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Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.28,0:00:04.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I was a child,\NI knew I had superpowers.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:07.04,0:00:08.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's right.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.34,0:00:12.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I thought I was absolutely amazing\Nbecause I could understand
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.00,0:00:15.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and relate to the feelings\Nof brown people,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.80,0:00:18.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like my grandfather,\Na conservative Muslim guy.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.53,0:00:23.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And also, I could understand\Nmy Afghan mother, my Pakistani father,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.52,0:00:27.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not so religious but\Nlaid-back, fairly liberal.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:28.87,0:00:32.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And of course, I could understand\Nand relate to the feelings of white people.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.72,0:00:35.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The white Norwegians of my country.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.55,0:00:37.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, white, brown, whatever,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.31,0:00:39.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I loved them all.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.96,0:00:41.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I understood them all,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.39,0:00:43.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if they didn't always\Nunderstand each other,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.68,0:00:45.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they were all my people.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.86,0:00:48.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My father, though,\Nwas always really worried.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.83,0:00:51.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He kept saying that\Neven with the best education,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.06,0:00:54.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was not going to get a fair shake.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:55.54,0:00:58.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would still face discrimination,\Naccording to him.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.48,0:01:01.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that they only way\Nto be accepted by white people
Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.29,0:01:03.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,would be to become famous.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.80,0:01:07.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now mind you, he had this conversation\Nwith me when I was seven-years-old.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.76,0:01:11.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So while I'm seven-years-old,\Nhe said, look,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.13,0:01:14.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so its either got to be sports,\Nor its got to be music.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.16,0:01:18.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He didn't know anything about sports --\Nbless him -- so it was music.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.30,0:01:23.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when I was seven-years-old,\Nhe gathered all my toys, all my dolls,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.78,0:01:26.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he threw them all away.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.35,0:01:29.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In exchange he gave me\Na crappy little Casio keyboard
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.80,0:01:33.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and singing lessons.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.03,0:01:37.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He forced me, basically, to practice\Nfor hours and hours every single day.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.43,0:01:41.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Very quickly, he also had me performing\Nfor larger and larger audiences,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:42.81,0:01:46.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and bizarrely, I became almost\Na kind of poster child
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.75,0:01:48.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for Norwegian multi-culturalism.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.09,0:01:50.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt very proud, of course.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.70,0:01:55.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because even the newspapers were starting\Nto write nice things about brown people,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.52,0:01:59.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I could feel that\Nmy superpower was growing.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.33,0:02:04.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when I was 12-years-old,\Nwalking home from school,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.61,0:02:06.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I took a little detour\Nbecause I wanted to buy
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.89,0:02:09.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my favorite sweets called Salty Feets.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.58,0:02:13.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know they sound kind of awful,\Nbut I absolutely love them.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.54,0:02:17.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're basically these little salty\Nlicorice bits in the shape of feet.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.30,0:02:22.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And now that I say it out loud,\NI realize how terrible that sounds,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.42,0:02:27.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but be that as it may,\NI absolutely love them.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.61,0:02:31.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So on my way into the store,\Nthere was this grown white guy
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.34,0:02:34.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the doorway blocking my way.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:34.86,0:02:39.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I tried to walk around him,\Nand as I did that, he stopped me
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.90,0:02:43.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he was staring at me,\Nand he spit in my face,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:44.02,0:02:46.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he said, get out of my way\Nyou little black bitch,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:47.21,0:02:50.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you little Paki bitch,\Ngo back home where you came from.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.97,0:02:56.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was absolutely horrified.\NI was staring at him.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.50,0:02:59.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was too afraid to wipe\Nthe spit off my face,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.34,0:03:02.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even as it was mixing with my tears.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.20,0:03:05.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember looking around,\Nhoping that any minute now,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.31,0:03:09.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a grown-up is going to come \Nand make this guy stop.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.78,0:03:13.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But instead, people kept hurrying past me\Nand pretended not to see me.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.08,0:03:18.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was very confused\Nbecause I was thinking,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:19.01,0:03:22.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,well, my white people, come on!\NWhere are they? What's going on?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:22.64,0:03:25.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How come they're not\Ncoming and rescuing me?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.59,0:03:27.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, needless to say,\NI didn't buy the sweets.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.85,0:03:30.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I just ran home as fast as I could.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.71,0:03:33.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Things were still okay, though, I thought.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.69,0:03:37.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As time went on, the more successful\NI became, I eventually started attracting
