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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.83,0:00:03.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nedavno sam bila\Nu Visočju Nove Gvineje
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.91,0:00:06.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i razgovarala sam s čovjekom s tri žene.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.90,0:00:09.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Pitala sam ga koliko bi žena volio imati.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.34,0:00:11.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nastala je duga pauza
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.80,0:00:12.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i pomislih,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.02,0:00:14.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Hoće li reći pet?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:14.59,0:00:16.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ili deset?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:16.04,0:00:17.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ili dvadeset pet?"
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.91,0:00:19.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nagnuo se prema meni
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.10,0:00:20.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i šapnuo, "Nijednu."
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.63,0:00:22.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Smijeh)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.51,0:00:27.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Osamdeset šest posto ljudskih društava\Nmuškarcu dozvoljava višeženstvo:
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.91,0:00:29.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,poligeniju.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.09,0:00:31.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,U većini ovih društava
Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.22,0:00:35.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,samo pet do deset posto muškaraca\Nuistinu ima nekoliko žena.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.54,0:00:37.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nije lako imati više bračnih partnera.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.91,0:00:41.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Žene se mogu tući jedna s drugom,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.06,0:00:43.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a ponekad jedna drugoj otruju djecu.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.46,0:00:47.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Trebate imati puno krava, koza,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.13,0:00:49.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,novca, zemlje
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.12,0:00:50.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,da biste sagradili harem.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.02,0:00:53.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Mi smo uparivačka vrsta.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.42,0:00:56.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Čak 97% sisavaca ne mora se uparivati\Nda bi odgajali svoje mlado,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.98,0:00:58.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ali ljudska bića moraju.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.83,0:01:00.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ne kažem
Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.00,0:01:04.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,da smo nužno seksualno\Nvjerni svojim partnerima.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.18,0:01:06.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Proučavala sam preljub u 42 kulture
Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.95,0:01:09.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i donekle razumijem genetiku preljuba
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.41,0:01:11.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i sklop mozga u toj situaciji.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.28,0:01:13.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Uobičajeno je diljem svijeta,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.24,0:01:15.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ali stvoreni smo za ljubav.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.72,0:01:19.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Kako tehnologija mijenja ljubav?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.52,0:01:21.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Usuđujem se reći - nikako.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.74,0:01:24.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Proučavam mozak.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.12,0:01:27.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Kolege i ja skenirali smo\Nmozgove stotine ljudi,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.88,0:01:30.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ljudi koji su se nedavno sretno zaljubili,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.91,0:01:32.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ljudi koji su nedavno odbačeni u ljubavi
Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.96,0:01:34.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i ljudi koji su dugoročno zaljubljeni.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.86,0:01:38.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Moguće je biti dugoročno zaljubljen.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.54,0:01:40.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Već dugo stojim pri tome
Dialogue: 0,0:01:40.47,0:01:43.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,da smo razvili tri različita\Nsustava u mozgu
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.52,0:01:45.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,za parenje i reprodukciju:
Dialogue: 0,0:01:45.38,0:01:46.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,libido,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.56,0:01:48.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,osjećaji intenzivne romantične ljubavi
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.52,0:01:52.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i osjećaji duboke kozmičke povezanosti\Ns dugoročnim partnerom.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.29,0:01:54.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ova tri sustava mozga zajedno
Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.75,0:01:57.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,s mnogim drugim dijelovima mozga
Dialogue: 0,0:01:57.26,0:02:02.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,upravljaju našim seksualnim,\Nromantičnim i obiteljskim životima.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:02.41,0:02:04.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No, nalaze se duboko ispod moždane opne,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.83,0:02:09.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,duboko ispod limbičkog sustava\Nu kojemu osjećamo različite emocije,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.07,0:02:10.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,u kojemu ih stvaramo.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.38,0:02:15.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nalaze se u najprimitivnijim dijelovima\Nmozga povezanih s energijom,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.22,0:02:20.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,pozornosti, žudnjom,\Nmotivacijom, željama i nagonima.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.50,0:02:21.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,U ovom slučaju
Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.68,0:02:24.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nagon da osvojimo najveću životnu nagradu:
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.24,0:02:25.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,partnera za reprodukciju.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:25.69,0:02:30.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Razvili su se prije 4,4 milijuna godina\Nkod naših prvih predaka
Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.23,0:02:34.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i neće ih promijeniti\Nvaš odabir na Tinderu.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:34.72,0:02:36.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Smijeh)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.29,0:02:38.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Pljesak)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.76,0:02:43.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tehnologija neupitno mijenja\Nnačin na koji udvaramo:
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.40,0:02:45.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mejlanje, SMS-anje,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.35,0:02:47.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,emotikoni za izražavanje osjećaja,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:47.35,0:02:48.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,seksualne poruke,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.64,0:02:51.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,lajkanje slika, selfiji...
