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Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.87,0:03:27.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Good morning, dear sangha
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.32,0:03:33.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Today is Sunday, the 30th of March 2014
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.39,0:03:39.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are in the Assembly of Stars meditation hall
Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.00,0:03:41.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of the Dharma Nectar Temple,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.22,0:03:43.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Lower Hamlet, Plum Village
Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.16,0:03:50.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is our second week of the spring session
Dialogue: 0,0:04:06.60,0:04:10.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you breathe in mindfully,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.00,0:04:15.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you bring your mind home to your body
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.17,0:04:23.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your inbreath is like a vehicle, a car
Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.76,0:04:26.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,bringing your mind home to your body
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.75,0:04:30.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It takes only 2 or 3 seconds
Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.73,0:04:33.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order for you to bring your mind
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.92,0:04:36.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,home to your body.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.40,0:04:41.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In our daily lives,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.09,0:04:43.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,very often our body is there,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.42,0:04:46.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but our mind is elsewhere.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:46.89,0:04:51.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our mind is in the future, in our projects,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.23,0:04:53.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the past,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:53.81,0:04:57.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,caught in anger, fear, anxiety,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:57.33,0:04:59.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and very seldom our mind is
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.32,0:05:02.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with our body.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.49,0:05:05.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is why, when you bring attention
Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.38,0:05:08.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to your inbreath, and breathe in,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:08.46,0:05:11.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you bring your mind home to your body.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.68,0:05:15.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It takes only 2 to 3 seconds
Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.86,0:05:19.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for the mind to go home to the body.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:22.12,0:05:24.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when mind and body are together,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.54,0:05:29.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you are there, you are truly there,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:29.10,0:05:30.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the here and the now
Dialogue: 0,0:05:30.83,0:05:34.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you can get in touch with the wonders of life
Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.35,0:05:36.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that are available in the here and in the now
Dialogue: 0,0:05:36.41,0:05:38.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for your transformation and healing.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.22,0:05:42.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's very easy.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:42.58,0:05:45.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To breathe in and to focus your attention
Dialogue: 0,0:05:45.88,0:05:47.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,only on your inbreath.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.20,0:05:52.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it is also very pleasant to do.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:55.17,0:05:59.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How wonderful to breathe in.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:01.88,0:06:06.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you really pay attention to your inbreath,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:06.81,0:06:12.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your inbreath becomes the only object of your mind.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:15.57,0:06:18.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You are concentrated on your inbreath,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:18.33,0:06:20.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you are mindful of your inbreath,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:20.75,0:06:23.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you release everything else.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:23.28,0:06:25.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You release the past, the future,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:25.41,0:06:27.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your projects, your worries,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:27.29,0:06:29.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you become a free person.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:29.92,0:06:31.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And therefore freedom is possible
Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.81,0:06:33.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with one inbreath.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:37.06,0:06:39.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Mindfulness and concentration
Dialogue: 0,0:06:39.78,0:06:42.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,directed to your inbreath
Dialogue: 0,0:06:42.58,0:06:46.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,help you to release everything else
Dialogue: 0,0:06:46.04,0:06:49.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you become a free person.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:49.65,0:06:56.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you want to keep that freedom,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:56.05,0:07:00.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then you can breathe out also mindfully.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:00.24,0:07:03.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Breathing out mindfully,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:03.64,0:07:08.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you focus your attention on your outbreath,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:08.08,0:07:10.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you are concentrated on your outbreath,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:10.70,0:07:14.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and your mind is only with your outbreath.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:14.51,0:07:19.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everything else cannot cling to you -
Dialogue: 0,0:07:19.11,0:07:23.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the past, the future, your worries, your fear.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:23.04,0:07:25.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You are free from that.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.36,0:07:27.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So with the practice of mindful breathing,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:27.97,0:07:36.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can cultivate freedom,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:36.35,0:07:38.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you can preserve that freedom
Dialogue: 0,0:07:38.70,0:07:41.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as long as you wish.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:41.78,0:07:44.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,2 minutes, 3 minutes, 4 minutes.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:44.93,0:07:47.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you know how to practice mindful breathing,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:47.40,0:07:50.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mindful walking,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:50.01,0:07:51.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you keep your freedom.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:55.87,0:07:58.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You are not pulled away by the past,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.74,0:08:02.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by the future, by your worries, your projects.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:02.70,0:08:05.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You breathe as a free person,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:05.16,0:08:07.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you walk as a free person.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:08.74,0:08:14.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you are to make a decision,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:14.18,0:08:16.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the decision will be good
Dialogue: 0,0:08:16.64,0:08:18.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because you are not influenced
Dialogue: 0,0:08:18.76,0:08:21.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by your fear, your anger.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:22.23,0:08:24.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you make a decision
Dialogue: 0,0:08:24.26,0:08:27.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you are angry or fearful
Dialogue: 0,0:08:27.04,0:08:29.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is not a good one.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:29.73,0:08:32.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But when you are free
Dialogue: 0,0:08:32.85,0:08:36.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,free from anger, from fear,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:36.87,0:08:39.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from jealousy, from hate,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:39.62,0:08:42.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from the past, from the future,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:42.12,0:08:45.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then you can make the best kind of decision.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:45.100,0:08:51.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Next time when you are to make a decision,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:51.01,0:08:53.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,restore your freedom
Dialogue: 0,0:08:53.08,0:08:55.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by the practice of mindful breathing,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:55.30,0:08:57.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mindful walking,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:57.81,0:08:59.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and in that state of being free,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:59.94,0:09:02.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can make a good decision
Dialogue: 0,0:09:02.29,0:09:05.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for you and for other people.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:09.31,0:09:17.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you spend 2 hours with your computer,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:17.98,0:09:23.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you forget entirely that you have a body.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:23.72,0:09:30.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,During that time, you are absorbed in your work,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:30.21,0:09:33.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and your mind is not with your body.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:39.68,0:09:42.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You are not alive, truly alive,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:42.48,0:09:44.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,during that moment.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:45.31,0:09:50.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You are lost in your work, your projects,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:50.85,0:09:54.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your thinking, your planning.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:00.71,0:10:04.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In Plum Village, many of us
Dialogue: 0,0:10:04.79,0:10:10.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have a bell of mindfulness in our computer
Dialogue: 0,0:10:10.27,0:10:14.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and every quarter of an hour,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:14.29,0:10:17.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you hear the bell of mindfulness
Dialogue: 0,0:10:17.31,0:10:19.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you stop working,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:19.63,0:10:21.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you go back to your body,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:21.86,0:10:24.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by the way of mindful breathing,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:24.48,0:10:26.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you feel alive again,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:26.87,0:10:29.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you bring your mind home to your body,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:29.54,0:10:32.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you enjoy breathing in and out,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:32.04,0:10:34.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you become fully alive,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:34.47,0:10:36.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you smile to life,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:36.77,0:10:39.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and after that you continue your work.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:40.30,0:10:45.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that is a good way not to be pulled away
Dialogue: 0,0:10:45.92,0:10:50.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for a long time
Dialogue: 0,0:10:50.99,0:10:53.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from the present moment.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:53.06,0:10:54.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ant that helps you
Dialogue: 0,0:10:54.56,0:10:58.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to release the tension in your body
Dialogue: 0,0:10:58.78,0:11:02.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and keep your freshness,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:02.94,0:11:06.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,keep your joy and happiness.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:08.06,0:11:10.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The bell of mindfulness
Dialogue: 0,0:11:10.83,0:11:14.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is a call
Dialogue: 0,0:11:14.30,0:11:19.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,calling you back to the present moment
Dialogue: 0,0:11:19.02,0:11:23.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for you to be alive
Dialogue: 0,0:11:23.33,0:11:24.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for you to be free
Dialogue: 0,0:11:24.97,0:11:26.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to get in touch
Dialogue: 0,0:11:26.23,0:11:28.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with the wonders of life that are available
Dialogue: 0,0:11:28.46,0:11:30.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the here and in the now.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:36.03,0:11:40.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I do mindful movements,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:40.53,0:11:44.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it is not my intention to have good health,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:44.27,0:11:48.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I just enjoy having a body
Dialogue: 0,0:11:48.58,0:11:51.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I enjoy the movements.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:53.11,0:11:57.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So joy, happiness is available
Dialogue: 0,0:11:57.38,0:12:01.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,during the time I practice these mindful movements.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:01.41,0:12:04.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You do it for your own enjoyment,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:04.70,0:12:10.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not for your health or anything else.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:10.15,0:12:17.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So from the parking lot, walking to your office,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:17.24,0:12:20.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you might like to walk in such a way,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:20.48,0:12:24.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that every step can release the tension in your body,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:24.92,0:12:30.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,every step can bring you home to the here and now
Dialogue: 0,0:12:30.25,0:12:34.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that you can touch the wonders of life
Dialogue: 0,0:12:34.55,0:12:37.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,available in you and around you.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:43.42,0:12:49.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If one inbreath can bring you home to your body,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:49.50,0:12:52.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the here and now,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:52.32,0:12:55.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then one step you make can also bring you home
Dialogue: 0,0:12:55.25,0:12:57.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the here and now.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:57.86,0:13:01.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You arrive in the here and now with every step.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:02.94,0:13:07.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your destination is not the office, the workplace.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:07.08,0:13:10.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your destination is in the here and now.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:10.45,0:13:13.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And every breath, every step brings you home
Dialogue: 0,0:13:13.69,0:13:16.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the here and now so that you can
Dialogue: 0,0:13:16.48,0:13:18.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,be alive.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:19.64,0:13:25.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because we know that the past is already gone,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:25.65,0:13:28.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the future is not yet there.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:29.50,0:13:31.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is only one moment
Dialogue: 0,0:13:31.44,0:13:33.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you can be truly alive.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:33.38,0:13:35.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is the present moment.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:36.52,0:13:39.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you have an appointment with life
Dialogue: 0,0:13:39.19,0:13:41.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the present moment.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:41.18,0:13:43.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you miss the present moment
Dialogue: 0,0:13:43.08,0:13:45.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you miss your appointment with life.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:45.35,0:13:47.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Which is very serious.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:48.20,0:13:50.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You run to the future,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:50.75,0:13:52.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you take refuge in the past,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:52.86,0:13:56.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you miss the present moment.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:56.24,0:14:00.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are those of us who are caught in the past
Dialogue: 0,0:14:00.16,0:14:02.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who have no capacity to get out
Dialogue: 0,0:14:02.64,0:14:04.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of the prison of the past
Dialogue: 0,0:14:04.49,0:14:09.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to enjoy life in the present moment.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:09.12,0:14:11.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are those of us who are caught
Dialogue: 0,0:14:11.42,0:14:13.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the prison of the future
Dialogue: 0,0:14:13.28,0:14:15.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who only think of the future.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:15.67,0:14:18.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we don't think that happiness is possible
Dialogue: 0,0:14:18.08,0:14:21.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the present moment.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:21.18,0:14:24.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the basic practice is to always go home
Dialogue: 0,0:14:24.32,0:14:27.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the here and the now.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:28.22,0:14:30.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the practice of mindful breathing,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:30.78,0:14:32.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mindful walking,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:32.43,0:14:36.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can bring you home to the here and the now.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:36.01,0:14:39.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Body and mind together so that you can touch
Dialogue: 0,0:14:39.15,0:14:41.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the wonders of life that have the power
Dialogue: 0,0:14:41.83,0:14:45.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to nourish and transform you, to heal you.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:50.08,0:14:54.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that is why, when we come to Plum Village,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:54.38,0:14:58.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we should learn to master the art of breathing
Dialogue: 0,0:14:58.87,0:15:00.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and walking.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:01.24,0:15:04.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These two practices can help us
Dialogue: 0,0:15:04.81,0:15:08.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be free from the past and the future
Dialogue: 0,0:15:08.48,0:15:15.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to live deeply every moment that is given to us.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:16.29,0:15:19.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So from the parking lot, walking to your office,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:19.86,0:15:22.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you walk in such a way that each step
Dialogue: 0,0:15:22.77,0:15:26.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,makes you a free person. You enjoy every step.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:26.70,0:15:30.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Every step brings you to the here and the now
Dialogue: 0,0:15:30.60,0:15:35.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that you can get in touch with the blue sky,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:35.68,0:15:39.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the beautiful trees, the songs of the birds.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:41.53,0:15:43.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Every wonder of life is available
Dialogue: 0,0:15:43.93,0:15:46.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the here and the now.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:46.23,0:15:49.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And walking like that, you release the tension
Dialogue: 0,0:15:49.14,0:15:52.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in your body with every step
Dialogue: 0,0:15:52.39,0:15:55.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You don't need extra time to practice meditation,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:55.30,0:15:56.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,walking meditation,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:56.89,0:15:59.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because from the parking lot to your office,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:59.82,0:16:02.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can walk like that as a free person.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:03.78,0:16:06.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You stop all the thinking together,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:06.69,0:16:09.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you just enjoy every step, and
Dialogue: 0,0:16:09.31,0:16:11.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you just feel
Dialogue: 0,0:16:11.47,0:16:15.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the presence of the wonders of life
Dialogue: 0,0:16:15.57,0:16:18.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in yourself and around you.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:18.40,0:16:21.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And every one of us can practice like that.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:28.04,0:16:33.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Last time, we have learned the 7th ad the 8th
Dialogue: 0,0:16:33.83,0:16:37.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,exercise of mindful breathing.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:37.44,0:16:40.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you remember the 7th exercise
Dialogue: 0,0:16:40.81,0:16:43.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of mindful breathing is to recognize
Dialogue: 0,0:16:43.86,0:16:47.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a painful feeling that is coming up.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:48.63,0:16:53.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Breathing in, I'm aware of the pain within myself.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:56.60,0:17:02.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Breathing out, I smile to the pain within myself.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:02.85,0:17:05.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is the 7th exercise.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:24.41,0:17:38.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"aware of pain"
Dialogue: 0,0:17:41.69,0:17:45.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is a painful feeling coming up.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:48.65,0:17:51.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know it.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:52.37,0:17:58.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And as a practitioner, you know how to handle
Dialogue: 0,0:17:58.23,0:18:01.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a painful feeling.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:01.96,0:18:06.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The 7th exercise is to recognize the feeling.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:06.54,0:18:09.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You do not try to run away from it
Dialogue: 0,0:18:09.67,0:18:12.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like many people.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:12.81,0:18:17.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You have to be there for your pain.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:17.59,0:18:20.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Most of us are afraid to be overwhelmed
Dialogue: 0,0:18:20.82,0:18:24.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by the pain inside.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:24.27,0:18:28.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The painful feeling the painful emotion,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:28.75,0:18:32.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not many of us know how to handle
Dialogue: 0,0:18:32.66,0:18:36.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a painful feeling, a painful emotion.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:36.25,0:18:39.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And most of us try to run away
Dialogue: 0,0:18:39.36,0:18:47.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or to cover them up with consumptions.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:49.15,0:18:56.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We use music, newspapers, television, internet
Dialogue: 0,0:18:56.30,0:18:59.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to cover up the pain in us.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:00.20,0:19:02.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We do not have the courage
Dialogue: 0,0:19:02.44,0:19:07.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to face, to recognize the pain in us.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:07.12,0:19:10.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the practitioner does not do like that.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:10.98,0:19:13.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He practices mindful breathing,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:13.58,0:19:17.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he practices mindful walking
Dialogue: 0,0:19:17.05,0:19:20.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and generating the energy of mindfulness.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:20.09,0:19:22.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And with that energy of mindfulness,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:22.32,0:19:24.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he's stronger.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:24.63,0:19:27.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He can go home to himself
Dialogue: 0,0:19:27.86,0:19:31.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and recognize the pain, and embrace it
Dialogue: 0,0:19:31.83,0:19:36.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like a mother embracing her ailing baby.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:37.68,0:19:39.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the 7th exercise is:
Dialogue: 0,0:19:39.80,0:19:43.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Breathing in, I am aware of the painful feeling in me,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:43.44,0:19:49.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,breathing out, I embrace the painful feeling in me."
