[Script Info] Title: [Events] Format: Layer, Start, End, Style, Name, MarginL, MarginR, MarginV, Effect, Text Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.48,0:00:12.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Good Morning Dialogue: 0,0:00:12.81,0:00:18.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Worldwide, over 1.5 billion people \Nexperience armed conflict Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.14,0:00:21.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In response, people are forced to flee \Ntheir country. Dialogue: 0,0:00:21.74,0:00:25.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,leaving over 15 million refugees. Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.51,0:00:27.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Children without a doubt are Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.23,0:00:30.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the most innocent and vulnerable victims. Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.42,0:00:33.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But not just from the obvious\Nphysical dangers, Dialogue: 0,0:00:33.16,0:00:37.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but from, the often, unspoken affects\Nthat wars have on their families. Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.09,0:00:41.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The experiences of war leave children \Nat real high risk Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.23,0:00:44.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for the development of emotional \Nand behavioural problems. Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.74,0:00:47.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Children as we can only imagine, Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.51,0:00:49.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,will feel worried, threaten and at risk. Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.72,0:00:52.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But there is good news, Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.44,0:00:54.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the quality of care that children receive Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.83,0:00:58.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in their families, can have a \Nmore significant effects Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.23,0:01:00.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on their well-being, than from Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.28,0:01:03.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the actual experiences of war that \Nthey have been exposed to. Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.28,0:01:07.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So actually, children can be protected Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.30,0:01:09.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by warm, secure parenting, Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.92,0:01:11.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,during and after conflict. Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.64,0:01:17.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In 2011, I was a first year PHD Student Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.16,0:01:19.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the University Of Manchester Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.13,0:01:21.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,School Of Physiological Sciences. Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.27,0:01:24.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like many of you here, I watched \Nthe crisis in Syria Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.16,0:01:26.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,unfold in front of me on the TV. Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.35,0:01:29.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My family are originally from Syria,\Nand very early on Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.84,0:01:32.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I lost several family members\Nin really horrifying ways. Dialogue: 0,0:01:33.52,0:01:36.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I sat and I gathered with my family \Nand watched the TV. Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.00,0:01:38.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we have all seen those scenes, Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.66,0:01:42.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,bombs destroying, buildings, \Nchaos, destruction. Dialogue: 0,0:01:42.85,0:01:45.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and people screaming and running. Dialogue: 0,0:01:45.66,0:01:47.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was always the people screaming\Nand running Dialogue: 0,0:01:47.46,0:01:49.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that really got me the most. Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.76,0:01:52.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Specially those terrified \Nlooking children. Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.48,0:01:57.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was a mother to two young,\Ntypically inquisitive children. Dialogue: 0,0:01:57.11,0:01:58.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They were five and six then. Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.81,0:02:01.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At an age when they typically \Nask lots and lots of questions Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.67,0:02:04.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and expect real convincing answers. Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.34,0:02:07.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I began to wonder what it might be like Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.100,0:02:12.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to parent my children in a war-zone \Nand a refugee camp. Dialogue: 0,0:02:12.33,0:02:14.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Would my children change? Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.77,0:02:18.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Would my daughter's bright happy \Neyes lose their shine? Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.68,0:02:21.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Would my son's really relax \Ncare-free nature Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.81,0:02:23.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,become fearful and withdrawn? Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.80,0:02:26.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How would I cope? Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.71,0:02:29.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Would I change? Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.55,0:02:32.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As psychologists and parent's trainers Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.83,0:02:34.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we know that arming parents Dialogue: 0,0:02:34.66,0:02:36.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with skills and caring for their children Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.73,0:02:39.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can have a huge effect on their\Nwell-being. Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.03,0:02:42.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We call this parents training. Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.44,0:02:43.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the questions I had Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.90,0:02:47.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was could Parent Training programs \Nbe useful for families Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.08,0:02:50.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,while they're still in war-zones or \Nrefugee camps? Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.20,0:02:53.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Could we reach them with \Nadvice or training Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.69,0:02:56.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that would help them through \Nthese struggles? Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.85,0:03:00.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, I approached my PHD supervisor, Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.27,0:03:01.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,professor Rachel Calam, Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.79,0:03:04.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with the idea of using my academic skills Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.19,0:03:06.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to make some changes in the real world. Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.58,0:03:09.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wasn't quite sure, exactly,\Nwhat I wanted to do. Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.63,0:03:11.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She listened carefully and patiently, Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.60,0:03:12.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then to my joy, \Nshe said: Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.98,0:03:14.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"If that is what you want to do, Dialogue: 0,0:03:14.54,0:03:16.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it means so much to you, then \Nlet's do it. Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.35,0:03:20.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let's find ways to see if \Nparent programs can be useful Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.82,0:03:23.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for families in this contexts." Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.50,0:03:26.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So for the past five years myself \Nand my colleagues, Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.78,0:03:28.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,professor Calam and Dr. Kim Cartwright Dialogue: 0,0:03:28.90,0:03:31.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have been working on ways \Nto support families Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.36,0:03:34.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that have experienced war\Nand displacement. Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.15,0:03:37.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, to know how to help \Nfamilies that have been Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.52,0:03:39.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,through conflict, support their children, Dialogue: 0,0:03:40.24,0:03:41.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The first step must obviously be Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.97,0:03:44.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to ask them what are they \Nstruggling with. Right? Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.91,0:03:46.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, it seems obvious,\N\N Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.41,0:03:48.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but often those are the \Nmost vulnerable Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.30,0:03:51.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we are trying to support that\Nwe actually don't ask. Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.58,0:03:53.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How many times have we just assumed Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.39,0:03:56.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we know exactly the right thing that \Nis gonna help someone or something Dialogue: 0,0:03:56.80,0:03:58.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without actually asking them first. Dialogue: 0,0:03:59.04,0:04:02.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So i travelled to the refugee camps \Nin Syria and in Turkey. Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.04,0:04:05.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I sat with families and I listened. Dialogue: 0,0:04:06.25,0:04:08.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I listened to the parenting challenges Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.76,0:04:10.