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.10,0:02:55.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Primjećujemo nova pravila\Ni tabue u udvaranju.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.94,0:02:57.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ali
Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.95,0:03:01.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mijenja li išta od toga ljubav?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.73,0:03:04.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sjetite se samo kasnih 40-ih
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.12,0:03:06.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,kada su automobili postali popularni,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.70,0:03:09.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a s njima i kreveti na četiri kotača.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.07,0:03:10.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Smijeh)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.82,0:03:15.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A pojava kontracepcijskih pilula?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.49,0:03:20.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Omogućile su ženama da se oslobode okova\Ntrudnoće i društvene štete
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.81,0:03:25.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i da konačno slobodno izraze\Nsvoju primitivnu, iskonsku seksualnost.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.72,0:03:28.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Čak ni stranice za upoznavanje\Nne mijenjaju ljubav.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:28.76,0:03:31.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ja sam viši znanstveni savjetnik\Nstranice Match.com
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.35,0:03:33.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,već 11 godina.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.05,0:03:35.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Uporno im govorim, i oni se slažu sa mnom,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.08,0:03:36.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,da to nisu stranice za hodanje,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.64,0:03:38.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,već za upoznavanje.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.02,0:03:41.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Kada sjedite u baru,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.30,0:03:42.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,kafiću,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.91,0:03:44.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,na klupi u parku,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.29,0:03:49.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,vaš prastari mozak iznenada se budi\Npoput uspavane mačke
Dialogue: 0,0:03:49.32,0:03:50.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i nasmiješite se,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:50.64,0:03:51.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,smijete se,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.83,0:03:53.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,slušate
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.03,0:03:57.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i paradirate kao što su i naši preci\Nto činili prije 100 000 godina.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:58.42,0:04:00.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Možemo vam dati gomile ljudi -
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.40,0:04:01.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,kao i druge stranice\Nza upoznavanje,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:01.99,0:04:05.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ali jedini pravi algoritam\Nnalazi se u našem mozgu.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.93,0:04:08.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tehnologija to neće promijeniti.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:09.04,0:04:13.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A neće promijeniti ni to\Nkoga odabiremo voljeti.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.71,0:04:16.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Proučavam biologiju osobnosti
Dialogue: 0,0:04:16.43,0:04:17.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i počela sam vjerovati
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.66,0:04:21.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,da smo razvili četiri velika stila\Nrazmišljanja i ponašanja
Dialogue: 0,0:04:21.97,0:04:23.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,povezanih sa sustavima\Ndopamina, serotonina,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.83,0:04:26.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,testosterona i estrogena.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.36,0:04:30.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Inspirirana znanosti mozga\Nstvorila sam upitnik
Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.54,0:04:33.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,koji mjeri koliko izražavamo te osobine -
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.70,0:04:35.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,odnosno skupinu osobina -
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.48,0:04:38.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,povezane sa svakim od ova\Nčetiri sustava mozga.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:38.83,0:04:43.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Zatim sam taj upitnik postavila\Nna različite stranice za upoznavanje
Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.72,0:04:45.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,u 40 zemalja.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:45.97,0:04:49.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dosada je taj upitnik ispunilo\N14 milijuna ljudi
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.88,0:04:53.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i sada vidim tko koga\Nprirodno privlači.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:54.46,0:04:55.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ispostavilo se
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.100,0:04:58.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,da su oni koji imaju\Nizražen sustav dopamina
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.59,0:05:01.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,znatiželjni, kreativni,\Nspontani i energični.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.75,0:05:05.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Pretpostavljam da je\Nu ovoj prostoriji puno takvih ljudi -
Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.22,0:05:07.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,njih privlače ljudi poput njih.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.18,0:05:10.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Znatiželjni, kreativni ljudi\Ntrebaju ljude poput sebe.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:10.58,0:05:13.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Oni koji imaju izražen\Nsustav serotonina
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.24,0:05:16.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,više su tradicionalni,\Nkonvencionalni, slijede pravila,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.15,0:05:18.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,poštuju autoritet,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.05,0:05:21.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,religiozni su - religioznost\Nse nalazi u ovom sustavu -
Dialogue: 0,0:05:21.46,0:05:24.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i tradicionalni ljudi\Nvole tradicionalne ljude.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.82,0:05:27.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,U ovim primjerima sličnosti se privlače.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:27.51,0:05:29.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,U druga dva primjera\Nsuprotnosti se privlače.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:29.76,0:05:32.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ljudi s izraženim sustavom testosterona
Dialogue: 0,0:05:32.08,0:05:35.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,analitički su nastrojeni,\Nlogični, direktni, odlučni,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:36.02,0:05:37.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a vole svoju suprotnost:
Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.53,0:05:39.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nekoga s više estrogena,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:39.81,0:05:42.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nekoga rječitog
Dialogue: 0,0:05:42.07,0:05:43.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,tko zna s ljudima,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.34,0:05:44.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,tko je intuitivan,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.81,0:05:48.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,topao i emocionalno ekspresivan.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:48.52,0:05:51.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Imamo prirodne obrasce odabira partnera.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.47,0:05:56.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Moderna tehnologija neće promijeniti\Nkoga odlučujemo voljeti.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:57.49,0:06:00.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No, moderna tehnologija\Nstvara moderan trend
Dialogue: 0,0:06:00.06,0:06:01.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,koji je meni prilično važan.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:02.15,0:06:05.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Povezan je s konceptom paradoksa izbora.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:06.37,0:06:07.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Milijunima godina
Dialogue: 0,0:06:07.85,0:06:10.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,živjeli smo u malim\Ndruštvima lovaca-sakupljača.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:10.14,0:06:12.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nismo mogli birati
Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.69,0:06:15.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,između 1 000 ljudi\Nna stranici za upoznavanje.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:16.26,0:06:18.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nedavno sam ovo proučavala
Dialogue: 0,0:06:18.34,0:06:21.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i mislim da u mozgu postoji\Noptimalan broj koji može prihvatiti;
Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.52,0:06:25.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ne znam koji to, ali navodno,\Nprema iščitanim podatcima,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:25.50,0:06:30.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,možemo prihvatiti od pet do devet\Nalternativa, a poslije toga
Dialogue: 0,0:06:30.67,0:06:33.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ulazimo u ono što znalci nazivaju\Nkognitivnim preopterećenjem
Dialogue: 0,0:06:33.92,0:06:35.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nakon kojega ne izabirete nikoga.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:36.18,0:06:39.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Zbog ovog kognitivnog preopterećenja
Dialogue: 0,0:06:39.34,0:06:42.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,javlja nam se novi oblik udvaranja
Dialogue: 0,0:06:42.68,0:06:44.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,koji ja nazivam usporena ljubavi.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:45.22,0:06:48.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do tog sam zaključka došla\Nradeći na stranici Match.com.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:49.40,0:06:51.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,U zadnjih šest godina svake godine
Dialogue: 0,0:06:51.10,0:06:53.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,provodimo istraživanje\Npod nazivom "Samci u Americi".
Dialogue: 0,0:06:53.82,0:06:55.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ne ispitujemo\Npopulaciju naše stranice,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:55.65,0:06:57.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,već populaciju Amerike.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:57.64,0:07:00.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Uzmemo 5 000 i više ljudi,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:00.63,0:07:04.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,što je reprezentativni uzorak\NSAD-a prema popisu stanovnika.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:04.55,0:07:07.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Prikupili smo podatke 30 000 ljudi
Dialogue: 0,0:07:07.47,0:07:09.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i svake godine
Dialogue: 0,0:07:09.96,0:07:12.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,uviđam neke od istih obrazaca.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:12.51,0:07:15.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Svake godine kad postavim pitanje,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:15.31,0:07:18.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,preko 50% ljudi imalo je\Nvezu za jednu noć,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:18.10,0:07:20.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ne nužno prošle godine,\Nali tijekom života -
Dialogue: 0,0:07:20.79,0:07:23.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,50% ljudi imalo je\Nprijatelja s povlasticama
