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Format: Layer, Start, End, Style, Name, MarginL, MarginR, MarginV, Effect, Text
Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.00,0:00:02.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd like to talk to you today
Dialogue: 0,0:00:02.00,0:00:07.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about a whole new way to think about sexual activity
Dialogue: 0,0:00:07.00,0:00:11.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and sexuality education, by comparison.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.00,0:00:13.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you talk to someone today in America
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.00,0:00:15.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about sexual activity,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.00,0:00:19.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you'll find pretty soon you're not just talking
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.00,0:00:20.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about sexual activity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.00,0:00:23.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're also talking about baseball.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.00,0:00:28.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because baseball is the dominant cultural metaphor
Dialogue: 0,0:00:28.00,0:00:30.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that Americans use to think about
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.00,0:00:33.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and talk about sexual activity,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:33.00,0:00:35.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we know that because there's
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.00,0:00:37.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all this language in English
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.00,0:00:40.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that seems to be talking about baseball
Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.00,0:00:44.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but that's really talking about sexual activity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.00,0:00:47.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, for example, you can be a pitcher or a catcher,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.00,0:00:49.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that corresponds to whether you
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.00,0:00:53.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,perform a sexual act or receive a sexual act.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.00,0:00:54.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Of course, there are the bases,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.00,0:00:57.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which refer to specific sexual activities
Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.00,0:01:00.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that happen in a very specific order,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.00,0:01:03.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ultimately resulting in scoring a run
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.00,0:01:04.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or hitting a home run,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.00,0:01:06.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is usually having vaginal intercourse
Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.00,0:01:08.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the point of orgasm,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.00,0:01:11.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at least for the guy.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.00,0:01:12.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.00,0:01:14.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can strike out, which means
Dialogue: 0,0:01:14.00,0:01:16.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you don't get to have any sexual activity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.00,0:01:18.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you're a benchwarmer,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.00,0:01:20.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you might be a virgin or somebody who for
Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.00,0:01:22.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whatever reason isn't in the game,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.00,0:01:26.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe because of your age or because of your ability
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.00,0:01:29.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or because of your skillset.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.00,0:01:30.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A bat's a penis,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.00,0:01:34.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a nappy dugout is a vulva, or a vagina.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.00,0:01:37.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A glove or a catcher's mitt is a condom.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.00,0:01:40.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A switch-hitter is a bisexual person,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:40.00,0:01:44.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we gay and lesbian folks play for the other team.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.00,0:01:47.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then there's this one:
Dialogue: 0,0:01:47.00,0:01:51.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"if there's grass on the field, play ball."
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.00,0:01:53.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that usually refers to
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.00,0:01:56.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if a young person, specifically often a young woman,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.00,0:01:58.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is old enough to have pubic hair,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.00,0:02:01.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she's old enough to have sex with.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.00,0:02:04.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This baseball model is incredibly problematic.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.00,0:02:06.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's sexist. It's heterosexist.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.00,0:02:09.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's competitive. It's goal-directed.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.00,0:02:11.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it can't result in healthy sexuality
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.00,0:02:14.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,developing in young people or in adults.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.00,0:02:16.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we need a new model.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.00,0:02:19.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm here today to offer you that new model.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.00,0:02:21.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it's based on
Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.00,0:02:22.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,pizza.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.00,0:02:26.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now pizza is something that is universally understood
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.00,0:02:29.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that most people associate with a positive experience.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.00,0:02:30.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So let's do this.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.00,0:02:33.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let's take baseball and pizza and compare it
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.00,0:02:36.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when talking about three aspects of sexual activity:
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.00,0:02:38.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the trigger for sexual activity,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.00,0:02:40.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what happens during sexual activity,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.00,0:02:43.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the expected outcome of sexual activity.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.00,0:02:46.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when do you play baseball?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.00,0:02:48.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You play baseball when it's baseball season
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.00,0:02:51.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and when there's a game on the schedule.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.00,0:02:53.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's not exactly your choice.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.00,0:02:56.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So if it's prom night or a wedding night
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.00,0:02:59.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or at a party or if our parents aren't home,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.00,0:03:02.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,hey, it's just batter up.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.00,0:03:03.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you imagine saying to your coach,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.00,0:03:06.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Uh, I'm not really feeling it today,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.00,0:03:08.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think I'll sit this game out."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.00,0:03:10.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's just not the way it happens.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.00,0:03:12.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when you get together to play baseball,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.00,0:03:15.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,immediately you're with two opposing teams,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.00,0:03:17.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one playing offense, one playing defense,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.00,0:03:20.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,somebody's trying to move deeper into the field.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.00,0:03:22.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's usually a sign to the boy.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:22.00,0:03:25.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Somebody's trying to defend people moving into the field.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.00,0:03:27.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's often given to the girl.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.00,0:03:28.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's competitive.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:28.00,0:03:30.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're not playing with each other.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.00,0:03:31.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're playing against each other.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.00,0:03:33.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when you show up to play baseball,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.00,0:03:36.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nobody needs to talk about what we're going to do
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.00,0:03:38.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or how this baseball game might be good for us.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.00,0:03:39.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everybody knows the rules.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.00,0:03:44.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You just take your position and play the game.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.00,0:03:46.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But when do you have pizza?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.00,0:03:50.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, you have pizza when you're hungry for pizza.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:50.00,0:03:55.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It starts with an internal sense, an internal desire, or a need.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.00,0:03:58.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Huh. I could go for some pizza."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:58.00,0:04:00.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.00,0:04:03.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And because it's an internal desire,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.00,0:04:05.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we actually have some sense of control over that.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.00,0:04:07.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I could decide that I'm hungry
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.00,0:04:11.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but know that it's not a great time to eat.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.00,0:04:14.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then when we get together with someone for pizza,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:14.00,0:04:16.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we're not competing with them,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:16.00,0:04:18.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we're looking for an experience
Dialogue: 0,0:04:18.00,0:04:19.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that both of us will share
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.00,0:04:21.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's satisfying for both of us,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:21.00,0:04:24.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and when you get together for pizza with somebody,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.00,0:04:26.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what's the first thing you do?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.00,0:04:28.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You talk about it.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:28.00,0:04:29.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You talk about what you want.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.00,0:04:31.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You talk about what you like.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:31.00,0:04:32.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You may even negotiate it.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.00,0:04:35.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"How do you feel about pepperoni?" (Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.00,0:04:38.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Not so much, I'm kind of a mushroom guy myself."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:38.00,0:04:40.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Well, maybe we can go half and half."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:40.00,0:04:42.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And even if you've had pizza with somebody
Dialogue: 0,0:04:42.00,0:04:45.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for a very long time,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:45.00,0:04:47.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,don't you still say things like,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.00,0:04:49.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Should we get the usual?"