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.23,0:03:40.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,harassment from brown people.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.75,0:03:44.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some men in my parent's community\Nfelt that it was unacceptable
Dialogue: 0,0:03:45.28,0:03:49.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and dishonorable for a woman\Nto be involved in music
Dialogue: 0,0:03:50.16,0:03:53.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to be so present in the media.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.95,0:03:58.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So very quickly, I was starting to become\Nattacked at my own concerts.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:59.24,0:04:03.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember one of the concerts,\NI was onstage, I lean into the audience
Dialogue: 0,0:04:04.13,0:04:07.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the last thing I see is\Na young brown face
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.46,0:04:11.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the next thing I know\Nsome sort of chemical is thrown in my eyes
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.80,0:04:14.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I remember I couldn't really see\Nand my eyes were watering
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.23,0:04:17.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I kept singing anyway.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.93,0:04:21.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was spit in the face in the streets\Nof Oslo, this time by brown men.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.68,0:04:25.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They even tried to\Nkidnap me at one point.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.94,0:04:27.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The death threats were endless.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:28.35,0:04:31.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember one older bearded guy\Nstopped me in the street one time,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:31.49,0:04:33.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he said, the reason\NI hate you so much
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.85,0:04:35.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is because you make\Nour daughters think
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.98,0:04:37.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they can do whatever they want.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:38.71,0:04:41.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A younger guy warned me\Nto watch my back.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.83,0:04:44.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said music is un-Islamic\Nand the job of whores,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.79,0:04:47.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and if you keep this up,\Nyou are going to be raped
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.66,0:04:52.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and your stomach will be cut out so that\Nanother whore like you will not be born.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:53.82,0:04:55.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Again, I was so confused.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.98,0:04:57.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I couldn't understand\Nwhat was going on.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:57.90,0:05:00.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My brown people now starting\Nto treat me like this -- how come?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.54,0:05:05.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Instead of bridging the worlds, \Nthe two worlds, I felt like I was
Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.82,0:05:10.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,falling between my two worlds.\NI suppose for me, spit was kryptonite.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.09,0:05:16.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So by the time I was 17-years-old,\Nthe death threats were endless
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.20,0:05:18.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the harassment was constant.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.41,0:05:21.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It got so bad, at one point my mother\Nsat me down and said, look,\N
Dialogue: 0,0:05:21.16,0:05:24.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can no longer protect you,\Nwe can no longer keep you safe,\N
Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.69,0:05:26.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so you're going to have to go.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:26.82,0:05:30.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I bought a one-way ticket to London.\NI packed my suitcase, and I left.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:32.82,0:05:36.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My biggest heartbreak at that point\Nwas that nobody said anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:36.48,0:05:39.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had a very public exit from Norway.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:39.77,0:05:43.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My brown people, my white people,\Nnobody said anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.39,0:05:45.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nobody said, hold on, this is wrong.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.37,0:05:49.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Support this girl, protect this girl\Nbecause she is one of us.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:50.07,0:05:51.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nope. Nobody said that.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.11,0:05:55.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Instead, I felt like,\Nyou know at the airport, on the baggage
Dialogue: 0,0:05:55.84,0:05:59.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,carousel you have these different\Nsuitcases going around and around
Dialogue: 0,0:05:59.41,0:06:03.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there's always that one suitcase left\Nat the end, the one that nobody wants,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:03.52,0:06:05.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the one that nobody comes to claim.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:05.54,0:06:10.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt like that. I'd never felt so alone.\NI'd never felt so lost.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.76,0:06:16.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, after coming to London,\NI did eventually resume my music career.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:18.28,0:06:21.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Different place but unfortunately\Nthe same old story.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.35,0:06:24.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember a message sent to me\Nsaying that I was going to be killed
