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Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.92,0:00:06.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,hey everyone thanks for checking back.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.23,0:00:08.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,now this weeks video is something that you have asked
Dialogue: 0,0:00:08.47,0:00:13.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for alot and it has to do with my borderline personality
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.72,0:00:16.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,disorder video the BPD video that I put up
Dialogue: 0,0:00:16.62,0:00:19.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so if you havent watched that, check that out.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.20,0:00:24.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but this is kind of diving deeper into DBT therapy
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.50,0:00:27.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dialectical and Behavioural therapy.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.93,0:00:36.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,now DBT therapy is a type of therapy that is used alot for Borderline Personality Disorder patients
Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.44,0:00:40.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and theres a woman Martia Lineham and I never know if i say her last name right.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.50,0:00:53.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Martia wrote a lot of books about it and created DBT therapy
Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.23,0:00:59.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and one of the main components of DBT therapy is mindfulnes.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.22,0:01:05.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ok so what is mindfulness? im being mindful right now, that word is used a lot
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.11,0:01:12.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but in DBT therapy its very specific and its very detailed. like, way too detailed
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.99,0:01:18.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but, today im going to talk to you about kind of the'what' skills of mindfulness
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.56,0:01:25.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and mindfulness is broken down into about 6 different skill sets
Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.06,0:01:30.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and today im just going to talk about 3. so you can see why DBT is a practice. its
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.56,0:01:36.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,something that you, as a clinician, study, eat, breathe, sleep if thats all you do
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.84,0:01:43.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,9 til 5 or 9 til 6.30 or whatever your work day is, every day, all day.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.80,0:01:48.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so mindfulness is a way we can help regulate our emotions
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.34,0:01:54.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to that i mean if we're feeling, honestly if we have borderline personality
Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.58,0:01:58.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,disorder we're like i dont know how I feel, i just feel overwhelmed, thats how I feel
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.87,0:02:04.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but, if we're feeling a lot of emotions and theyre just building up and waah we feel overwhelmed,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.76,0:02:11.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mindfulness will help bring us back down. and the first thing we want to do is observe.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.44,0:02:16.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and i know that seems really bizarre, but what i mean is, if you start
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.74,0:02:22.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,feeling anxious, but you dont quite know what it is yet. you just have that sense
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.61,0:02:27.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,tat somethings building, right. we start to notice. hey my palms are getting sweaty,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.41,0:02:33.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my heart is racing, im breathing faster and my thoughts are going a million miles a minute
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.34,0:02:39.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and all this stuff is happening. we need to notice that right. we dont need to control it.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.53,0:02:48.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we dont need to control whats happening. we can control our focus of it but we dont have to control the actual emotion
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.35,0:02:53.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,does that make sense, we're just watching and we're noticing.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.10,0:02:58.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and i read a couple of articles and people describe it as having almost like
Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.16,0:03:03.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a teflon mind. teflon being those frying pans that nothing sticks to cos we're not letting
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.48,0:03:07.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,anything take hold of us, we're not ruminating about being angry, sad,mad
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.37,0:03:14.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,happy,elated, whatever we feel we're not sticking on it we're just noticing.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:14.12,0:03:19.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ok? and that even in itself with my clients, thats months of work.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:19.54,0:03:26.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,right, just to observe, but thats something we can do slowly but surely. we just take note
Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.80,0:03:31.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,observe whats happening, when we have those kind of breakdowns where you feel
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.11,0:03:37.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like your heads going to explode, notice what that was like, how did it build up. what happened today and yesterday
Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.82,0:03:45.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you kind of go back and observe. then, and i made notes because sometimes this gets a little tricky
