0:00:01.276,0:00:04.318 When I was a child,[br]I knew I had superpowers. 0:00:07.038,0:00:08.583 That's right. 0:00:09.344,0:00:12.939 I thought I was absolutely amazing[br]because I could understand 0:00:13.000,0:00:15.541 and relate to the feelings[br]of brown people, 0:00:15.798,0:00:18.897 like my grandfather,[br]a conservative Muslim guy. 0:00:19.534,0:00:23.319 And also, I could understand[br]my Afghan mother, my Pakistani father, 0:00:24.521,0:00:27.983 not so religious but[br]laid-back, fairly liberal. 0:00:28.873,0:00:32.163 And of course, I could understand[br]and relate to the feelings of white people. 0:00:32.723,0:00:35.163 The white Norwegians of my country. 0:00:35.553,0:00:37.858 You know, white, brown, whatever, 0:00:38.310,0:00:39.804 I loved them all. 0:00:39.962,0:00:41.388 I understood them all, 0:00:41.388,0:00:43.682 even if they didn't always[br]understand each other, 0:00:43.682,0:00:45.628 they were all my people. 0:00:45.856,0:00:48.094 My father, though,[br]was always really worried. 0:00:48.833,0:00:51.644 He kept saying that[br]even with the best education, 0:00:52.057,0:00:54.966 I was not going to get a fair shake. 0:00:55.539,0:00:58.482 I would still face discrimination,[br]according to him. 0:00:58.482,0:01:01.292 And that they only way[br]to be accepted by white people 0:01:01.292,0:01:03.569 would be to become famous. 0:01:03.799,0:01:07.592 Now mind you, he had this conversation[br]with me when I was seven-years-old. 0:01:08.756,0:01:11.811 So while I'm seven-years-old,[br]he said, look, 0:01:12.128,0:01:14.816 so its either got to be sports,[br]or its got to be music. 0:01:15.156,0:01:18.667 He didn't know anything about sports --[br]bless him -- so it was music. 0:01:19.295,0:01:23.408 So when I was seven-years-old,[br]he gathered all my toys, all my dolls, 0:01:23.779,0:01:26.202 and he threw them all away. 0:01:26.354,0:01:29.378 In exchange he gave me[br]a crappy little Casio keyboard 0:01:31.804,0:01:33.390 and singing lessons. 0:01:34.034,0:01:37.930 He forced me, basically, to practice[br]for hours and hours every single day. 0:01:38.427,0:01:41.924 Very quickly, he also had me performing[br]for larger and larger audiences, 0:01:42.814,0:01:46.443 and bizarrely, I became almost[br]a kind of poster child 0:01:46.754,0:01:48.826 for Norwegian multi-culturalism. 0:01:49.094,0:01:50.714 I felt very proud, of course. 0:01:51.695,0:01:55.739 Because even the newspapers were starting[br]to write nice things about brown people, 0:01:56.525,0:01:59.645 so I could feel that[br]my superpower was growing. 0:02:01.332,0:02:04.131 So when I was 12-years-old,[br]walking home from school, 0:02:04.606,0:02:06.537 I took a little detour[br]because I wanted to buy 0:02:06.887,0:02:09.247 my favorite sweets called Salty Feets. 0:02:09.577,0:02:13.146 I know they sound kind of awful,[br]but I absolutely love them. 0:02:13.543,0:02:17.369 They're basically these little salty[br]licorice bits in the shape of feet. 0:02:18.303,0:02:22.959 And now that I say it out loud,[br]I realize how terrible that sounds, 0:02:24.418,0:02:27.140 but be that as it may,[br]I absolutely love them. 0:02:27.608,0:02:31.349 So on my way into the store,[br]there was this grown white guy 0:02:32.339,0:02:34.586 in the doorway blocking my way. 0:02:34.863,0:02:39.325 So I tried to walk around him,[br]and as I did that, he stopped me 0:02:39.905,0:02:43.674 and he was staring at me,[br]and he spit in my face, 0:02:44.019,0:02:46.933 and he said, get out of my way[br]you little black bitch, 0:02:47.213,0:02:50.503 you little Paki bitch,[br]go back home where you came from. 0:02:51.968,0:02:56.062 I was absolutely horrified.