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Raise your hand if you lie.

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(Laughter)

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Now, right now, if your hand is down,

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you're probably a bigger liar

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than the person nearest to you[br]with their hand up.

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(Laughter)

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But it's OK, we all lie. Don't worry.[br]I lie all the time. Ask my mom.

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(Laughter)

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But the problem is that little things [br]turn into big things,

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because how we do anything[br]is how we do everything.

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So if you lie now, it's going make [br]lying later way easier,

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but if you tell the truth now,[br]the truth comes way easier later.

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But it's difficult because today[br]we're flooded with definitions

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like honesty and hypocrisy and humility,

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and maybe we don't even know[br]what they actually mean,

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because if you google them,[br]on the surface, the definitions are easy,

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but when you put them into practice,

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they don't work.

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Humility is unique,

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because when you have humility,[br]people don't notice.

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That's the most important[br]thing about humility.

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It is nobody notices but you.

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(Laughter)

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Nine times out of ten,[br]if you ask someone if they have humility,

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the answer will be yes

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simply because they think[br]they're being honest.

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But it's not honesty, it's not meekness,[br]it's not belittling yourself.

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Humility is not thinking less of yourself.

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Humility is thinking of yourself less.

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Right?

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So...

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It's funny, someone was asking me and I[br]was trying to tell them about humility.

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And the most important thing is[br]when you work in your groups,

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your teams, your leadership,[br]wherever you are,

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your ministry of your church,

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nobody notices.

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But it doesn't work[br]unless you have integrity.

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Integrity is when you align [br]your actions with your beliefs.

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The Latin adjective "integer"[br]means "whole" or "one."

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Think of it like that. That's where[br]the word "integrity" comes from.

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I think of it as a pizza,

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so if you cut the pizza,[br]you separate the pieces out,

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but it leaves a missing part[br]in the center.

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When you don't have a center,[br]you don't have a point of reference,

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you lose your integrity,

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and it leaves you asking a question

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like, "Why do I feel this way?[br]What am I missing?"

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And oftentimes, we try to use beauty,[br]fame, money, success and popularity

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to bring the pieces back together,

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but it just doesn't work.

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It leaves you confused and wondering,[br]you know, ''Why do I not feel important?''

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But the thing about integrity[br]is that it leads to hypocrisy.

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If you don't align your actions[br]with your beliefs,

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you kind of become a hypocrite.

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You know, acting has always been[br]a passion of mine.

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I like the theater, the lights, the sound.

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And in high school,

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I was studying for a vocab test[br]and the word was "hypocrite,"

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and the Greek root suggests[br]something along the lines

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of an image of a person who wears a mask

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and pretends to be someone[br]he or she is not

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in a theatrical production.

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And when I think about that,[br]I think we all have masks,

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and maybe we don't[br]even know what they are,

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like our social media or our internet[br]or the things we post.

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But the theatrical production[br]is just our lives.

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Do you post things [br]about what your life is like,

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or do you post things about what you want[br]people to think that your life is like?

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Do your tweets start with "I,"

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or do your tweets start[br]with "We did this?"

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It's all something to consider.

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It's like the movies, you know,[br]Iron Man, Batman.

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They all start out with a mask[br]in the beginning of the movie,

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but by the end of the movie,

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we figure out who they are.

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You know, the person is revealed

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and it's because they're missing[br]the humility side of the equation.

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You know, I think [br]for humility and integrity,

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one thing I like to do at this -[br]I mean, I feel like I'm 12 up here -

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but one thing I like to do is look up.

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I look up to people,[br]I find mentors in people.

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I can study off of teachers and people[br]who have built legacies.

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One of the things I do is -[br]a person I looked up to is named Ellie.

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And when I think about Ellie,

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she 100% has no prejudice[br]against color, race, religion.

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She can face the world without lies,[br]she can take blame without resentment,

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She can even start[br]the day without caffeine.

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But it's interesting because [br]as soon as I think I'm just like Ellie,

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I remember that Ellie[br]is just my family dog.

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(Laughter)

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So, as soon as you think[br]you have humility and integrity

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and you're not a hypocrite,

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you're just as good as your dog[br]that sleeps on the floor.

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And so, all this is to say - [br]I'm not bashing my dog, I love my dog.

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We all love our dogs.

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But the thing is that there's no levels[br]to humility and integrity.

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You either have it and you practice it,[br]or you have it and you don't practice it.

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There's no in between, no one's better.

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If you're great at it,[br]you're as good as your dog.

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And so, my idea today is to encourage us [br]to align our actions with our beliefs,

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think of ourselves a little bit less,[br]others a little bit more,

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and we'll know exactly who we are [br]and we'll know exactly what we want.

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Thank you.

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(Applause)