Dialogue: 0,0:06:24.96,0:06:29.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that rivers of blood were going\Nto flow and that I was going to be raped
Dialogue: 0,0:06:29.82,0:06:31.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,many times before I died.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.98,0:06:33.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,By this point, I have to say,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:33.47,0:06:35.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was actually getting used\Nto messages like this,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:36.12,0:06:39.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but what became different was that\Nnow they started threatening my family.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.03,0:06:45.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So once again, I packed my suitcase,\NI left music and I moved to the US.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:46.83,0:06:50.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd had enough. I didn't want to have\Nanything to do with this anymore.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.72,0:06:52.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I was certainly not\Ngoing to be killed for something
Dialogue: 0,0:06:53.12,0:06:56.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that wasn't even my dream --\Nit was my father's choice.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:58.50,0:07:02.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I kind of got lost.\NI kind of fell apart.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:03.33,0:07:07.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I decided that what I wanted to do\Nis spend the next however many years
Dialogue: 0,0:07:07.94,0:07:13.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of my life supporting young people\Nand to try to be there in some small way,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:13.64,0:07:15.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whatever way that I could.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:15.82,0:07:19.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I started volunteering for various\Norganizations that were working
Dialogue: 0,0:07:19.65,0:07:22.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with young Muslims inside of Europe.\N
Dialogue: 0,0:07:24.36,0:07:29.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And, to my surprise, what I found\Nwas so many of these young people
Dialogue: 0,0:07:30.14,0:07:32.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were suffering and struggling.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:33.12,0:07:36.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They were facing so many problems\Nwith their families and their communities
Dialogue: 0,0:07:36.62,0:07:40.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who seemed to care more about\Ntheir honor and their reputation than the
Dialogue: 0,0:07:40.38,0:07:42.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,happiness and the lives of their own kids.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:43.14,0:07:47.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I started feeling like maybe I wasn't\Nso alone, maybe I wasn't so weird.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.55,0:07:51.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe there are more of\Nmy people out there.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:52.04,0:07:55.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The thing is, what most people\Ndon't understand is that there are so many
Dialogue: 0,0:07:56.35,0:08:00.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of us growing up in Europe who\Nare not free to be ourselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:00.73,0:08:03.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're not allowed to be who we are.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:03.93,0:08:10.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are not free to marry or to be in\Nrelationships with people that we choose.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.96,0:08:12.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can't even pick our own career.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:12.100,0:08:15.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is the norm in the\NMuslim heartlands of Europe,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:16.39,0:08:19.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even in the freest societies in the world,\Nwe're not free.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:20.01,0:08:22.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our lives, our dreams, our future\Ndoes not belong to us,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:23.83,0:08:26.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it belongs to our parents\Nand their community.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:27.37,0:08:33.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I found endless stories of young people\Nwho are lost to all of us,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:34.16,0:08:37.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who are invisible to all of us but\Nwho are suffering
Dialogue: 0,0:08:37.40,0:08:39.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they are suffering alone.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:39.93,0:08:43.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Kids we are losing to forced marriages,\Nhonor-based violence and abuse.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:45.67,0:08:48.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, eventually, I realized,\Nafter several years of working
Dialogue: 0,0:08:48.62,0:08:51.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with these young people that\NI will not be able to keep running.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:51.71,0:08:56.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can't spend the rest of my life\Nbeing scared and hiding and
Dialogue: 0,0:08:56.43,0:08:58.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I'm actually going\Nto have to do something.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:00.04,0:09:03.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I also realized that my silence,\Nour silence, allows abuse
Dialogue: 0,0:09:04.16,0:09:05.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like this to continue.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:06.30,0:09:10.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I decided that I wanted to put\Nmy childhood superpower to some use
Dialogue: 0,0:09:11.34,0:09:15.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by trying to make people on the different\Nsides of these issues understand
Dialogue: 0,0:09:16.11,0:09:20.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what its like to be a young person stuck\Nbetween your family and your country.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:21.32,0:09:24.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I started making films\Nand I started telling stories.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.26,0:09:29.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also wanted people to understand\Nthe deadly consequences of us
Dialogue: 0,0:09:29.66,0:09:31.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not taking these problems seriously.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:32.45,0:09:35.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the first film I made was about Benaz.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:36.20,0:09:38.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was a 17-year-old\NKurdish girl in London.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:40.09,0:09:42.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was obedient, she did\Nwhatever her parents wanted.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:43.36,0:09:45.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She tried to do everything right.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:46.10,0:09:48.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She married some guy that\Nher parents chose for her, even though
Dialogue: 0,0:09:49.08,0:09:51.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he beat and raped her constantly.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:52.31,0:09:54.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when she tried to go\Nto her family for help, they said,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:55.06,0:09:57.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,well you got to go back,\Nand be a better wife.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:57.82,0:10:00.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because they didn't want\Na divorced daughter on their hands