[br]I was staring at him. 0:02:56.503,0:02:59.727 I was too afraid to wipe[br]the spit off my face, 0:03:00.341,0:03:02.803 even as it was mixing with my tears. 0:03:03.204,0:03:05.931 I remember looking around,[br]hoping that any minute now, 0:03:06.312,0:03:09.238 a grown-up is going to come [br]and make this guy stop. 0:03:09.778,0:03:13.898 But instead, people kept hurrying past me[br]and pretended not to see me. 0:03:15.084,0:03:18.699 I was very confused[br]because I was thinking, 0:03:19.013,0:03:22.272 well, my white people, come on![br]Where are they? What's going on? 0:03:22.639,0:03:25.313 How come they're not[br]coming and rescuing me? 0:03:25.588,0:03:27.579 So, needless to say,[br]I didn't buy the sweets. 0:03:27.854,0:03:30.314 I just ran home as fast as I could. 0:03:30.711,0:03:33.397 Things were still okay, though, I thought. 0:03:33.686,0:03:37.761 As time went on, the more successful[br]I became, I eventually started attracting 0:03:38.229,0:03:40.938 harassment from brown people. 0:03:41.747,0:03:44.948 Some men in my parent's community[br]felt that it was unacceptable 0:03:45.283,0:03:49.376 and dishonorable for a woman[br]to be involved in music 0:03:50.157,0:03:53.426 and to be so present in the media. 0:03:53.953,0:03:58.824 So very quickly, I was starting to become[br]attacked at my own concerts. 0:03:59.237,0:04:03.580 I remember one of the concerts,[br]I was onstage, I lean into the audience 0:04:04.133,0:04:07.023 and the last thing I see is[br]a young brown face 0:04:07.456,0:04:11.303 and the next thing I know[br]some sort of chemical is thrown in my eyes 0:04:11.800,0:04:14.847 and I remember I couldn't really see[br]and my eyes were watering 0:04:15.228,0:04:17.632 but I kept singing anyway. 0:04:17.927,0:04:21.446 I was spit in the face in the streets[br]of Oslo, this time by brown men. 0:04:22.683,0:04:25.054 They even tried to[br]kidnap me at one point. 0:04:25.945,0:04:27.992 The death threats were endless. 0:04:28.348,0:04:31.088 I remember one older bearded guy[br]stopped me in the street one time, 0:04:31.489,0:04:33.541 and he said, the reason[br]I hate you so much 0:04:33.846,0:04:35.648 is because you make[br]our daughters think 0:04:35.985,0:04:37.805 they can do whatever they want. 0:04:38.714,0:04:41.249 A younger guy warned me[br]to watch my back. 0:04:41.829,0:04:44.388 He said music is un-Islamic[br]and the job of whores, 0:04:44.792,0:04:47.314 and if you keep this up,[br]you are going to be raped 0:04:47.656,0:04:52.810 and your stomach will be cut out so that[br]another whore like you will not be born. 0:04:53.817,0:04:55.738 Again, I was so confused. 0:04:55.975,0:04:57.660 I couldn't understand[br]what was going on. 0:04:57.895,0:05:00.805 My brown people now starting[br]to treat me like this -- how come? 0:05:01.544,0:05:05.498 Instead of bridging the worlds, [br]the two worlds, I felt like I was 0:05:05.815,0:05:10.279 falling between my two worlds.[br]I suppose for me, spit was kryptonite. 0:05:13.090,0:05:16.204 So by the time I was 17-years-old,[br]the death threats were endless 0:05:16.204,0:05:18.150 and the harassment was constant. 0:05:18.412,0:05:21.155 It got so bad, at one point my mother[br]sat me down and said, look,[br] 0:05:21.155,0:05:24.435 we can no longer protect you,[br]we can no longer keep you safe,[br] 0:05:24.692,0:05:26.594 so you're going to have to go. 0:05:26.815,0:05:30.772 So I bought a one-way ticket to London.