Dialogue: 0,0:07:23.09,0:07:24.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,tijekom svog života,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:24.72,0:07:28.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a preko 50% ljudi dugoročno je\Nživjelo s drugom osobom
Dialogue: 0,0:07:28.31,0:07:29.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,prije braka.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:29.77,0:07:31.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Amerikanci misle da je to nepromišljeno.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:31.100,0:07:34.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dugo sam u to sumnjala;
Dialogue: 0,0:07:34.94,0:07:36.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,obrasci ponašanja su prejaki.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:36.86,0:07:39.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Mora postojati neko darvinsko objašnjenje.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:39.61,0:07:41.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nije baš toliko ljudi ludo.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:41.96,0:07:45.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Naišla sam na statistički podatak\Nkoji mi je sve razjasnio.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:46.27,0:07:48.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Bio je to zanimljiv akademski članak
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.89,0:07:53.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,u kojem sam saznala\Nda 67% samaca u Americi
Dialogue: 0,0:07:53.93,0:07:56.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,koji dugoročno žive s nekim
Dialogue: 0,0:07:56.36,0:08:00.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nisu se još vjenčali\Njer strahuju od razvoda.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:00.48,0:08:02.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Strahuju od društvenih,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:02.36,0:08:03.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,pravnih, emocionalnih
Dialogue: 0,0:08:03.91,0:08:06.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i ekonomskih posljedica razvoda.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:06.81,0:08:10.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Shvatila sam da to nije nemar -
Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.59,0:08:12.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mislim da je to oprez.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:12.79,0:08:17.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Današnji samci žele znati\Nbaš sve o svome partneru
Dialogue: 0,0:08:17.84,0:08:19.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,prije nego što se vjenčaju.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:19.49,0:08:21.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Puno se toga nauči ispod plahti,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:21.44,0:08:23.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ne samo o tome kako netko vodi ljubav
Dialogue: 0,0:08:23.98,0:08:25.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,već i o tome\Njesu li srdačni,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:25.37,0:08:26.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,znaju li slušati,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:26.74,0:08:27.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a u mojim godinama,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:27.94,0:08:29.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,imaju li dobar smisao za humor.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:29.74,0:08:31.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Smijeh)
Dialogue: 0,0:08:31.16,0:08:34.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,U današnje doba kada imamo previše izbora,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:35.08,0:08:38.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,premalo se bojimo trudnoće i bolesti
Dialogue: 0,0:08:38.36,0:08:42.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i ne sramimo se seksa prije braka,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:42.09,0:08:45.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ljudima se ne žuri voljeti.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:46.41,0:08:48.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I događa se to
Dialogue: 0,0:08:48.08,0:08:51.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,da se produžuje faza\Nkoja prethodi obvezivanju
Dialogue: 0,0:08:51.97,0:08:53.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,na brak.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:54.03,0:08:56.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nekoć je brak bio početak veze,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:56.78,0:08:58.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a sada je njezin vrhunac.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:59.41,0:09:01.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ali ljudski mozak --
Dialogue: 0,0:09:01.18,0:09:03.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Smijeh)
Dialogue: 0,0:09:03.21,0:09:05.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ljudski mozak uvijek pobjeđuje
Dialogue: 0,0:09:05.05,0:09:06.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i u SAD-u
Dialogue: 0,0:09:06.97,0:09:10.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,86% Amerikanaca\Noženit će se do 49. godine.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:10.49,0:09:14.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Čak i u kulturama diljem svijeta\Ngdje ženidba nije tako česta
Dialogue: 0,0:09:14.06,0:09:17.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,stanovnici se na kraju skrase\Ns dugoročnim partnerom.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:17.36,0:09:19.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Počela sam razmišljati:
Dialogue: 0,0:09:19.22,0:09:23.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ako se tijekom ovog dugog razdoblja\Nkoje prethodi obvezivanju,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:23.81,0:09:26.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,možete riješiti loše veze\Nprije nego što se vjenčate,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:27.00,0:09:29.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,možda ćemo sada imati\Nviše sretnih brakova.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:29.84,0:09:34.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Provela sam istraživanje na\N1 100 američkih bračnih parova --
Dialogue: 0,0:09:34.74,0:09:36.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,naravno, ne na stranici Match.com --
Dialogue: 0,0:09:36.49,0:09:38.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i postavila sam im puno pitanja.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:38.63,0:09:40.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Jedno od pitanja glasilo je:
Dialogue: 0,0:09:40.16,0:09:44.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,biste li se ponovo vjenčali za osobu\Ns kojom ste trenutno u braku?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:44.76,0:09:47.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Odgovor je bio u 81% slučajeva bio da.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:48.61,0:09:55.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Najveća promjena\Nu modernoj romantici i obiteljskom životu
Dialogue: 0,0:09:55.12,0:09:56.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nije tehnologija,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:57.07,0:09:58.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a nije čak ni usporena ljubav,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:59.05,0:10:01.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,već navala žena na burzu rada
Dialogue: 0,0:10:02.02,0:10:03.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,u kulturama diljem svijeta.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:03.77,0:10:04.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Milijunima godina
Dialogue: 0,0:10:05.02,0:10:07.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,naši su predci živjeli\Nu lovačko-sakupljačkim društvima.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:08.01,0:10:10.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Žene su putovale na posao\Nkako bi skupljale voće i povrće.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:10.94,0:10:14.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Vraćale su se kući sa 60% - 80% večere.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:14.48,0:10:17.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Obitelj dvostrukog dohotka\Nbila je pravilo,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:17.19,0:10:21.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a žene su smatrane\Njednako ekonomski, društveno
Dialogue: 0,0:10:21.16,0:10:24.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i seksualno moćne kao i muškarci.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:24.30,0:10:27.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okolina se nekako promijenio\Nprije 10 000 godina.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:27.42,0:10:29.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Počeli smo se nastanjivati na farmama
Dialogue: 0,0:10:29.68,0:10:32.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i žene i muškarci\Nnekako su postali prisiljeni
Dialogue: 0,0:10:32.89,0:10:34.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,vjenčati se za pravu osobu
Dialogue: 0,0:10:34.49,0:10:35.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,pravog porijekla,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:35.94,0:10:37.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,pripadnika prave religije,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:37.27,0:10:40.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,iz prave obitelji,\Ndruštvenih i političkih veza.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:40.83,0:10:42.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Muški poslovi postadoše važniji:
Dialogue: 0,0:10:42.45,0:10:45.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,morali su micati kamenje,\Nrušiti drva, obrađivati zemlju.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:45.21,0:10:48.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Opskrbljivali su lokalne trgovine\Nproizvodima i kući donosili
Dialogue: 0,0:10:48.16,0:10:49.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,njihovu protuvrijednost.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:49.70,0:10:51.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Uz to
Dialogue: 0,0:10:51.27,0:10:54.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,uvriježila su se određena uvjerenja:
Dialogue: 0,0:10:54.27,0:10:56.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,djevičanstvo prije braka,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:56.47,0:10:59.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ugovoreni brakovi \N- strogo ugovoreni brakovi -
Dialogue: 0,0:10:59.44,0:11:01.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,uvjerenje da je muškarac glava kuće,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:01.99,0:11:04.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a da je ženi mjesto u njoj
Dialogue: 0,0:11:04.25,0:11:05.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i što je najvažnije -
Dialogue: 0,0:11:05.43,0:11:08.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,poštuj muža svoga\Ni dok nas smrt ne rastavi.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:08.59,0:11:10.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Toga više nema.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:10.33,0:11:12.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ova uvjerenja nestaju, a posvuda su
Dialogue: 0,0:11:12.90,0:11:14.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,već i nestala.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:14.32,0:11:17.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Trenutno se nalazimo u bračnoj revoluciji.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:17.76,0:11:22.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Odbacujemo poljoprivrednu tradiciju\Nstaru deset tisuća godina,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:22.50,0:11:28.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a prihvaćamo egalitaran\Nodnos među spolovima -
Dialogue: 0,0:11:28.15,0:11:32.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nešto što je sukladno\Npradavnom ljudskom duhu.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:33.56,0:11:35.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nisam blesava;
Dialogue: 0,0:11:35.29,0:11:37.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,treba žaliti za odbačenim.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:37.07,0:11:38.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Proučavala sam razvod u 80 kultura,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:38.84,0:11:40.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i prevaru u mnogima
Dialogue: 0,0:11:41.00,0:11:42.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i ima tu puno problema.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:42.84,0:11:46.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Kao što je William Butler Yeats rekao:
Dialogue: 0,0:11:46.06,0:11:48.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Ljubav je nepredvidljiva."
Dialogue: 0,0:11:49.13,0:11:51.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dodala bih: "I svi od nje pogibamo."
Dialogue: 0,0:11:51.94,0:11:53.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Smijeh)
Dialogue: 0,0:11:53.06,0:11:54.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Svi imamo problema,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:54.92,0:11:58.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ali mislim da je pjesnik Randall Jarrell\Nto najbolje objasnio:
Dialogue: 0,0:11:58.55,0:12:03.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Mračan, mučan svijet obiteljskog života -
Dialogue: 0,0:12:03.58,0:12:08.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,tu i najbolji padaju,\Na i najponizniji se uzdižu."