Dialogue: 0,0:10:00.32,0:10:03.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because, of course, that would bring\Ndishonor on the family.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:04.41,0:10:07.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was beaten so badly\Nher ears would bleed,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:07.66,0:10:12.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and when she finally left and she found\Na young man that she chose
Dialogue: 0,0:10:12.75,0:10:16.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she fell in love with,\Nthe community and the family found out
Dialogue: 0,0:10:16.66,0:10:18.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she disappeared.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:18.94,0:10:21.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was found three months later.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:21.85,0:10:25.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She'd been stuffed into a suitcase\Nand buried underneath the house.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:28.50,0:10:31.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She had been strangled,\Nshe had been beaten to death
Dialogue: 0,0:10:32.40,0:10:37.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by three men, three cousins\Non the orders of her father and uncle.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:37.65,0:10:42.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The added tragedy of Benaz's story\Nis that she had gone to the police
Dialogue: 0,0:10:42.60,0:10:46.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in England five times,\Nasking for help,\N
Dialogue: 0,0:10:47.28,0:10:49.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,telling them that she was\Ngoing to be killed by her family.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:49.84,0:10:52.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The police didn't believe her\Nso they didn't do anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:53.45,0:10:56.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the problem with this is that\Nnot only are so many of our kids
Dialogue: 0,0:10:56.99,0:11:02.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,facing this problem within their families\Nand within their families' communities,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:02.99,0:11:05.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but they're also\Nmeeting misunderstandings
Dialogue: 0,0:11:06.92,0:11:10.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and apathy in the countries\Nthat they grow up in.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:12.03,0:11:16.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When their own families betray them,\Nthey look to the rest of us,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:17.29,0:11:19.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and when we don't understand,\Nwe lose them.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:21.96,0:11:25.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So while I was making this film,\Nseveral people said to me, well Deeyah,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:25.75,0:11:28.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know, this is just their culture,\Nthis is just what those people do
Dialogue: 0,0:11:29.20,0:11:31.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to their kids and\Nwe can't really interfere.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:32.21,0:11:36.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can assure you being murdered\Nis not my culture -- you know?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:37.29,0:11:39.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And surely people who look like me,\Nyoung women who come
Dialogue: 0,0:11:40.37,0:11:43.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from backgrounds like me,\Nshould be subject to the same rights,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:44.46,0:11:48.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the same protections as anybody else\Nin our country, why not?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:50.64,0:11:56.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, for my next film, I wanted to try\Nand understand why some of our
Dialogue: 0,0:11:56.52,0:12:00.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,young Muslim kids in Europe are drawn\Nto extremism and violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:01.19,0:12:03.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But with that topic,\NI also recognized that
Dialogue: 0,0:12:03.53,0:12:05.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was going to have to face my worst fear:
Dialogue: 0,0:12:07.39,0:12:09.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the brown men with beards.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:11.54,0:12:16.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The same men, or similar men, to the ones\Nthat have hounded me for most of my life.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:17.85,0:12:20.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Men that I've been afraid of\Nmost of my life.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:20.82,0:12:24.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Men that I've also deeply disliked,\Nfor many, many years.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:25.61,0:12:29.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I spent the next two years\Ninterviewing convicted terrorists,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:29.58,0:12:31.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,jihadis and former extremists.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:32.09,0:12:35.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What I already knew,\Nwhat was very obvious already,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:35.43,0:12:40.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was that religion, politics,\NEurope's colonial baggage, also
Dialogue: 0,0:12:41.43,0:12:44.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Western foreign policy failures\Nfailures of recent years,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:44.89,0:12:46.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were all a part of the picture.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:47.55,0:12:49.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what I was more interested\Nin finding out was what are the human,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:50.26,0:12:53.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what are the personal\Nreasons why some of our
Dialogue: 0,0:12:53.47,0:12:55.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,young people are susceptible\Nto groups like this.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:57.33,0:13:01.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what really surprised me\Nwas that I found wounded human beings.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:04.09,0:13:07.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Instead of the monsters that I was\Nlooking for, that I was hoping to find --
Dialogue: 0,0:13:08.12,0:13:10.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,quite frankly because it \Nwould have been very satisfying --
Dialogue: 0,0:13:11.24,0:13:13.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I found broken people.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:13.92,0:13:19.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just like Benaz, I found that these\Nyoung men were torn apart from trying
Dialogue: 0,0:13:20.12,0:13:24.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to bridge the gaps between their families\Nand the countries that they were born in.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:26.11,0:13:29.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what I also learned is that\Nextremist groups, terrorist groups
Dialogue: 0,0:13:29.58,0:13:32.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are taking advantage of these\Nfeelings of our young people
Dialogue: 0,0:13:32.97,0:13:36.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and channeling that cynically,\Nchanneling that toward violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:36.97,0:13:41.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Come to us, they say. "Reject both sides,\Nyour family and your country
Dialogue: 0,0:13:41.96,0:13:43.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because they reject you..
