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Raise your hand if you lie.

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(Laughter)

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Now, right now, if your hand is down,

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you're probably a bigger liar

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than the person nearest to you
with their hand up.

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(Laughter)

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But it's OK, we all lie. Don't worry.
I lie all the time. Ask my mom.

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(Laughter)

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But the problem is that little things 
turn into big things,

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because how we do anything
is how we do everything.

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So if you lie now, it's going make 
lying later way easier,

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but if you tell the truth now,
the truth comes way easier later.

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But it's difficult because today
we're flooded with definitions

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like honesty and hypocrisy and humility,

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and maybe we don't even know
what they actually mean,

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because if you google them,
on the surface, the definitions are easy,

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but when you put them into practice,

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they don't work.

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Humility is unique,

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because when you have humility,
people don't notice.

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That's the most important
thing about humility.

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It is nobody notices but you.

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(Laughter)

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Nine times out of ten,
if you ask someone if they have humility,

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the answer will be yes

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simply because they think
they're being honest.

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But it's not honesty, it's not meekness,
it's not belittling yourself.

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Humility is not thinking less of yourself.

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Humility is thinking of yourself less.

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Right?

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So...

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It's funny, someone was asking me and I
was trying to tell them about humility.

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And the most important thing is
when you work in your groups,

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your teams, your leadership,
wherever you are,

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your ministry of your church,

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nobody notices.

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But it doesn't work
unless you have integrity.

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Integrity is when you align 
your actions with your beliefs.

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The Latin adjective "integer"
means "whole" or "one."

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Think of it like that. That's where
the word "integrity" comes from.

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I think of it as a pizza,

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so if you cut the pizza,
you separate the pieces out,

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but it leaves a missing part
in the center.

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When you don't have a center,
you don't have a point of reference,

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you lose your integrity,

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and it leaves you asking a question

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like, "Why do I feel this way?
What am I missing?"

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And oftentimes, we try to use beauty,
fame, money, success and popularity

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to bring the pieces back together,

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but it just doesn't work.

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It leaves you confused and wondering,
you know, ''Why do I not feel important?''

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But the thing about integrity
is that it leads to hypocrisy.

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If you don't align your actions
with your beliefs,

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you kind of become a hypocrite.

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You know, acting has always been
a passion of mine.

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I like the theater, the lights, the sound.

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And in high school,

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I was studying for a vocab test
and the word was "hypocrite,"

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and the Greek root suggests
something along the lines

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of an image of a person who wears a mask

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and pretends to be someone
he or she is not

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in a theatrical production.

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And when I think about that,
I think we all have masks,

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and maybe we don't
even know what they are,

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like our social media or our internet
or the things we post.

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But the theatrical production
is just our lives.

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Do you post things 
about what your life is like,

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or do you post things about what you want
people to think that your life is like?

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Do your tweets start with "I,"

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or do your tweets start
with "We did this?"

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It's all something to consider.

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It's like the movies, you know,
Iron Man, Batman.

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They all start out with a mask
in the beginning of the movie,

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but by the end of the movie,

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we figure out who they are.

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You know, the person is revealed

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and it's because they're missing
the humility side of the equation.

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You know, I think 
for humility and integrity,

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one thing I like to do at this -
I mean, I feel like I'm 12 up here -

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but one thing I like to do is look up.

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I look up to people,
I find mentors in people.

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I can study off of teachers and people
who have built legacies.

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One of the things I do is -
a person I looked up to is named Ellie.

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And when I think about Ellie,

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she 100% has no prejudice
against color, race, religion.

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She can face the world without lies,
she can take blame without resentment,

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She can even start
the day without caffeine.

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But it's interesting because 
as soon as I think I'm just like Ellie,

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I remember that Ellie
is just my family dog.

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(Laughter)

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So, as soon as you think
you have humility and integrity

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and you're not a hypocrite,

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you're just as good as your dog
that sleeps on the floor.

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And so, all this is to say - 
I'm not bashing my dog, I love my dog.

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We all love our dogs.

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But the thing is that there's no levels
to humility and integrity.

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You either have it and you practice it,
or you have it and you don't practice it.

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There's no in between, no one's better.

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If you're great at it,
you're as good as your dog.

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And so, my idea today is to encourage us 
to align our actions with our beliefs,

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think of ourselves a little bit less,
others a little bit more,

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and we'll know exactly who we are 
and we'll know exactly what we want.

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Thank you.

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(Applause)