Dialogue: 0,0:12:08.78,0:12:10.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Zapamtite ovo:
Dialogue: 0,0:12:10.69,0:12:13.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ljubav i privrženost ostaju,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:13.44,0:12:15.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,tehnologija to ne može promijeniti.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:15.100,0:12:17.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Zaključit ću riječima:
Dialogue: 0,0:12:17.86,0:12:23.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,svaki pokušaj razumijevanja\Nljudskih odnosa mora uzeti u obzir
Dialogue: 0,0:12:23.13,0:12:27.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,jedno od najmoćnijih odrednica\Nljudskog ponašanja:
Dialogue: 0,0:12:27.38,0:12:28.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,neutaživ,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:29.22,0:12:30.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,prilagodljiv,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:30.79,0:12:33.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,iskonski ljudski nagon za ljubav.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:33.82,0:12:34.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hvala vam.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:34.100,0:12:38.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Pljesak)
Dialogue: 0,0:12:39.92,0:12:42.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Kelly Stoetzel: Hvala ti, Helen!
Dialogue: 0,0:12:42.32,0:12:44.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Kao što znaš, imamo još jednog govornika
Dialogue: 0,0:12:44.65,0:12:46.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,koji se bavi tvojim područjem.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:46.23,0:12:48.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ona tome prilazi iz druge perspektive.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:48.68,0:12:53.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Esther Perel psihoterapeutkinja je\Nza parove.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:53.75,0:12:55.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ti proučavaš podatke,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:55.07,0:12:57.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a ona priče koje joj parovi ispričaju
Dialogue: 0,0:12:57.59,0:12:59.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,kada joj dođu u potrazi za pomoći.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:59.64,0:13:01.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Pridruži nam se na pozornici,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:01.39,0:13:02.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Esther.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:02.56,0:13:05.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Pljesak)
Dialogue: 0,0:13:10.25,0:13:11.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Esther,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:11.52,0:13:13.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,slušajući Helenin govor,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:13.82,0:13:15.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,je li ti se neki dio
Dialogue: 0,0:13:15.04,0:13:17.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,učinio već viđenim u tvom radu,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:17.84,0:13:19.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a koji bi željela prokomentirati?
Dialogue: 0,0:13:20.06,0:13:23.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Esther Perel: zanimljivo je\Njer je u jednu ruku
Dialogue: 0,0:13:23.66,0:13:27.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,potreba za ljubavi\Nsveprisutna i univerzalna,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:27.96,0:13:29.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ali način na koji volimo --
Dialogue: 0,0:13:29.95,0:13:31.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,značenje koje mu pridajemo --
Dialogue: 0,0:13:31.51,0:13:33.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,pravila koja vode naše odnose
Dialogue: 0,0:13:33.86,0:13:35.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,značajno se mijenjaju.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:35.91,0:13:38.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do sada smo radili prema modelu
Dialogue: 0,0:13:38.83,0:13:42.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,koji je reguliran dužnostima i obvezama,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:42.32,0:13:44.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,potrebama kolektiva i odanosti,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:44.74,0:13:45.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a sada prelazimo
Dialogue: 0,0:13:45.94,0:13:50.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,na model slobodnog izbora i osobnih prava,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:50.30,0:13:53.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,samoostvarenja i sreće.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:53.40,0:13:55.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To sam prvo pomislila -
Dialogue: 0,0:13:55.74,0:13:57.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ta se potreba ne treba mijenjati,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:57.53,0:14:01.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ali kontekst i način\Nna koji reguliramo te odnose
Dialogue: 0,0:14:01.36,0:14:02.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,uvelike se mijenjaju.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:02.67,0:14:04.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Što se tiče paradoksa izbora,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:06.68,0:14:09.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,čini mi se kao da uživamo u neobičnosti
Dialogue: 0,0:14:09.03,0:14:10.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i zaigranosti
