WEBVTT 00:00:01.283 --> 00:00:03.346 (종소리) 00:00:11.263 --> 00:00:31.143 항상 나 자신이 부족하다고 느낍니다. 어떻게 해야 확신을 가지고 타인의 의견에만 의존하지 않을수 있을까요? NOTE Paragraph 00:00:33.394 --> 00:00:36.832 스님 안녕하세요. 제 질문은... 00:00:37.556 --> 00:00:39.851 저는 어릴 때부터... 00:00:40.198 --> 00:00:42.661 저 자신이 누군가와 항상 비교된다는 느낌을 받으며 자랐습니다. 00:00:43.162 --> 00:00:47.418 저보다 더 나은 누군가와요. 00:00:48.215 --> 00:00:49.822 이런 느낌은... 00:00:50.117 --> 00:00:53.934 어렸을 때부터 지금까지도 계속되고 있습니다. NOTE Paragraph 00:00:56.922 --> 00:01:04.855 이 때문에 저는 무언가 결정할 일이 있을 때마다... 00:01:05.638 --> 00:01:07.751 다른 사람들이 생각을 신경쓰게 되었습니다. 00:01:08.216 --> 00:01:15.352 그들이 내 결정을 좋게 보는지 나쁘게 보는지를요. 00:01:16.332 --> 00:01:22.530 그리고는 누군가 저에게 긍정적으로 칭찬의 말을 하면... 00:01:22.977 --> 00:01:25.457 저는 아주 기분 좋아 하지만, 00:01:25.811 --> 00:01:28.604 제가 한 일에 대해 부정적인 말을 들으면... 00:01:28.800 --> 00:01:31.023 저 자신이 부족하다는 생각에... 00:01:31.428 --> 00:01:36.876 누군가에게 뒤진다는 자책감이 들고... 00:01:37.279 --> 00:01:42.502 항상 이룰 수 없는 무언가를 쫓고 있다는 생각이 들곤 하고... 00:01:43.739 --> 00:01:48.001 저 자신의 존재에 대한 신념도 잃는다는 느낌을 받습니다. NOTE Paragraph 00:01:48.654 --> 00:01:52.396 제 질문은 어떻게 해야 안정적으로 자신에 대한 확신을 가지고... 00:01:52.583 --> 00:01:58.487 다른 사람들의 의견에 지나치게 의존하지 않을 수 있을까 하는 것입니다. NOTE Paragraph 00:02:06.052 --> 00:02:08.633 00:02:09.528 --> 00:02:11.068 00:02:12.267 --> 00:02:16.230 00:02:16.557 --> 00:02:18.965 00:02:19.189 --> 00:02:22.642 00:02:23.106 --> 00:02:26.354 00:02:28.576 --> 00:02:30.363 00:02:30.546 --> 00:02:32.490 00:02:32.682 --> 00:02:34.246 00:02:34.449 --> 00:02:36.465 00:02:36.664 --> 00:02:39.674 00:02:39.744 --> 00:02:42.085 NOTE Paragraph 00:02:42.376 --> 00:02:43.962 00:02:44.198 --> 00:02:48.523 00:02:48.770 --> 00:02:51.809 NOTE Paragraph 00:02:53.656 --> 00:02:57.151 00:02:58.238 --> 00:03:02.934 00:03:07.769 --> 00:03:13.150 00:03:14.119 --> 00:03:18.005 00:03:20.514 --> 00:03:24.996 00:03:25.123 --> 00:03:29.141 00:03:29.926 --> 00:03:35.372 00:03:35.812 --> 00:03:38.151 00:03:41.213 --> 00:03:45.291 00:03:49.215 --> 00:03:53.289 00:03:54.439 --> 00:03:58.560 00:03:59.527 --> 00:04:04.637 00:04:06.433 --> 00:04:11.150 00:04:11.427 --> 00:04:16.548 00:04:17.018 --> 00:04:18.467 00:04:19.384 --> 00:04:25.852 00:04:26.770 --> 00:04:32.153 00:04:32.454 --> 00:04:36.108 00:04:36.223 --> 00:04:38.086 00:04:38.518 --> 00:04:42.198 00:04:42.288 --> 00:04:44.729 00:04:44.889 --> 00:04:48.080 00:04:48.493 --> 00:04:51.821 00:04:52.333 --> 00:04:57.058 00:04:57.338 --> 00:04:59.933 NOTE Paragraph 00:05:01.656 --> 00:05:08.549 00:05:08.908 --> 00:05:11.829 00:05:12.078 --> 00:05:16.245 00:05:16.405 --> 00:05:20.322 NOTE Paragraph 00:05:20.755 --> 00:05:26.612 00:05:27.975 --> 00:05:30.269 00:05:30.513 --> 00:05:34.385 00:05:36.355 --> 00:05:40.804 00:05:41.357 --> 00:05:46.656 00:05:47.035 --> 00:05:49.860 00:05:49.950 --> 00:05:52.722 00:05:52.990 --> 00:05:55.446 00:05:57.595 --> 00:06:04.912 00:06:05.542 --> 00:06:09.719 00:06:11.327 --> 00:06:18.270 00:06:21.483 --> 00:06:25.789 00:06:26.749 --> 00:06:29.761 00:06:30.194 --> 00:06:34.554 00:06:35.301 --> 00:06:42.639 00:06:43.285 --> 00:06:45.327 NOTE Paragraph 00:06:47.001 --> 00:06:49.038 00:06:50.021 --> 00:06:52.067 00:06:53.599 --> 00:07:01.283 00:07:02.759 --> 00:07:05.856 00:07:06.771 --> 00:07:09.032 00:07:09.336 --> 00:07:11.563 00:07:11.819 --> 00:07:14.118 00:07:14.507 --> 00:07:20.447 00:07:20.870 --> 00:07:23.026 00:07:23.698 --> 00:07:31.485 00:07:32.094 --> 00:07:34.934 00:07:35.762 --> 00:07:38.914 00:07:39.158 --> 00:07:42.749 00:07:43.750 --> 00:07:48.055 00:07:48.260 --> 00:07:52.140 00:07:53.152 --> 00:07:54.352 00:07:54.883 --> 00:07:57.690 00:07:58.347 --> 00:08:03.525 NOTE Paragraph 00:08:04.629 --> 00:08:09.088 00:08:09.483 --> 00:08:12.683 00:08:12.883 --> 00:08:14.941 00:08:15.021 --> 00:08:18.963 00:08:19.975 --> 00:08:24.289 00:08:24.789 --> 00:08:27.597 00:08:27.767 --> 00:08:32.126 00:08:32.558 --> 00:08:35.134 00:08:35.374 --> 00:08:38.297 00:08:38.490 --> 00:08:43.060 NOTE Paragraph 00:08:43.981 --> 00:08:45.401 NOTE Paragraph 00:08:45.841 --> 00:08:47.616 NOTE Paragraph 00:08:49.836 --> 00:08:51.736 00:08:54.832 --> 00:09:01.584