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I listened to the parenting struggles Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.99,0:04:13.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I listened to their call for help Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.11,0:04:15.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And sometimes that was \Njust paused Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.67,0:04:18.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as all I could was hold hand\Nwith them and just join them Dialogue: 0,0:04:18.51,0:04:19.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in silence crying and prayer Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.93,0:04:21.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So they told me about their struggles Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.28,0:04:26.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They told me about the rough, \Nharsh refugee camp condition Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.90,0:04:30.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That made it hard to focus on \Nanything but practical chores Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.64,0:04:32.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like collecting clean water. Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.30,0:04:36.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He told me how they watch their \Nchildren withdrawn, Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.18,0:04:40.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the sadness, depression, anger\Nbed-wetting, thumb sucking Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.38,0:04:45.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,fear of loud noises, fear of nightmares,\Nterrifying terrifying nightmares. Dialogue: 0,0:04:46.78,0:04:50.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These families had been through\Nwhat we had been watching on the TV. Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.52,0:04:54.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The mothers almost half of them were\Nnow wisdom of the war Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.15,0:04:57.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or didn't even know their husbands\Nwere dead or alive, Dialogue: 0,0:04:57.86,0:05:00.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,described how they thought they\Nwere coping so badly Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.72,0:05:03.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They watched their children change Dialogue: 0,0:05:03.60,0:05:05.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they had no idea \Nhow to help them. Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.94,0:05:08.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They didn't know how to answer\Ntheir children's questions. Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.60,0:05:12.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why I found incredibly \Nastonishing and so motivational Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.40,0:05:17.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was that these families was so \Nmotivated to support their children Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.02,0:05:20.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Despite all these challenges they faced Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.13,0:05:22.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they were trying to help their children Dialogue: 0,0:05:22.64,0:05:25.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they were making attempts at seeking\Nsupport from NGO workers Dialogue: 0,0:05:26.38,0:05:30.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from refugee camp teachers,\Nprofessional medics, other parents. Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.39,0:05:33.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One mother I met had only been \Naccount for 4 days Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.14,0:05:36.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and had already made two attempts\Nat seeking support Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.07,0:05:38.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for her eight -year-old daughter\N Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.87,0:05:41.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who was having terrifying nightmares. Dialogue: 0,0:05:42.51,0:05:46.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But sadly, these attempts are \Nalmost always useless. Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.36,0:05:49.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Refugee camp doctors when available \Nare almost always too busy or Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.88,0:05:53.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,don't have the knowledge all\Nthe time for basic parenting supports. Dialogue: 0,0:05:54.50,0:05:58.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Refugee camp teachers and other \Nparents are just like them Dialogue: 0,0:05:58.80,0:06:02.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,part of a new refugee community\Nwho's struggling with units Dialogue: 0,0:06:03.04,0:06:07.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So then we began to think\Nhow could we help these families. Dialogue: 0,0:06:08.64,0:06:12.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The families were struggling with things\Nmuch bigger than they could cope with. Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.84,0:06:16.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The Syrian crisis made it clear how\Nincredibly impossible it would be Dialogue: 0,0:06:16.64,0:06:19.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to reach families on an individual level. Dialogue: 0,0:06:19.43,0:06:21.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How else could we help them. Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.75,0:06:26.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How would we reach families\Nat a population level and low-cost Dialogue: 0,0:06:27.87,0:06:31.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in these terrifying terrifying times. Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.77,0:06:34.