WEBVTT 00:00:03.687 --> 00:00:07.477 Good evening, and welcome to the Boston University Huntington Theater, 00:00:07.477 --> 00:00:09.862 for this, the second part of our course, 00:00:09.862 --> 00:00:12.960 in elementary courting, for men. 00:00:12.960 --> 00:00:15.920 May I say how please I am with tonight's turnout, 00:00:15.920 --> 00:00:19.880 some eight hundred people, which is very gratifying. 00:00:19.880 --> 00:00:22.031 Tonight, we look at the first date. 00:00:22.031 --> 00:00:26.578 Obviously, taking out a girl for the first time, is a very complex issue. 00:00:26.578 --> 00:00:30.040 The first crucial step is, having arranged to pick up your date, 00:00:30.040 --> 00:00:33.339 not to look like a complete idiot when she opens the door. 00:00:40.871 --> 00:00:45.063 Best to look as though your attention has been momentarily distracted. 00:00:49.725 --> 00:00:54.880 But when you do notice her, it is vital to say how pretty she is looking, straight away. 00:00:55.372 --> 00:00:57.217 But don't over do it. 00:01:04.756 --> 00:01:07.218 If at this point you are introduced to her parents, 00:01:07.218 --> 00:01:09.475 attitude is all important. 00:01:09.475 --> 00:01:11.222 You can be too casual... 00:01:14.283 --> 00:01:16.268 or you can be too keen. 00:01:26.391 --> 00:01:28.702 When you said goodbye to the parents, 00:01:28.702 --> 00:01:30.839 again don't overdo it, 00:01:33.115 --> 00:01:34.916 lead her to your car, 00:01:35.917 --> 00:01:39.102 and remember to open the door. 00:01:41.240 --> 00:01:44.062 Once in the car, there are various ways of driving. 00:01:44.062 --> 00:01:45.871 If you drive like this... 00:01:55.533 --> 00:01:57.935 you might lose her respect. 00:01:57.935 --> 00:01:59.648 If you drive like this... 00:02:14.817 --> 00:02:17.391 you should have taken a taxi. 00:02:17.391 --> 00:02:19.683 Before long, you'll arrive at the restaurant. 00:02:19.698 --> 00:02:21.502 Get out of the car... 00:02:26.594 --> 00:02:29.175 and escort her to your table. 00:02:30.083 --> 00:02:32.425 Then tuck her into her seat, yourself... 00:02:37.348 --> 00:02:39.342 and attract the waiter's attention. 00:02:53.480 --> 00:02:56.102 Selecting from the wine list is important, 00:02:56.102 --> 00:02:58.880 complete ignorance is not good. 00:03:01.665 --> 00:03:04.646 When the bottle arrives, there's much to be made in the tasting of it, 00:03:04.646 --> 00:03:06.418 but don't be too professional. 00:03:21.157 --> 00:03:24.742 With eating, again, moderation is the order of the day. 00:03:24.803 --> 00:03:26.138 Don't eat too fast... 00:03:35.323 --> 00:03:36.952 but don't eat too slowly. 00:03:46.629 --> 00:03:48.569 Next, is recieving the bill, 00:03:48.569 --> 00:03:50.031 this is a very important moment. 00:03:50.031 --> 00:03:52.438 You must be sure not to lose your cool. 00:03:52.438 --> 00:03:53.662 This is right... 00:03:58.385 --> 00:04:00.182 ...this is wrong. 00:04:16.551 --> 00:04:18.745 The girl, may of couse offer to pay herself, 00:04:18.760 --> 00:04:21.643 in which case you should refuse... 00:04:21.643 --> 00:04:22.751 for a while. 00:04:24.874 --> 00:04:27.812 Next stop, is a fashionable discotheque. 00:04:31.289 --> 00:04:33.651 Once inside, you might look slightly strange 00:04:33.651 --> 00:04:35.160 if you try to talk over the music. 00:04:35.160 --> 00:04:38.256 So just stand casually, and look sexy. 00:04:43.641 --> 00:04:54.243 This is good...this is better...this is starting to be misguided. 00:04:55.828 --> 00:04:58.542 After stance, dance technique is most important. 00:04:58.542 --> 00:05:00.548 Most people don't know how to dance, 00:05:00.548 --> 00:05:01.922 and so do too much... 00:05:03.708 --> 00:05:05.757 Other people do too little. 00:05:09.542 --> 00:05:11.874 Some people dance as if there's something up their bottom, 00:05:16.843 --> 00:05:19.160 and other people dance as if there's something coming out of their bottom. 00:05:24.252 --> 00:05:27.415 When all's said and done, it's best probably to not to dance at all. 00:05:28.477 --> 00:05:34.367 A well-mimed sporting injuring is always useful, and a good excuse for leaving the discotheque. 00:05:34.367 --> 00:05:36.963 If you don't utterly foul it up, 00:05:36.963 --> 00:05:40.169 20 minutes later, you should back at your place. 00:05:42.492 --> 00:05:45.942 It's important to relax, and make your guest feel at home. 00:05:45.942 --> 00:05:48.169 She will probably feel as nervous as you do, 00:05:48.169 --> 00:05:50.698 and there's no need to make any extra special effort. 00:06:02.636 --> 00:06:04.486 Then, putting on the music. 00:06:04.502 --> 00:06:06.739 We can't help you with the choice of CD, 00:06:06.739 --> 00:06:08.588 even though no matter what the circumstances, 00:06:08.588 --> 00:06:12.114 Donny and Marie Osmond's greatest hits would be a mistake. 00:06:19.037 --> 00:06:22.945 At all cost, avoid the temptation to brag about your stereo. 00:06:31.944 --> 00:06:36.144 Now comes the moment you've been waiting for—the seduction. 00:06:37.283 --> 00:06:41.000 This is the subject of next week's lecture. 00:06:45.400 --> 00:06:49.135 However, as a rough guide, this is right... 00:06:52.520 --> 00:06:55.489 ...and this is, I think we all agree, disastrous.