[br]I packed my suitcase, and I left. 0:05:32.819,0:05:36.485 My biggest heartbreak at that point[br]was that nobody said anything. 0:05:36.485,0:05:39.340 I had a very public exit from Norway. 0:05:39.772,0:05:43.091 My brown people, my white people,[br]nobody said anything. 0:05:43.386,0:05:45.941 Nobody said, hold on, this is wrong. 0:05:46.371,0:05:49.715 Support this girl, protect this girl[br]because she is one of us. 0:05:50.067,0:05:51.854 Nope. Nobody said that. 0:05:52.109,0:05:55.567 Instead, I felt like,[br]you know at the airport, on the baggage 0:05:55.841,0:05:59.111 carousel you have these different[br]suitcases going around and around 0:05:59.411,0:06:03.185 and there's always that one suitcase left[br]at the end, the one that nobody wants, 0:06:03.519,0:06:05.224 the one that nobody comes to claim. 0:06:05.542,0:06:10.587 I felt like that. I'd never felt so alone.[br]I'd never felt so lost. 0:06:12.760,0:06:16.321 So, after coming to London,[br]I did eventually resume my music career. 0:06:18.275,0:06:21.350 Different place but unfortunately[br]the same old story. 0:06:21.350,0:06:24.525 I remember a message sent to me[br]saying that I was going to be killed 0:06:24.965,0:06:29.375 and that rivers of blood were going[br]to flow and that I was going to be raped 0:06:29.818,0:06:31.560 many times before I died. 0:06:31.979,0:06:33.266 By this point, I have to say, 0:06:33.469,0:06:35.789 I was actually getting used[br]to messages like this, 0:06:36.123,0:06:39.785 but what became different was that[br]now they started threatening my family. 0:06:41.034,0:06:45.801 So once again, I packed my suitcase,[br]I left music and I moved to the US. 0:06:46.834,0:06:50.132 I'd had enough. I didn't want to have[br]anything to do with this anymore. 0:06:50.725,0:06:52.785 And I was certainly not[br]going to be killed for something 0:06:53.120,0:06:56.152 that wasn't even my dream --[br]it was my father's choice. 0:06:58.504,0:07:02.802 So I kind of got lost.[br]I kind of fell apart. 0:07:03.328,0:07:07.644 But I decided that what I wanted to do[br]is spend the next however many years 0:07:07.941,0:07:13.164 of my life supporting young people[br]and to try to be there in some small way, 0:07:13.640,0:07:15.545 whatever way that I could. 0:07:15.819,0:07:19.206 I started volunteering for various[br]organizations that were working 0:07:19.653,0:07:22.963 with young Muslims inside of Europe.[br] 0:07:24.355,0:07:29.263 And, to my surprise, what I found[br]was so many of these young people 0:07:30.136,0:07:32.556 were suffering and struggling. 0:07:33.123,0:07:36.286 They were facing so many problems[br]with their families and their communities 0:07:36.615,0:07:40.045 who seemed to care more about[br]their honor and their reputation than the 0:07:40.382,0:07:42.735 happiness and the lives of their own kids. 0:07:43.136,0:07:47.613 I started feeling like maybe I wasn't[br]so alone, maybe I wasn't so weird. 0:07:48.553,0:07:51.130 Maybe there are more of[br]my people out there. 0:07:52.039,0:07:55.948 The thing is, what most people[br]don't understand is that there are so many 0:07:56.348,0:08:00.055 of us growing up in Europe who[br]are not free to be ourselves. 0:08:00.731,0:08:03.416 We're not allowed to be who we are. 0:08:03.933,0:08:10.556 We are not free to marry or to be in[br]relationships with people that we choose. 0:08:10.956,0:08:12.756 We can't even pick our own career. 