Dialogue: 0,0:13:43.74,0:13:46.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For your family, their honor is more\Nimportant than you and for your country,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:47.27,0:13:52.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a real Norwegian, Brit, or a French person\Nwill always be white and never you."
Dialogue: 0,0:13:54.38,0:13:57.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're also promising our young people\Nthings that they crave:
Dialogue: 0,0:13:57.91,0:14:01.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,significance, heroism,\Na sense of belonging and purpose,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:02.20,0:14:04.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a community that loves\Nand accepts them.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:05.68,0:14:08.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They make the powerless feel powerful.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:08.64,0:14:13.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The invisible and the silent\Nare finally seen and heard.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:15.47,0:14:17.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is what they're doing\Nfor our young people.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:18.18,0:14:21.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why are these groups doing this\Nfor our young people and not us?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:23.16,0:14:30.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The thing is, I'm not trying to justify\Nor excuse any of the violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:31.79,0:14:34.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What I am trying to say is that\Nwe have to understand
Dialogue: 0,0:14:35.02,0:14:38.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why some of our young people\Nare attracted to this.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:40.09,0:14:43.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would like to also show you, actually,\Nthese are childhood photos
Dialogue: 0,0:14:43.82,0:14:45.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of some of the guys in the film.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:47.79,0:14:50.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What really struck me is\Nthat so many of them
Dialogue: 0,0:14:51.42,0:14:53.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,-- I never would have thought this --
Dialogue: 0,0:14:53.55,0:14:56.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but so many of them have\Nabsent or abusive fathers.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:57.37,0:15:01.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And several of these young guys ended up\Nfinding caring and compassionate
Dialogue: 0,0:15:02.29,0:15:04.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,father figures within\Nthese extremist groups.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:06.35,0:15:10.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also found men brutalized\Nby racist violence, but who found a way
Dialogue: 0,0:15:10.88,0:15:13.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to stop feeling like victims\Nby becoming violent themselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:14.36,0:15:18.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In fact, I found something,\Nto my horror, that I recognized.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:19.55,0:15:25.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I found the same feelings that I felt\Nas a 17-year-old as I fled from Norway.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:26.16,0:15:32.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The same confusion, the same sorrow,\Nthe same feeling of being betrayed
Dialogue: 0,0:15:35.04,0:15:37.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and not belonging to anyone.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:39.04,0:15:41.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The same feeling of being lost\Nand torn between cultures.\N
Dialogue: 0,0:15:43.24,0:15:45.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Having said that,\NI did not choose destruction,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:45.91,0:15:47.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I chose to pick up a camera\Ninstead of a gun.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:48.50,0:15:51.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the reason I did that\Nis because of my superpower.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:52.17,0:15:56.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I could see that understanding\Nis the answer, instead of violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:56.98,0:16:01.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Seeing human beings with all\Ntheir virtues and all their flaws
Dialogue: 0,0:16:02.10,0:16:03.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,instead of continuing the caricatures:
Dialogue: 0,0:16:04.38,0:16:06.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the us and them,\Nthe villains and victims.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:07.06,0:16:10.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd also finally come to terms with the fact\Nthat my two cultures didn't have
Dialogue: 0,0:16:11.15,0:16:15.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be on a collision course but instead\Nbecame a space where I found my own voice.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:16.04,0:16:20.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I stopped feeling like I had to pick\Na side, but this took me many, many years.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:21.98,0:16:24.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are so many of our young people\Ntoday who are struggling with
Dialogue: 0,0:16:24.95,0:16:27.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,these same issues and\Nthey're struggling with this alone.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:29.66,0:16:33.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this leaves them open\Nlike wounds, and for some,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:34.27,0:16:37.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the worldview of radical Islam becomes\Nthe infection that festers
Dialogue: 0,0:16:38.25,0:16:40.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in these open wounds.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:41.46,0:16:44.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's an African proverb that says,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:45.88,0:16:48.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if the young are not initiated\Ninto the village,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:49.31,0:16:52.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they will burn it down\Njust to feel its warmth.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:53.71,0:16:57.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would like to ask Muslim\Nparents and Muslim communities,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:58.54,0:17:01.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,will you love and care for your children\Nwithout forcing them