Dialogue: 0,0:19:50.65,0:19:55.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is the energy of pain
Dialogue: 0,0:19:59.28,0:20:03.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there is the energy of mindfulness
Dialogue: 0,0:20:03.28,0:20:08.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,generated by the practice
Dialogue: 0,0:20:08.21,0:20:11.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of breathing or walking.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:12.54,0:20:18.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So it is the second energy
Dialogue: 0,0:20:18.35,0:20:22.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is recognizing the first energy.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:23.49,0:20:27.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is the 7th exercise of mindful breathing
Dialogue: 0,0:20:27.24,0:20:29.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,proposed by the Buddha.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:29.91,0:20:37.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Breathing in, I know that a painful feeling is in me.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:37.60,0:20:42.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Breathing out, I smile, I recognize
Dialogue: 0,0:20:42.21,0:20:46.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the painful feeling in me.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:48.20,0:20:53.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the 8th exercise
Dialogue: 0,0:20:53.47,0:21:00.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is to calm down
Dialogue: 0,0:21:00.39,0:21:03.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the painful feeling
Dialogue: 0,0:21:04.33,0:21:09.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the way a mother is holding her ailing baby.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:10.66,0:21:13.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So mindfulness is a kind mother,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:13.63,0:21:16.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or big brother, or big sister,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:16.02,0:21:19.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,holding the child of suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:24.99,0:21:28.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The first thing you do is
Dialogue: 0,0:21:28.80,0:21:32.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to use the energy of mindfulness
Dialogue: 0,0:21:32.19,0:21:35.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to recognize the pain.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:35.56,0:21:37.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the second thing you do
Dialogue: 0,0:21:37.38,0:21:41.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is to embrace your pain tenderly,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:42.93,0:21:46.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like a mother holding her baby.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:49.68,0:21:55.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A mother has the energy of tenderness,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:55.05,0:21:57.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that energy of tenderness penetrates
Dialogue: 0,0:21:57.37,0:22:00.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,into the body of the baby.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:00.27,0:22:02.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The baby suffers less.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:02.44,0:22:08.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,After a few minutes,
Dialogue: 0,0:22:08.89,0:22:13.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the baby may stop crying,
Dialogue: 0,0:22:13.96,0:22:17.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because the energy of tenderness has
Dialogue: 0,0:22:17.26,0:22:21.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,penetrated into the energy of pain.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:26.91,0:22:31.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So with the practitioner who knows how to
Dialogue: 0,0:22:31.18,0:22:32.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,generate the energies
Dialogue: 0,0:22:32.91,0:22:35.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of mindfulness and concentration,
Dialogue: 0,0:22:35.55,0:22:38.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it is possible to recognize,
Dialogue: 0,0:22:38.42,0:22:41.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,embrace the pain,
Dialogue: 0,0:22:41.28,0:22:43.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and calm it down.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:44.56,0:22:46.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,By the practice of mindful breathing,
Dialogue: 0,0:22:46.94,0:22:49.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mindful walking,
Dialogue: 0,0:22:49.70,0:22:51.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can stay with your pain,
Dialogue: 0,0:22:51.80,0:22:54.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you can calm it down.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:55.55,0:22:58.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you are not overwhelmed by the pain,
Dialogue: 0,0:22:58.17,0:23:02.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because you do have a kind of energy,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:02.27,0:23:04.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that has the power to recognize
Dialogue: 0,0:23:04.46,0:23:06.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to embrace.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:08.70,0:23:11.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And everyone can generate the energies
Dialogue: 0,0:23:11.35,0:23:15.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of mindfulness and concentration
Dialogue: 0,0:23:15.37,0:23:17.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with the practices of mindful breathing,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:17.62,0:23:19.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mindful walking.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:19.87,0:23:21.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Mindfulness of breathing,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:21.92,0:23:23.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mindfulness of walking -
Dialogue: 0,0:23:23.97,0:23:25.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is the practice.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:31.30,0:23:34.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,After having held the baby for a few minutes,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:34.90,0:23:37.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and helping the baby to suffer less,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:37.95,0:23:40.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the mother can find out
Dialogue: 0,0:23:40.60,0:23:43.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what is wrong with the baby.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:44.38,0:23:46.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The baby may have a fever,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:46.93,0:23:52.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or the baby may be hungry.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:54.90,0:23:58.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,After having discovered that,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:58.50,0:24:02.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the mother can change the situation very quickly.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:03.46,0:24:05.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And after having used the energies
Dialogue: 0,0:24:05.91,0:24:08.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of mindfulness and concentration
Dialogue: 0,0:24:08.56,0:24:12.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to embrace your pain and calm it down,
Dialogue: 0,0:24:12.26,0:24:17.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you get the insight as to why
Dialogue: 0,0:24:17.67,0:24:21.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there is that kind of pain in yourself.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:21.77,0:24:25.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you can find the roots of the pain in yourself.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:26.22,0:24:29.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And with the other exercise that follows,
Dialogue: 0,0:24:29.67,0:24:32.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can very well transform the pain in you
Dialogue: 0,0:24:32.76,0:24:36.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,into something more positive.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:39.63,0:24:45.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we have the exercises nr. 9, 10, 11, 12
Dialogue: 0,0:24:49.84,0:24:52.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But you are curious to know
Dialogue: 0,0:24:52.73,0:24:55.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what is the exercise number 6,
Dialogue: 0,0:24:59.40,0:25:03.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and what is the exercise number 5.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:04.17,0:25:12.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Exercise nr. 5 is to generate a feeling of joy.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:17.66,0:25:20.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Generate joy.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:23.62,0:25:31.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the 6th is to generate happiness.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:33.08,0:25:38.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A good practitioner can always
Dialogue: 0,0:25:38.03,0:25:42.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,bring about a feeling of joy
Dialogue: 0,0:25:42.05,0:25:44.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whenever she wants.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:45.16,0:25:47.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A good practitioner can always
Dialogue: 0,0:25:47.30,0:25:49.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,generate a feeling of happiness
Dialogue: 0,0:25:49.85,0:25:52.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whenever he wants.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:52.79,0:25:54.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And how?
Dialogue: 0,0:25:55.09,0:25:57.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's not too difficult.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:57.99,0:26:01.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because when you practice mindful breathing,
Dialogue: 0,0:26:01.22,0:26:04.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you breathe in, and you bring
Dialogue: 0,0:26:04.54,0:26:10.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your mind home to your body,
Dialogue: 0,0:26:10.25,0:26:13.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you become fully present in the here and the now.
Dialogue: 0,0:26:17.58,0:26:19.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You realize what we call
Dialogue: 0,0:26:19.04,0:26:21.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the oneness of body and mind.
Dialogue: 0,0:26:21.46,0:26:24.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Mind and body are together.
Dialogue: 0,0:26:24.46,0:26:26.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when your mind is with your body,
Dialogue: 0,0:26:26.90,0:26:30.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you are established in the here and the now.
Dialogue: 0,0:26:31.53,0:26:33.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's the first step.
Dialogue: 0,0:26:34.12,0:26:36.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when you are established
Dialogue: 0,0:26:36.23,0:26:38.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the here and the now,
Dialogue: 0,0:26:38.34,0:26:41.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you are in a position to recognize
Dialogue: 0,0:26:41.52,0:26:43.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the many wonders of life,
Dialogue: 0,0:26:43.89,0:26:46.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the many conditions of happiness
Dialogue: 0,0:26:46.05,0:26:48.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you already have.
Dialogue: 0,0:26:53.92,0:26:56.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And most of us do not believe that happiness
Dialogue: 0,0:26:56.58,0:26:58.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is possible in the here and the now.
Dialogue: 0,0:26:58.96,0:27:04.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We need to run to the future in order to get some more.
Dialogue: 0,0:27:04.43,0:27:08.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that is why we sacrifice the present moment
Dialogue: 0,0:27:08.63,0:27:12.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for the sake of the future.
Dialogue: 0,0:27:12.82,0:27:15.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But going home to the here and now,
Dialogue: 0,0:27:15.60,0:27:19.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you will be able to recognize the many
Dialogue: 0,0:27:19.30,0:27:23.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,conditions of happiness that are already available to you.
Dialogue: 0,0:27:23.77,0:27:27.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,More than enough for you to be happy
Dialogue: 0,0:27:27.23,0:27:28.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the here and the now.
Dialogue: 0,0:27:28.94,0:27:32.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,More... than enough.
Dialogue: 0,0:27:32.10,0:27:38.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The French have a song about that.
Dialogue: 0,0:27:38.04,0:27:41.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Qu'est-ce qu'on attend pour être heureux?"
Dialogue: 0,0:27:41.92,0:27:45.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why do we have to wait in order to be happy?
Dialogue: 0,0:27:45.23,0:27:47.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because in the here and the now,
Dialogue: 0,0:27:47.89,0:27:50.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there are so many conditions of happiness
Dialogue: 0,0:27:50.76,0:27:53.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that are already available!
Dialogue: 0,0:27:53.36,0:27:55.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Take a piece of paper and write down
Dialogue: 0,0:27:55.58,0:27:58.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the conditions of happiness that you have
Dialogue: 0,0:27:58.54,0:28:01.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you will see that one page is not enough,
Dialogue: 0,0:28:01.47,0:28:03.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,two pages are not enough,
Dialogue: 0,0:28:03.25,0:28:05.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,three pages are not enough.
Dialogue: 0,0:28:05.08,0:28:08.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You are luckier than many people in the world.
Dialogue: 0,0:28:08.23,0:28:10.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you are not happy in the here and now,
Dialogue: 0,0:28:10.67,0:28:12.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's your fault.
