1 00:00:03,687 --> 00:00:07,477 Good evening, and welcome to the Boston University Huntington Theater, 2 00:00:07,477 --> 00:00:09,862 for this, the second part of our course, 3 00:00:09,862 --> 00:00:12,960 in elementary courting, for men. 4 00:00:12,960 --> 00:00:15,920 May I say how please I am with tonight's turnout, 5 00:00:15,920 --> 00:00:19,880 some eight hundred people, which is very gratifying. 6 00:00:19,880 --> 00:00:22,031 Tonight, we look at the first date. 7 00:00:22,031 --> 00:00:26,578 Obviously, taking out a girl for the first time, is a very complex issue. 8 00:00:26,578 --> 00:00:30,040 The first crucial step is, having arranged to pick up your date, 9 00:00:30,040 --> 00:00:33,339 not to look like a complete idiot when she opens the door. 10 00:00:40,871 --> 00:00:45,063 Best to look as though your attention has been momentarily distracted. 11 00:00:49,725 --> 00:00:54,880 But when you do notice her, it is vital to say how pretty she is looking, straight away. 12 00:00:55,372 --> 00:00:57,217 But don't over do it. 13 00:01:04,756 --> 00:01:07,218 If at this point you are introduced to her parents, 14 00:01:07,218 --> 00:01:09,475 attitude is all important. 15 00:01:09,475 --> 00:01:11,222 You can be too casual... 16 00:01:14,283 --> 00:01:16,268 or you can be too keen. 17 00:01:26,391 --> 00:01:28,702 When you said goodbye to the parents, 18 00:01:28,702 --> 00:01:30,839 again don't overdo it, 19 00:01:33,115 --> 00:01:34,916 lead her to your car, 20 00:01:35,917 --> 00:01:39,102 and remember to open the door. 21 00:01:41,240 --> 00:01:44,062 Once in the car, there are various ways of driving. 22 00:01:44,062 --> 00:01:45,871 If you drive like this... 23 00:01:55,533 --> 00:01:57,935 you might lose her respect. 24 00:01:57,935 --> 00:01:59,648 If you drive like this... 25 00:02:14,817 --> 00:02:17,391 you should have taken a taxi. 26 00:02:17,391 --> 00:02:19,683 Before long, you'll arrive at the restaurant. 27 00:02:19,698 --> 00:02:21,502 Get out of the car... 28 00:02:26,594 --> 00:02:29,175 and escort her to your table. 29 00:02:30,083 --> 00:02:32,425 Then tuck her into her seat, yourself... 30 00:02:37,348 --> 00:02:39,342 and attract the waiter's attention. 31 00:02:53,480 --> 00:02:56,102 Selecting from the wine list is important, 32 00:02:56,102 --> 00:02:58,880 complete ignorance is not good. 33 00:03:01,665 --> 00:03:04,646 When the bottle arrives, there's much to be made in the tasting of it, 34 00:03:04,646 --> 00:03:06,418 but don't be too professional. 35 00:03:21,157 --> 00:03:24,742 With eating, again, moderation is the order of the day. 36 00:03:24,803 --> 00:03:26,138 Don't eat too fast... 37 00:03:35,323 --> 00:03:36,952 but don't eat too slowly. 38 00:03:46,629 --> 00:03:48,569 Next, is recieving the bill, 39 00:03:48,569 --> 00:03:50,031 this is a very important moment. 40 00:03:50,031 --> 00:03:52,438 You must be sure not to lose your cool. 41 00:03:52,438 --> 00:03:53,662 This is right... 42 00:03:58,385 --> 00:04:00,182 ...this is wrong. 43 00:04:16,551 --> 00:04:18,745 The girl, may of couse offer to pay herself, 44 00:04:18,760 --> 00:04:21,643 in which case you should refuse... 45 00:04:21,643 --> 00:04:22,751 for a while. 46 00:04:24,874 --> 00:04:27,812 Next stop, is a fashionable discotheque. 47 00:04:31,289 --> 00:04:33,651 Once inside, you might look slightly strange 48 00:04:33,651 --> 00:04:35,160 if you try to talk over the music. 49 00:04:35,160 --> 00:04:38,256 So just stand casually, and look sexy. 50 00:04:43,641 --> 00:04:54,243 This is good...this is better...this is starting to be misguided. 51 00:04:55,828 --> 00:04:58,542 After stance, dance technique is most important. 52 00:04:58,542 --> 00:05:00,548 Most people don't know how to dance, 53 00:05:00,548 --> 00:05:01,922 and so do too much... 54 00:05:03,708 --> 00:05:05,757 Other people do too little. 55 00:05:09,542 --> 00:05:11,874 Some people dance as if there's something up their bottom, 56 00:05:16,843 --> 00:05:19,160 and other people dance as if there's something coming out of their bottom. 57 00:05:24,252 --> 00:05:27,415 When all's said and done, it's best probably to not to dance at all. 58 00:05:28,477 --> 00:05:34,367 A well-mimed sporting injuring is always useful, and a good excuse for leaving the discotheque. 59 00:05:34,367 --> 00:05:36,963 If you don't utterly foul it up, 60 00:05:36,963 --> 00:05:40,169 20 minutes later, you should back at your place. 61 00:05:42,492 --> 00:05:45,942 It's important to relax, and make your guest feel at home. 62 00:05:45,942 --> 00:05:48,169 She will probably feel as nervous as you do, 63 00:05:48,169 --> 00:05:50,698 and there's no need to make any extra special effort. 64 00:06:02,636 --> 00:06:04,486 Then, putting on the music. 65 00:06:04,502 --> 00:06:06,739 We can't help you with the choice of CD, 66 00:06:06,739 --> 00:06:08,588 even though no matter what the circumstances, 67 00:06:08,588 --> 00:06:12,114 Donny and Marie Osmond's greatest hits would be a mistake. 68 00:06:19,037 --> 00:06:22,945 At all cost, avoid the temptation to brag about your stereo. 69 00:06:31,944 --> 00:06:36,144 Now comes the moment you've been waiting for—the seduction. 70 00:06:37,283 --> 00:06:41,000 This is the subject of next week's lecture. 71 00:06:45,400 --> 00:06:49,135 However, as a rough guide, this is right... 72 00:06:52,520 --> 00:06:55,489 ...and this is, I think we all agree, disastrous.