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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.00,0:00:01.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My name is Tabatha Coffey,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.82,0:00:03.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I am a bitch.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.09,0:00:04.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:04.42,0:00:06.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's right, you heard it here first.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:07.36,0:00:08.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So ...
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.28,0:00:11.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Show me your hands,\Nwho thinks they are a bitch?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:12.41,0:00:13.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.43,0:00:14.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Oh, we need to work on that.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:14.79,0:00:15.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,By the end of this talk,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.96,0:00:21.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want every hand up and proud\Nin this audience, all of you.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.05,0:00:24.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So ten years ago,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.55,0:00:28.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was lucky enough\Nto fall into television,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.03,0:00:31.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I say I fell into it\Nbecause I really did.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.62,0:00:36.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I tried out for a competitive show\Nthat put hairdresser against hairdresser.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.58,0:00:38.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it was rough;
Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.03,0:00:41.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it was 12 weeks\Nliving away from your business,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.95,0:00:43.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,away from your family,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.76,0:00:47.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,locked in a house with 11 strangers.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.92,0:00:51.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You were with them 24/7.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.55,0:00:54.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was an amazing experience;
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.62,0:00:55.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I loved it.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:55.78,0:00:58.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I am incredibly competitive,\Nlike most of you.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.54,0:01:00.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When it was over,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.90,0:01:01.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I went home,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.04,0:01:05.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,went back to my business,\Nwent back on with my life.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.50,0:01:07.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And a couple of weeks went by,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.36,0:01:12.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and my clients were all thrilled\Nthat I was on TV and I was competing.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:14.00,0:01:16.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Couple of more weeks went by,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.87,0:01:20.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and probably around four weeks in,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.56,0:01:24.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was in Nordstrom\Nbuying a pair of shoes.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.12,0:01:28.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And across the mall,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.43,0:01:32.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a woman looked and went,\N"Oh, my god! You are that bitch on TV!"
Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.24,0:01:33.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.47,0:01:40.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I did not laugh as all of you are -
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.27,0:01:44.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I do now, but not then,\Nit was not so funny.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:45.29,0:01:48.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was absolutely mortified,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.60,0:01:49.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and -
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.60,0:01:52.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Look, it's not the first time\NI've been called a bitch,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.20,0:01:54.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it is definitely not\Ngoing to be the last time,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.88,0:01:59.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but from a stranger that recognized me
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.10,0:02:03.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and was yelling across the mall\Nthat I was the bitch on TV
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.83,0:02:05.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,really stopped me in my tracks.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.59,0:02:07.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was just amazing.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.36,0:02:10.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, it did not just happened once;\Nit kept happening,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.33,0:02:12.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and happening,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:12.56,0:02:13.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and happening
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.01,0:02:15.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and happening.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.50,0:02:21.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I went down the rabbit hole\Nof reading the blogs
Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.96,0:02:24.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and reading what people\Nwere saying about me.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.59,0:02:31.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And there were literally thousands\Nof people that were calling me a bitch.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:31.64,0:02:35.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And to say that it was paralyizing\Nis putting it mildly.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.10,0:02:38.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was paralyzed by it.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.01,0:02:40.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because ...
Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.25,0:02:42.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am tough,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.30,0:02:43.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I am honest,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.57,0:02:45.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I am strong,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.45,0:02:50.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I am all the qualities\Nthat we all should have
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.83,0:02:54.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be a successful business woman.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.26,0:02:59.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I did not view myself\Nas a bitch whatsoever.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.79,0:03:02.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, I had to sit down and really reflect
Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.91,0:03:07.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on what happened and why people\Nwere calling me a bitch
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.00,0:03:10.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and why people were thinking\Nthat it was okay
Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.64,0:03:13.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to go up to a complete stranger\Nand go, "You are that bitch!"
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.86,0:03:15.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.58,0:03:20.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know now that it is kind of cool
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.78,0:03:22.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be a bitch.\N(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:22.72,0:03:24.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Right? Now it is kind of cool.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.70,0:03:27.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But even though it is cool now,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.85,0:03:30.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we say to our friends,\N"Hey bitch, how you doin'?"
Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.40,0:03:32.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)\NRight?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.04,0:03:36.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We "hashtag" on Instagram:\N"Bitch an outfit," right?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.65,0:03:39.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We throw the word around
Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.86,0:03:42.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like it means nothing.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:43.21,0:03:46.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But if any of you have been called a bitch
Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.62,0:03:47.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by someone -
Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.84,0:03:48.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whether you know them,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.96,0:03:51.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whether it is a colleague,\Nwhether it is a friend,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.50,0:03:53.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whether it is a random stranger -
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.70,0:03:55.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it hurts.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.35,0:04:00.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is a moment that it feels\Nlike a knife going into your heart.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:01.08,0:04:02.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it hurts.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.50,0:04:06.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The thing that's interesting,\Nand we talk about it all the time;
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.14,0:04:08.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there are books about it,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.92,0:04:10.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there are songs about it.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.87,0:04:15.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you are a strong woman,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:16.54,0:04:19.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you speak with authority,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:20.11,0:04:22.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you don't bow down to people,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.09,0:04:24.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you speak your mind,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.14,0:04:27.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you have a healthy dose of ego,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:27.39,0:04:31.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you are really confident\Nand really, really passionate,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.06,0:04:34.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you are a bitch.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.08,0:04:41.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But those qualities in a man\Nmake him a go-getter,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.64,0:04:43.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a great executive,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.36,0:04:45.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,someone you want on the team,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:45.27,0:04:48.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,someone really dependable\Nthat would take care of a problem.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:50.04,0:04:52.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe even the president.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.70,0:04:53.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.20,0:04:56.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yep.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.21,0:04:57.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:00.76,0:05:06.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But those qualities in us,\Nas women, get us called bitches.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.81,0:05:12.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The bigger problem to me with that\Nis that we do it to each other.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:12.88,0:05:14.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We call each other bitches.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.22,0:05:19.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it is not in the cute Instagram way\Nof "Bitch an outfit!"
