0:10:56.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the problem with this is that\Nnot only are so many of our kids
Dialogue: 0,0:10:56.72,0:11:01.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,facing this problem within their families\Nand within their families' communities,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:01.88,0:11:04.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but they're also\Nmeeting misunderstandings
Dialogue: 0,0:11:06.92,0:11:10.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and apathy in the countries\Nthat they grow up in.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:11.75,0:11:16.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When their own families betray them,\Nthey look to the rest of us,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:16.80,0:11:19.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and when we don't understand,\Nwe lose them.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:21.42,0:11:24.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So while I was making this film,\Nseveral people said to me:
Dialogue: 0,0:11:24.64,0:11:27.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, Deeyah, you know,\Nthis is just their culture,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:27.31,0:11:31.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is just what those people do to\Ntheir kids and we can't really interfere.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:32.11,0:11:36.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can assure you being murdered\Nis not my culture -- you know?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:37.07,0:11:39.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And surely people who look like me,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:39.22,0:11:41.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,young women who come\Nfrom backgrounds like me,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:41.95,0:11:45.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,should be subject to the same rights,\Nthe same protections,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:46.04,0:11:48.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as anybody else in our country, why not?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:50.64,0:11:55.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, for my next film, I wanted\Nto try and understand why
Dialogue: 0,0:11:56.04,0:12:00.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,some of our young Muslim kids in Europe\Nare drawn to extremism and violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:01.11,0:12:03.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But with that topic,\NI also recognized that
Dialogue: 0,0:12:03.12,0:12:05.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was going to have to face my worst fear:
Dialogue: 0,0:12:07.39,0:12:09.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the brown men with beards.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:11.01,0:12:16.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The same men, or similar men, to the ones\Nthat have hounded me for most of my life.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:17.74,0:12:20.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Men that I've been afraid of\Nmost of my life.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:20.38,0:12:24.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Men that I've also deeply disliked,\Nfor many, many years.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:25.50,0:12:29.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I spent the next two years\Ninterviewing convicted terrorists,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:29.19,0:12:31.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,jihadis and former extremists.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:31.84,0:12:35.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What I already knew,\Nwhat was very obvious already,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:35.37,0:12:40.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was that religion, politics,\NEurope's colonial baggage, also
Dialogue: 0,0:12:41.43,0:12:44.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Western foreign policy\Nfailures of recent years,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:44.89,0:12:46.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were all a part of the picture.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:46.90,0:12:50.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what I was more interested\Nin finding out was what are the human,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:50.22,0:12:52.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what are the personal\Nreasons why some of
Dialogue: 0,0:12:52.95,0:12:55.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our young people are\Nsusceptible to groups like this.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:57.23,0:13:01.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what really surprised me\Nwas that I found wounded human beings.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:03.88,0:13:07.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Instead of the monsters that I was\Nlooking for, that I was hoping to find --
Dialogue: 0,0:13:07.73,0:13:10.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,quite frankly because it \Nwould have been very satisfying --
Dialogue: 0,0:13:11.00,0:13:13.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I found broken people.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:13.92,0:13:19.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just like Banaz, I found that these\Nyoung men were torn apart from trying
Dialogue: 0,0:13:19.82,0:13:24.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to bridge the gaps between their families\Nand the countries that they were born in.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:25.93,0:13:29.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what I also learned is that\Nextremist groups, terrorist groups
Dialogue: 0,0:13:29.39,0:13:32.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are taking advantage of these\Nfeelings of our young people
Dialogue: 0,0:13:32.77,0:13:36.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and channeling that cynically,\Nchanneling that toward violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:36.80,0:13:41.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Come to us, they say. "Reject both sides,\Nyour family and your country
Dialogue: 0,0:13:41.19,0:13:42.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because they reject you.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:43.09,0:13:46.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For your family, their honor is more\Nimportant than you and for your country,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:47.27,0:13:52.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a real Norwegian, Brit, or a French person\Nwill always be white and never you."
Dialogue: 0,0:13:54.17,0:13:57.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're also promising our young people\Nthe things that they crave:
Dialogue: 0,0:13:57.69,0:14:01.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,significance, heroism,\Na sense of belonging and purpose,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:02.20,0:14:04.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a community that loves\Nand accepts them.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:05.48,0:14:08.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They make the powerless feel powerful.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:08.34,0:14:12.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The invisible and the silent\Nare finally seen and heard.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:15.36,0:14:17.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is what they're doing\Nfor our young people.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:18.01,0:14:21.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why are these groups doing this\Nfor our young people and not us?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:22.92,0:14:30.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The thing is, I'm not trying to justify\Nor excuse any of the violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:31.79,0:14:34.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What I am trying to say is that\Nwe have to understand
Dialogue: 0,0:14:35.02,0:14:38.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why some of our young people\Nare attracted to this.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:40.09,0:14:43.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would like to also show you, actually,\Nthese are childhood photos
Dialogue: 0,0:14:43.82,0:14:45.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of some of the guys in the film.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:47.49,0:14:50.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What really struck me is\Nthat so many of them
Dialogue: 0,0:14:51.16,0:14:53.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,-- I never would have thought this --
Dialogue: 0,0:14:53.27,0:14:55.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but so many of them have\Nabsent or abusive fathers.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:57.15,0:15:01.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And several of these young guys ended up\Nfinding caring and compassionate
Dialogue: 0,0:15:02.17,0:15:04.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,father figures within\Nthese extremist groups.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:06.14,0:15:10.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also found men brutalized\Nby racist violence, but who found a way
Dialogue: 0,0:15:10.80,0:15:13.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to stop feeling like victims\Nby becoming violent themselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:13.86,0:15:17.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In fact, I found something,\Nto my horror, that I recognized.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:19.23,0:15:24.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I found the same feelings that I felt\Nas a 17-year-old as I fled from Norway.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:26.16,0:15:32.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The same confusion, the same sorrow,\Nthe same feeling of being betrayed