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,After hours of speaking to NGO workers Dialogue: 0,0:06:34.25,0:06:38.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one suggested a fantastic innovative\Nidea of distributing Dialogue: 0,0:06:38.22,0:06:41.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,parenting information leaflets \Nby a bread wrappers. Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.89,0:06:44.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Bread wrappers that were being \Ndelivered to families Dialogue: 0,0:06:44.49,0:06:47.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in a conflict zone in Syria\Nby humanitarian workers Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.20,0:06:49.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So that's what we did Dialogue: 0,0:06:49.89,0:06:52.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The bread wrappers haven't changed\Nat all in their apperance Dialogue: 0,0:06:52.93,0:06:55.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,except for the addition of two pieces\Nof paper. Dialogue: 0,0:06:55.78,0:06:59.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One was a parenting information leaflet\Nthat had basic advice Dialogue: 0,0:06:59.92,0:07:02.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and information that normalizes\Nthe parent Dialogue: 0,0:07:02.41,0:07:04.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what they might be experiencing\N Dialogue: 0,0:07:04.40,0:07:06.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and what their child \Nmight be experiencing Dialogue: 0,0:07:06.43,0:07:08.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and information on how they \Ncould support themselves Dialogue: 0,0:07:08.92,0:07:10.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and their children Dialogue: 0,0:07:10.12,0:07:13.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,such as information like spending time\Ntalking to a child Dialogue: 0,0:07:14.37,0:07:18.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,showing them more affection\Nbeing more patient with your child Dialogue: 0,0:07:18.61,0:07:20.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,talking to your children. Dialogue: 0,0:07:20.18,0:07:22.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The other piece of paper \Nwas a feedback questionnaire Dialogue: 0,0:07:22.84,0:07:24.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and of course there was a pen. Dialogue: 0,0:07:26.00,0:07:29.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So is this simply leaflet distribution Dialogue: 0,0:07:29.72,0:07:33.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or is it actually possible means of\Ndelivering psychological first aid Dialogue: 0,0:07:33.34,0:07:35.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that provides warm secure Dialogue: 0,0:07:35.12,0:07:36.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,loving parenting. Dialogue: 0,0:07:36.40,0:07:40.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We managed to distribute 3000 of these\Nin just one week. Dialogue: 0,0:07:41.76,0:07:45.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was incredible was we had \N60-percent response rate Dialogue: 0,0:07:45.51,0:07:49.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sixty-percent of the three thousand\Nfamilies responded. Dialogue: 0,0:07:49.90,0:07:52.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't know how many reasearches\Nwe have here today Dialogue: 0,0:07:52.44,0:07:54.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but that kind of response rate\Nis fantastic Dialogue: 0,0:07:54.94,0:07:58.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to have this in Manchester\Nwould be a huge achivement Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.16,0:08:00.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let alone in a conflict zone in Syria Dialogue: 0,0:08:00.96,0:08:04.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,really highlighting how important\Nthese kind of messages work to families. Dialogue: 0,0:08:04.64,0:08:06.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember how excited Dialogue: 0,0:08:06.27,0:08:08.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and eager we were\Nfor the return of the questionnaires Dialogue: 0,0:08:08.80,0:08:11.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the families had left hundreds \Nof messages Dialogue: 0,0:08:11.25,0:08:14.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,most incredibly positive encouraging. Dialogue: 0,0:08:14.13,0:08:15.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My favorite has got to be Dialogue: 0,0:08:15.76,0:08:18.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Thank you for not forgetting about us\Nand our children". Dialogue: 0,0:08:19.95,0:08:23.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This really illustrates a potential \Nmeans of the delivery of psychological Dialogue: 0,0:08:23.73,0:08:27.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,first aid to families and the return of \Nfeedback too. Dialogue: 0,0:08:27.18,0:08:29.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just imagine replicating this using\Nother means Dialogue: 0,0:08:29.89,0:08:31.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,such as baby look distribution Dialogue: 0,0:08:31.91,0:08:35.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or female hygiene kits \Nor even food baskets Dialogue: 0,0:08:36.03,0:08:37.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let's bring this closer to home Dialogue: 0,0:08:37.100,0:08:39.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because the refugee crisis is one\N Dialogue: 0,0:08:39.61,0:08:42.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,having an effect on every single one of us Dialogue: 0,0:08:42.40,0:08:45.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're bombarded with images \Ndaily of statistics Dialogue: 0,0:08:45.44,0:08:46.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and photos Dialogue: 0,0:08:46.55,0:08:48.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's not surprising Dialogue: 0,0:08:48.67,0:08:50.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because by last month Dialogue: 0,0:08:50.10,0:08:52.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,over 1 million refugees \Nhad reached europe Dialogue: 0,0:08:53.23,0:08:57.