Dialogue: 0,0:28:12.43,0:28:16.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because you are not there in order to recognize them.
Dialogue: 0,0:28:16.59,0:28:21.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So to generate a feeling of joy is always possible
Dialogue: 0,0:28:21.40,0:28:24.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you touch the conditions of happiness
Dialogue: 0,0:28:24.13,0:28:27.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that are already available to you.
Dialogue: 0,0:28:27.67,0:28:32.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your eyes, still in good condition, is already
Dialogue: 0,0:28:32.88,0:28:35.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a condition of happiness.
Dialogue: 0,0:28:35.30,0:28:37.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You just open your eyes
Dialogue: 0,0:28:37.73,0:28:42.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you see the face of your beloved one,
Dialogue: 0,0:28:42.03,0:28:44.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you see the blue sky,
Dialogue: 0,0:28:44.09,0:28:46.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you see the trees,
Dialogue: 0,0:28:46.29,0:28:50.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you see the hills, you see the river
Dialogue: 0,0:28:50.98,0:28:53.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the stars.
Dialogue: 0,0:28:53.86,0:28:57.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So your eyes is one condition of happiness.
Dialogue: 0,0:28:57.86,0:29:00.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And there are plenty of them in your body,
Dialogue: 0,0:29:00.66,0:29:02.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(conditions of happiness),
Dialogue: 0,0:29:02.39,0:29:04.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there are plenty around you,
Dialogue: 0,0:29:04.88,0:29:06.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and if you are in the here and now,
Dialogue: 0,0:29:06.99,0:29:10.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can touch many of them, and to generate
Dialogue: 0,0:29:10.11,0:29:12.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a feeling of joy or happiness is something
Dialogue: 0,0:29:12.29,0:29:16.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,very easy to do at any time.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:17.32,0:29:19.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Good condition that you have some
Dialogue: 0,0:29:19.70,0:29:22.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mindfulness and concentration in you.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:22.56,0:29:25.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you know very well that to have that
Dialogue: 0,0:29:25.07,0:29:28.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,energy of mindfulness and concentration,
Dialogue: 0,0:29:28.72,0:29:32.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can practice mindful breathing, mindful walking.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:35.54,0:29:41.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So that is the 5th exercise of mindful breathing.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:43.50,0:29:48.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to generate a feeling of joy whenever you want.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:48.53,0:29:51.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The 6th exercise is to generate
Dialogue: 0,0:29:51.32,0:29:55.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a feeling of happiness whenever you want.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:55.50,0:29:58.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this is the art of happiness.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:58.98,0:30:01.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Creating moments of joy,
Dialogue: 0,0:30:01.16,0:30:04.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Creating moments of happiness for you
Dialogue: 0,0:30:04.41,0:30:07.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and for the other person.
Dialogue: 0,0:30:09.26,0:30:12.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you are not joyful, if you are not happy,
Dialogue: 0,0:30:12.34,0:30:16.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you do not have much to offer to him or to her.
Dialogue: 0,0:30:18.76,0:30:23.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So to practice generating joy and happiness for you,
Dialogue: 0,0:30:23.47,0:30:27.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have something to offer to him or to her.
Dialogue: 0,0:30:27.61,0:30:31.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the next two exercises:
Dialogue: 0,0:30:31.32,0:30:34.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to become aware of the painful feeling
Dialogue: 0,0:30:34.12,0:30:35.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to calm it down,
Dialogue: 0,0:30:35.80,0:30:39.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is the art of suffering, the art of
Dialogue: 0,0:30:39.28,0:30:42.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,handling suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:30:43.70,0:30:46.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we have learned last time that
Dialogue: 0,0:30:46.48,0:30:48.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if we know how to suffer,
Dialogue: 0,0:30:48.71,0:30:52.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we suffer much less.
Dialogue: 0,0:30:52.89,0:30:55.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are not overwhelmed by the suffering,
Dialogue: 0,0:30:55.69,0:30:58.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because we know how to use the energies
Dialogue: 0,0:30:58.65,0:31:00.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of mindfulness and concentration
Dialogue: 0,0:31:00.91,0:31:03.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to recognize the pain and to embrace it
Dialogue: 0,0:31:03.44,0:31:05.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to calm it down.
Dialogue: 0,0:31:05.84,0:31:09.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's clear that if you know how to suffer,
Dialogue: 0,0:31:09.17,0:31:13.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you suffer much less. And you can go further.
Dialogue: 0,0:31:13.04,0:31:15.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can make good use of the suffering
Dialogue: 0,0:31:15.40,0:31:19.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to create happiness - the way
Dialogue: 0,0:31:19.09,0:31:22.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we use mud in order to grow lotus flowers.
Dialogue: 0,0:31:25.79,0:31:28.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it is an art,
Dialogue: 0,0:31:28.41,0:31:31.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the art to generate happiness,
Dialogue: 0,0:31:31.03,0:31:34.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the art of handling suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:31:47.46,0:31:54.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The 4th exercise, and the 3rd, is about the body.
Dialogue: 0,0:32:00.50,0:32:05.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These 4 exercises are about the feelings.
Dialogue: 0,0:32:07.73,0:32:10.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Pleasant feeling, pleasant feeling
Dialogue: 0,0:32:10.99,0:32:13.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,painful feeling, painful feeling.
Dialogue: 0,0:32:14.70,0:32:17.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How to generate pleasant feelings,
Dialogue: 0,0:32:17.29,0:32:21.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how to handle unpleasant feelings.
Dialogue: 0,0:32:21.74,0:32:24.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The 3rd exercise is to recognize,
Dialogue: 0,0:32:24.99,0:32:27.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be aware of your body.
Dialogue: 0,0:32:32.22,0:32:36.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Breathing in, I am aware of my body.
Dialogue: 0,0:32:36.70,0:32:39.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Breathing in, I know I have a body.
Dialogue: 0,0:32:41.21,0:32:43.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Awareness of body.
Dialogue: 0,0:32:43.48,0:32:45.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You bring your mind home,
Dialogue: 0,0:32:45.23,0:32:49.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you recognize the existence of your body.
Dialogue: 0,0:32:49.81,0:32:52.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's like you go home
Dialogue: 0,0:32:52.62,0:32:55.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you recognize the feeling of pain.
Dialogue: 0,0:32:57.57,0:33:02.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But here, to recognize the presence of your body.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:04.04,0:33:06.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when you are home to your body,
Dialogue: 0,0:33:06.06,0:33:11.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you might notice that there is tension,
Dialogue: 0,0:33:11.20,0:33:15.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,stress, and pain in your body.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:17.61,0:33:30.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because you may have allowed
Dialogue: 0,0:33:30.18,0:33:35.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the tension to be accumulated in your body.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:35.92,0:33:42.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You have been working your body very hard,
Dialogue: 0,0:33:42.92,0:33:46.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and tension, pain accumulated in your body
Dialogue: 0,0:33:46.65,0:33:49.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,make you suffer.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:49.46,0:33:53.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is why the 3rd exercise of mindful breathing
Dialogue: 0,0:33:53.16,0:33:55.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is to go home to your body
Dialogue: 0,0:33:55.66,0:33:58.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and be aware of your body.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:59.84,0:34:03.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when you are with your body, you might notice
Dialogue: 0,0:34:03.52,0:34:07.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that there is tension and pain in it -
Dialogue: 0,0:34:07.50,0:34:12.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is why you have to use the 4th exercise -
Dialogue: 0,0:34:12.37,0:34:15.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to release the tension in your body.
Dialogue: 0,0:34:15.49,0:34:18.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Calming the body.
Dialogue: 0,0:34:24.92,0:34:27.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the method is exactly the same.
Dialogue: 0,0:34:27.80,0:34:31.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Here, you are aware of the painful feeling,
Dialogue: 0,0:34:31.69,0:34:35.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you calm down the painful feeling.
Dialogue: 0,0:34:35.40,0:34:38.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,On this side, you are aware of your body,
Dialogue: 0,0:34:38.25,0:34:41.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then you practice mindful breathing,
Dialogue: 0,0:34:41.60,0:34:47.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to calm your body, to release the tension in your body.
Dialogue: 0,0:34:47.61,0:34:50.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is the praxis of relaxation -
Dialogue: 0,0:34:50.29,0:34:53.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,releasing the tension in the body.
Dialogue: 0,0:34:54.17,0:35:03.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These 4 exercises are to take care of our body
Dialogue: 0,0:35:07.53,0:35:10.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,while the other exercises
Dialogue: 0,0:35:10.47,0:35:13.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are to take care of our feelings.
Dialogue: 0,0:35:15.02,0:35:25.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The first one is recognizing,
Dialogue: 0,0:35:25.31,0:35:28.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be aware of your inbreath and outbreath.
Dialogue: 0,0:35:29.92,0:35:35.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Breathing in, I am aware of my inbreath.
Dialogue: 0,0:35:38.42,0:35:43.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Breathing out, I am aware of my outbreath.
Dialogue: 0,0:35:43.62,0:35:47.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Recognizing your inbreath and your outbreath.
Dialogue: 0,0:35:47.16,0:35:51.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is the first exercise.
Dialogue: 0,0:35:51.07,0:35:56.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Every beginner of meditation practices that.
Dialogue: 0,0:35:56.80,0:36:00.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's very easy, but it's very deep.
Dialogue: 0,0:36:00.73,0:36:03.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because if you really focus your attention
Dialogue: 0,0:36:03.32,0:36:05.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on your inbreath and your outbreath,
Dialogue: 0,0:36:05.40,0:36:07.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you release everything else,
Dialogue: 0,0:36:07.54,0:36:09.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you become a free person.
Dialogue: 0,0:36:09.88,0:36:15.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just paying attention to your inbreath and outbreath
Dialogue: 0,0:36:15.97,0:36:18.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can bring great results.
Dialogue: 0,0:36:22.12,0:36:24.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the 2nd exercise of mindful breating
Dialogue: 0,0:36:24.84,0:36:30.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is to follow your inbreath
Dialogue: 0,0:36:30.14,0:36:32.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and your outbreath.
Dialogue: 0,0:36:33.64,0:36:36.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Suppose this marker represents
Dialogue: 0,0:36:36.02,0:36:37.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the length of your inbreath.
Dialogue: 0,0:36:37.79,0:36:40.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It begins here and it ends here.
Dialogue: 0,0:36:40.14,0:36:42.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe 3, 4 seconds.
Dialogue: 0,0:36:42.49,0:36:45.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And suppose this finger is your mind.
Dialogue: 0,0:36:45.45,0:36:48.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I begin to breathe in.
Dialogue: 0,0:36:48.27,0:36:51.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Breathing in, I follow
Dialogue: 0,0:36:51.86,0:36:55.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my inbreath all the way through.
Dialogue: 0,0:36:57.56,0:37:02.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Breathing out, I follow my outbreath all the way through.
Dialogue: 0,0:37:02.14,0:37:06.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My finger sticks to the marker, my mind
Dialogue: 0,0:37:06.52,0:37:10.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,follows very closely my inbreath and outbreath.
Dialogue: 0,0:37:10.68,0:37:13.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is no interruption.
Dialogue: 0,0:37:13.57,0:37:17.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And breathing like that makes your mindfulness
Dialogue: 0,0:37:17.02,0:37:21.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and concentration more solid, deeper.
Dialogue: 0,0:37:22.32,0:37:26.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you are more mindful,
Dialogue: 0,0:37:26.16,0:37:28.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you are more concentrated,
Dialogue: 0,0:37:28.79,0:37:32.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then the pleasure of breathing
Dialogue: 0,0:37:32.29,0:37:33.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,will be greater.
Dialogue: 0,0:37:34.00,0:37:39.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because breathing in and out can be very pleasant.
Dialogue: 0,0:37:39.45,0:37:41.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you suffer when you breathe in,
Dialogue: 0,0:37:41.94,0:37:45.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's not good practice.
Dialogue: 0,0:37:45.05,0:37:48.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when you breathe in and you feel
Dialogue: 0,0:37:48.59,0:37:50.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,pleasant, wonderful,
Dialogue: 0,0:37:50.74,0:37:52.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you enjoy your inbreath,
Dialogue: 0,0:37:52.89,0:37:55.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know that is good practice.
Dialogue: 0,0:37:58.91,0:38:06.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To breathe and to be aware that you are alive
Dialogue: 0,0:38:06.50,0:38:10.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that can already bring you a lot of happiness
Dialogue: 0,0:38:10.27,0:38:13.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because a person who is already dead
Dialogue: 0,0:38:13.58,0:38:17.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,does not breathe in anymore.
Dialogue: 0,0:38:17.89,0:38:21.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As I breathe in, I know I am alive.
Dialogue: 0,0:38:21.95,0:38:24.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And to be alive is a miracle -
Dialogue: 0,0:38:24.84,0:38:28.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it is the greatest of all miracles.