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.00,0:05:20.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I am with my bitches."
Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.54,0:05:22.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is not in the cute way.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:22.02,0:05:23.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.36,0:05:30.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is in the mean let-me-tear-you-down-\Nand-put-you-in-your-box kind of way.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:30.47,0:05:31.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because that word -
Dialogue: 0,0:05:32.33,0:05:35.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I've looked, and I've searched -
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.53,0:05:38.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there is not an equivalent for men;
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.15,0:05:39.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there isn't.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.78,0:05:43.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it is supposed to dim your light,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.06,0:05:46.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and make you not as confident,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.20,0:05:49.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and make you stop and second-guess\Nyourself a little bit,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.36,0:05:51.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and wonder if you\Nare doing the right thing:
Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.44,0:05:54.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Should I be doing\Nsomething else? I don't know."
Dialogue: 0,0:05:54.01,0:05:56.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's what it does to your head.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:57.36,0:06:01.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we can laugh it off,\Nas we are now,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:01.30,0:06:03.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we still now it hurts.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:03.23,0:06:05.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when we do it to our sisters,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:05.92,0:06:08.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I mean our sisterhood of women,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:08.62,0:06:10.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it is wrong.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:10.82,0:06:14.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How many times\Nhave you walked out of a meeting,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:14.55,0:06:17.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,walked away from\Nmaybe doing school pickup,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:17.50,0:06:20.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or going out to a cocktail party,\Nand there is woman there,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:20.40,0:06:23.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and walked away and said,\N"Oh, she is such a bitch!"
Dialogue: 0,0:06:25.18,0:06:27.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When really, maybe she wasn't.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:28.68,0:06:33.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe she was just a little bit\Nmore honest than you,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:33.55,0:06:36.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe she just demanded what she wanted
Dialogue: 0,0:06:36.33,0:06:39.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and made no apologies or excuses for it.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:39.89,0:06:43.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is she a bitch because she has\Na better pair of shoes than you?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:43.93,0:06:45.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is that why you are calling her a bitch?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:46.19,0:06:49.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is that why we do it to each other,\Nbecause we are a little jealous
Dialogue: 0,0:06:49.81,0:06:52.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we want to cut each other\Ndown a little bit?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:52.69,0:06:56.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because we are not helping each other,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:56.85,0:07:01.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we need to promote\Ngrowth and gain over gossip.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:01.80,0:07:05.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We need to stop cutting\Neach other down as women.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:07.27,0:07:09.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I look at every single woman,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:09.69,0:07:12.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I have met hundreds of thousands
Dialogue: 0,0:07:12.54,0:07:15.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I've been\Na hairdresser for 36 years
Dialogue: 0,0:07:15.92,0:07:20.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and had women in my chair\Nevery single time.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:20.33,0:07:24.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the reason I am\Nso passionate about what I do
Dialogue: 0,0:07:24.82,0:07:27.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is because I understand.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:29.26,0:07:31.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't understand men as well,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:31.07,0:07:33.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I am not one.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:34.31,0:07:35.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But women,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:35.66,0:07:39.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I understand us,\NI understand our insecurities,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:39.41,0:07:41.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I understand how hard we work,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:41.47,0:07:44.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I understand that everyone wants us\Nto be perfect all the time,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:44.70,0:07:47.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it is really, really exhausting.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.03,0:07:50.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I understand that when we go on a date,\Nor we go to a party,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:50.93,0:07:52.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or we go to a work event,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:52.25,0:07:54.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or we just get up in the morning,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:55.13,0:07:57.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there is pressure on us.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:57.43,0:08:00.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that's without\Nadding children and husbands
Dialogue: 0,0:08:00.91,0:08:04.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and all the other people\Nthat are grabbing at us all the time.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:04.76,0:08:06.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I get that!
Dialogue: 0,0:08:06.45,0:08:09.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when I look at one of my sisters,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:09.69,0:08:12.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why am I going to call her a bitch?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:12.97,0:08:14.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's like calling me a bitch.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:15.52,0:08:17.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You are doing it to yourself.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:18.10,0:08:21.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you look at another woman,\Nyou are looking in the mirror.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:21.57,0:08:23.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And let me tell you,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:24.03,0:08:26.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the fact that we are women,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:27.82,0:08:30.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we can produce life -
Dialogue: 0,0:08:30.88,0:08:35.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because there are literally wouldn't be\Nany of us sitting here without a woman ...