Dialogue: 0,0:03:45.86,0:03:51.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so after we've observed then we need to describe the experience.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.08,0:03:55.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so like i was saying after we've looked inside ourselves and noticed our palms were
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.54,0:03:59.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sweaty this is happening, then try to put words to it. we dont have to know the emotion yet
Dialogue: 0,0:03:59.56,0:04:03.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because a lot of times, and for many of you, i know Jess, we've talked a lot and you're
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.11,0:04:09.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like, i dont know how im feeling and we have those happy and sad pictures you put up.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:09.24,0:04:18.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is the time when you have to put words to it. those words being my heart was racing, i felt this, i felt this.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:18.01,0:04:22.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it doesnt have to be an emmotional description, how was our body responding?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.38,0:04:29.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ok so try to put words to your experience. now that takes some time aswell, but you can ]
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.06,0:04:33.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,see how they kind of go hand in hand, how the observe goes hand in hand with the
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.62,0:04:39.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,describing and putting words to it. so the last portion that im going to talk
Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.58,0:04:45.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about today is participate, and im reading my notes cos like i said there are 6 parts
Dialogue: 0,0:04:45.48,0:04:55.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of just this portion. so this is kind of letting yourself act intuitively and participate in life
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.40,0:05:04.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so FEEl angry, FEEL sad, FEEL elated, FEEL in love, feel whatever, right
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.20,0:05:14.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whatever youre feeling, feel it. come from your wise mind, and we'll talk about that in another video
Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.14,0:05:21.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,stay tuned for wise mind. but come from a place of the observe and the putting words
Dialogue: 0,0:05:21.50,0:05:26.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the experience, but still have the experience, you dont need to hold back and not
Dialogue: 0,0:05:26.48,0:05:32.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,allow yourself it and be so controlled we're not controlling our emotions, we're controlling
Dialogue: 0,0:05:32.00,0:05:37.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how long we allow ourselves to deal with it and ruminate on it. does that make sense?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.87,0:05:46.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the difference between participating and responding to it? thats almost like
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.14,0:05:52.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i guess if i was going to give youa good analogy. i get a ticket on my car come out and the parking metre is up
Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.81,0:05:59.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and i got a ticket and im like son of a hfkshfgashfbakh right, i respond immediately.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:59.42,0:06:05.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and lets say i see the metre maid and im like, you son of a bitch sfkjanfjn and i just lose
Dialogue: 0,0:06:05.11,0:06:13.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it, that would be responding. but if im going to participate i would say to myself,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:13.05,0:06:20.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that really sucks! I dont have 65 bucks thats so frustrating i should have planned better
Dialogue: 0,0:06:20.14,0:06:26.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and i just allow myself to feel upset, but im not ruminating im not responding
Dialogue: 0,0:06:26.47,0:06:33.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,im not reacting i guess is the best word, im just participating ok?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:33.43,0:06:40.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so this is gonna be a very long period of time we're going to do many videos on this topic
Dialogue: 0,0:06:40.39,0:06:45.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because its very haard to comprehend and it takes time and practise. but this week we're
Dialogue: 0,0:06:45.69,0:06:51.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,going to practice mindfulness. so i want you this week to observe. lets just do number 1
Dialogue: 0,0:06:51.30,0:07:06.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i know we had 3 things we had observe, then we would describe it and put words to it. then
Dialogue: 0,0:07:06.90,0:07:15.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we would participate, but this week we're just going to observe. so notice how youre feeling in your
Dialogue: 0,0:07:15.08,0:07:22.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,body and whats going on, before you reach that overwhelmed stage. and leave comments below if any of you have done
Dialogue: 0,0:07:22.32,0:07:27.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,DBT therapy i know many of you have and youve had great results. leave your tips and
Dialogue: 0,0:07:27.51,0:07:32.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,tricks and things that have helped and how helpful DBT therapy was and if it wasnt let me know.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:32.38,0:07:37.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like hey i like THIS kind of therapy better and we can do videos on that too cos thats what we do
Dialogue: 0,0:07:37.38,0:07:43.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i listen to you you speak to me and i do the videos that people want most, and if you like this video
Dialogue: 0,0:07:43.72,0:07:48.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,give it a thumbs up and let me know, and dont forget to check out my borderline video that i talked about earlier
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.81,0:07:53.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and dont forget to subscribe to my channel because like i said i'll be putting out many videos
Dialogue: 0,0:07:53.94,0:07:58.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on this topic so you want to make sure to stay tuned and catch it, and keep working
Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.38,0:08:02.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with me towards a healthy mind and a healthy body