Dialogue: 0,0:38:28.83,0:38:32.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that insight alone can bring happiness.
Dialogue: 0,0:38:32.92,0:38:34.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just to sit there and breathe
Dialogue: 0,0:38:34.97,0:38:37.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can make you happy already.
Dialogue: 0,0:38:37.82,0:38:41.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the very first exercise of mindful breathing
Dialogue: 0,0:38:41.60,0:38:47.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can already generate mindfulness, concentration
Dialogue: 0,0:38:47.29,0:38:49.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and bring you a lot of happiness
Dialogue: 0,0:38:49.62,0:38:52.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whether you are sitting on the grass
Dialogue: 0,0:38:52.43,0:38:58.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or you are sitting at the foot of a tree
Dialogue: 0,0:38:58.25,0:39:01.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and breathe in with mindfulness and concentration
Dialogue: 0,0:39:01.90,0:39:05.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can be a happy person just breathing in and out.
Dialogue: 0,0:39:06.75,0:39:09.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sitting on the bus, sitting on the train also,
Dialogue: 0,0:39:09.94,0:39:12.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,instead of thinking of this and that,
Dialogue: 0,0:39:12.76,0:39:16.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you enjoy breathing in and out
Dialogue: 0,0:39:16.00,0:39:19.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you enjoy the landscape.
Dialogue: 0,0:39:47.01,0:39:50.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One week in Plum Village is enough
Dialogue: 0,0:39:50.77,0:39:55.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for you to learn, to train yourself in the art
Dialogue: 0,0:39:55.86,0:39:58.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of mindful breathing and walking.
Dialogue: 0,0:40:04.22,0:40:07.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you can experience joy, happiness,
Dialogue: 0,0:40:07.06,0:40:08.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you know how to handle
Dialogue: 0,0:40:08.94,0:40:12.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the painful feeling, the painful emotion
Dialogue: 0,0:40:12.92,0:40:16.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is coming up in you.
Dialogue: 0,0:40:17.45,0:40:23.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Last time, we also spoke about listening.
Dialogue: 0,0:40:23.62,0:40:28.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We listen to our own suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:40:28.14,0:40:30.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,While you hold your suffering tenderly,
Dialogue: 0,0:40:30.86,0:40:33.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can listen to it
Dialogue: 0,0:40:33.56,0:40:38.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because you have mindfulness in you
Dialogue: 0,0:40:38.03,0:40:40.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have the energies of mindfulness
Dialogue: 0,0:40:40.13,0:40:42.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and concentration in you.
Dialogue: 0,0:40:42.56,0:40:46.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You are not afraid of the pain in you.
Dialogue: 0,0:40:47.14,0:40:50.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With that energy of mindfulness and concentration,
Dialogue: 0,0:40:50.34,0:40:53.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can look deeply into the nature
Dialogue: 0,0:40:53.22,0:40:54.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of your suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:40:56.72,0:41:00.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can listen to your own suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:41:01.94,0:41:05.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because your suffering may carry
Dialogue: 0,0:41:05.84,0:41:09.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,within itself the suffering of your father,
Dialogue: 0,0:41:09.44,0:41:13.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of your mother, of your ancestors.
Dialogue: 0,0:41:15.55,0:41:17.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And understanding your suffering,
Dialogue: 0,0:41:17.92,0:41:21.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you understand the suffering of your mother,
Dialogue: 0,0:41:21.83,0:41:26.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your father, and your ancestors.
Dialogue: 0,0:41:27.44,0:41:31.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe father and mother did not know
Dialogue: 0,0:41:31.73,0:41:34.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how to transform the suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:41:34.61,0:41:37.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that is why they have transmitted
Dialogue: 0,0:41:37.00,0:41:39.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that block of suffering to us.
Dialogue: 0,0:41:39.88,0:41:44.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we don't know why we suffer that much.
Dialogue: 0,0:41:46.58,0:41:49.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The fact is that the suffering in us
Dialogue: 0,0:41:49.54,0:41:52.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,carries within itself the suffering of our father,
Dialogue: 0,0:41:52.83,0:41:56.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our mother, our ancestors and our nation.
Dialogue: 0,0:41:57.86,0:42:00.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's sure.
Dialogue: 0,0:42:00.69,0:42:04.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that is why we need to have the time
Dialogue: 0,0:42:04.49,0:42:06.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to listen to our own suffering,
Dialogue: 0,0:42:06.70,0:42:08.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to understand.
Dialogue: 0,0:42:12.94,0:42:14.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in order to listen, you need
Dialogue: 0,0:42:14.93,0:42:17.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mindfulness and concentration.
Dialogue: 0,0:42:17.47,0:42:19.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So that you are not afraid
Dialogue: 0,0:42:19.41,0:42:20.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of being overwhelmed
Dialogue: 0,0:42:20.94,0:42:23.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by the suffering inside.
Dialogue: 0,0:42:25.42,0:42:29.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Looking deeply, and listening deeply
Dialogue: 0,0:42:29.47,0:42:32.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is the act of meditation. To meditate
Dialogue: 0,0:42:32.85,0:42:37.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is to have the time to look and to listen.
Dialogue: 0,0:42:37.86,0:42:40.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the object of meditation
Dialogue: 0,0:42:40.72,0:42:43.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is our own suffering, our own pain.
Dialogue: 0,0:42:45.14,0:42:47.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you continue to look, to listen,
Dialogue: 0,0:42:47.83,0:42:49.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to your pain, your suffering,
Dialogue: 0,0:42:49.64,0:42:52.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you come to understand.
Dialogue: 0,0:42:53.33,0:42:56.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And understanding
Dialogue: 0,0:42:56.20,0:42:59.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,will always bring compassion.
Dialogue: 0,0:43:01.99,0:43:05.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is easy enough to understand.
Dialogue: 0,0:43:05.58,0:43:10.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you look at the other person,
Dialogue: 0,0:43:10.39,0:43:13.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,deeply... and with mindfulness,
Dialogue: 0,0:43:13.93,0:43:19.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have a chance to see the suffering in him, or in her.
Dialogue: 0,0:43:20.64,0:43:23.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That person does not know how to handle
Dialogue: 0,0:43:23.40,0:43:26.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the suffering in him.
Dialogue: 0,0:43:26.43,0:43:32.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He continues to be the victim of his own suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:43:32.96,0:43:35.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He makes himself suffer, and he makes
Dialogue: 0,0:43:35.83,0:43:40.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the people around suffer, including you.
Dialogue: 0,0:43:43.70,0:43:49.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So far, no one has told him
Dialogue: 0,0:43:49.06,0:43:53.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so far, no one has helped him to understand
Dialogue: 0,0:43:53.05,0:43:57.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and transform his suffering. That is why
Dialogue: 0,0:43:57.72,0:44:00.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he continues to suffer and to make
Dialogue: 0,0:44:00.41,0:44:02.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the people around him suffer.
Dialogue: 0,0:44:02.68,0:44:06.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you suffer, you make people suffer
Dialogue: 0,0:44:06.59,0:44:10.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even the people you love.
Dialogue: 0,0:44:13.37,0:44:17.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Therefore, you should try to understand
Dialogue: 0,0:44:17.23,0:44:21.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your own suffering in order to suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,0:44:21.84,0:44:24.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because understanding always
Dialogue: 0,0:44:24.23,0:44:27.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,brings about compassion.
Dialogue: 0,0:44:27.07,0:44:29.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you look at the other person deeply,
Dialogue: 0,0:44:29.60,0:44:32.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and if you recognize the suffering in him or her,
Dialogue: 0,0:44:32.73,0:44:36.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then you see that this person is the victim
Dialogue: 0,0:44:36.14,0:44:37.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of his own suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:44:39.54,0:44:43.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And suddenly, understanding arises in you
Dialogue: 0,0:44:46.29,0:44:49.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you are not angry at him anymore.
Dialogue: 0,0:44:49.21,0:44:52.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You don't want to punish anymore.
Dialogue: 0,0:44:54.19,0:44:58.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your anger vanishes. Instead you want
Dialogue: 0,0:44:58.51,0:45:01.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to do something, to say something
Dialogue: 0,0:45:01.66,0:45:04.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to help him or her suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,0:45:05.77,0:45:08.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It means that understanding suffering
Dialogue: 0,0:45:08.40,0:45:12.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,has already brought compassion into the heart.
Dialogue: 0,0:45:12.52,0:45:14.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now you can begin to look at him
Dialogue: 0,0:45:14.98,0:45:16.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with compassion.
Dialogue: 0,0:45:16.64,0:45:18.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you don't suffer anymore.
Dialogue: 0,0:45:18.92,0:45:24.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Compassion makes it possible for you to stop suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:45:29.26,0:45:31.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is very clear that when you understand
Dialogue: 0,0:45:31.71,0:45:34.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the suffering of someone, you don't want
Dialogue: 0,0:45:34.25,0:45:40.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to punish him anymore. You want to help.
Dialogue: 0,0:45:40.36,0:45:44.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the formula is very clear.
Dialogue: 0,0:45:44.94,0:45:49.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Understanding brings compassion.
Dialogue: 0,0:45:49.28,0:45:51.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when compassion is there, you
Dialogue: 0,0:45:51.34,0:45:54.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,don't suffer anymore. No anger -
Dialogue: 0,0:45:54.39,0:45:58.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,only the intention to help.
Dialogue: 0,0:45:58.38,0:46:02.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when you look deeply into your own suffering,
Dialogue: 0,0:46:02.03,0:46:05.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you see the suffering of your father, your mother,
Dialogue: 0,0:46:05.15,0:46:08.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your ancestors and your nation,
Dialogue: 0,0:46:08.94,0:46:11.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that kind of understanding brings about
Dialogue: 0,0:46:11.78,0:46:14.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,compassion in your heart. And compassion
Dialogue: 0,0:46:14.52,0:46:20.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,begins to heal you. One thing we have to remember
Dialogue: 0,0:46:20.64,0:46:25.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Compassion can heal us.
Dialogue: 0,0:46:25.61,0:46:28.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that is why all of us should learn
Dialogue: 0,0:46:28.28,0:46:33.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how to generate the energy of compassion.
Dialogue: 0,0:46:35.11,0:46:42.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Stanford University has a committee of scientists
Dialogue: 0,0:46:42.79,0:46:48.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who study the effects of compassion.
Dialogue: 0,0:46:48.16,0:46:51.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The fact of healing by compassion.
Dialogue: 0,0:46:51.54,0:46:57.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we spent one evening working with them
Dialogue: 0,0:46:57.65,0:47:01.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about how to generate the energy of compassion
Dialogue: 0,0:47:01.72,0:47:04.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to help heal ourselves and help
Dialogue: 0,0:47:04.74,0:47:08.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,heal the other people around us.
Dialogue: 0,0:47:09.88,0:47:13.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Understanding here means understanding suffering -
Dialogue: 0,0:47:13.38,0:47:17.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your own suffering first. Because when you have
Dialogue: 0,0:47:17.35,0:47:22.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,understood your own suffering, you suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,0:47:22.07,0:47:26.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when you have understood your suffering,
Dialogue: 0,0:47:26.69,0:47:29.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's much easier to understand the suffering
Dialogue: 0,0:47:29.70,0:47:32.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of the other person.
Dialogue: 0,0:47:35.27,0:47:39.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this is possible with the practice of
Dialogue: 0,0:47:39.57,0:47:43.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,listening deeply, with compassion
Dialogue: 0,0:47:43.67,0:47:46.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and using loving speech.
Dialogue: 0,0:47:48.03,0:47:54.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You listen to yourself with compassion
Dialogue: 0,0:47:54.12,0:47:56.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you heal yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:47:56.21,0:47:58.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then you begin to listen
Dialogue: 0,0:47:58.14,0:48:00.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to him or to her with compassion,
Dialogue: 0,0:48:00.21,0:48:02.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you help heal him or her.
Dialogue: 0,0:48:11.22,0:48:19.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The practice of deep listening,
Dialogue: 0,0:48:19.97,0:48:22.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,compassionate listening,
Dialogue: 0,0:48:22.62,0:48:27.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and loving speech
Dialogue: 0,0:48:27.20,0:48:33.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can always restore communication
Dialogue: 0,0:48:33.83,0:48:36.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and bring about reconciliation.
Dialogue: 0,0:48:41.51,0:48:43.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You have to understand yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:48:43.58,0:48:45.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have to listen to yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:48:45.56,0:48:50.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have to reconcile with yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:48:50.09,0:48:54.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because there may be a deep conflict within.
Dialogue: 0,0:48:57.18,0:49:02.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And once you have been able to reconcile with yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:49:02.85,0:49:04.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can reconcile very easily
Dialogue: 0,0:49:04.78,0:49:07.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with the other person
Dialogue: 0,0:49:07.56,0:49:10.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and end the difficulties in your relationship.