0:08:12.995,0:08:15.786 This is the norm in the[br]Muslim heartlands of Europe, 0:08:16.386,0:08:19.409 even in the freest societies in the world,[br]we're not free. 0:08:20.012,0:08:22.984 Our lives, our dreams, our future[br]does not belong to us, 0:08:23.830,0:08:26.915 it belongs to our parents[br]and their community. 0:08:27.367,0:08:33.489 I found endless stories of young people[br]who are lost to all of us, 0:08:34.160,0:08:37.027 who are invisible to all of us but[br]who are suffering 0:08:37.396,0:08:39.468 and they are suffering alone. 0:08:39.932,0:08:43.804 Kids we are losing to forced marriages,[br]honor-based violence and abuse. 0:08:45.667,0:08:48.319 So, eventually, I realized,[br]after several years of working 0:08:48.616,0:08:51.290 with these young people that[br]I will not be able to keep running. 0:08:51.711,0:08:56.059 I can't spend the rest of my life[br]being scared and hiding and 0:08:56.428,0:08:58.383 that I'm actually going[br]to have to do something. 0:09:00.041,0:09:03.816 And I also realized that my silence,[br]our silence, allows abuse 0:09:04.164,0:09:05.822 like this to continue. 0:09:06.302,0:09:10.365 So I decided that I wanted to put[br]my childhood superpower to some use 0:09:11.335,0:09:15.809 by trying to make people on the different[br]sides of these issues understand 0:09:16.109,0:09:20.607 what its like to be a young person stuck[br]between your family and your country. 0:09:21.320,0:09:24.468 So I started making films[br]and I started telling stories. 0:09:25.262,0:09:29.299 I also wanted people to understand[br]the deadly consequences of us 0:09:29.665,0:09:31.856 not taking these problems seriously. 0:09:32.452,0:09:35.339 So the first film I made was about Benaz. 0:09:36.197,0:09:38.927 She was a 17-year-old[br]Kurdish girl in London. 0:09:40.086,0:09:42.417 She was obedient, she did[br]whatever her parents wanted. 0:09:43.362,0:09:45.654 She tried to do everything right. 0:09:46.101,0:09:48.707 She married some guy that[br]her parents chose for her, even though 0:09:49.077,0:09:51.499 he beat and raped her constantly. 0:09:52.311,0:09:54.651 And when she tried to go[br]to her family for help, they said, 0:09:55.059,0:09:57.375 well you got to go back,[br]and be a better wife. 0:09:57.817,0:10:00.022 Because they didn't want[br]a divorced daughter on their hands 0:10:00.323,0:10:03.104 because, of course, that would bring[br]dishonor on the family. 0:10:04.411,0:10:07.158 She was beaten so badly[br]her ears would bleed, 0:10:07.659,0:10:12.119 and when she finally left and she found[br]a young man that she chose 0:10:12.750,0:10:16.205 and she fell in love with,[br]the community and the family found out 0:10:16.658,0:10:18.527 and she disappeared. 0:10:18.938,0:10:21.443 She was found three months later. 0:10:21.849,0:10:25.323 She'd been stuffed into a suitcase[br]and buried underneath the house. 0:10:28.502,0:10:31.129 She had been strangled,[br]she had been beaten to death 0:10:32.404,0:10:37.023 by three men, three cousins[br]on the orders of her father and uncle. 0:10:37.649,0:10:42.469 The added tragedy of Benaz's story[br]is that she had gone to the police 0:10:42.596,0:10:46.159 in England five times,[br]asking for help,[br] 0:10:47.276,0:10:49.515 telling them that she was[br]going to be killed by her family. 0:10:49.838,0:10:52.231 The police didn't believe her[br]so they didn't do anything. 