Dialogue: 0,0:08:37.29,0:08:38.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,True! -
Dialogue: 0,0:08:38.41,0:08:40.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is extraordinary.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.43,0:08:42.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is extraordinary.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:44.03,0:08:47.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To overcome being called\Na bitch all the time,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:48.82,0:08:50.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I like to face my fears.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:50.86,0:08:52.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The way I dissolve them
Dialogue: 0,0:08:52.46,0:08:55.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is to look right down the barrel at them\Nand just take care of them.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:56.48,0:08:57.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So after my reflection,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:58.19,0:09:03.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I came up with an acronym\Nfor what my version of bitch is.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:04.73,0:09:06.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it's Brave,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:06.28,0:09:07.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Intelligent,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:07.51,0:09:08.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tenacious,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:08.65,0:09:09.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Creative,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:09.78,0:09:11.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and Honest.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:11.71,0:09:14.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I defy anyone in this room,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:14.04,0:09:17.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,men or women, that does not\Nwant those qualities in their life.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:19.02,0:09:23.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Every single woman in here,\Nand every single man,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:23.02,0:09:25.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we are brave; you don't need to\Ngo and slay dragons,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:26.09,0:09:29.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sometimes it is just brave\Nto get out of bed in the morning
Dialogue: 0,0:09:29.42,0:09:30.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and face your day.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:31.43,0:09:32.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are warriors.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:34.14,0:09:39.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Intelligence to me is not about\Ncollege degrees and book-smarts,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:39.49,0:09:42.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's part of it,\Nbut there is also intuition;
Dialogue: 0,0:09:43.02,0:09:44.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there is understanding;
Dialogue: 0,0:09:44.85,0:09:48.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there is nurturing and knowing\Nwhen to nurture and when to pull back.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:48.71,0:09:52.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are qualities\Nthat, women, we excel at.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:53.62,0:09:55.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Being tenacious, obviously,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:56.22,0:09:59.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have you ever messed with a woman's kid?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:00.93,0:10:02.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, seriously?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:03.27,0:10:07.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are tenacious;\Nif we want something, we don't stop.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:07.26,0:10:09.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What about that pair of shoes\Nyou are lusting after?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:10.07,0:10:11.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you can't afford them,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:11.36,0:10:15.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but miraculously, the money shows up,\Nand you got new kicks on.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:15.28,0:10:16.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:10:16.67,0:10:19.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's tenacity, right there!
Dialogue: 0,0:10:21.62,0:10:24.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Creative is just\Nlooking at things differently;
Dialogue: 0,0:10:24.46,0:10:26.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we are great at that as women.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:27.26,0:10:31.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are the best multitaskers\Nthere are: we are creative.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:31.44,0:10:34.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We find ways to not only\Nfind this money for that pair of shoes -
Dialogue: 0,0:10:34.59,0:10:37.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,creatively, to come out of nowhere -
Dialogue: 0,0:10:37.11,0:10:41.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but also how to juggle different\Nschedules, take care of things;
Dialogue: 0,0:10:41.34,0:10:43.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's innate in most of us.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:45.36,0:10:49.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And honest is how I think\Nwe all should live our life.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:49.82,0:10:52.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And to me that honesty\Nis being honest enough,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:52.89,0:10:55.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,instead of turning around\Nand calling one of my sisters a bitch,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:56.17,0:10:58.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is to look and say,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:58.56,0:11:00.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"You know what?\NI am a little jealous of her.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:00.68,0:11:04.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because what she has going on\Nis a whole lot of fabolous,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:04.76,0:11:06.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I want a little bit of it."
Dialogue: 0,0:11:08.14,0:11:09.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"You know what?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:09.73,0:11:11.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't get that job,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:11.32,0:11:13.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or I didn't get that gig\Nthat I really wanted.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:13.86,0:11:17.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She did. Kudos to her.\NHow can I learn from that?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:17.34,0:11:18.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How can I be better?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:18.75,0:11:22.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How can I learn from what she did\Nto elevate myself,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:23.46,0:11:26.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,instead of looking and go, 'Bitch.'"
Dialogue: 0,0:11:26.95,0:11:29.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is not going to elevate any of us.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:29.86,0:11:34.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is not going to solve the problems\Nthat I believe we as women can solve.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:35.32,0:11:37.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, if you take my acronym
Dialogue: 0,0:11:37.57,0:11:41.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of being Brave, Intelligent,\NTenacious, Creative, and Honest,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:41.54,0:11:46.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I encourage you all\Nto think about that in every choice,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:46.52,0:11:49.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the next time someone\Nsays to you, "You are a bitch,"
Dialogue: 0,0:11:50.02,0:11:53.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,smile and say, "Yes,\Nthank you very much. I am.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:53.91,0:11:56.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I am the best damn bitch I can be."
Dialogue: 0,0:11:57.06,0:11:58.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you, Saint Louis.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:58.53,0:11:59.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)