Dialogue: 0,0:15:35.04,0:15:37.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and not belonging to anyone.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:38.84,0:15:41.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The same feeling of being lost\Nand torn between cultures.\N
Dialogue: 0,0:15:42.94,0:15:45.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Having said that,\NI did not choose destruction,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:45.64,0:15:47.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I chose to pick up a camera\Ninstead of a gun.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:48.20,0:15:51.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the reason I did that\Nis because of my superpower.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:51.76,0:15:55.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I could see that understanding\Nis the answer, instead of violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:56.73,0:16:01.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Seeing human beings with all\Ntheir virtues and all their flaws
Dialogue: 0,0:16:01.91,0:16:03.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,instead of continuing the caricatures:
Dialogue: 0,0:16:04.05,0:16:06.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the us and them,\Nthe villains and victims.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:06.54,0:16:10.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd also finally come to terms with\Nthe fact that my two cultures
Dialogue: 0,0:16:10.66,0:16:12.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,didn't have to be on a collision course
Dialogue: 0,0:16:12.55,0:16:15.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but instead became a space\Nwhere I found my own voice.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:16.04,0:16:20.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I stopped feeling like I had to pick\Na side, but this took me many, many years.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:21.72,0:16:24.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are so many of our young people\Ntoday who are struggling
Dialogue: 0,0:16:24.42,0:16:27.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with these same issues and\Nthey're struggling with this alone.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:29.54,0:16:32.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this leaves them\Nopen like wounds.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:32.88,0:16:37.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And for some, the worldview of radical\NIslam becomes the infection that festers
Dialogue: 0,0:16:38.07,0:16:40.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in these open wounds.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:41.33,0:16:43.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's an African proverb that says,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:45.88,0:16:48.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if the young are not initiated\Ninto the village,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:49.31,0:16:52.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they will burn it down\Njust to feel its warmth.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:53.42,0:16:57.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would like to ask to Muslim\Nparents and Muslim communities,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:58.44,0:17:01.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,will you love and care for\Nyour children without forcing them
Dialogue: 0,0:17:01.92,0:17:03.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to meet your expectations?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:03.54,0:17:06.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you choose them instead of your honor?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:06.62,0:17:10.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you understand why they're so angry\Nand alienated when you put your honor
Dialogue: 0,0:17:10.58,0:17:12.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,before their happiness?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:12.94,0:17:16.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you try to be a friend to your child\Nso that they can trust you
Dialogue: 0,0:17:17.06,0:17:19.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and want to share with you\Ntheir experiences,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:19.46,0:17:21.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,rather than having\Nto seek it somewhere else?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:22.61,0:17:25.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And to our young people,\Ntempted by extremism,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:26.84,0:17:30.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can you acknowledge that\Nyour rage is fueled by pain?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:31.79,0:17:35.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Will you find the strength to resist\Nthose cynical old men
Dialogue: 0,0:17:35.31,0:17:38.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who want to use your blood\Nfor their own profits?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:39.29,0:17:41.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you find a way to live?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:42.16,0:17:44.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you see that the sweetest revenge
Dialogue: 0,0:17:44.42,0:17:47.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is for you to live a happy,\Nfull and free life?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:47.93,0:17:50.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A life defined by you and nobody else.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:50.87,0:17:53.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why do you want to become\Njust another dead Muslim kid?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:55.33,0:17:59.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And for the rest of us, when will we start\Nlistening to our young people?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:00.74,0:18:03.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How can we support them\Nin re-directing their pain
Dialogue: 0,0:18:03.90,0:18:06.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,into something more constructive?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:06.94,0:18:08.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They think we don't like them.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:08.41,0:18:10.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They think we don't care\Nwhat happens to them.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:11.21,0:18:12.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They think we don't accept them.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:13.09,0:18:15.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can we find a way to make\Nthem feel differently?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:17.59,0:18:21.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What will it take for us to see them\Nand notice them before they become
Dialogue: 0,0:18:21.84,0:18:24.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,either the victims or\Nthe perpetrators of violence?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:25.19,0:18:28.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can we make ourselves care about them\Nand consider them to be our own?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:29.09,0:18:33.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And not just be outraged when the victims\Nof violence look like ourselves?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:33.69,0:18:38.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can we find a way to reject hatred\Nand heal the divisions between us?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:39.16,0:18:42.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The thing is, we cannot afford to give up\Non each other or on our kids,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:42.94,0:18:45.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if they've given up on us.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:45.37,0:18:47.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are all in this together.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:47.46,0:18:52.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in the long term, revenge and violence\Nwill not work against extremists.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:53.80,0:18:59.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Terrorists want us to huddle in our houses\Nin fear, closing our doors and our hearts.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:59.79,0:19:03.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They want us to tear open\Nmore wounds in our societies
Dialogue: 0,0:19:03.43,0:19:06.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that they can use them to spread\Ntheir infection more widely.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:07.15,0:19:12.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They want us to become like them:\Nintolerant, hateful and cruel.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:14.36,0:19:20.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The day after the Paris attacks, a friend\Nof mine sent this photo of her daughter.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:20.100,0:19:23.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is a white girl and an Arab girl.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:23.38,0:19:24.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're best friends.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:25.57,0:19:28.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This image is the kryptonite\Nfor extremists.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:31.49,0:19:35.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These two little girls with\Ntheir superpowers are showing
Dialogue: 0,0:19:35.30,0:19:39.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the way forward towards a society\Nthat we need to build together,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:40.23,0:19:46.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a society that includes and supports,\Nrather than rejects our kids.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:48.24,0:19:50.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you for listening.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:50.63,0:19:52.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)