0:10:53.446,0:10:56.652 And the problem with this is that[br]not only are so many of our kids 0:10:56.990,0:11:02.150 facing this problem within their families[br]and within their families' communities, 0:11:02.992,0:11:05.223 but they're also[br]meeting misunderstandings 0:11:06.915,0:11:10.159 and apathy in the countries[br]that they grow up in. 0:11:12.031,0:11:16.941 When their own families betray them,[br]they look to the rest of us, 0:11:17.293,0:11:19.184 and when we don't understand,[br]we lose them. 0:11:21.963,0:11:25.207 So while I was making this film,[br]several people said to me, well Deeyah, 0:11:25.750,0:11:28.836 you know, this is just their culture,[br]this is just what those people do 0:11:29.199,0:11:31.056 to their kids and[br]we can't really interfere. 0:11:32.207,0:11:36.978 I can assure you being murdered[br]is not my culture -- you know? 0:11:37.289,0:11:39.996 And surely people who look like me,[br]young women who come 0:11:40.368,0:11:43.788 from backgrounds like me,[br]should be subject to the same rights, 0:11:44.465,0:11:48.547 the same protections as anybody else[br]in our country, why not? 0:11:50.635,0:11:56.172 So, for my next film, I wanted to try[br]and understand why some of our 0:11:56.524,0:12:00.065 young Muslim kids in Europe are drawn[br]to extremism and violence. 0:12:01.186,0:12:03.201 But with that topic,[br]I also recognized that 0:12:03.526,0:12:05.737 I was going to have to face my worst fear: 0:12:07.391,0:12:09.482 the brown men with beards. 0:12:11.539,0:12:16.566 The same men, or similar men, to the ones[br]that have hounded me for most of my life. 0:12:17.852,0:12:20.442 Men that I've been afraid of[br]most of my life. 0:12:20.822,0:12:24.578 Men that I've also deeply disliked,[br]for many, many years. 0:12:25.609,0:12:29.138 So I spent the next two years[br]interviewing convicted terrorists, 0:12:29.581,0:12:31.524 jihadis and former extremists. 0:12:32.093,0:12:35.063 What I already knew,[br]what was very obvious already, 0:12:35.428,0:12:40.999 was that religion, politics,[br]Europe's colonial baggage, also 0:12:41.434,0:12:44.140 Western foreign policy failures[br]failures of recent years, 0:12:44.886,0:12:46.863 were all a part of the picture. 0:12:47.547,0:12:49.959 But what I was more interested[br]in finding out was what are the human, 0:12:50.258,0:12:53.012 what are the personal[br]reasons why some of our 0:12:53.466,0:12:55.548 young people are susceptible[br]to groups like this. 0:12:57.332,0:13:01.419 And what really surprised me[br]was that I found wounded human beings. 0:13:04.092,0:13:07.547 Instead of the monsters that I was[br]looking for, that I was hoping to find -- 0:13:08.118,0:13:10.609 quite frankly because it [br]would have been very satisfying -- 0:13:11.241,0:13:13.392 I found broken people. 0:13:13.915,0:13:19.741 Just like Benaz, I found that these[br]young men were torn apart from trying 0:13:20.122,0:13:24.379 to bridge the gaps between their families[br]and the countries that they were born in. 0:13:26.109,0:13:29.178 And what I also learned is that[br]extremist groups, terrorist groups 0:13:29.579,0:13:32.568 are taking advantage of these[br]feelings of our young people 0:13:32.969,0:13:36.277 and channeling that cynically,[br]channeling that toward violence. 0:13:36.974,0:13:41.310 Come to us, they say. "Reject both sides,[br]your family and your country 0:13:41.956,0:13:43.433 because they reject you.. 0:13:43.739,0:13:46.872 For your family, their honor is more[br]important than you and for your country, 0:13:47.271,0:13:52.736 a real Norwegian, Brit, or a French person[br]will always be white and never you." 0:13:54.380,0:13:57.581 They're also promising our young people[br]things that they crave: 0:13:57.912,0:14:01.418 significance, heroism,[br]a sense of belonging and purpose, 0:14:02.197,0:14:04.436 a community that loves[br]and accepts them. 0:14:05.678,0:14:08.224 They make the powerless feel powerful. 