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,1 million refugees are joining\Nour communities Dialogue: 0,0:08:57.39,0:08:59.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're becoming our neighbors Dialogue: 0,0:08:59.40,0:09:01.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,their children are attending\Nour children schools. Dialogue: 0,0:09:01.78,0:09:06.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we've adapted the leaflets to \Nmeet the needs of European refugees Dialogue: 0,0:09:06.88,0:09:09.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we have them online open access Dialogue: 0,0:09:09.22,0:09:12.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and areas with a really high \Nrefugee influx. Dialogue: 0,0:09:12.25,0:09:14.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For example, the Swedish healthcare\Nuploaded it Dialogue: 0,0:09:14.60,0:09:16.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,onto their website Dialogue: 0,0:09:16.05,0:09:17.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,within the first 45 mintutes Dialogue: 0,0:09:17.57,0:09:19.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it was downloaded 343 times Dialogue: 0,0:09:20.41,0:09:23.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,really highlighting how important it is\Nfor volunteers, Dialogue: 0,0:09:23.09,0:09:25.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,practitioners and other parents \Nto have open Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.58,0:09:28.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,access psychological first aid messages. Dialogue: 0,0:09:30.46,0:09:36.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In 2014, I was sitting on the cold \Nharsh floor of a refugee camp tent Dialogue: 0,0:09:36.48,0:09:40.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with mother sitting around me as\NI was conducting a focus group Dialogue: 0,0:09:40.75,0:09:42.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,across from East, an elderly lady Dialogue: 0,0:09:43.02,0:09:46.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with what seemed to be a 13-year-old\Ngirl lying beside her, Dialogue: 0,0:09:46.16,0:09:48.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with her head on the other ladies knees. Dialogue: 0,0:09:48.90,0:09:53.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The girls stayed quiet throughout\Nthe focus group not talking at all Dialogue: 0,0:09:53.28,0:09:55.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with her knees curled up \Nagainst her chest. Dialogue: 0,0:09:56.05,0:09:57.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Towards the end of the focus group Dialogue: 0,0:09:57.82,0:10:00.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and as I was thanking the mothers\Nfor their time Dialogue: 0,0:10:00.81,0:10:03.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the other lady looked at me while\Npointing at the young girl Dialogue: 0,0:10:03.64,0:10:07.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and said to me:" Can you help us with?" Dialogue: 0,0:10:07.06,0:10:09.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not quite sure what she expected\Nme to do Dialogue: 0,0:10:09.48,0:10:12.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I looked at the young girl and smiled,\Nin Arabic I said Dialogue: 0,0:10:12.57,0:10:13.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Arabic) Dialogue: 0,0:10:14.56,0:10:16.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"What is your name?" Dialogue: 0,0:10:16.57,0:10:19.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She looked at me really confused \Nand engaged Dialogue: 0,0:10:19.30,0:10:21.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but then said:"Halluan" Dialogue: 0,0:10:21.75,0:10:25.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Halluan is the best name for\Nthe Arabic female name Halla Dialogue: 0,0:10:25.68,0:10:28.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and is only really used to refer\Nto really young girls. Dialogue: 0,0:10:29.75,0:10:32.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At that point, I realized that actually\NHallo was probably much Dialogue: 0,0:10:32.97,0:10:37.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,older than thirteen, it turns out Halla \Nwas a 25-year-old mother Dialogue: 0,0:10:37.20,0:10:40.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to three young children Dialogue: 0,0:10:40.12,0:10:43.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Halla had been a confident bright \Nbubby loving caring mother Dialogue: 0,0:10:43.72,0:10:45.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to her children. Dialogue: 0,0:10:45.17,0:10:46.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the war had changed all about. Dialogue: 0,0:10:48.08,0:10:52.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She had lived through bombs drop\Nbeing dropped in her town. Dialogue: 0,0:10:52.28,0:10:54.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She had lived through explosions, \N Dialogue: 0,0:10:54.90,0:10:58.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when fighter jets were flying around\Ntheir building dropping bombs, Dialogue: 0,0:10:58.82,0:11:01.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,her children would be screaming\Nterrified from the noise. Dialogue: 0,0:11:02.06,0:11:03.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Halla would frantically grab pillows Dialogue: 0,0:11:03.88,0:11:06.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and cover her children's ears to \Nblock out the noise. Dialogue: 0,0:11:06.64,0:11:08.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all the while screaming herself Dialogue: 0,0:11:08.82,0:11:10.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When they reached the refugee camp Dialogue: 0,0:11:10.63,0:11:13.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she knew they were finally \Nin some kind of safety, Dialogue: 0,0:11:14.01,0:11:15.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she completely withdrew to acting Dialogue: 0,0:11:15.92,0:11:18.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like her old childhood self. Dialogue: 0,0:11:18.39,0:11:20.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She completely rejected her family, Dialogue: 0,0:11:20.100,0:11:23.