Dialogue: 0,0:49:17.98,0:49:21.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The other person may have a lot of
Dialogue: 0,0:49:21.95,0:49:25.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,suffering in him.
Dialogue: 0,0:49:25.55,0:49:27.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he may have not been able to listen
Dialogue: 0,0:49:27.94,0:49:30.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to his own suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:49:30.06,0:49:34.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And maybe no one has listened to him.
Dialogue: 0,0:49:34.97,0:49:38.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you who are a practitioner,
Dialogue: 0,0:49:38.10,0:49:39.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know how to listen
Dialogue: 0,0:49:39.63,0:49:41.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to your own suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:49:41.78,0:49:44.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and now you want to listen
Dialogue: 0,0:49:44.29,0:49:47.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the suffering of the other person.
Dialogue: 0,0:49:47.98,0:49:49.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You come to him and say:
Dialogue: 0,0:49:49.87,0:49:53.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Darling, I know you have suffered quite a lot
Dialogue: 0,0:49:53.70,0:49:57.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the past many years."
Dialogue: 0,0:49:57.11,0:50:01.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this is the practice of loving speech.
Dialogue: 0,0:50:01.82,0:50:08.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tender, gentle speech, which is
Dialogue: 0,0:50:08.48,0:50:14.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the practice of the 4th mindfulness training.
Dialogue: 0,0:50:15.16,0:50:17.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You go to him or to her,
Dialogue: 0,0:50:17.66,0:50:19.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and because you have some compassion
Dialogue: 0,0:50:19.93,0:50:21.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in your heart,
Dialogue: 0,0:50:21.53,0:50:23.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have seen the suffering in him or in her,
Dialogue: 0,0:50:23.68,0:50:27.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is why you can use easily
Dialogue: 0,0:50:27.32,0:50:30.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what we call loving speech.
Dialogue: 0,0:50:30.32,0:50:32.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You say like this:
Dialogue: 0,0:50:32.23,0:50:36.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Darling, my dear friend, I know you have
Dialogue: 0,0:50:36.08,0:50:40.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,suffered quite a lot during the past many years,
Dialogue: 0,0:50:43.95,0:50:48.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was not able to help you.
Dialogue: 0,0:50:50.54,0:50:53.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In fact I have reacted in such a way
Dialogue: 0,0:50:53.60,0:50:56.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that made the situation worse.
Dialogue: 0,0:50:56.11,0:50:59.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have made you suffer more.
Dialogue: 0,0:50:59.48,0:51:01.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm sorry.
Dialogue: 0,0:51:06.37,0:51:12.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Darling, I have reacted in such a way
Dialogue: 0,0:51:12.06,0:51:15.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I did not see your suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:51:16.29,0:51:20.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I did not understand the suffering in you.
Dialogue: 0,0:51:22.63,0:51:26.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Darling, it's not my intention to make you suffer.
Dialogue: 0,0:51:27.46,0:51:29.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just because I did not understand
Dialogue: 0,0:51:29.39,0:51:31.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the suffering in you
Dialogue: 0,0:51:31.67,0:51:35.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I believe that if I understood the suffering in you,
Dialogue: 0,0:51:35.00,0:51:37.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would not react like that,
Dialogue: 0,0:51:37.56,0:51:39.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the way I have in the past.
Dialogue: 0,0:51:39.57,0:51:42.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So you've got to help me.
Dialogue: 0,0:51:44.06,0:51:47.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Please tell me what is in your heart.
Dialogue: 0,0:51:47.35,0:51:49.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Please tell me of your difficulties, your suffering,
Dialogue: 0,0:51:49.91,0:51:53.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your frustration. I want to hear.
Dialogue: 0,0:51:54.44,0:51:57.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because I know that if I understand the suffering,
Dialogue: 0,0:51:57.90,0:52:01.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I will not react the way I have in the past.
Dialogue: 0,0:52:01.76,0:52:05.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You've got to help me. If you don't help me,
Dialogue: 0,0:52:05.96,0:52:08.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who will help me?"
Dialogue: 0,0:52:08.58,0:52:11.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is the kind of speech that we must use
Dialogue: 0,0:52:11.68,0:52:15.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to open the heart of someone.
Dialogue: 0,0:52:17.22,0:52:21.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you have seen some of his suffering,
Dialogue: 0,0:52:21.50,0:52:24.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and if you have some amount of compassion
Dialogue: 0,0:52:24.87,0:52:27.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in yourself, you are capable of using that
Dialogue: 0,0:52:27.74,0:52:31.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,kind of speech that we call loving speech.
Dialogue: 0,0:52:32.51,0:52:37.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Darling, I know you have suffered quite a lot
Dialogue: 0,0:52:37.83,0:52:43.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I have reacted in such a way that made
Dialogue: 0,0:52:43.11,0:52:46.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you suffer more. I am sorry.
Dialogue: 0,0:52:47.68,0:52:51.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's not my intention to make you suffer like that.
Dialogue: 0,0:52:51.48,0:52:54.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's because I did not understand your suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:52:54.17,0:52:57.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So darling, please help me. Tell me what is
Dialogue: 0,0:52:57.77,0:53:01.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in your heart. Tell me of your suffering,
Dialogue: 0,0:53:01.26,0:53:06.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your difficulties, so that I can understand.
Dialogue: 0,0:53:07.58,0:53:10.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if we know how to use that kind of speech,
Dialogue: 0,0:53:10.29,0:53:13.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can open the heart of someone.
Dialogue: 0,0:53:13.31,0:53:15.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He or she will tell you.
Dialogue: 0,0:53:15.70,0:53:18.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And now we have a chance to practice
Dialogue: 0,0:53:18.59,0:53:21.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,deep listening, compassionate listening.
Dialogue: 0,0:53:21.84,0:53:25.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because the practice of compassionate listening
Dialogue: 0,0:53:25.77,0:53:29.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can heal... can heal a person.
Dialogue: 0,0:53:31.18,0:53:35.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One hour of practice, of listening,
Dialogue: 0,0:53:35.17,0:53:38.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can already heal the other person.
Dialogue: 0,0:53:50.44,0:53:53.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you listen,
Dialogue: 0,0:53:53.32,0:53:55.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have to practice what we call
Dialogue: 0,0:53:55.07,0:53:57.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mindfulness of compassion.
Dialogue: 0,0:53:57.81,0:54:02.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to keep compassion alive in your heart.
Dialogue: 0,0:54:02.96,0:54:05.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because if you don't train yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:54:05.24,0:54:07.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you cannot listen to him or to her.
Dialogue: 0,0:54:07.98,0:54:10.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because what the other person says,
Dialogue: 0,0:54:10.29,0:54:14.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,might trigger anger in you,
Dialogue: 0,0:54:14.44,0:54:16.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,irritation in you,
Dialogue: 0,0:54:16.56,0:54:22.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and when anger
Dialogue: 0,0:54:22.00,0:54:26.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,comes, you can no longer listen,
Dialogue: 0,0:54:26.89,0:54:29.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have lost your capacity
Dialogue: 0,0:54:29.09,0:54:30.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to listen to him or her.
Dialogue: 0,0:54:32.08,0:54:34.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because what the other person says
Dialogue: 0,0:54:34.44,0:54:37.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,might make you angry,
Dialogue: 0,0:54:37.78,0:54:47.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there may be some kind of
Dialogue: 0,0:54:47.48,0:54:53.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,bitterness, blame, accusations
Dialogue: 0,0:54:53.06,0:54:55.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that makes you angry,
Dialogue: 0,0:54:55.61,0:54:59.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you want to correct him or her,
Dialogue: 0,0:54:59.51,0:55:03.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,right away, and you transform the session
Dialogue: 0,0:55:03.03,0:55:08.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,into a debate, and you ruin everything.
Dialogue: 0,0:55:09.13,0:55:13.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is why you have to train yourself first.
Dialogue: 0,0:55:14.48,0:55:18.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You train yourself in the art of listening
Dialogue: 0,0:55:18.16,0:55:20.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to yourself.
Dialogue: 0,0:55:20.97,0:55:24.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You train yourself in order to see the suffering
Dialogue: 0,0:55:24.11,0:55:26.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in you. And then you train yourself to see
Dialogue: 0,0:55:26.82,0:55:31.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the suffering in him or in her.
Dialogue: 0,0:55:33.18,0:55:34.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you tell yourself:
Dialogue: 0,0:55:34.58,0:55:38.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am listening to him with only one purpose:
Dialogue: 0,0:55:38.16,0:55:42.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to make him suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,0:55:42.72,0:55:46.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The purpose is not to...
Dialogue: 0,0:55:46.78,0:55:52.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to find the truth,
Dialogue: 0,0:55:52.90,0:55:55.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to find out who is right or wrong.
Dialogue: 0,0:55:55.57,0:55:59.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The purpose is to help a person to suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,0:56:00.92,0:56:05.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am going to listen in such a way
Dialogue: 0,0:56:05.34,0:56:08.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that can make him suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,0:56:09.00,0:56:12.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And therefore even if he says wrong things,
Dialogue: 0,0:56:12.23,0:56:16.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if what he says is full of wrong perceptions,
Dialogue: 0,0:56:16.86,0:56:22.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if there is a lot of bitterness,
Dialogue: 0,0:56:22.42,0:56:28.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,accusation, blame, I continue to listen.
Dialogue: 0,0:56:29.41,0:56:34.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am not going to interrupt and correct him,
Dialogue: 0,0:56:34.07,0:56:39.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I know that if I did that,
Dialogue: 0,0:56:39.29,0:56:43.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I will transform the session into a debate.
Dialogue: 0,0:56:44.14,0:56:47.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I make the vow to listen.
Dialogue: 0,0:56:53.03,0:56:56.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Later on, in 3, 4, or 5 days,
Dialogue: 0,0:56:56.84,0:57:00.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I may have a chance to give him some information
Dialogue: 0,0:57:00.84,0:57:03.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that he may correct his perception
Dialogue: 0,0:57:03.56,0:57:06.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but not now. Now is only to listen.
Dialogue: 0,0:57:07.91,0:57:11.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even if he said wrong things,
Dialogue: 0,0:57:11.10,0:57:15.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if he had a lot of wrong information,
Dialogue: 0,0:57:15.20,0:57:17.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I will not stop him. Because I know
Dialogue: 0,0:57:17.81,0:57:22.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that will spoil the session. So I continue to listen
Dialogue: 0,0:57:22.71,0:57:25.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I will tell myself: "Poor fellow, he is victim
Dialogue: 0,0:57:25.34,0:57:28.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of so many wrong perceptions.
Dialogue: 0,0:57:28.55,0:57:31.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I am not going to interrupt him now,
Dialogue: 0,0:57:31.91,0:57:37.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because if I did, I spoil the session.
Dialogue: 0,0:57:37.86,0:57:43.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So you continue to listen with compassion.
Dialogue: 0,0:57:44.12,0:57:47.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know that you have time, later on,
Dialogue: 0,0:57:47.14,0:57:51.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to help him correct his perception
Dialogue: 0,0:57:51.37,0:57:57.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by offering him some information.
Dialogue: 0,0:57:57.02,0:57:59.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But not now.
Dialogue: 0,0:57:59.43,0:58:01.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you can sit there and listen
Dialogue: 0,0:58:01.17,0:58:03.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for one hour or more.
Dialogue: 0,0:58:05.44,0:58:09.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you can remember that
Dialogue: 0,0:58:09.69,0:58:13.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the only purpose of your listening is
Dialogue: 0,0:58:13.19,0:58:19.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to help him empty his heart and suffer less,
Dialogue: 0,0:58:19.74,0:58:21.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and if you can remember that,
Dialogue: 0,0:58:21.88,0:58:24.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you nourish compassion in your heart,
Dialogue: 0,0:58:24.26,0:58:27.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and compassion is going to protect you
Dialogue: 0,0:58:27.46,0:58:32.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and not allow the anger in you to be triggered.
Dialogue: 0,0:58:34.34,0:58:39.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is called mindfulness of compassion.
Dialogue: 0,0:58:40.07,0:58:42.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And during the time you listen to him or to her
Dialogue: 0,0:58:42.67,0:58:45.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,practice mindfulness of compassion
Dialogue: 0,0:58:45.69,0:58:49.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that compassion stays with you for the whole session
Dialogue: 0,0:58:49.44,0:58:52.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you are able to listen to him
Dialogue: 0,0:58:52.10,0:58:56.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one hour, one hour and a half or so.
Dialogue: 0,0:59:10.26,0:59:15.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The retreats that we offer a little bit everywhere
Dialogue: 0,0:59:15.60,0:59:19.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,usually last 6 days, or at least 5 days.