0:14:08.638,0:14:13.046 The invisible and the silent[br]are finally seen and heard. 0:14:15.474,0:14:17.713 This is what they're doing[br]for our young people. 0:14:18.181,0:14:21.350 Why are these groups doing this[br]for our young people and not us? 0:14:23.161,0:14:30.917 The thing is, I'm not trying to justify[br]or excuse any of the violence. 0:14:31.789,0:14:34.408 What I am trying to say is that[br]we have to understand 0:14:35.019,0:14:38.145 why some of our young people[br]are attracted to this. 0:14:40.089,0:14:43.382 I would like to also show you, actually,[br]these are childhood photos 0:14:43.816,0:14:45.947 of some of the guys in the film. 0:14:47.790,0:14:50.376 What really struck me is[br]that so many of them 0:14:51.423,0:14:53.075 -- I never would have thought this -- 0:14:53.546,0:14:56.130 but so many of them have[br]absent or abusive fathers. 0:14:57.370,0:15:01.464 And several of these young guys ended up[br]finding caring and compassionate 0:15:02.291,0:15:04.404 father figures within[br]these extremist groups. 0:15:06.353,0:15:10.258 I also found men brutalized[br]by racist violence, but who found a way 0:15:10.884,0:15:13.770 to stop feeling like victims[br]by becoming violent themselves. 0:15:14.365,0:15:18.489 In fact, I found something,[br]to my horror, that I recognized. 0:15:19.547,0:15:25.033 I found the same feelings that I felt[br]as a 17-year-old as I fled from Norway. 0:15:26.163,0:15:32.794 The same confusion, the same sorrow,[br]the same feeling of being betrayed 0:15:35.039,0:15:37.033 and not belonging to anyone. 0:15:39.036,0:15:41.338 The same feeling of being lost[br]and torn between cultures.[br] 0:15:43.241,0:15:45.643 Having said that,[br]I did not choose destruction, 0:15:45.914,0:15:47.727 I chose to pick up a camera[br]instead of a gun. 0:15:48.502,0:15:51.600 And the reason I did that[br]is because of my superpower. 0:15:52.169,0:15:56.107 I could see that understanding[br]is the answer, instead of violence. 0:15:56.981,0:16:01.274 Seeing human beings with all[br]their virtues and all their flaws 0:16:02.104,0:16:03.994 instead of continuing the caricatures: 0:16:04.377,0:16:06.539 the us and them,[br]the villains and victims. 0:16:07.055,0:16:10.776 I'd also finally come to terms with the fact[br]that my two cultures didn't have 0:16:11.149,0:16:15.358 to be on a collision course but instead[br]became a space where I found my own voice. 0:16:16.039,0:16:20.386 I stopped feeling like I had to pick[br]a side, but this took me many, many years. 0:16:21.978,0:16:24.684 There are so many of our young people[br]today who are struggling with 0:16:24.954,0:16:27.801 these same issues and[br]they're struggling with this alone. 0:16:29.657,0:16:33.513 And this leaves them open[br]like wounds, and for some, 0:16:34.269,0:16:37.777 the worldview of radical Islam becomes[br]the infection that festers 0:16:38.254,0:16:40.333 in these open wounds. 0:16:41.462,0:16:44.129 There's an African proverb that says, 0:16:45.877,0:16:48.742 if the young are not initiated[br]into the village, 0:16:49.309,0:16:52.403 they will burn it down[br]just to feel its warmth. 