Dialogue: 0,0:14:10.65,0:14:13.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,koju veća mogućnost izbora donosi,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:13.38,0:14:14.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a istovremeno,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:14.77,0:14:17.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,kako ste govorili\No kognitivnom preopterećenju,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:17.21,0:14:20.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,primjećujem mnogo ljudi
Dialogue: 0,0:14:22.39,0:14:26.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,koji se užasavaju nesigurnosti\Ni sumnji u sebe same
Dialogue: 0,0:14:26.52,0:14:29.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,koja nastaje uslijed\Novolike količine izbora.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:29.09,0:14:31.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Time nastaje SOPP
Dialogue: 0,0:14:31.38,0:14:33.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,koji nas vodi -
Dialogue: 0,0:14:33.04,0:14:36.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,SOPP, strah od propuštenih prilika,\Nodnosno strah od propuštanja -
Dialogue: 0,0:14:36.38,0:14:39.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i tjera nas da se zapitamo kako znamo\Nda smo našli pravoga -
Dialogue: 0,0:14:39.36,0:14:40.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,onog pravog.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:40.56,0:14:44.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Stvorili smo nešto što ja nazivam\Nstabilnom nejasnoćom.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:44.60,0:14:48.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Stabilna nejasnoća nastaje\Nkad se previše bojimo biti sami,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:48.33,0:14:52.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ali ne želimo stvarati intimnost.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:52.39,0:14:57.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To je niz taktika koje produžuju\Nnesigurnost odnosa,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:57.71,0:15:00.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ali i nesigurnost prekida.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:00.34,0:15:03.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Na internetu razlikujemo\Ntri takve taktike.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:03.34,0:15:05.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Prva: zahlađenje i zakuhavanje.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:05.69,0:15:08.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To su sjajne taktike\Nako si želite kupiti vremena,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:08.59,0:15:11.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a pružaju pasivnost
Dialogue: 0,0:15:11.09,0:15:14.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,koja naglašava nedefiniranu narav odnosa,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:14.91,0:15:19.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ali istovremeno vam daje\Ndovoljno utješne dosljednosti
Dialogue: 0,0:15:19.04,0:15:21.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i dovoljno slobode neodređenih granica.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:21.82,0:15:23.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Smijeh)
Dialogue: 0,0:15:24.07,0:15:25.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Da?
Dialogue: 0,0:15:25.26,0:15:26.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Druga: iščezavanje.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:26.84,0:15:28.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Iščezavanje je
Dialogue: 0,0:15:28.83,0:15:33.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,kada nestanete s platforme za dopisivanje
Dialogue: 0,0:15:33.38,0:15:37.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i tada se ne morate nositi s boli\Nkoju nanosite drugima
Dialogue: 0,0:15:37.18,0:15:39.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,jer je nevidljiva i vama.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:39.81,0:15:40.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Smijeh)
Dialogue: 0,0:15:41.02,0:15:42.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Da?
Dialogue: 0,0:15:42.20,0:15:46.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Razmišljala sam - ove su mi riječi\Nsame došle dok sam vas slušala,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:46.96,0:15:52.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,kako rječnik također stvara stvarnost,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:52.15,0:15:53.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a to je istovremeno
Dialogue: 0,0:15:53.73,0:15:55.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,moje pitanje za vas:
Dialogue: 0,0:15:55.44,0:15:58.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Kada se promijeni kontekst, mislite li
Dialogue: 0,0:15:58.40,0:16:02.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,da narav ljubavi ostaje ista?
Dialogue: 0,0:16:02.06,0:16:06.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Vi proučavate mozak, a ja\Nljudske odnose i priče,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:06.18,0:16:10.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,pa mislim da vrijedi\Nsve ono što ste rekli i još ponešto.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:10.69,0:16:14.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ne znam uvijek do koje razine\Npromjena konteksta...
Dialogue: 0,0:16:15.45,0:16:17.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Počinje li se mijenjati\Nu određenom trenutku --
Dialogue: 0,0:16:18.00,0:16:20.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ako se značenje promijeni,\Nmijenja li se i potreba,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:20.64,0:16:23.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ili je potreba neovisna o kontekstu?
Dialogue: 0,0:16:23.80,0:16:25.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,HF: Opa! Pa --
Dialogue: 0,0:16:25.24,0:16:27.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Smijeh)
Dialogue: 0,0:16:27.70,0:16:30.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Pljesak)
Dialogue: 0,0:16:30.90,0:16:33.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Imam tri stvari za reći, zar ne?