Dialogue: 0,0:59:23.37,0:59:30.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And during the first few days, we learn how to
Dialogue: 0,0:59:30.06,0:59:35.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,recognize our feelings, our emotions
Dialogue: 0,0:59:35.44,0:59:38.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we learn how to get in touch with the wonders of life.
Dialogue: 0,0:59:41.07,0:59:45.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,On the 3rd day, we begin to learn how to listen
Dialogue: 0,0:59:45.77,0:59:49.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to our suffering, and to learn about
Dialogue: 0,0:59:49.92,0:59:53.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,listening to the suffering of the other person.
Dialogue: 0,0:59:53.81,0:59:58.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,On the 5th day we try to apply the practice
Dialogue: 0,0:59:58.33,1:00:05.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of compassionate listening and loving speech
Dialogue: 0,1:00:05.32,1:00:09.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to reconcile with the other person.
Dialogue: 0,1:00:09.99,1:00:13.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If the other person is in the retreat,
Dialogue: 0,1:00:13.07,1:00:15.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is much easier,
Dialogue: 0,1:00:15.56,1:00:18.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because that person has been exposed
Dialogue: 0,1:00:18.17,1:00:22.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the teaching and the practice.
Dialogue: 0,1:00:22.25,1:00:25.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But if the other person is not in the retreat,
Dialogue: 0,1:00:25.57,1:00:28.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have the right to use your telephone
Dialogue: 0,1:00:28.38,1:00:32.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to practice deep listening and loving speech.
Dialogue: 0,1:00:34.84,1:00:38.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So on the 5th day, you are told
Dialogue: 0,1:00:38.35,1:00:41.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you have a chance to
Dialogue: 0,1:00:41.35,1:00:46.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,use the practice of compassionate listening
Dialogue: 0,1:00:46.60,1:00:51.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and loving speech in order to reconcile
Dialogue: 0,1:00:51.10,1:00:52.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with the other person.
Dialogue: 0,1:00:55.51,1:00:59.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the miracle of reconciliation always happens
Dialogue: 0,1:00:59.14,1:01:02.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in our retreats everywhere.
Dialogue: 0,1:01:07.62,1:01:10.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And on the last day of the retreat,
Dialogue: 0,1:01:10.04,1:01:13.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,many people came and reported about
Dialogue: 0,1:01:13.82,1:01:17.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the fruit of their practice.
Dialogue: 0,1:01:18.05,1:01:21.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Many had been able to reconcile with
Dialogue: 0,1:01:21.40,1:01:26.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,their husbands, their wives, their son and so on.
Dialogue: 0,1:01:27.10,1:01:34.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember that retreat in Oldenburg, north Germany.
Dialogue: 0,1:01:34.15,1:01:40.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That morning, 4 German gentlemen came to me
Dialogue: 0,1:01:40.93,1:01:44.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and reported that
Dialogue: 0,1:01:44.00,1:01:46.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the night before, they had been able
Dialogue: 0,1:01:46.06,1:01:49.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to reconcile with their father at home.
Dialogue: 0,1:01:49.57,1:01:55.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They had used the telephone in order to practice.
Dialogue: 0,1:01:55.43,1:02:03.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One of them said: "Dear Thay,
Dialogue: 0,1:02:03.64,1:02:09.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the moment I was making the phone call,
Dialogue: 0,1:02:09.70,1:02:14.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,calling my father at home, I did not believe
Dialogue: 0,1:02:14.80,1:02:23.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can succeed. Because I was very angry at him.
Dialogue: 0,1:02:23.89,1:02:28.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have made the vow never to go and see him anymore.
Dialogue: 0,1:02:32.42,1:02:35.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I did not believe that I can talk to him
Dialogue: 0,1:02:35.82,1:02:39.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the way you told us, using loving speech.
Dialogue: 0,1:02:44.83,1:02:52.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But when I heard his voice at the end of the line,
Dialogue: 0,1:02:52.80,1:02:55.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,suddenly I found myself capable
Dialogue: 0,1:02:55.42,1:02:58.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of talking to him like that.
Dialogue: 0,1:02:59.49,1:03:02.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Daddy, I know you have suffered a lot
Dialogue: 0,1:03:02.82,1:03:05.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the past many years.
Dialogue: 0,1:03:12.03,1:03:16.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was not able to help you to suffer less
Dialogue: 0,1:03:16.74,1:03:19.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I have reacted in such a way
Dialogue: 0,1:03:19.34,1:03:21.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that made you suffer more.
Dialogue: 0,1:03:21.43,1:03:23.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Daddy, I'm sorry.
Dialogue: 0,1:03:23.74,1:03:27.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's not my intention to make you suffer like that.
Dialogue: 0,1:03:28.81,1:03:31.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just because I did not see
Dialogue: 0,1:03:31.07,1:03:34.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and understand your suffering.
Dialogue: 0,1:03:35.14,1:03:38.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I believe that if I understood your suffering,
Dialogue: 0,1:03:38.34,1:03:43.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would not have reacted the way I have
Dialogue: 0,1:03:43.03,1:03:46.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and made you suffer like that.
Dialogue: 0,1:03:47.28,1:03:49.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm sorry.
Dialogue: 0,1:03:50.34,1:03:54.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Please tell me, father, of your suffering,
Dialogue: 0,1:03:54.11,1:03:57.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of your difficulties. I want to know.
Dialogue: 0,1:03:59.66,1:04:02.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because I'm sure that if I understood
Dialogue: 0,1:04:02.40,1:04:06.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your suffering, I would not behave,
Dialogue: 0,1:04:06.95,1:04:11.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would not react the way I have in the past.
Dialogue: 0,1:04:11.00,1:04:15.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Please help me.
Dialogue: 0,1:04:15.26,1:04:21.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And on the other end of the line,
Dialogue: 0,1:04:21.50,1:04:26.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the father began to cry, because his son
Dialogue: 0,1:04:26.12,1:04:30.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,has never talked to him that way.
Dialogue: 0,1:04:31.53,1:04:39.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is the result, the fruit of the practice
Dialogue: 0,1:04:39.85,1:04:44.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,called loving speech, compassionate speech.
Dialogue: 0,1:04:45.46,1:04:47.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It always works.
Dialogue: 0,1:04:50.46,1:04:56.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you have some amount of understanding
Dialogue: 0,1:04:56.25,1:04:58.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in your heart,
Dialogue: 0,1:04:58.16,1:05:01.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you can see the suffering in the other person,
Dialogue: 0,1:05:01.67,1:05:05.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can speak like that.
Dialogue: 0,1:05:07.31,1:05:11.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You need only some time to look deeply
Dialogue: 0,1:05:11.14,1:05:15.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to see the suffering in him or in her,
Dialogue: 0,1:05:15.99,1:05:18.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to see that he has been the victim
Dialogue: 0,1:05:18.54,1:05:21.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of his own suffering for a long time,
Dialogue: 0,1:05:21.17,1:05:23.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he does not need punishment.
Dialogue: 0,1:05:23.71,1:05:27.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He needs help. If you have that kind of insight
Dialogue: 0,1:05:27.02,1:05:29.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and compassion, you are surely capable
Dialogue: 0,1:05:29.76,1:05:31.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to use loving speech.
Dialogue: 0,1:05:33.02,1:05:37.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And dear Thay, I have talked with my father
Dialogue: 0,1:05:37.27,1:05:42.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for 1.5 hours, and we were able to reconcile.
Dialogue: 0,1:05:42.77,1:05:45.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you know something, dear Thay,
Dialogue: 0,1:05:45.20,1:05:51.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the first thing I will do after the retreat
Dialogue: 0,1:05:51.59,1:05:55.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is to go straight to see him -
Dialogue: 0,1:05:55.09,1:05:57.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,go to his house and visit him.
Dialogue: 0,1:06:00.77,1:06:04.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And many people in the retreat succeeded
Dialogue: 0,1:06:04.73,1:06:08.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the practice of reconciling with the other person.
Dialogue: 0,1:06:21.17,1:06:28.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you can listen to him or her,
Dialogue: 0,1:06:28.88,1:06:34.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they will be able to listen to you also,
Dialogue: 0,1:06:34.57,1:06:37.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and understand your suffering.
Dialogue: 0,1:06:42.93,1:06:48.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In Plum Village, we have in the past
Dialogue: 0,1:06:48.91,1:06:53.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sponsored groups of Israelis and Palestinians
Dialogue: 0,1:06:53.70,1:06:57.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to come practice with us
Dialogue: 0,1:06:57.00,1:06:58.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,here.
Dialogue: 0,1:06:59.68,1:07:05.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's very difficult to obtain visas for Palestinians.
Dialogue: 0,1:07:05.92,1:07:09.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We had to work closely with the foreign ministry
Dialogue: 0,1:07:09.73,1:07:12.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to get a number of visas.
Dialogue: 0,1:07:16.15,1:07:19.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when the two groups came to Plum Village,
Dialogue: 0,1:07:19.34,1:07:24.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it was very difficult in the beginning.
Dialogue: 0,1:07:24.35,1:07:28.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They did not look at each other...
Dialogue: 0,1:07:32.05,1:07:34.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I guess that when they look at each other,
Dialogue: 0,1:07:34.28,1:07:35.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they suffer.
Dialogue: 0,1:07:39.20,1:07:44.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we allowed them to stay in different places
Dialogue: 0,1:07:44.92,1:07:50.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and on the first days, we helped them to practice
Dialogue: 0,1:07:50.58,1:07:56.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to get in touch with the
Dialogue: 0,1:07:56.55,1:08:01.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,refreshing and healing elements in nature.
Dialogue: 0,1:08:01.97,1:08:07.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Walking meditation, sitting meditation, tea meditation,
Dialogue: 0,1:08:07.49,1:08:14.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mindful eating, singing songs of the Dharma
Dialogue: 0,1:08:14.14,1:08:16.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then we initiated them to the practice
Dialogue: 0,1:08:16.96,1:08:19.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of listening to their own suffering.
Dialogue: 0,1:08:19.88,1:08:23.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Listen to their own suffering.
Dialogue: 0,1:08:23.93,1:08:28.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it's only in the second week that we brought
Dialogue: 0,1:08:28.68,1:08:31.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the two groups together for the practice
Dialogue: 0,1:08:31.38,1:08:37.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of listening deeply to each other.
Dialogue: 0,1:08:37.30,1:08:43.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One group is invited to speak out.
Dialogue: 0,1:08:43.02,1:08:45.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they have been instructed that
Dialogue: 0,1:08:45.52,1:08:49.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they can tell everything about their suffering.
Dialogue: 0,1:08:49.69,1:08:52.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can tell the other group
Dialogue: 0,1:08:52.90,1:08:56.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,every kind of suffering that you have undergone.
Dialogue: 0,1:08:56.46,1:09:00.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Children and adults. You can tell them everything,
Dialogue: 0,1:09:00.09,1:09:02.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but please use a kind of speech
Dialogue: 0,1:09:02.75,1:09:05.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that can help them to understand.
Dialogue: 0,1:09:05.29,1:09:08.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't blame, don't accuse, just tell them
Dialogue: 0,1:09:08.37,1:09:13.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how you suffer - your children, your adults.
Dialogue: 0,1:09:13.21,1:09:15.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because if you use that kind of speech
Dialogue: 0,1:09:15.91,1:09:18.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you help them to understand.
Dialogue: 0,1:09:18.07,1:09:21.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The purpose is to help them to understand
Dialogue: 0,1:09:21.46,1:09:24.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your own suffering.
Dialogue: 0,1:09:25.30,1:09:29.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do not blame, do not accuse, just tell them
Dialogue: 0,1:09:29.79,1:09:34.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of your suffering The suffering you have undergone.
Dialogue: 0,1:09:34.54,1:09:38.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And with the other group,
Dialogue: 0,1:09:38.43,1:09:45.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who will be practicing deep listening,
Dialogue: 0,1:09:45.18,1:09:52.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we tell them to sit, breathe, and listen
Dialogue: 0,1:09:52.25,1:09:57.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with the practice of mindfulness of compassion.
Dialogue: 0,1:09:57.87,1:10:01.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We listen to them with only one purpose,
Dialogue: 0,1:10:01.34,1:10:04.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to help them to suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,1:10:04.04,1:10:06.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because we know that they also have
Dialogue: 0,1:10:06.12,1:10:08.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a lot of suffering in them.
Dialogue: 0,1:10:08.49,1:10:10.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the purpose of this session
Dialogue: 0,1:10:10.98,1:10:13.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is just to listen,
Dialogue: 0,1:10:13.75,1:10:19.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that they can speak out, empty their hearts,
Dialogue: 0,1:10:19.22,1:10:22.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,1:10:22.22,1:10:24.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we are not going to interrupt them,
Dialogue: 0,1:10:24.46,1:10:30.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if they have wrong information and so on.
