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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.97,0:00:03.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Half bell)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.70,0:00:16.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Bell)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:33.39,0:00:36.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dear Thay, my question is...
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.56,0:00:39.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Since I was younger growing up
Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.20,0:00:42.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt I was always\Nbeing compared
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.16,0:00:47.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to someone who was better than myself.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.22,0:00:49.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have experienced that
Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.12,0:00:53.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,since I was little up until now.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.92,0:01:04.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It causes me to seek affirmation\Nfor my own decisions
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.64,0:01:07.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in someone else's opinion,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.22,0:01:15.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whether what I did\Nis a good decision or a bad decision.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.33,0:01:22.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I feel when someone speaks\Ngood of me or compliments me
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.98,0:01:25.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I feel very happy about it.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.81,0:01:28.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But if someone speaks negatively of me
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.80,0:01:31.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I feel like I am not good enough
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.43,0:01:36.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it makes me feel\Nlike I am always second,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.28,0:01:42.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,always a shadow of something\NI cannot attain.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.74,0:01:48.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I feel sometimes I lose ground\Nof my own self.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.65,0:01:52.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My question is\Nhow do I become more stable
Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.58,0:01:58.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I don't need\Nto seek affirmations outside of myself.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.05,0:02:08.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sister) Dear Thay, dear Sangha,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.53,0:02:11.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our friend's question
Dialogue: 0,0:02:12.27,0:02:16.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is about how to be solid in herself.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.56,0:02:18.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When she makes decisions,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.19,0:02:22.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she may look for compliments\Nor approval from others
Dialogue: 0,0:02:23.11,0:02:26.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for decisions or actions\Nthat she has taken.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:28.58,0:02:30.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When she is praised,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.55,0:02:32.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then she feels good about herself.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.68,0:02:34.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But if there is some criticism,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:34.45,0:02:36.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she feels like she is not good enough,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.66,0:02:39.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that she is second best, and falls short,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.74,0:02:42.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that she is a shadow\Nof what she could be.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.38,0:02:43.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So her question is
Dialogue: 0,0:02:44.20,0:02:48.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how she can be more solid\Nin those situations,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.77,0:02:51.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and practice with that.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.66,0:02:57.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The practice of mindfulness\Ncan help you
Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.24,0:03:02.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to have faith in yourself.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.77,0:03:13.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you look deeply at things,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:14.12,0:03:18.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we have our own way of understanding.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.51,0:03:24.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In our daily life that kind of insight
Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.12,0:03:29.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we get\Nconcerning people and things,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.93,0:03:35.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is confirmed by your life,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.81,0:03:38.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by your daily experiences,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.21,0:03:45.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you believe in your insight.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:49.22,0:03:53.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you really believe in your insight,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:54.44,0:03:58.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then you have confidence in yourself.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:59.53,0:04:04.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you practice\Nmindful breathing well enough,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:06.43,0:04:11.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you find it helpful,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.43,0:04:16.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you get the joy,\Nthe happiness, the peace
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.02,0:04:18.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,while practicing
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.38,0:04:25.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then you believe\Nin the effectiveness of the practice.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.77,0:04:32.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then even if one thousand people\Nwould say that is useless,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.45,0:04:36.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it does not make sense\Nto practice mindful breathing,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.22,0:04:38.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you would still smile.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:38.52,0:04:42.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because you know\Nby your own experience
Dialogue: 0,0:04:42.29,0:04:44.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that mindful breathing helps you
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.89,0:04:48.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be fresh, to be peaceful, to be happy.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.49,0:04:51.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the opinions of other people
Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.33,0:04:57.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,cannot make you abandon your conviction,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:57.34,0:04:59.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your belief.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.66,0:05:08.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know that the notion of beauty
Dialogue: 0,0:05:08.91,0:05:11.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,differs with every person.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:12.08,0:05:16.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Something can be\Nvery beautiful to someone
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.40,0:05:20.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but not beautiful to other people.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.76,0:05:26.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The notions of beauty, or ugliness,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:27.98,0:05:30.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they are notions,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:30.51,0:05:34.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you are not affected\Nby their opinions.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:36.36,0:05:40.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You are a flower\Nin the garden of humanity.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.36,0:05:46.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You are not something less\Nthan a flower in the garden of humanity.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.04,0:05:49.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You belong to the kingdom of God,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.95,0:05:52.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like any other wonder of life.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.99,0:05:55.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you have that insight,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:57.60,0:06:04.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you know that you have\Nthe seed of compassion,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:05.54,0:06:09.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of joy, of happiness in you,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:11.33,0:06:18.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then you know that you have a value.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.48,0:06:25.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you believe in the existence\Nof these qualities,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:26.75,0:06:29.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,transmitted by your parents and ancestors,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:30.19,0:06:34.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you are a continuation of them,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:35.30,0:06:42.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then the opinions people have on you\Nwill have no effect.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:43.28,0:06:45.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You still continue.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:47.00,0:06:49.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,During the war in Vietnam
Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.02,0:06:52.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I worked for peace.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:53.60,0:07:01.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My community did not\Ntake sides in the war,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:02.76,0:07:05.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we wanted reconciliation.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:06.77,0:07:09.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We did not want the North and the South
Dialogue: 0,0:07:09.34,0:07:11.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,fighting and killing each other.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:11.82,0:07:14.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we believed that\Nto be the truth,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:14.51,0:07:20.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the best, most beautiful path to go:
Dialogue: 0,0:07:20.87,0:07:23.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the path of compassion.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:23.70,0:07:31.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,People in the warring parties\Nlooked upon us with suspicion.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:32.09,0:07:34.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They thought that we were stupid.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:35.76,0:07:38.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you take side with one warring party,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:39.16,0:07:42.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you are at least protected\Nby that warring party.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:43.75,0:07:48.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you don't take the side\Nof any warring party,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.26,0:07:52.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then you are exposed\Nto be attacked by both warring parties.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:53.15,0:07:54.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But if you believe
Dialogue: 0,0:07:54.88,0:07:57.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that your path\Nis the path of compassion,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.35,0:08:03.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the path of humanity, you continue.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:04.63,0:08:09.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Millions of people believed\Nthat we were Communists.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:09.48,0:08:12.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They were afraid of communism,\Nthey wanted to kill communists.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:12.88,0:08:14.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We put ourselves in danger.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:15.02,0:08:18.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And other people thought\Nthat we were pro-American.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:19.98,0:08:24.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Many millions of people misunderstood us
Dialogue: 0,0:08:24.79,0:08:27.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and yet we still continued with our path,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:27.77,0:08:32.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because we had belief in our values.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:32.56,0:08:35.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think if you continue\Nto practice like that
Dialogue: 0,0:08:35.37,0:08:38.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you will be solid as a mountain.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:38.49,0:08:43.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You will not be assaulted\Nby any kind of opinions.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:43.98,0:08:45.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Good luck!
Dialogue: 0,0:08:45.84,0:08:47.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:08:49.84,0:08:51.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Half bell)
Dialogue: 0,0:08:54.83,0:09:01.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Bell)