0:16:53.710,0:16:57.619 I would like to ask Muslim[br]parents and Muslim communities, 0:16:58.540,0:17:01.725 will you love and care for your children[br]without forcing them 0:17:02.039,0:17:03.891 to meet your expectations? 0:17:04.255,0:17:06.749 Can you choose them instead of your honor? 0:17:06.997,0:17:10.526 Can you understand why they're so angry[br]and alienated when you put your honor 0:17:10.526,0:17:12.818 before their happiness? 0:17:13.556,0:17:16.417 Can you try to be a friend to your child[br]so that they can trust you 0:17:17.079,0:17:20.176 and want to share with you[br]their experiences, rather than having 0:17:20.465,0:17:22.806 to seek it somewhere else? 0:17:23.087,0:17:28.389 And to our young people, tempted[br]by extremism, can you acknowledge that 0:17:28.685,0:17:30.903 your rage is fueled by pain? 0:17:31.961,0:17:36.085 Will you find the strength to resist those[br]cynical old men who want to use 0:17:36.374,0:17:39.085 your blood for their own profits? 0:17:39.460,0:17:42.088 Can you find a way to live? 0:17:42.854,0:17:45.027 Can you see that the sweetest revenge 0:17:45.378,0:17:48.255 is for you to live a happy,[br]full and free life? 0:17:50.879,0:17:51.129 A life defined by you and nobody else. 0:17:51.451,0:17:54.188 Why do you want to become[br]just another dead Muslim kid? 0:17:55.391,0:17:59.224 And for the rest of us, when will we start[br]listening to our young people? 0:18:00.743,0:18:03.759 How can we support them[br]in re-directing their pain 0:18:04.179,0:18:06.491 into something more constructive? 0:18:07.097,0:18:08.976 They think we don't like them. 0:18:09.290,0:18:11.562 They think we don't care[br]what happens to them. 0:18:11.782,0:18:13.296 They think we don't accept them. 0:18:13.546,0:18:15.744 Can we find a way to make[br]them feel differently? 0:18:17.591,0:18:21.540 What will it take for us to see them[br]and notice them before they become 0:18:21.840,0:18:24.768 either the victims or[br]the perpetrators of violence? 0:18:25.187,0:18:28.560 Can we make ourselves care about them[br]and consider them to be our own? 0:18:29.094,0:18:33.251 And not just be outraged when the victims[br]of violence look like ourselves? 0:18:33.690,0:18:38.675 Can we find a way to reject hatred[br]and heal the divisions between us? 0:18:39.157,0:18:42.714 The thing is, we cannot afford to give up[br]on each other or on our kids, 0:18:43.031,0:18:45.010 even if they've given up on us. 0:18:45.570,0:18:47.930 We are all in this together. 0:18:48.178,0:18:52.041 And in the long term, revenge and violence[br]will not work against extremists. 0:18:53.795,0:18:59.222 Terrorists want us to huddle in our houses[br]in fear, closing our doors and our hearts. 0:19:00.094,0:19:04.923 They want us to tear open more wounds[br]in our societies so that they can use them 0:19:04.979,0:19:06.383 to spread their infection more widely. 0:19:08.658,0:19:14.239 They want us to become like them:[br]intolerant, hateful and cruel. 0:19:14.514,0:19:20.203 The day after the Paris attacks, a friend[br]of mine sent this photo of her daughter. 0:19:21.165,0:19:23.743 This is a white girl and an Arab girl. 0:19:23.997,0:19:25.588 They're best friends. 0:19:25.827,0:19:28.871 This image is kryptonite for extremists. 0:19:31.706,0:19:35.518 These two little girls with[br]their superpowers are showing 0:19:35.803,0:19:38.978 the way forward towards a society[br]that we need to build together, 0:19:40.401,0:19:46.347 a society that includes and supports,[br]rather than rejects our kids. 0:19:48.385,0:19:52.429 Thank you for listening.