Dialogue: 0,1:10:30.24,1:10:35.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So both groups were practicing
Dialogue: 0,1:10:35.91,1:10:38.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,loving speech
Dialogue: 0,1:10:38.23,1:10:43.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and compassionate listening.
Dialogue: 0,1:10:43.10,1:10:45.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the miracle --- CUT ---
Dialogue: 0,1:10:45.29,1:10:48.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you listen like that,
Dialogue: 0,1:10:48.62,1:10:51.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you recognize that the other side
Dialogue: 0,1:10:51.92,1:10:56.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they have suffered exactly the same thing
Dialogue: 0,1:10:56.13,1:11:03.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like on your side - children and adults.
Dialogue: 0,1:11:03.98,1:11:12.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Before that, you believed that only
Dialogue: 0,1:11:12.25,1:11:15.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you suffer, the other side does not suffer,
Dialogue: 0,1:11:15.63,1:11:19.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they are only the cause of your suffering.
Dialogue: 0,1:11:19.47,1:11:22.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You believe that the other side
Dialogue: 0,1:11:22.06,1:11:25.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is the cause of your suffering.
Dialogue: 0,1:11:25.61,1:11:28.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But when you suffer, you listen like that,
Dialogue: 0,1:11:28.88,1:11:32.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you suddenly realize that they are human beings
Dialogue: 0,1:11:32.12,1:11:37.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who have suffered exactly like on your side.
Dialogue: 0,1:11:37.98,1:11:40.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And for the first time,
Dialogue: 0,1:11:40.02,1:11:43.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you see them as living beings
Dialogue: 0,1:11:43.14,1:11:44.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,full of suffering.
Dialogue: 0,1:11:46.72,1:11:48.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that kind of insight
Dialogue: 0,1:11:48.79,1:11:52.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,helps anger to go down in you.
Dialogue: 0,1:11:52.71,1:11:57.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you begin to look at them with compassion.
Dialogue: 0,1:11:58.16,1:12:02.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The first time, you see them as living beings
Dialogue: 0,1:12:02.08,1:12:05.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who have suffered exactly
Dialogue: 0,1:12:05.40,1:12:07.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the same kind of suffering
Dialogue: 0,1:12:07.81,1:12:11.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that on your side, you have suffered.
Dialogue: 0,1:12:13.38,1:12:16.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when you look with the eyes of compassion,
Dialogue: 0,1:12:16.40,1:12:18.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you don't suffer anymore.
Dialogue: 0,1:12:21.15,1:12:24.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In the beginning, there was a lot of anger,
Dialogue: 0,1:12:24.13,1:12:29.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a lot of suspicion, a lot of fear,
Dialogue: 0,1:12:29.78,1:12:32.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but now, since you have been able
Dialogue: 0,1:12:32.81,1:12:36.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to see them as human beings
Dialogue: 0,1:12:36.59,1:12:40.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who have suffered a lot like you,
Dialogue: 0,1:12:40.05,1:12:43.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,suddenly you feel compassion is born
Dialogue: 0,1:12:43.09,1:12:46.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in your heart, and for the first time,
Dialogue: 0,1:12:46.72,1:12:49.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can look at them with compassion,
Dialogue: 0,1:12:49.45,1:12:51.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and when you look like that,
Dialogue: 0,1:12:51.28,1:12:53.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you don't suffer any more.
Dialogue: 0,1:12:53.03,1:12:54.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You don't want to retaliate,
Dialogue: 0,1:12:54.97,1:12:57.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you don't want to punish them any more,
Dialogue: 0,1:12:57.40,1:13:01.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you want to say something, to do something,
Dialogue: 0,1:13:01.04,1:13:03.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to help them suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,1:13:04.09,1:13:08.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Transformation begins to take place in you.
Dialogue: 0,1:13:14.80,1:13:17.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we have many sessions like that,
Dialogue: 0,1:13:17.38,1:13:20.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,succeeding each other,
Dialogue: 0,1:13:20.62,1:13:26.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and each time, for this side to have their right
Dialogue: 0,1:13:26.100,1:13:29.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to speak about their suffering,
Dialogue: 0,1:13:29.41,1:13:34.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the other group will be listening.
Dialogue: 0,1:13:34.83,1:13:36.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And a few sessions like that
Dialogue: 0,1:13:36.87,1:13:39.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can heal the wounds of both of them.
Dialogue: 0,1:13:41.50,1:13:45.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And many of us who are not Palestinians
Dialogue: 0,1:13:45.32,1:13:48.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or Israelis, we sit with them,
Dialogue: 0,1:13:48.87,1:13:50.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we walk with them,
Dialogue: 0,1:13:50.53,1:13:52.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we eat with them,
Dialogue: 0,1:13:52.13,1:13:55.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we bring our mindfulness and concentration
Dialogue: 0,1:13:55.13,1:13:58.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as a collective energy to support their practice.
Dialogue: 0,1:14:02.98,1:14:07.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And now they began to eat together,
Dialogue: 0,1:14:07.47,1:14:10.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they began to walk together,
Dialogue: 0,1:14:10.28,1:14:13.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even holding hands to walk together.
Dialogue: 0,1:14:13.79,1:14:16.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's very beautiful.
Dialogue: 0,1:14:18.35,1:14:20.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And on the last day of the retreat,
Dialogue: 0,1:14:20.66,1:14:24.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they always... both groups come together
Dialogue: 0,1:14:24.09,1:14:25.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as one group,
Dialogue: 0,1:14:25.95,1:14:29.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and reported to the whole community
Dialogue: 0,1:14:29.86,1:14:32.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about the fruit of their practice.
Dialogue: 0,1:14:32.76,1:14:36.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's very moving to see the transformation
Dialogue: 0,1:14:36.13,1:14:39.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and healing taking place.
Dialogue: 0,1:14:39.01,1:14:41.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They always told us that when they go back
Dialogue: 0,1:14:41.58,1:14:44.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the Middle East, they will organize
Dialogue: 0,1:14:44.60,1:14:47.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,practice like that, so that other Israelis
Dialogue: 0,1:14:47.84,1:14:51.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and Palestinians can come to practice
Dialogue: 0,1:14:51.09,1:14:54.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,1:14:54.38,1:14:56.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in Plum Village, every year,
Dialogue: 0,1:14:56.39,1:14:59.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we send a delegation of monks and nuns
Dialogue: 0,1:14:59.08,1:15:01.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and lay people to the Middle East
Dialogue: 0,1:15:01.84,1:15:06.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and have organized retreats of mindfulness
Dialogue: 0,1:15:06.25,1:15:09.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that people can come and practice with us.
Dialogue: 0,1:15:11.82,1:15:16.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We have sister Thay Nghiem... is she back already?
Dialogue: 0,1:15:16.53,1:15:20.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thay Nghiem is in Israel
Dialogue: 0,1:15:20.33,1:15:22.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with other monks and nuns
Dialogue: 0,1:15:22.67,1:15:26.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,offering a retreat for people in the Middle East.
Dialogue: 0,1:15:31.50,1:15:37.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So to restore communication,
Dialogue: 0,1:15:37.30,1:15:40.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to reconcile is something possible
Dialogue: 0,1:15:40.84,1:15:46.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with the practice of mindfulness and concentration.
Dialogue: 0,1:15:46.31,1:15:48.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you know how to practice
Dialogue: 0,1:15:48.44,1:15:51.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,compassionate listening and loving speech,
Dialogue: 0,1:15:51.54,1:15:54.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can restore communication,
Dialogue: 0,1:15:54.30,1:15:56.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can reconcile.
Dialogue: 0,1:15:59.61,1:16:01.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I like to tell you this story
Dialogue: 0,1:16:01.97,1:16:06.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of a lady in America,
Dialogue: 0,1:16:06.85,1:16:09.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She's a catholic.
Dialogue: 0,1:16:09.98,1:16:12.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She wanted to commit suicide
Dialogue: 0,1:16:12.30,1:16:16.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because she did not see a way out.
Dialogue: 0,1:16:19.42,1:16:24.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The husband was a university professor,
Dialogue: 0,1:16:24.76,1:16:27.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they have children who are in college,
Dialogue: 0,1:16:27.80,1:16:34.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who are students in universities also,
Dialogue: 0,1:16:34.15,1:16:36.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but they did not have happiness,
Dialogue: 0,1:16:36.33,1:16:40.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because
Dialogue: 0,1:16:40.93,1:16:43.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there is a lot of anger in him,
Dialogue: 0,1:16:43.98,1:16:46.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,despair in her,
Dialogue: 0,1:16:46.07,1:16:49.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there is no communication.
Dialogue: 0,1:16:49.53,1:16:53.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She described him as a kind of bomb
Dialogue: 0,1:16:53.14,1:16:55.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ready to explode at any time.
Dialogue: 0,1:17:06.23,1:17:10.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That lady has a friend who is
Dialogue: 0,1:17:10.09,1:17:13.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a practitioner, a buddhist practitioner
Dialogue: 0,1:17:13.75,1:17:15.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of mindfulness
Dialogue: 0,1:17:16.70,1:17:19.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the buddhist lady always tried to...
Dialogue: 0,1:17:24.08,1:17:25.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to get her to listen
Dialogue: 0,1:17:25.50,1:17:28.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to a Dharma talk given by Thay.
Dialogue: 0,1:17:30.57,1:17:34.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the talk is about defusing a bomb.
Dialogue: 0,1:17:36.63,1:17:41.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because the catholic lady always said:
Dialogue: 0,1:17:41.69,1:17:45.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"My husband was like a bomb -
Dialogue: 0,1:17:45.14,1:17:50.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so much anger ready to explode at any time."
Dialogue: 0,1:17:51.54,1:17:53.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the buddhist lady said:
Dialogue: 0,1:17:53.95,1:17:58.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I have a Dharma talk, given by my teacher
Dialogue: 0,1:17:58.03,1:18:00.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about how to defuse a bomb!
Dialogue: 0,1:18:00.99,1:18:04.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So why don't you listen and learn
Dialogue: 0,1:18:04.39,1:18:07.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to help your husband to transform his anger?"
Dialogue: 0,1:18:08.91,1:18:10.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But that catholic lady said:
Dialogue: 0,1:18:10.60,1:18:15.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"But I am a catholic, why do I have to listen to...
Dialogue: 0,1:18:15.09,1:18:17.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,... to a Dharma talk?!" So she refused.
Dialogue: 0,1:18:20.74,1:18:24.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But one day, she was in despair,
Dialogue: 0,1:18:24.24,1:18:27.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she telephoned her friend
Dialogue: 0,1:18:27.88,1:18:30.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who is a buddhist practiioner:
Dialogue: 0,1:18:30.65,1:18:31.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"My dear friend,
Dialogue: 0,1:18:31.71,1:18:35.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am going to kill myself tonight."
Dialogue: 0,1:18:35.27,1:18:38.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the buddhist lady said:
Dialogue: 0,1:18:38.03,1:18:43.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Well, please come, and visit me before you do so.
Dialogue: 0,1:18:43.97,1:18:49.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Take a taxi, come!
Dialogue: 0,1:18:49.55,1:18:51.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And tell me what is wrong."
Dialogue: 0,1:18:54.11,1:19:00.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then, when the catholic lady came,
Dialogue: 0,1:19:00.56,1:19:02.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the buddhist lady said:
Dialogue: 0,1:19:02.87,1:19:06.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Dear friend, you have told me
Dialogue: 0,1:19:06.100,1:19:09.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have told me several times,
Dialogue: 0,1:19:09.41,1:19:14.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I am your best friend,
Dialogue: 0,1:19:14.04,1:19:16.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and yet, I don't believe it so much,
Dialogue: 0,1:19:16.90,1:19:22.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because the only request that I made
Dialogue: 0,1:19:22.35,1:19:25.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is for you to listen to the talk of my teacher,
Dialogue: 0,1:19:25.78,1:19:28.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but you refused. How can I believe
Dialogue: 0,1:19:28.38,1:19:30.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you are my best friend,
Dialogue: 0,1:19:30.85,1:19:33.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am your best friend at all?"
Dialogue: 0,1:19:34.36,1:19:37.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's a kind of challenge.
Dialogue: 0,1:19:38.64,1:19:41.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the catholic lady said (to herself):
Dialogue: 0,1:19:41.29,1:19:46.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Well, to satisfy her need, her request,
Dialogue: 0,1:19:46.54,1:19:50.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is not so difficult,
Dialogue: 0,1:19:50.60,1:19:55.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I am going to listen to that talk,
Dialogue: 0,1:19:55.58,1:19:59.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I will go home and kill myself later on."