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,her children, her husband. Dialogue: 0,0:11:23.83,0:11:26.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Halla simply could no longer cope. \N Dialogue: 0,0:11:27.19,0:11:30.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now this is the parenting struggle \Nwith a really tough ending Dialogue: 0,0:11:30.37,0:11:32.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but sadly, it is not uncommon. Dialogue: 0,0:11:32.50,0:11:35.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Those, who experienced armed conflict\Nand displacement Dialogue: 0,0:11:35.36,0:11:38.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,will face serious emotional struggles Dialogue: 0,0:11:38.39,0:11:40.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's something we can \Nall relate to. Dialogue: 0,0:11:41.32,0:11:45.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you have been through \Na devastating time in your life. Dialogue: 0,0:11:45.74,0:11:49.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you have lost someone or something\Nyou really care about. Dialogue: 0,0:11:50.44,0:11:53.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How would you continue to cope? Dialogue: 0,0:11:53.12,0:11:56.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Could you still be able to care \Nfor yourself and for your family? Dialogue: 0,0:11:57.98,0:12:01.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Given that the first years \Nof child's life are crucial Dialogue: 0,0:12:01.37,0:12:04.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for healthy physical and \Nemotional development. Dialogue: 0,0:12:04.49,0:12:08.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that 1.5 billion people are \Nexperiencing armed conflict. Dialogue: 0,0:12:09.30,0:12:12.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Many of whom are now joining \Nour communities. Dialogue: 0,0:12:12.22,0:12:14.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can not afford to turn a blind eye Dialogue: 0,0:12:14.40,0:12:17.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to a need of those who are\Nexperiencing war and displacement. Dialogue: 0,0:12:17.83,0:12:23.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We must prioritize these family needs \Nto those both burn internally displaced Dialogue: 0,0:12:23.16,0:12:25.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and those who are refugees worldwide. Dialogue: 0,0:12:25.98,0:12:28.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These needs must be prioritized Dialogue: 0,0:12:28.59,0:12:32.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by NGO workers, policy makers, \Nthe WHO, the UNHCR Dialogue: 0,0:12:33.54,0:12:36.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and every single one of us \Nin whatever capacity, Dialogue: 0,0:12:36.91,0:12:39.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it is that we function in society. Dialogue: 0,0:12:39.17,0:12:43.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we begin to recognize the\Nindividual phases of the conflict. Dialogue: 0,0:12:43.82,0:12:47.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we begin to notice those\Nintricate emotions on their faces, Dialogue: 0,0:12:48.50,0:12:51.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we begin to see them as human too. Dialogue: 0,0:12:51.62,0:12:54.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We begin to see the needs \Nof these families. Dialogue: 0,0:12:54.17,0:12:56.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and these are the real human needs. Dialogue: 0,0:12:56.84,0:12:59.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When these families needs \Nare prioritized Dialogue: 0,0:12:59.84,0:13:02.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,interventions for children \Nin humanitarian settings Dialogue: 0,0:13:02.82,0:13:06.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,will prioritize and recognize the\Nprimary role of the family Dialogue: 0,0:13:07.03,0:13:09.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in supporting children. Dialogue: 0,0:13:09.24,0:13:12.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Family mental health will be \Nshouting loud and clear Dialogue: 0,0:13:12.07,0:13:14.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in global international agenda Dialogue: 0,0:13:14.10,0:13:18.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And children will be less likely \Nto enter social service systems Dialogue: 0,0:13:18.31,0:13:20.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and resettlement countries Dialogue: 0,0:13:20.02,0:13:23.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because their families would have\Nhad support earlier on Dialogue: 0,0:13:23.97,0:13:26.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we will be more open-minded Dialogue: 0,0:13:26.74,0:13:29.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,more welcoming, more caring \Nand more trusting Dialogue: 0,0:13:29.51,0:13:31.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to those who are joining \Nour communities. Dialogue: 0,0:13:32.95,0:13:35.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We need to stop wars. Dialogue: 0,0:13:36.01,0:13:39.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We need to build a world where\Nchildren can dream of planes Dialogue: 0,0:13:39.50,0:13:42.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,dropping gifts and not bombs. Dialogue: 0,0:13:43.04,0:13:45.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Until we stop armed conflicts, Dialogue: 0,0:13:45.48,0:13:49.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,raging throughout the world, families\Nwill continue to be displaced Dialogue: 0,0:13:49.09,0:13:51.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,leaving children vulnerable Dialogue: 0,0:13:51.39,0:13:54.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but by improving parenting and \Ncaregivers support, Dialogue: 0,0:13:54.47,0:13:57.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It may be possible to weaken the links Dialogue: 0,0:13:57.20,0:13:59.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,between wars and \Npsychological difficulties Dialogue: 0,0:13:59.79,0:14:01.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in children and their families. Dialogue: 0,0:14:01.83,0:14:02.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.