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.00,0:04:50.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:04:50.00,0:04:54.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Or maybe something a little more adventurous?"
Dialogue: 0,0:04:54.00,0:04:56.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay, so when you're playing baseball,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.00,0:04:58.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so if we talk about during sexual activity,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.00,0:04:59.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you're playing baseball,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.00,0:05:02.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're just supposed to round the bases
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.00,0:05:04.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the proper order one at a time.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.00,0:05:06.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can't hit the ball and run to right field.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:06.00,0:05:07.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That doesn't work.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.00,0:05:10.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you also can't get to second base and say,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:10.00,0:05:14.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I like it here. I'm going to stay here."
Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.00,0:05:16.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.00,0:05:18.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And also, of course, with baseball, there's, like,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.00,0:05:20.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the specific equipment and a specific skill set.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.00,0:05:24.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not everybody can play baseball. It's pretty exclusive.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.00,0:05:26.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay, but what about pizza?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:26.00,0:05:28.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we're trying to figure out what's good for pizza,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.00,0:05:31.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,isn't it all about what's our pleasure?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.00,0:05:33.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are a million different kinds of pizza.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.00,0:05:35.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's a million different toppings.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.00,0:05:37.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's a million different ways to eat pizza.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.00,0:05:40.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And none of them are wrong. They're different.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.00,0:05:42.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in this case, difference is good,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:42.00,0:05:44.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because that's going to increase the chance
Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.00,0:05:47.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we're having a satisfying experience.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.00,0:05:50.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And lastly, what's the expected outcome of baseball?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:50.00,0:05:54.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, in baseball, you play to win.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:54.00,0:05:56.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You score as many runs as you can.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:56.00,0:05:58.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's always a winner in baseball,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:58.00,0:06:02.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that means there's always a loser in baseball.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:02.00,0:06:03.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what about pizza?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:03.00,0:06:05.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, in pizza, we're not really --
Dialogue: 0,0:06:05.00,0:06:09.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there's no winning. How do you win pizza?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:09.00,0:06:12.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You don't. But you do look for,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.00,0:06:14.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Are we satisfied?"
Dialogue: 0,0:06:14.00,0:06:16.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And sometimes that can be different amounts
Dialogue: 0,0:06:16.00,0:06:18.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,over different times or with different people
Dialogue: 0,0:06:18.00,0:06:20.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or on different days.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:20.00,0:06:23.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we get to decide when we feel satisfied.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:23.00,0:06:26.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we're still hungry, we might have some more.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:26.00,0:06:28.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you eat too much, though,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:28.00,0:06:30.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you just feel gross.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:30.00,0:06:32.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:06:32.00,0:06:35.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So what if we could take this pizza model
Dialogue: 0,0:06:35.00,0:06:38.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and overlay it on top of sexuality education?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:38.00,0:06:41.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A lot of sexuality education that happens today
Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.00,0:06:44.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is so influenced by the baseball model,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:44.00,0:06:48.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it sets up education that can't help
Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.00,0:06:52.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but produce unhealthy sexuality in young people.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:52.00,0:06:54.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And those young people become older people.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:54.00,0:06:57.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But if we could create sexuality education
Dialogue: 0,0:06:57.00,0:07:00.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that was more like pizza,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:00.00,0:07:03.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we could create education that invites people
Dialogue: 0,0:07:03.00,0:07:05.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to think about their own desires,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:05.00,0:07:09.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to make deliberate decisions about what they want,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:09.00,0:07:11.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to talk about it with their partners,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:11.00,0:07:13.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to ultimately look for
Dialogue: 0,0:07:13.00,0:07:16.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not some external outcome
Dialogue: 0,0:07:16.00,0:07:19.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but for what feels satisfying,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:19.00,0:07:22.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we get to decide that.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:22.00,0:07:23.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You may have noticed
Dialogue: 0,0:07:23.00,0:07:25.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the baseball and pizza comparison,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.00,0:07:28.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,under the baseball, it's all commands.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:28.00,0:07:30.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're all exclamation points.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:30.00,0:07:33.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But under the pizza model, they're questions.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:33.00,0:07:35.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And who gets to answer those questions?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:35.00,0:07:39.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You do. I do.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:39.00,0:07:41.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So remember, when we're thinking about
Dialogue: 0,0:07:41.00,0:07:44.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sexuality education and sexual activity,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:44.00,0:07:46.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,baseball, you're out.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:46.00,0:07:49.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Pizza is the way to think about healthy,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:49.00,0:07:51.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,satisfying sexual activity,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:51.00,0:07:54.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and good, comprehensive sexuality education.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:54.00,0:07:57.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you very much for your time.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:57.00,0:08:01.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)