Dialogue: 0,1:20:02.39,1:20:06.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the buddhist lady was so happy,
Dialogue: 0,1:20:06.15,1:20:10.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so she gave the cassette tape,
Dialogue: 0,1:20:10.25,1:20:11.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because at that time
Dialogue: 0,1:20:11.90,1:20:17.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there was no CD... no Compact Disc,
Dialogue: 0,1:20:17.31,1:20:21.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she withdrew and allowed the catholic lady
Dialogue: 0,1:20:21.52,1:20:24.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be alone and to listen to the talk.
Dialogue: 0,1:20:25.28,1:20:27.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you know that in the talk,
Dialogue: 0,1:20:27.55,1:20:30.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I spoke about compassionate listening,
Dialogue: 0,1:20:30.74,1:20:33.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,loving speech, in order to restore communication
Dialogue: 0,1:20:33.87,1:20:36.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to reconcile.
Dialogue: 0,1:20:36.32,1:20:39.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the catholic lady sat down
Dialogue: 0,1:20:39.18,1:20:41.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and listened to the whole talk.
Dialogue: 0,1:20:41.47,1:20:44.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And something happened in her.
Dialogue: 0,1:20:45.57,1:20:51.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when she finished listening to the talk,
Dialogue: 0,1:20:51.22,1:20:53.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she told her friend:
Dialogue: 0,1:20:53.21,1:20:57.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I'm going home and I'll help my husband!"
Dialogue: 0,1:20:58.35,1:21:00.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"To defuse the bomb in him, I am going
Dialogue: 0,1:21:00.96,1:21:03.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to listen to him, with compassion,
Dialogue: 0,1:21:03.96,1:21:07.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that he will suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,1:21:07.38,1:21:11.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I see that he has a lot of suffering in him,
Dialogue: 0,1:21:11.41,1:21:13.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I have not helped him at all -
Dialogue: 0,1:21:13.80,1:21:15.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have reacted in such a way
Dialogue: 0,1:21:15.70,1:21:18.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that made him suffer more.
Dialogue: 0,1:21:18.01,1:21:20.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm going to practice deep listening,
Dialogue: 0,1:21:20.15,1:21:21.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,compassionate listening,
Dialogue: 0,1:21:21.84,1:21:25.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to help him suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,1:21:25.32,1:21:27.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The buddhist lady said: "Well,
Dialogue: 0,1:21:27.84,1:21:29.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have to wait, my dear friend.
Dialogue: 0,1:21:29.100,1:21:33.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You need some training before you can do it!
Dialogue: 0,1:21:33.19,1:21:35.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's not just by listening to a tape
Dialogue: 0,1:21:35.77,1:21:38.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you can go and practice right away!
Dialogue: 0,1:21:38.68,1:21:41.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My teacher is coming from France
Dialogue: 0,1:21:41.26,1:21:45.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to give several retreats of mindfulness,
Dialogue: 0,1:21:45.88,1:21:49.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and one is right here, in California!
Dialogue: 0,1:21:49.88,1:21:52.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So why don't you wait for a few days
Dialogue: 0,1:21:52.40,1:21:55.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we will go to the retreat together.
Dialogue: 0,1:21:55.66,1:21:57.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I am sure that after the retreat,
Dialogue: 0,1:21:57.90,1:22:03.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you will apply the teaching and you will
Dialogue: 0,1:22:03.59,1:22:07.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,be successful in helping your husband.
Dialogue: 0,1:22:07.26,1:22:11.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the catholic lady agreed to wait
Dialogue: 0,1:22:11.21,1:22:15.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for a few days until they came to a retreat.
Dialogue: 0,1:22:17.57,1:22:22.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And after the retreat, she came home
Dialogue: 0,1:22:22.17,1:22:25.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,very peacefully, and she was determined
Dialogue: 0,1:22:25.27,1:22:29.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to practice. That night she came home
Dialogue: 0,1:22:29.20,1:22:36.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and walked mindfully, breathing in and out,
Dialogue: 0,1:22:36.09,1:22:38.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,calming herself:
Dialogue: 0,1:22:39.71,1:22:44.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"My husband, I know you have suffered so much,
Dialogue: 0,1:22:44.56,1:22:48.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the last many years.
Dialogue: 0,1:22:48.19,1:22:53.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I could not help you to suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,1:22:53.08,1:22:57.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I have reacted angrily
Dialogue: 0,1:22:57.56,1:23:00.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and made you suffer much more.
Dialogue: 0,1:23:02.50,1:23:05.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dear one, it's not my intention
Dialogue: 0,1:23:05.52,1:23:07.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to make you suffer like that.
Dialogue: 0,1:23:08.45,1:23:10.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just because I was ignorant
Dialogue: 0,1:23:10.98,1:23:15.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I did not understand the suffering in you.
Dialogue: 0,1:23:15.72,1:23:20.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So please help me, tell me of your suffering,
Dialogue: 0,1:23:20.38,1:23:24.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,tell me of your difficulties. Please help me.
Dialogue: 0,1:23:24.48,1:23:26.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I need help.
Dialogue: 0,1:23:27.48,1:23:29.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And her husband began to cry.
Dialogue: 0,1:23:29.93,1:23:33.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because the lady has not spoken to him
Dialogue: 0,1:23:33.58,1:23:35.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like that for a long time.
Dialogue: 0,1:23:38.54,1:23:43.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that night became a very healing night.
Dialogue: 0,1:23:43.41,1:23:47.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They listened to each other, they reconciled,
Dialogue: 0,1:23:47.22,1:23:51.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she was able to convince him
Dialogue: 0,1:23:51.38,1:23:57.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to go to the next retreat.
Dialogue: 0,1:24:02.81,1:24:05.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Both husband and wife went to the 2nd
Dialogue: 0,1:24:05.54,1:24:09.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,retreat of mindfulness.
Dialogue: 0,1:24:09.56,1:24:12.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And on the last day of retreat,
Dialogue: 0,1:24:12.22,1:24:16.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,during a tea meditation,
Dialogue: 0,1:24:16.81,1:24:23.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the husband told the group
Dialogue: 0,1:24:23.68,1:24:27.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,introducing his wife:
Dialogue: 0,1:24:27.52,1:24:31.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"This is a bodhisattva that has saved my life."
Dialogue: 0,1:24:33.27,1:24:38.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She has helped me
Dialogue: 0,1:24:38.52,1:24:42.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to heal and to transform.
Dialogue: 0,1:24:44.16,1:24:48.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then, a week after that, there was
Dialogue: 0,1:24:48.41,1:24:51.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a day of mindfulness organized in
Dialogue: 0,1:24:51.80,1:24:54.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the practice center called Spirit Rock.
Dialogue: 0,1:24:55.68,1:24:58.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There were many thousand people coming
Dialogue: 0,1:24:58.26,1:25:01.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for the mindfulness day.
Dialogue: 0,1:25:01.19,1:25:04.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And a couple came with their 3 children
Dialogue: 0,1:25:04.72,1:25:08.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and attended the day of mindfulness.
Dialogue: 0,1:25:10.18,1:25:16.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we had a chance to meet that group,
Dialogue: 0,1:25:16.13,1:25:19.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they told us the story.
Dialogue: 0,1:25:19.40,1:25:24.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The buddhist lady brought them over,
Dialogue: 0,1:25:24.87,1:25:27.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,introduced them, and told us the story
Dialogue: 0,1:25:27.60,1:25:30.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of the transformation and healing
Dialogue: 0,1:25:30.89,1:25:34.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of the family.
Dialogue: 0,1:25:38.50,1:25:44.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when I talked to...
Dialogue: 0,1:25:44.67,1:25:47.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember when one day I talked
Dialogue: 0,1:25:47.70,1:25:51.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to a group of Vietnamese buddhists,
Dialogue: 0,1:25:51.62,1:25:56.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I said: "That lady, she's a catholic,
Dialogue: 0,1:25:56.18,1:25:59.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she's not a buddhist,
Dialogue: 0,1:25:59.00,1:26:02.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but only after 5 days of retreat,
Dialogue: 0,1:26:02.59,1:26:05.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she was able to restore communication
Dialogue: 0,1:26:05.72,1:26:09.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to reconcile with her husband.
Dialogue: 0,1:26:09.40,1:26:13.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you are buddhists! And if you cannot do
Dialogue: 0,1:26:13.27,1:26:16.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like her, your practice is not good enough!
Dialogue: 0,1:26:20.65,1:26:23.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a kind of challenge... challenging.
Dialogue: 0,1:26:24.96,1:26:28.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The fact is that buddhists are not buddhists
Dialogue: 0,1:26:28.94,1:26:31.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you know how to practice
Dialogue: 0,1:26:31.65,1:26:34.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,compassionate listening and loving speech
Dialogue: 0,1:26:34.42,1:26:37.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you'll be able to restore communication
Dialogue: 0,1:26:37.12,1:26:39.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to reconcile.
Dialogue: 0,1:26:39.73,1:26:42.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You have to stop that situation
Dialogue: 0,1:26:42.54,1:26:46.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of difficult relationships.
Dialogue: 0,1:26:46.44,1:26:49.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you know how to do it,
Dialogue: 0,1:26:49.16,1:26:52.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can succeed after 5 days of practice.
Dialogue: 0,1:26:55.49,1:27:00.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I think in the case of the Israelis
Dialogue: 0,1:27:00.87,1:27:08.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and Palestinians, that is a difficult
Dialogue: 0,1:27:08.54,1:27:12.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,case.
Dialogue: 0,1:27:12.13,1:27:15.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that is why, if we have difficulties
Dialogue: 0,1:27:15.21,1:27:19.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in our relationships, don't despair.
Dialogue: 0,1:27:19.14,1:27:22.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is a way out.
Dialogue: 0,1:27:22.03,1:27:26.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You have to go back to yourself first.
Dialogue: 0,1:27:35.62,1:27:38.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You are here.
Dialogue: 0,1:27:39.12,1:27:43.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you are the person here.
Dialogue: 0,1:27:43.22,1:27:48.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You have difficulties in your relationship,
Dialogue: 0,1:27:48.46,1:27:55.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have tried so many times without success,
Dialogue: 0,1:27:55.36,1:27:59.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you are about to give up.
Dialogue: 0,1:27:59.05,1:28:01.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You are thinking of divorce,
Dialogue: 0,1:28:01.09,1:28:03.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you are thinking of separation,
Dialogue: 0,1:28:03.86,1:28:07.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you are thinking of suicide, and so on.
Dialogue: 0,1:28:08.54,1:28:11.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because you have tried everything,
Dialogue: 0,1:28:11.81,1:28:14.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you did not succeed.
Dialogue: 0,1:28:14.33,1:28:19.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But when you touch the Dharma,
Dialogue: 0,1:28:19.36,1:28:21.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you see the way.
Dialogue: 0,1:28:21.52,1:28:25.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The way is
Dialogue: 0,1:28:25.07,1:28:27.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to begin with yourself.
Dialogue: 0,1:28:27.68,1:28:30.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Listen to your own suffering,
Dialogue: 0,1:28:30.26,1:28:32.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,go home to yourself.
Dialogue: 0,1:28:33.24,1:28:36.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't try to help the other person,
Dialogue: 0,1:28:36.99,1:28:40.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,try to help yourself first.
Dialogue: 0,1:28:40.25,1:28:43.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Practice mindful breating, mindful walking
Dialogue: 0,1:28:43.24,1:28:45.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,go home to yourself,
Dialogue: 0,1:28:45.26,1:28:48.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and listen to your suffering inside.
Dialogue: 0,1:28:50.12,1:28:52.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because understanding suffering
Dialogue: 0,1:28:52.30,1:28:56.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,will bring compassion. And compassion
Dialogue: 0,1:28:56.08,1:28:59.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is going to heal you, and make you suffer less,
Dialogue: 0,1:28:59.62,1:29:02.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then you can help the other person.
Dialogue: 0,1:29:03.38,1:29:05.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the first thing is for you
Dialogue: 0,1:29:05.88,1:29:08.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to go home to yourself.
Dialogue: 0,1:29:12.06,1:29:16.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The way out is in.
Dialogue: 0,1:29:19.90,1:29:22.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And after you have suffered less,
Dialogue: 0,1:29:22.65,1:29:26.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,after you have generated
Dialogue: 0,1:29:26.03,1:29:30.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and amount of understanding and compassion,
Dialogue: 0,1:29:30.30,1:29:35.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then you are ready to go help him or her.
Dialogue: 0,1:29:35.18,1:29:38.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that is the process.
Dialogue: 0,1:29:41.42,1:29:43.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you don't need to be a buddhist
Dialogue: 0,1:29:43.37,1:29:45.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to do that.
Dialogue: 0,1:29:45.33,1:29:48.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everyone can do that,
Dialogue: 0,1:29:48.56,1:29:50.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and restore communication
Dialogue: 0,1:29:50.85,1:29:53.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and reconcile.
Dialogue: 0,1:30:07.74,1:30:11.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think that's good enough for today.