Dialogue: 0,0:17:02.04,0:17:03.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to meet your expectations?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:04.26,0:17:06.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you choose them instead of your honor?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:06.100,0:17:10.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you understand why they're so angry\Nand alienated when you put your honor
Dialogue: 0,0:17:10.53,0:17:12.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,before their happiness?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:13.56,0:17:16.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you try to be a friend to your child\Nso that they can trust you
Dialogue: 0,0:17:17.08,0:17:20.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and want to share with you\Ntheir experiences, rather than having
Dialogue: 0,0:17:20.46,0:17:22.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to seek it somewhere else?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:23.09,0:17:28.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And to our young people, tempted\Nby extremism, can you acknowledge that
Dialogue: 0,0:17:28.68,0:17:30.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your rage is fueled by pain?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:31.96,0:17:36.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Will you find the strength to resist those\Ncynical old men who want to use
Dialogue: 0,0:17:36.37,0:17:39.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your blood for their own profits?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:39.46,0:17:42.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you find a way to live?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:42.85,0:17:45.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you see that the sweetest revenge
Dialogue: 0,0:17:45.38,0:17:48.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is for you to live a happy,\Nfull and free life?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:50.88,0:17:51.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A life defined by you and nobody else.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:51.45,0:17:54.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why do you want to become\Njust another dead Muslim kid?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:55.39,0:17:59.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And for the rest of us, when will we start\Nlistening to our young people?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:00.74,0:18:03.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How can we support them\Nin re-directing their pain
Dialogue: 0,0:18:04.18,0:18:06.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,into something more constructive?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:07.10,0:18:08.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They think we don't like them.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:09.29,0:18:11.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They think we don't care\Nwhat happens to them.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:11.78,0:18:13.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They think we don't accept them.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:13.55,0:18:15.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can we find a way to make\Nthem feel differently?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:17.59,0:18:21.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What will it take for us to see them\Nand notice them before they become
Dialogue: 0,0:18:21.84,0:18:24.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,either the victims or\Nthe perpetrators of violence?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:25.19,0:18:28.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can we make ourselves care about them\Nand consider them to be our own?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:29.09,0:18:33.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And not just be outraged when the victims\Nof violence look like ourselves?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:33.69,0:18:38.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can we find a way to reject hatred\Nand heal the divisions between us?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:39.16,0:18:42.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The thing is, we cannot afford to give up\Non each other or on our kids,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:43.03,0:18:45.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if they've given up on us.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:45.57,0:18:47.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are all in this together.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:48.18,0:18:52.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in the long term, revenge and violence\Nwill not work against extremists.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:53.80,0:18:59.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Terrorists want us to huddle in our houses\Nin fear, closing our doors and our hearts.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:00.09,0:19:04.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They want us to tear open more wounds\Nin our societies so that they can use them
Dialogue: 0,0:19:04.98,0:19:06.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to spread their infection more widely.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:08.66,0:19:14.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They want us to become like them:\Nintolerant, hateful and cruel.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:14.51,0:19:20.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The day after the Paris attacks, a friend\Nof mine sent this photo of her daughter.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:21.16,0:19:23.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is a white girl and an Arab girl.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:23.100,0:19:25.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're best friends.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:25.83,0:19:28.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This image is kryptonite for extremists.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:31.71,0:19:35.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These two little girls with\Ntheir superpowers are showing
Dialogue: 0,0:19:35.80,0:19:38.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the way forward towards a society\Nthat we need to build together,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:40.40,0:19:46.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a society that includes and supports,\Nrather than rejects our kids.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:48.38,0:19:52.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you for listening.