Dialogue: 0,0:16:34.74,0:16:36.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Prvo, kao odgovor\Nna vaš prvi argument:
Dialogue: 0,0:16:36.59,0:16:40.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nesumnjivo smo se promijenili,\Nsada želimo osobu koju ćemo voljeti,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:40.20,0:16:43.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a tisućama godina,\Nmorali smo se vjenčati za pravu osobu
Dialogue: 0,0:16:43.07,0:16:45.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,pravog porijekla i s pravim vezama.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:45.37,0:16:48.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,U biti, u mojim istraživanjima\Nod 5 000 ljudi godišnje
Dialogue: 0,0:16:48.74,0:16:50.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,pitam ih što traže.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:50.89,0:16:53.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Svake godine,\Npreko 97 % ispitanika odgovara:
Dialogue: 0,0:16:53.67,0:16:54.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,EP: Popis traženog raste.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:54.91,0:16:56.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,HF: Pa ne baš.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:56.09,0:16:59.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Preko 97% ljudi
Dialogue: 0,0:16:59.44,0:17:01.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,želi nekoga tko ih poštuje,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:01.55,0:17:03.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nekoga kome mogu vjerovati i povjeriti se,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:03.87,0:17:05.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nekoga tko ih nasmijava,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:05.55,0:17:07.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nekoga tko će izdvojiti vrijeme za njih
Dialogue: 0,0:17:07.45,0:17:11.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i nekoga tko im je fizički privlačan.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:11.47,0:17:12.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To je konstanta.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:12.78,0:17:15.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A svakako postoje dva dijela --
Dialogue: 0,0:17:15.98,0:17:17.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,EP: Znate li kako ja to nazivam?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:17.59,0:17:19.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To ljudi nisu prije govorili --
Dialogue: 0,0:17:19.86,0:17:21.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,HF: Upravo tako.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:21.11,0:17:24.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,EP: Govorili su da žele nekoga za društvo,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:24.44,0:17:25.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ekonomsku podršku, djecu.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:25.75,0:17:28.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Prešli smo iz proizvodne\Nu uslužnu ekonomiju.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:28.36,0:17:29.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Smijeh)
Dialogue: 0,0:17:29.40,0:17:32.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Uvelike smo to učinili u kulturi,\Na sada to činimo i u braku.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:32.40,0:17:33.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,HF: Točno, to uopće nije upitno.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:33.97,0:17:37.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Milenijalci zaista\Nžele biti dobri roditelji,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:37.91,0:17:42.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,dok starije generacije žele lijep brak,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:42.05,0:17:44.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ali nisu toliko željni\Nbiti dobri roditelji.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:44.30,0:17:46.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sve su te finese vidljive.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:46.40,0:17:48.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Osobnost se sastoji od dva osnovna dijela:
Dialogue: 0,0:17:48.98,0:17:52.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,kulturu -- sve što su vas odgajali\Nda činite, vjerujete i govorite --
Dialogue: 0,0:17:52.58,0:17:53.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i temperament.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:54.00,0:17:56.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ja sam ovdje govorila o temperamentu,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:56.86,0:18:00.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a on će se mijenjati\Nkako se mijenjaju i vremena
Dialogue: 0,0:18:00.20,0:18:01.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i uvjerenja.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:01.89,0:18:05.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Po pitanju paradoksa izbora,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:05.06,0:18:07.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,uopće nije upitno da je to nezgodno.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:07.49,0:18:10.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Milijunima godina gledali smo zgodne dečke
Dialogue: 0,0:18:10.38,0:18:12.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,s druge strane bare
Dialogue: 0,0:18:12.13,0:18:13.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i prepustili se.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:13.30,0:18:14.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,EP: Da, ali --
Dialogue: 0,0:18:14.48,0:18:16.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,HF: Želim reći još nešto.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:16.25,0:18:18.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,U konačnici društva lovaca sakupljača
Dialogue: 0,0:18:18.89,0:18:22.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,za života su imala po dva-tri partnera.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:22.51,0:18:23.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nije im bilo dosadno!
Dialogue: 0,0:18:23.70,0:18:25.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ne kažem da i mi tako živimo,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:25.38,0:18:29.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ali uvijek smo imali alternative.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:29.38,0:18:30.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Čovječanstvo je oduvijek --
Dialogue: 0,0:18:30.88,0:18:34.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,zapravo, mozak je "uravnoteženo" građen
Dialogue: 0,0:18:34.10,0:18:35.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i odlučuje na temelju pokušaja:
Dialogue: 0,0:18:35.27,0:18:37.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hoću li doći i ostati?\NHoću li otići ili ostati?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:37.73,0:18:39.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Kakve mi ovo prilike pruža?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:39.30,0:18:40.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Kako da se nosim s ovime?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:40.63,0:18:43.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Upravo gledamo drugu verziju toga.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:44.05,0:18:45.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,KS: Hvala vam objema.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:45.70,0:18:48.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Mislim da ćete večeras imati\Nmilijun partnera za večeru.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:48.93,0:18:50.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Pljesak)
Dialogue: 0,0:18:50.93,0:18:52.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hvala vam, hvala vam.